{"id":15160,"date":"2022-03-11T03:44:52","date_gmt":"2022-03-11T08:44:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/?p=15160"},"modified":"2022-03-11T03:44:53","modified_gmt":"2022-03-11T08:44:53","slug":"marriage-isnt-the-real-goal-heres-what-is","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/marriage-isnt-the-real-goal-heres-what-is\/","title":{"rendered":"Marriage Isn&#8217;t the Real Goal &#8211; Here&#8217;s What Is."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.22&#8243; da_disable_devices=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; da_is_popup=&#8221;off&#8221; da_exit_intent=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_close=&#8221;on&#8221; da_alt_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_dark_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_not_modal=&#8221;on&#8221; da_is_singular=&#8221;off&#8221; da_with_loader=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_shadow=&#8221;on&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;3.27.4&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #993366;\">by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you want to have a real conversation about what you can do to make sure you don\u2019t become part of that statistic?\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We\u2019ve got you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>The biggest mistake women make while dating is being solely focused on finding the right man and not thinking about the lifetime that will follow.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shortly after we started our coaching we noticed women getting amazing results &#8211; they were attracting <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">really awesome<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> men (which was no surprise to us!)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem was that then they would self-sabotage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They would start doing the same things they did with the wrong men. The old patterns would resurface with the new, great guy, and there\u2019d be a breakdown in the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s why we\u2019re passionate about teaching women how to break through old patterns that are continuing to follow them around!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Because the real goal isn\u2019t marriage.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>The REAL goal is creating a life-time love.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research has found that the most common reasons people give for their marriage ending are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We understand this first hand because Michelle\u2019s 1st marriage ended in divorce and after my first husband passed away and I found Ric, my marriage almost ended also.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I was first married to Ric things were so incredible!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I would lay in bed at night with tears of gratitude streaming down my face because I was so in awe that I\u2019d found Ric. I was in love again and with an incredibly good man!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was incredible because there\u2019d been a time when I didn\u2019t think that was possible.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>But then, 6 years later, we started to fall apart.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I didn\u2019t have the skills to create a life-long love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I didn\u2019t have the communication skills that work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I thought I always had to be right.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I thought I was being honest and encouraging when I would tell him what he should be doing and how good he\u2019d be at it.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>I almost lost that beautiful marriage.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But then I became super committed to learning about how to create a lasting relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I learned that being right wasn\u2019t that important.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I learned how to say things in a way that Ric could hear.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I learned how to respect his thoughts, ideas and opinions &#8211; even if I didn\u2019t agree with them!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I learned that doing the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heartwork<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that we now teach along with learning the skills I didn\u2019t have naturally was the key to not only maintaining the beautiful relationship I had found with Ric &#8211; but make it stronger and stronger year after year!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And here we are 23 years later and happier than ever.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>So how do you break through your love barriers that are having you sabotage your relationships?\u00a0<\/b><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Get Curious\u00a0<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the patterns you\u2019re seeing?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What isn\u2019t\u00a0 working?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the things that keep showing up in your relationships that have them break down?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Dive into where the sabotaging patterns came from.<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why does this pattern exist for you?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is the fear or belief behind the behavior?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When did you first experience this?\u00a0<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Learn what to do to replace the sabotaging pattern.\u00a0<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the part that most people miss! The <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">only<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> way to really break through a barrier in your life is to learn what to replace the old pattern with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have the ability to create a strong foundation for your relationship that you can keep growing and growing forever when you break through your love barriers and learn the skills that will have that relationship continue to grow in love, passion and respect for a life-time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re single and you\u2019d like to attract the right man or if you\u2019re in a relationship that you want to last forever, book a call with one of our coaches so you can have a breakthrough!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Schedule your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/live.vcita.com\/site\/heartsdesireinternational\/online-scheduling?service=1c4bd3fa\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b>Love Breakthrough Session<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Come to the call knowing the pattern that you\u2019re seeing and what you\u2019re interested in creating so you can have a breakthrough!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t need to be part of the 50% whose marriage will end in divorce. You can attract the right man and create a relationship together that will last a life-time &#8211; all you have to do is learn <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><span class=\"s2\"><span class=\"s3\"><b><a href=\"https:\/\/live.vcita.com\/site\/heartsdesireinternational\/online-scheduling?service=1c4bd3fa\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><\/a><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p10\"><span class=\"s1\"><i><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz\u00a0 Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating? Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail? 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