by Gladys Diaz

This past weekend I took my kids ice-skating. I know… It was supposed to be the first weekend of summer, but the nonstop rain in Florida totally washed out any plans to spend a long weekend at the beach, so we went for Plan B.

It’s always interesting to me how those first few seconds on the ice can feel so vulnerable. While I have been ice skating before, I’m no pro. As I stepped out onto the slippery ice, I felt as if my feet had minds of their own. Even though I wanted to stand still, my feet were slipping back and forth under me. While I wanted to glide carefree on the ice, I was grabbing onto the barrier wall for dear life.

The loud little voice in my head kept repeating: 

“Don’t fall! Whatever you do, don’t fall!”

I kept looking at the kids who were racing around the rink — seemingly fearlessly — and all I was focusing on was “Don’t fall!”

Every muscle in my body was committed to not slipping, falling, and hurting myself on that ice. It was hard to relax and enjoy myself when all my attention was on making sure I stayed upright!

Even when I eventually did move away from the wall and started skating a little faster, the thought of not falling and getting hurt remained my top priority.

And that’s how it can be when it comes to love and relationships once you’ve been hurt.

You try to go through the motions, doing what you think you’re supposed to do, pretending you and your heart are open to welcoming and receiving love, but through it all, your mind is focused on: “Don’t get hurt!”

So, you try to relax. You try to enjoy the date or the time with your partner, but, in the background, every fiber of your being is looking for signs of danger — signs that you might get hurt again.

Now, of course it’s natural not to want to get hurt. But when your main focus is on not getting hurt,  few things happen:

  • You cheat yourself out of truly being present and enjoying what is happening in the moment
  • You’re consistently looking for “warning signs” and red flags, rather than allowing yourself to get to really see what is happening
  • You protect yourself to the point that you are always guarded, which does not allow the other person to truly connect with you

Worst of all, you are subconsciously sabotaging yourself from truly opening up, having fun, and enjoying the experience of being with someone who probably has no intention of hurting you, but, because you are hyper-focused on protecting yourself, you never really get to relax and enjoy the experience.

You don’t have to be a moving target for pain, but you also don’t have to have your guard up and guard and prevent yourself from actually opening up to loving and being loved!

If you’re ready to explore how to bring down your guard so that you can attract and experience the love you want, click the link below and schedule a Love Breakthrough Session.

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On this call, we will look at what your ultimate goal when it comes to love and relationships is, what it is that is having you guard and protect your heart, and what some conscious and safe ways to bring down those barriers are WITHOUT putting yourself at risk for imminent heartbreak!

Love doesn’t have to be hard or painful. It can be easy, fulfilling, and fun.

Step away from the wall and let go. We’ve got your hand and we’re not going to let you fall!

 

 

 

 

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