{"id":1182,"date":"2012-10-23T10:13:51","date_gmt":"2012-10-23T14:13:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.wordpress.com\/?p=853"},"modified":"2012-10-23T10:13:51","modified_gmt":"2012-10-23T14:13:51","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-the-truth-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-the-truth-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day: The “Truth”?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cThe truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.\u201d <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

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~ Pema Chodron<\/i><\/p>\n

In yesterday\u2019s blog post<\/a>, we looked at how our reasons can stop us from moving forward and creating the life and the love that we want.\u00a0 In addition to our reasons, there are certain thoughts and beliefs that we hold as \u201cthe truth\u201d that can completely keep us stuck where we are, repeating patterns of behaviors and experiences, attracting the same type of person into our lives, and creating the false reality that this is the only way things will ever be and happen for us.<\/p>\n

How can we shift these beliefs so that we can begin to experience freedom in our lives and relationships to create what we really desire?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s begin by taking a look at ourselves, because this is where everything truly begins, anyway.<\/p>\n

If, for example, you have limiting beliefs about yourself \u2013 about your worth, the type of love and life you deserve, what you are able to accomplish or experience in your life, or why you \u201care\u201d the way you \u201care\u201d \u2013 it is difficult for you to hear, accept or believe anything different.\u00a0 Even if you read a great and inspirational self-help book, attend an incredible workshop, or work with an amazing and effective coach, until you commit to letting go of these limiting beliefs, it doesn\u2019t matter what you read or hear.\u00a0 You simply won\u2019t believe it.\u00a0 You aren’t available to hear and accept it.<\/p>\n

If you have limiting beliefs about men and relationships, if you are clinging to the belief that men only want sex, that men can\u2019t and don\u2019t want to make a commitment, and that men are cheaters, how in the world can you then be surprised when every man that you attract into your life provides you with more evidence to support that belief you hold as \u201cthe truth\u201d?\u00a0 By universal law, what you believe to be true will continue to present itself in your life \u2013 no matter how much you wish, hope, or pray for it to be any different.<\/p>\n

And, if you\u2019ve loved and been hurt before \u2013 due to the fact that the person left, you chose to leave, or because of a death \u2013 and you believe that you will never<\/em> experience love again because there is only one \u201cThe One\u201d for each person in the world, then you will continue to take actions that are consistent with that belief.\u00a0 Even if you do go out and date different people, you will always find a reason why he\u2019s not \u201cgood enough,\u201d doesn\u2019t \u201cmeasure up\u201d to your lost love, or how he reminds you too much of the one who broke your heart.\u00a0 Over and over, you’ll experience having a broken heart or never really having the experience of loving and being loved ever again.<\/p>\n

Bottom line: In order for there to be a change in your experience of life and love, it’s going to require a mental and emotional \u201cshift\u201d to begin to see things differently.<\/p>\n

Sound difficult? It can be.\u00a0 But it doesn\u2019t have to be<\/em>!<\/p>\n

See, that \u201ctruth\u201d that you are clinging true is no more and no less \u201ctrue\u201d<\/em> than the opposite of that statement.\u00a0 What do I mean?\u00a0 Well, if you believe, for example, that all men want from you is sex, that is no more and no less true than telling yourself that every man you meet is dying to make you his wife!\u00a0 The only <\/i><\/b>difference is that you\u2019ve been telling yourself one thing a lot longer <\/i>than the other, and you\u2019ve spent a lot of time and energy gathering evidence and convincing yourself that it is true!\u00a0 So, now, what if you begin to see every man as someone who is committed to pleasing and making you smile, and trying his hardest to be the one you will choose to love for the rest of his life?\u00a0 What if that<\/em> was the truth? What would the experience of dating be like then?\u00a0 Hmmmm…<\/p>\n

If the \u201ctruth\u201d you\u2019ve been holding onto is that your marriage is beyond repair, that your husband doesn\u2019t want the relationship to work, and that you\u2019re better off alone, then you will likely spend every minute of every day looking for evidence to support this.\u00a0 You’ll see how distant he is.\u00a0 How he seems to not care about anything \u2013 especially you. However, what if you choose to believe that the promises you made to each other on your wedding day were not merely \u201csuggestions\u201d or \u201ca wish”? What if you were to begin to look for evidence of all of the ways your husband shows that he does<\/em> want the relationship to work \u2013 even if the way he chooses to do this is by being quiet and distant (because he\u2019d rather do that than constantly be arguing with you, because he loves you)? What if you were to choose to focus your energy on looking for evidence of all the qualities that had you fall in love with him in the first place (because they are still there<\/i>\u2026 only buried beneath a pile of complaints and expectations)?\u00a0 What would the experience of being married and doing whatever you could to shift things around \u2013 beginning with yourself<\/em>? Hmmmm…<\/p>\n

The point is that you create your own \u201ctruth.\u201d\u00a0 You can choose to believe something different.\u00a0 See, if we’re going to make up what the truth is for ourselves, we may as well make up something that empowers and inspires us, rather than something that fills us with fear, cynicism and resignation, right?<\/p>\n

So, here are some steps you can take in order to begin \u201cthe shift\u201d:<\/p>\n

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  1. Write down all of the things you \u201calready know to be true\u201d about yourself, men, and relationships.<\/li>\n
  2. Next to each statement, write down what it is costing you to continue believing that this is \u201cthe truth.\u201d<\/li>\n
  3. Under each statement write a new and empowering affirmation \u2013 a new<\/i><\/b> truth \u2013 that you can begin to repeatedly tell yourself so that you can begin the process of \u201crewiring\u201d your brain and believing in what\u2019s truly possible for YOU!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    What \u201ctruth\u201d have you been holding on to?\u00a0 Are you ready to let it go in order to have the love and life you desire and deserve?<\/p>\n

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    \u00a0by Gladys Diaz \u201cThe truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.\u201d \u00a0 ~ Pema Chodron In yesterday\u2019s blog post, we looked at how our reasons can stop us from moving forward and creating the life and the love that we want.\u00a0 In addition to our reasons, there are certain […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,8,9,13,16,17,21,22,23],"tags":[31,47,50,63,68,70,88,90,105],"class_list":["post-1182","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-2","category-gratitude-2","category-hdi-blog","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-relationship","category-relationship-advice","category-romance","tag-advice","tag-dating","tag-empowerment","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-relationships","tag-romance-2","tag-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1182","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1182"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1182\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1182"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1182"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1182"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}