{"id":1184,"date":"2012-10-28T12:41:12","date_gmt":"2012-10-28T16:41:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.wordpress.com\/?p=888"},"modified":"2012-10-28T12:41:12","modified_gmt":"2012-10-28T16:41:12","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-one-key-to-a-good-marriage-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-one-key-to-a-good-marriage-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart&#8217;s Desire Thought of the Day: One Key to a Good Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #cc99ff;\">by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-one-key-to-a-good-marriage-2\/forgiveness_medium_347889431\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-1476\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1476\" alt=\"forgiveness_medium_347889431\" src=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/forgiveness_medium_347889431.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"325\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><b><i>\u201cA good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.\u201d <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><i>~ Ruth Bell Graham<\/i><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Another short-and-sweet blog for today.<\/p>\n<p>This morning, as I browsed Facebook, I began to notice how many of the picture quotes had to do with a good marriage.\u00a0 I wasn\u2019t really surprised\u2026 We attract what we give most of our attention to, and a lot of the pages I subscribe to are about relationships and marriage.\u00a0 But I\u2019ve also come to believe that when I begin to see a consistent theme in the posts, it\u2019s because I and those I serve may need to hear it.\u00a0 So, I try to listen to the message behind the messages in the posts.\u00a0 Today, the common theme was that having a great marriage \u2013 and, therefore, a relationship leading to marriage \u2013 involves making daily choices:<\/p>\n<p>Choosing to love now, and now, and now\u2026 Choosing to focus on becoming the best versions of ourselves\u2026 And, the most recurring message was choosing to forgive.\u00a0 That\u2019s the one I\u2019ll focus on today.<\/p>\n<p>Holding onto resentments, keeping &#8220;score&#8221; of one another&#8217;s mistakes, and making the other person &#8220;earn&#8221; your forgiveness is not about making your marriage work. It&#8217;s about being &#8220;right&#8221; and makings sure your spouse feels &#8220;wrong.&#8221; Both people in the relationship are human, and forgiveness cannot be &#8220;earned.&#8221; It is something that must be given.\u00a0 If you&#8217;ve been holding on to anger and resentment, try letting it go and notice the freedom you feel &#8212; the lightness &#8212; and the ability to allow love to flow freely to and from you.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Is there a past mistake that you\u2019ve been holding against your spouse or boyfriend?\u00a0 Can you see what it is costing you in the form of lost intimacy, joy, and peace?\u00a0 Are you willing to let it go?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Photo credit: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/pedrosimoes7\/347889431\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">pedrosimoes7<\/a> via <a href=\"http:\/\/www.photopin.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">photopin.com<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/2.0\/deed.en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">cc<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz \u201cA good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.\u201d ~ Ruth Bell Graham &nbsp; Another short-and-sweet blog for today. This morning, as I browsed Facebook, I began to notice how many of the picture quotes had to do with a good marriage.\u00a0 I wasn\u2019t really surprised\u2026 We attract what we give [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,9,13,16,17,21,22,23],"tags":[31,47,52,63,68,70,88],"class_list":["post-1184","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-2","category-hdi-blog","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-relationship","category-relationship-advice","category-romance","tag-advice","tag-dating","tag-forgiveness","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1184","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1184"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1184\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1184"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1184"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1184"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}