Why Successful Women Struggle in Love

Why Successful Women Struggle in Love

by Gladys Diaz

 

If you are a smart, successful woman who is READY to have success in your love life, then this is the one article you want to read all the way through today, because it is your LUCKY day!

While having a successful relationship has nothing to do with luck, we do believe in Divine Timing and in the power you have to manifest your dreams, and in rewarding bold and courageous actions, so we are about to help you make your dreams come true!

If you are a woman who feels like you have “The Midas Touch” in every area of your life except your love life and you are ready to prove just how committed you are to creating and living in the relationship of your dreams, give us three days and we will show you exactly how to have success in BOTH life and love!

Does any of this sound familiar?

  • You’ve read books, attended workshops and webinars, bought infoproducts, listened to teleclasses, and even spoken to a few coaches, but you’restill not in the loving, intimate relationship your heart desires, which leaves you feeling frustrated, lonely, and wondering whether or not you’ll ever have the relationship of your dreams.
  • You know there are thought and behavior patterns that keep getting in the way of either attracting the right man or having a relationship work, but you can’t figure out how to stop repeating the same self-sabotaging behaviors, no matter who it is you’re dating or in a relationship with. And this has you wondering if there’s something wrong with you, men, or relationships in general.
  • You know that dating and relationships shouldn’t feel “hard,” but you dread going on yet another unsuccessful date or having another relationship end, and the thought of having your heart broken again has you either holding onto a relationship that isn’t working or avoiding opening your heart to new love.
  • You’re at the point where you are ready and willing to make the changes that will finally give you the successful results you want in your love life and you just want to know how to do it.

If you resonated with any or all of the points above, don’t worry. You’re not alone.

Most smart successful women are in a similar place.

Why?

Because what most people don’t know is that there is a very unique set of challenges that successful women face when it comes to relationships.

The main reason is because many of the skills that propel us in our careers and businesses actually repel love and intimacy in romantic relationships! But, because they work at work, we mistakenly believe that those same skills and behaviors will work when it comes to love.

Unfortunately, they don’t work, and we are unconsciously self-sabotaging ourselves out of the very happiness we want more than anything else in the world!

Now, I know that you don’t need a man to make you happy. Your happiness is 100% your responsibility.

However, if what your heart truly desires is to be in a loving, intimate, passionate relationship with a man who is absolutely right for you; who’s not threatened, but is inspired, by your success; and who is ready to spend the rest of his life letting you know just how much he loves you, then doesn’t it make sense for you to work toward that goal as diligently – if not even more passionately – as you would any one of your professional or career goals?

As a successful, powerful woman myself, I know what it almost cost me to not know the skills that led to creating a loving, peaceful, passionate relationship. In fact, it almost cost me my marriage!

It wasn’t until I learned what barriers were in the way of me having love and intimacy flow easily and abundantly; how to tap into my Irresistible, Feminine Essence; and how to use effective communication and relationship skills to connect deeply with my man that I was able to turn my relationship around. 

Now, after 18 years together, I can tell you that there is nothing I have accomplished in my career – not any award, achievement, or recognition – that holds a candle to what it feels like when my husband says that the woman I am inspires him to be the best man he can be!

If you want to learn the secrets to creating a successful, happy, loving relationship that stands the test of time with the right man for you, then join us for three days transformational heart-and-life-changing days at The Irresistible Woman LIVE!

 

The Irresistible Woman LIVE was specifically designed for the successful woman who wants to have success in her love life, too!

The Irresistible Woman LIVE is especially designed for the successful, powerful professional woman like you who wants to experience as much – if not even more – success in her love life and relationships as she does in her career!

If you are tired, frustrated, and feeling hopeless about your ability to have both a successful and fulfilling career and an extraordinary romantic relationship, then you need to be at this event!

As we said , this event is specifically for successful women – women who are used to going above and beyond to get what they want – so it’s going to be a no-holds-barred-tough-love seminar!

