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by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Do you have a fear that you will be hurt or rejected?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you don\u2019t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!<\/span><\/p>\n The real question is:\u00a0 Is that fear running the show?<\/b> It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, that fear of rejection or of getting hurt goes away, but that\u2019s just not true<\/i>. The fear of hurt or rejection can be holding you back from creating deep, intimate connection, either way.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s how it works.\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n You have fears that something will or won\u2019t happen in the future because of something that did or didn\u2019t happen in the past.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Fear is running the show if it causes you to react in a certain way that is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can\u2019t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you\u2019re feeling scared inside.<\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s how it looks for me.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n My previous marriage was not a happy marriage. The relationship brought out the worst in me and I was often critical, loud, snappy and impatient.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I remember how I would feel every time I\u2019d come home and put the key up to the door to open it. Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door. I\u2019d just hope that today might <\/i>be a good day.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n My fear of being alone caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship.\u00a0 I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn\u2019t really understand what was real and what I really wanted.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Fast forward to now.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m in an extremely happy and fulfilling relationship, but I\u2019m still human. So during times when I may be sleep deprived or extra busy, those qualities of being critical, snappy or impatient can come out and my fear rears its ugly head.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n My fear is that if I allow those qualities that I don\u2019t like in myself to come out – and sometimes they do – then I won\u2019t be loved or I\u2019ll begin to recreate the relationship I had with my ex.<\/span><\/p>\n Your fear may be feeling like your feelings won\u2019t be validated, fearing you\u2019ll be used or get hurt.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that\u2019s not the way we want you to feel!!<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n So how do you overcome these fears?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n First, you need to <\/span>recognize it and acknowledge it<\/b>.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n What is it that you\u2019re afraid of that\u2019s stopping you from having the relationship you want to have?\u00a0<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n Your fear is impacting you whether you acknowledge it or not, so you might as well bring it to light.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Then ask yourself:- If I was standing outside this fear and standing in my power, who would I be that would allow me to make a different choice?\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n When I recognize myself in the space where those undesirable qualities come out and I feel the fear coming to the surface, I ask myself that question.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I acknowledge the fear and step forward to own it. I take responsibility for anything I may have said to Arnie that I didn\u2019t really mean, and I apologize so that I don\u2019t go back to allowing that old fear running the show and hurt my relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I know that I\u2019m a powerful woman, and that I get to choose how I feel and behave. When I apologize, I open up the space in our relationship for intimacy and love to be present again.\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n The truth is: You can either be run by your fears or run by your ability to choose a different experience. You get to choose.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n It can take a little bit of effort to get to the bottom of these fears, which is why we\u2019re so excited to invite you to the Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event!<\/span><\/p>\n This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to overcome their fears in love once and for all is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what\u2019s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!<\/p>\n We\u2019ve changed the dates to October 23rd-25th, and this year,\u00a0 it\u2019s going to be better than ever!\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n
Is that fear causing you to hold back in relationships or keeping you from creating one altogether?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n