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by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n One of the #1 fears women have is: \u201c<\/span>I\u2019m\u00a0 afraid I\u00a0 will lose myself\u00a0 in a relationship.<\/span><\/i>\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Can you relate?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The thing is, in dating and relationships, you don\u2019t really lose yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n What happens is that you <\/span>give away your power<\/span><\/i> by straying away from your values. <\/span> If you\u2019ve ever felt this way in a relationship, the question to ask yourself is: <\/span>\u201c<\/span>Which of my\u00a0 values is\u00a0 not being honored?<\/span><\/i>\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Discovering the answer to that question is the easy way to get back in alignment with yourself and what\u2019s true for you.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Knowing what your values are, and making sure that you\u2019re living your life according to them, is the simplest way to date — and to live!<\/span><\/p>\n In dating, you\u2019re not going to agree on everything. The problem comes in when differences create a conflict within yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Whether the misalignment is about religion, whether or not you want to wait to be intimate, family relationships, medical conditions, or something else; those things can be worked out – <\/span>(1) If they are aligned with your values<\/b>, and <\/span>(2) if they <\/b>also <\/i><\/b>align with what your partner wants and values<\/b>. <\/span> When these things come up you can handle them as a <\/span>strong, mature woman<\/span> instead of as a woman who\u2019s afraid of losing something.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When you show up as someone who knows who she is, what she wants, where she\u2019s at, and what she\u2019s looking for, then you\u2019ll attract someone who is aligned with and and wants that kind of woman as a partner.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Having values you live by is\u00a0 not about having an insurmountable list of \u201cstandards\u201d that a man must meet. That way of dating keeps you feeling \u201csafe,\u201d but it also keeps you <\/span>alone<\/i><\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n Living a life and making choices that are aligned with what you truly value is about raising your standards for <\/span>yourself<\/span>. That\u2019s what creates irresistibility.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n You must get crystal-clear on what you want and what your values and standards are in order to create a relationship and partnership that honors them.<\/b><\/p>\n When you\u2019re not clear, your brain makes stuff up to make people, things, and situations \u201cfit,\u201d\u00a0 and <\/span>that\u2019s <\/span><\/i>when things get \u201ccomplicated.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n When you\u2019re crystal-clear, there\u2019s no sorta\/maybe when it comes to making choices for yourself, your life, and what you want in a relationship.Everything is either aligned with your values, or it\u2019s not.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s that simple.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you meet a man that\u2019s not aligned with your values or you\u2019re not aligned with his, trust that he\u2019s not the right one. Honor yourself, admire him for being true to himself, and let it go.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The more you practice being true to yourself, the easier it gets.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The more confident you are about your own values, the easier it gets to live in it and create a life and love that reflects and embodies what your heart truly desires.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When you date this way, you can create an amazing and incredible relationship with someone who is absolutely in love with you– The <\/b>Real<\/i><\/b> You.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Sometimes, you may not even realize you\u2019re not clear about what your values are or how to honor them,\u00a0 so, if you\u2019d like support with discovering what your values are and how you can live more authentically into them, book a call and speak with one of our coaches now. <\/span>
<\/span>You give in a little here and a little there, move a boundary further and further past the point that is true for you… and eventually… <\/span>you<\/span><\/i> simply disappear.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
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<\/span>But <\/span>you<\/span> have to be clear about what <\/span>your values<\/span><\/i> are.<\/span><\/p>\n
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<\/span>It\u2019s time for you to find true love!<\/span><\/p>\n