In this 3-day event, you will:

  • Take a deep dive into why you are not attracting or experiencing the kind of love that you want in your relationships (and learn how to stop the self-sabotage)
  • Uncover the specific thoughts, actions, and behaviors you are using to block love from coming into your life so that you can begin to experience love, happiness, and abundance in your romantic relationships
  • Identify the skills that propel you in the workplace but completely kill love and intimacy in romantic relationships (and learn the skills that magnify love and romance)
  • Create new thought patterns and behaviors that will allow you to shed the masculine energy you carry around at work so that you can embrace the feminine energy that will make you Simply Irresistible to the right man
  • Design a plan for implementing what you have learned into your life on adaily basis so that you are continuously experiencing more success in your love life!
  • And soooo much more!

If you are seriously committed to having the life and love your heart desires, there is absolutely NO reason for you not to be there!

To make sure you know how committed WE are to helping get the loving relationship you want, we’re making this an irresistible, no-brainer decision for you!

When you register today you will save about $300 on your ticket (No, that is NOT a typo! You’ll save $300, but only for a limited time. After that, the prices jump up!)

Don’t miss out! Claim your ticket NOW!

Here’s the thing:

As a successful woman, you know that a huge part of your success is taking decisive actions that are aligned with the goals you want to accomplish.

That’s why we are only making this special offer for the next seven days. And, once it goes away, we will NOT be making it again.

And, for the first 10 women who register today, we will automatically upgrade you to VIP status!  

That’s right, as a VIP you will receive:

  • Preferred seating all 3 days so that you are up front, don’t have to worry about finding a seat, and can get up close and personal with us!
  • A special VIP-only luncheon on Day 2 where you will be able to mix and mingle with The Love Twins and the other VIPs
  • An intimate VIP-only evening reception with Michelle, Gladys, and their husbands where you will be able to get ALL of your questions about
  • And many more VIP-only perks and surprises!

The VIP ticket is normally $600,  and you get it for the Super Early Bird Price of a General Admission ticket simply for being one of the first 10 to grab your spot!

So, don’t make up excuses, don’t put this off, and don’t suffer from FOMO!

Our events sell out quickly and you WILL miss your opportunity to learn the exact steps you can take to effortlessly begin attracting the loving relationship your desire and deserve at a simply irresistible price!

This is it!  Click and grab your spot now!

Seneca said, Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

We’re giving you the opportunity to create your own luck and learn the skills you need to have the success that you want and deserve in the lasting, loving, and fulfilling relationship your heart truly desires!

This event only happens once a year, this is a one-time offer, and you simply don’t want to miss this amazing, transformational event!

Click here to claim your ticket!

We can’t wait to meet and spend 3 life-and-love-changing days with you!

“Cheers!” to 10 Extraordinary Years! (How to Make Great Wine and Great Love!)

“Cheers!” to 10 Extraordinary Years! (How to Make Great Wine and Great Love!)

by Gladys Diaz & Michelle Roza

If you’ve ever had a great glass of wine – you know… the kind that you just have to close your eyes and savor as you sip it – then you know what an amazing experience it can be!

And, if you know anything about wine, you know that great wine doesn’t “just happen.” An amazing glass of wine begins with selecting premium grapes and a very intricate process of aging the wine that results in a succulent, savory experience that you hope won’t end with just one glass!

In today’s video, Michelle comes to you from a vineyard in wine country as she celebrates 10 years of LOVE with her honey, Arnie, and she shares the top 3 ingredients for extraordinary love!

So… Grab a glass of your favorite wine or beverage, sip away, and let’s raise our glasses to creating the kind of love that lasts forever!

 

 

Please join me in congratulating Michelle and Arnie on celebrating their 10 years of extraordinary love by going to our Facebook page, so that we can surprise her with the happy wishes! 🙂

Cheers! Enjoy the video!

 

Making and Keeping Agreements Are Keys to Strengthening Your Relationship

Making and Keeping Agreements Are Keys to Strengthening Your Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

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Monday was my first day back after a week off for vacation, and I’m excited!

 

It wasn’t always this way for me. I used to dread having to go back to work after being on vacation. I would think of reasons/excuses to give my boss for not having to go in that first day. I’d dread looking at my inbox and having to deal with everything that didn’t get done while I was away.

That was then…

Now, however, I absolutely love what I do and I love the women I work with, and, since it doesn’t seem like “work,” I have to be really aware of how I manage my time when I’m on vacation so that I can really take time off to relax, replenish, and renew my mind, body, and spirit before heading back to the office.

