{"id":1189,"date":"2012-11-05T18:26:40","date_gmt":"2012-11-05T22:26:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.wordpress.com\/?p=921"},"modified":"2012-11-05T18:26:40","modified_gmt":"2012-11-05T22:26:40","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-to-have-power-you-must-surrender","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-to-have-power-you-must-surrender\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day: To Have Power, You Must Surrender!"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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Surrender to this moment, accept things and people as they are, and your heart will begin to open.<\/p>\n

~ Jonathan Mead<\/p>\n

One of the main principles that we cover in our workshops and coaching is that of \u201csurrender.\u201d Now, when people hear the word \u201csurrender,\u201d they tend to think of things like \u201cdefeat,\u201d \u201cgiving up,\u201d or \u201cgetting stepped on.\u201d\u00a0 However, surrender is more of a spiritual term, and it does not involve losing, getting beaten down, or not having a voice.\u00a0 Instead, surrender is about acceptance \u2013 Accepting people, things, and situations exactly the way they are and exactly the way they are not.\u00a0 It means that rather than resisting and resenting the way a person or situation is \u2013 then trying to \u201cfix,\u201d change, and make them \u201cbetter\u201d \u2013 we allow it to be the way it is now<\/i>, knowing that it\u2019s perfect the way that it is.<\/p>\n

Now, I usually get a lot of arguments and questions from people right about this point in the conversation that sounds something like, \u201cSo, you mean, we should be happy that there are kids starving all over the world or in our own backyard,\u201d <\/i>or \u201cSo this means that I\u2019m \u2018stuck\u2019 being in an unhappy relationship,\u201d <\/i>or \u201cSo, I\u2019m supposed to pretend that I don\u2019t want to be in a relationship and get married?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

If those questions (or some like it) were screaming out in your head, don\u2019t worry!\u00a0 Relax.\u00a0 This is not <\/i><\/b>what it means! \u00a0Surrendering does not mean agreeing with, suffering through, or pretending that we\u2019re happy about something we\u2019re not.\u00a0 It just means acknowledging: This is the way it is right now.\u00a0 I may want it to be a different way, but, right now, this is how it is.<\/i><\/p>\n

This acknowledgement creates acceptance.\u00a0 And, in the space of acceptance, there is now room for freedom (to choose or not choose to do something differently), for peace (of mind and spirit), and for love (free from judgment \u2013 unconditional love)!<\/p>\n

So, how does this look in a relationship?\u00a0 Perhaps my husband is overweight, and I think he \u201cshould\u201d eat more healthy foods and exercise.\u00a0 I can take two approaches to this situation.\u00a0 I can drop hints for my husband, make comments about how much weight he\u2019s gained, give him \u201chelpful suggestions\u201d about what he \u201cshould\u201d eat and do \u2013 basically, I can nag him about it and totally pour water all over the embers of intimacy\u2026\u00a0 Or<\/i><\/b> I can surrender my need to control him and just allow him to be who he is, make the choices for himself that he sees fit, and stand by him, no matter what.\u00a0 And, then, if he chooses <\/i>to make changes, I can be his biggest cheerleader, completely trusting in his ability to do what\u2019s right for him. This leads to him feeling respected, supported, and free to make his own decisions.<\/p>\n

If I\u2019m dating, and a guy I\u2019m seeing works really long hours. I can hint that he needs to make more time for me, be upset with him for doing what he feels he needs to do for his <\/i>career, or decide that a guy who spends too much time working is not the guy for me \u2013 Never mind that when he is with me he treats me like a princess, makes sure I\u2019m having a great time, and that he\u2019s determined to make his life (and, perhaps even our future!) better.\u00a0 I\u2019m just going to walk away from what could possibly be the relationship I\u2019ve always wanted\u2026 Or<\/i><\/b> I can surrender, stop trying to control him, the relationship, and the situation, and make the time that we are together count<\/i>!<\/p>\n

Acceptance does not require \u201cagreement\u201d or having to \u201csettle\u201d or \u201cbe stuck\u201d with the way things are in the present.\u00a0 It simply means that we acknowledge and accept that \u201cIt is the way it is right now.\u201d\u00a0 Whether we are referring to our lives, careers, relationship or relationship status: It is the way it is right now.\u00a0 And if we can accept it, rather than resist it, refuse it, or try to fix it or force it to change\u2026 If we can just let go and bring acceptance, grace, and gratitude, in the space that is created, peace is felt, love is possible, we feel empowered to make the changes necessary within ourselves, and we begin to experience freedom\u2026 peace\u2026 bliss!<\/p>\n

Have you been trying to control someone or something in your life, only to feel \u201cpowerless,\u201d resentful, and unfulfilled?\u00a0 If so, take on the practice of surrendering and accepting people things the way they are so that you can open a space for them to become what they can be!<\/p>\n

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