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by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Do you know the difference between values and boundaries versus standards, rules and expectations?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Are you allowing expectations and rules to determine who you date, or do you have a clear set of values and boundaries that you use to navigate the waters of dating?<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re not in the relationship of your dreams, then there\u2019s a breakdown in your values and boundaries OR you\u2019re operating from a\u00a0 set of rules or standards.<\/b><\/p>\n So what\u2019s the difference?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Rules and expectations are all about <\/span>him<\/span><\/i> or <\/span>them<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cIs he doing this?\u201d or \u201cWhy isn\u2019t he doing that?\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n When you have a lot of rules, you spend time looking for what he\u2019s <\/span>not<\/b> doing or \u201cshould be\u201d doing,\u00a0 and usually always end up disappointed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cHe doesn\u2019t dress the way I wish he would.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n \u201cHe doesn\u2019t make as much money as I want him to.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n \u201cHe doesn\u2019t call me every morning.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n You turn minor quirks into non-negotiable deal breakers and have a frustrating experience dating.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n On the other hand, values and boundaries are all about <\/span>you<\/span><\/i>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Values are the things that you <\/span>must<\/span><\/i> live by in order to feel good. <\/span> Having values is being 100% clear about what you do and don\u2019t want to experience in life and then BEing that.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Boundaries are associated with the values you hold and determine what you will and won\u2019t do or accept in your experience with others.<\/span><\/p>\n Values and boundaries are inside yourself. <\/b> It\u2019s that simple.<\/span><\/p>\n And it makes making decisions in dating (and life!) <\/span>easy<\/b>!<\/span><\/p>\n When you\u2019re operating from that space, it\u2019s not about a <\/span>checklist<\/span><\/i> of criteria someone has to meet.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s about making sure the experience you\u2019re having is in alignment with <\/b>your<\/i><\/b> values.<\/b><\/p>\n What are your values?<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>How can you know when you\u2019re aligned and when you\u2019re not?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>When you\u2019re not honoring yourself and your values and boundaries, you feel insecure, uncertain, unhappy and out of your power.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>Even if you\u2019re having <\/span>fun<\/span><\/i> in a dating experience that\u2019s out of alignment, you won\u2019t feel <\/span>fulfilled<\/span><\/i>. There will be a part of you that knows it\u2019s not what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>When you’re living and making decisions in alignment with your values, you simply feel good and confident. <\/b><\/p>\n You feel empowered and in control of your experience.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n You feel clarity and are fulfilled, no matter what the\u00a0 circumstances are outside of you.<\/b><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>If you\u2019re unsure what your values are, look at your life. <\/span> \u00a0<\/span>The <\/span>why<\/b> will determine your values.<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>If you\u2019d like some support looking inside to uncover what matters most to you and how you can apply values and boundaries to create\u00a0 more fulfillment in dating, book a Love Breakthrough Session now!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
<\/span>They\u2019re your guiding principles, what matters to you the most.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
<\/b>You\u2019re either living in alignment with them, or you\u2019re not.<\/b><\/p>\n
<\/span>When do you feel the most fulfilled and inspired? <\/span>
<\/span>What is it that makes you feel that way, and why?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n