One of the concerns I get from professional women is that they fear their partner won’t understand and feel comfortable with their drive and determination when it comes to their careers. They worry that their partners will somehow feel “threatened” or intimidated by their success.

That’s why one of the ways I create harmony between my work and personal life is by making agreements – both with myself and my husband.

See, my husband knows how much my clients mean to me. He knows that, if they are in the middle of a crisis in their relationships, it wouldn’t sit right with me to just ignore them because I’m on vacation. He also knows that I’m in the middle of planning two huge projects, and, if something came up around them, I’d need to at least be aware of it in order to delegate the issue to someone else.

What my husband also knows beyond a shadow of a doubt is that he and the boys mean more to me than anything else, and that I consider the time I spend with them precious.

So, before going on vacation, we agreed on what our days would look like and what I would do to manage anything that might come up regarding work. This way, rather than being on the phone checking email all day long, I had had certain times designated when I would check in, look to see what I needed to respond to, and the rest of the time was 100% family fun time!

By creating and honoring an agreement about what I would do/not do while on vacation, I took 100% responsibility for my happiness and for the work that would/would not get done that week. I also sent the message to my husband and kids that they are my priority and that, after those few minutes when I did work during the day, they had my undivided attention.

Because of this agreement, I didn’t have to feel “guilty” about answering or not answering an email. I kept to my schedule and did everything I could to be present with and enjoy the time I spent with my in-loves (my term for “in-laws).

The even better part was that, because my intention was to be fully present with my family and I was willing to work a little harder and longer the 2 weeks prior to vacation, I actually had very little I had to attend to work-wise during the week! (It’s just like it says in one of the books I finished reading while on vacation, The Alchemist: “…when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it”!)

In this case, the universe, my family, my team, and I conspired to make sure that I had a fun a restful vacation! But it didn’t “just happen.” Like everything else in life that it is important, it took setting a clear intention and planning!

 

A relationship is a partnership.

Creating agreements with your partner is one of the essential keys to making that partnership work. When making agreements, keep these things in mind:

  1. Only promise what you fully intend to fulfill. It’s important that you determine what you are willing to do and that you fully intend to honor the agreement.

 

  1. Keep the agreement. Even more important than making an agreement is keeping the agreement. In honoring the agreement, you send the message to your partner that he can trust you to honor your word (in this case, as well as in the rest of the relationship).
The truth is that the majority of the problems in relationships can be traced back to one or both of the partners not having kept a promise or agreement that was made.

Does this mean you’ll never break a promise or that you’ll keep every single agreement you ever make?

No.

The goal, of course, is to strive for that. But, if you fail to keep an agreement, follow these steps.

  1. Acknowledge that the agreement wasn’t kept. Don’t ignore the broken agreement or pretend as if nothing happened. Honor yourself and your partner by acknowledging how the agreement was broken.
  2. Apologize for whatever you did on your end to break the agreement.
  3. Make a new agreement (keeping in mind that you fully intend to honor it this time).
  4. Do everything in your power to honor the agreement.

 

Your relationship is the most important partnership you’ll ever have.  

While this doesn’t mean you won’t have other partnerships or projects that are important to you, it does mean that striving to make that partnership work needs to be a daily priority.  Making and keeping agreements is one way to make sure your partnership works!

 

Questions?  Comments?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!

Trust Means Being Willing to Let Go

Trust Means Being Willing to Let Go

by Gladys Diaz

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Last week, I shared about having gone to a conference for two days full days and how, in the past I would have felt guilty about doing something like that. Based on some of your responses, many of you relate to feeling guilty about putting yourselves first.

One of the things I didn’t mention is that, after having prepared all of the meals for my family, I completely left everything else in my husband’s hands for 2 full days.

What does that mean?  Well, it means that he made the kids’ lunches, took them and picked them up from school, helped them do and check their homework, fed them, did the dishes, got them ready for bath and bedtime, and let them stay up a few minutes late so that I could kiss them goodnight when I got home!

And what did I do?  Did I call to check up on him to make sure he knew what to do? Or remind him that my son had to be picked up at 3:15 from kickball practice? Or in any other way, shape or form try to “help” him handle things?

Nope!

And this doesn’t mean I’m not “a good mother” or “a caring wife.”  In fact, it makes me an even better wife! 

