by Gladys Diaz

Let me ask you…

What is the most important thing to you, when it comes to romantic relationships?

If you’re like the majority of the women, you’re answer is probably something like, “I want to be with someone who loves and accepts me exactly the way I am.”

Not too much to ask for, right?

Who doesn’t want to be fully loved and accepted?

The problem is that, while many people say they want to be unconditionally loved, not all of them are BEing unconditionally loving.

Don’t believe me?  Have you ever said something like this about your partner:

“If only he would ______, THEN we could be happy.”

 

Or, what about:

“The only reason we’re not happy is because he ____.”

 

Listen, I know there are things about your partner you may not like.  I’ve been with my husband for 19 years. I love him with all my heart… AND… there are things he does that I don’t like.

 

For years, I tried to convince, encourage, and persuade him to be less angry, more peaceful, less negative, and more positive.

I read him articles and book excerpts, I gave tons of unsolicited advice.  Heck, I even took him with me to course, saying that it was “for us,” and then we weren’t allowed to even sit together for 3 full days!

On the way home, in the middle of an argument about the course, we stopped at a red light.  He turned to me, looked me straight in the eye and said, “When are you going to stop trying to fix and change me?  I haven’t changed. THIS is who you married. THIS is who you promised to love!”

In the moment, I wanted to say, “I’m not trying to fix and change you!”

I wish I could have, but I couldn’t.

He was right.

 

All of the “helpful” suggestions, videos, books, and courses I would share with him were because I wanted him to change so that we could be happy.

What I didn’t realize is that with every suggestion, paragraph, and quote I shared, I was sending the man I promised to love forever the message that I didn’t truly love and accept him.

 

Thanks to that…um… “conversation,” I realized what I was doing and the impact it was having on my marriage.  Shortly after, I began focusing all of my reading, studying, and coursework on learning how I could be more loving and accepting.

 

I took the focus off of him and put it all onto becoming the best version of me.

I began learning how to say what I thought, felt, and wanted in a way that focused on me and my needs, and not on what he wasn’t doing to meet them.

I started really listening to my husband and seeking to understand him and his viewpoints and opinions.

 

And something AMAZING happened!

In a few short months, we were laughing again.

He was being more positive and peaceful.

We were barely arguing.

And the romance and fun was back in our marriage!

 

Who knew that focusing on ME would inspire HIM to change? 

(By the way, those are HIS words, not mine!)

 

I don’t know what you are going through in your marriage, but if you are tired of telling your husband what he needs to do or do differently, how he needs to change, and all of the reasons why he’s responsible for your unhappiness, AND you want to change that dynamic to one where there is really unconditional love and happiness in the relationship, then wouldn’t it make sense to figure out how to do that?

 

Wouldn’t it be worth it to learn how to easily turn arguing and the “me vs. you” dynamic in the relationship into truly connecting and into a “you and me” dynamic?

 

If that’s what you want for yourself and your relationship, then CLICK HERE and share with me what the biggest challenge you are facing in your relationship is. 

I promise to respond to your message and give you some real next steps you can take to start turning your relationship around so that you can finally have the happy, loving, peaceful relationship you really want!

 

You don’t have to go through years of making the same mistakes I made.

Let’s figure out what you can do to make your relationship the kind of happy, unconditionally loving relationship you’ve always wanted!

CLICK HERE! I’m here to help!

It doesn’t have to be hard. I promise!

 

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