Why?

Because I trust him

And, I  must admit that this wasn’t always true for me.

One of the most common questions I get from women is how they can “get” their husbands or boyfriends to help them more often.  My answer?  Let him know you need help and then let him help you!

Sound too simple to be true? Well, it is!

The truth is that many of us don’t ask for help when we need it.  It makes us feel vulnerable, we don’t want to have to ask, and then, if he does offer to help, we want to tell him how to do it the “right way” (a.k.a. “my way”).

 

Why is it so hard to ask for help? Because you then have to admit that you can’t do it all.  And, what’s worse, you can’t do it all perfectly.

 

There’s probably nothing more debilitating than feeling like you have to do everything yourself so that it will turn out just right.

 

That self-imposed standard of perfection will have you work yourself to the point of exhaustion, all in the effort to look good and avoid looking bad in the eyes of others.  Whereas, if you were simply to admit that you need or would like help, you’d be done in less time and have a lot less stress to deal with!

The truth is that people don’t notice, talk about, or give us nearly as much attention as we think they do!

What can be even more challenging than asking for help is actually receiving it.  Allowing someone else to step in and take on some of the load can be helpful, but it can also be stressful for a perfectionist and can lead to wanting to tell the person how something should be done “correctly.”

Last week, I shared about having gone to a conference for two days full days and how, in the past I would have felt guilty about doing something like that. Based on some of your responses, many of you relate to feeling guilty about putting yourselves first.

One of the things I didn’t mention is that, after having prepared all of the meals for my family, I completely left everything else in my husband’s hands for 2 full days.

What does that mean?  Well, it means that he made the kids’ lunches, took them and picked them up from school, helped them do and check their homework, fed them, did the dishes, got them ready for bath and bedtime, and let them stay up a few minutes late so that I could kiss them goodnight when I got home!

And what did I do?  Did I call to check up on him to make sure he knew what to do? Or remind him that my son had to be picked up at 3:15 from kickball practice? Or in any other way, shape or form try to “help” him handle things?

Nope!

And it’s not because I’m not “a good mother” or “a caring wife.”  It’s simply because I trust himAnd, I  must admit that this wasn’t always true for me.

One of the most common questions I get from women is how they can “get” their husbands or boyfriends to help them more often.  My answer?  Let him know you need help and then let him help you!

Sound too simple to be true? Well, it is!

The truth is that many of us don’t ask for help when we need it.  It makes us feel vulnerable, we don’t want to have to ask, and then, if he does offer to help, we want to tell him how to do it the “right way” (a.k.a. “my way”).

Why is it so hard to ask for help? Because you then have to admit that you can’t do it all.  And, what’s worse, you can’t do it all perfectly.

 

There’s probably nothing more debilitating than feeling like you have to do everything yourself so that it will turn out just right.

 

That self-imposed standard of perfection will have you work yourself to the point of exhaustion, all in the effort to look good and avoid looking bad in the eyes of others.  Whereas, if you were simply to admit that you need or would like help, you’d be done in less time and have a lot less stress to deal with!

The truth is that people don’t notice, talk about, or give us nearly as much attention as we think they do!

What can be even more challenging than asking for help is actually receiving it.  Allowing someone else to step in and take on some of the load can be helpful, but it can also be stressful for a perfectionist and can lead to wanting to tell the person how something should be done “correctly.”  

What happens, however, is that by stepping in, reminding, correcting, and telling the other person how to do what they’re doing can make them feel as if you don’t trust them and that you’re not grateful for the help.  It’s also what often leads to men not volunteering to help.  Who in the world wants to be told what to do and how to do it every step of the way?

So, what can you do to begin getting more help?

Ask for help. Simply acknowledge that you could use some assistance, and say “I need help.”  You don’t have to back it up with all of the reasons, justifications, and complaints about why you need help.  Just let him know you could use some help.

Tell him what you need help with, but don’t tell him how to do itLet him know what it is you would like help with and then let it go – meaning, don’t offer any unsolicited advice, directions, or “helpful hints.” If he indicates that he’s got it, then he’s got it.

Trust him. Letting go is going to require that you trust him. Trust in his capabilities to do what he said he’d do.  Trust that if he needs your help, he’ll ask for it, just like you did (but realize that he probably won’t).  Not only does letting go communicate trust, but it also communicates respect.

Be thankful.  Leaving a task, project, or errand in his hands brings with it the possibility that the end result may not look exactly like what you had imagined.  Regardless of how the help is given, it’s important to appreciate his effort.  Letting him know you’re thankful not only makes him feel good about having eased your load, but that “feel-good-feeling” is something he’ll probably want to experience again, which means you may be getting even more help in the future!

Letting go of having control over everything can be scary.  But trust is an essential ingredient in creating intimacy in a relationship. So, if you want to experience true intimacy in your relationship…

Take a deep breath…

Remember you chose a great guy…

And…let…go…

 

Comments?  Questions?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!

 

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“You’re Being a Hypocrite!”

“You’re Being a Hypocrite!”

by Gladys Diaz

“I don’t know how to say this without hurting your feelings.  I think you’re being a hypocrite.”

 

Those were the words that I heard from my husband’s mouth last week.  No matter how much spiritual and personal growth work I’ve done over the years, it was still difficult to hear my husband sharing how he felt about who I was being in our relationship.

As I write this, I want you to know that my hands are sweating and I’m asking myself whether I’m actually going to hit “Publish” after I finish typing.  It’s not easy being this open and vulnerable and sharing what I call “the ugly side of my closet” (You know, the side people can’t see unless they really step in to look inside).  However, I think it’s important to share this, because I don’t ever want to give the impression that having a great relationship means you never have to have the hard conversations, that you don’t mess up every once in a while, or that once you get to that great place, there’s no more work to do.

As I mentioned in my previous post on listening for the heart message, I believe it’s important that I practice what I preach.  I believe one of the reasons my clients appreciate and get the results they get from the coaching I give is because they can see that I live what I’m teaching in my own life and I have the results I am promising they can have, too.

So, as I sat there listening to my husband tell me how he was feeling, I didn’t defend myself.  I didn’t tell him how mean that statement was. I didn’t start telling him all of the things he could be doing to make the relationship better.  No. I listened. And, as hard as it was to admit, I had to agree with him.  I was being a hypocrite.

See, the month of February was very busy for me as a relationship coach.  Throughout the month I had been making public appearances, speaking on TV and radio shows, and delivering training to the members of our group coaching calls on how to keep the intimacy alive in a relationship.  All of this busy-ness had me working around the clock, staying up late – sometimes way after my husband went to bed – making calls, returning emails, and feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.  Basically, I was not making time for intimacy – physically or otherwise – in my own relationship.

In essence, I’d forgotten to practice what I believe and teach my clients:

Having a great relationship is about making a daily commitment to love and honor the person I am with.  It’s about creating partnership, intimacy, and workability every day.  It’s about living out my wedding vows each and every day for a lifetime.

Does it take work to have a wonderful, loving, intimate relationship? Yes.

Does it have to be hard? No.

Am I perfect at it? Not by a long shot!

Is it worth the effort? Absolutely!

Having that conversation with my husband helped me in so many ways.

  • It helped me see what I was doing (and not doing), the impact it was having, and what I could change.
  • It helped me understand how important it is to make sure that I am making our relationship a priority, even when I’m busy.
  • It helped me to see just how far my husband and I have come in our love and respect for one another and in our ability to have the tough conversations without them turning into an argument.

And, more than anything, it helped me realize just how committed we are to making this relationship work!

It wasn’t easy for my husband to tell me something that was upsetting him, but he cared enough to tell me and not let it eat away at him.

It wasn’t easy for me to hear what he had to say, but I cared enough to hear him without defending or justifying myself.

And it wasn’t easy to have the conversation, but it ended with hugs, kisses – and, yes, a few tears – as well as a promise to make things even better than they already are!

And, to me, that’s what it’s all about!

Is there a topic of conversation that is difficult for you and your partner that you’d like to learn how to discuss in a loving, peaceful, and respectful manner?

Click here to book a Love Breakthrough Session so that I can give you the step-by-step words and actions that will help you do just that!

Yes, having a great relationship takes work, but it doesn’t have to be “hard work.” Let’s talk and make having a loving relationship EASY!

Comments? Questions? Leave them below!  We love hearing from you!

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