{"id":1695,"date":"2012-12-26T14:57:33","date_gmt":"2012-12-26T19:57:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=1695"},"modified":"2012-12-26T14:57:33","modified_gmt":"2012-12-26T19:57:33","slug":"is-your-life-the-reason-or-the-excuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/is-your-life-the-reason-or-the-excuse\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Your Life “The Reason” or “The Excuse”?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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For those of us who are wives, mothers, and professionals, it can seem as if we have to choose between having a wonderful relationship and family or <\/i><\/b>following our dreams and building our careers and our businesses.\u00a0 I call this living in \u201can either-or world<\/a>.\u201d And I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s necessary.<\/p>\n

When we think that we have to sacrifice one aspect of our lives in order to experience happiness in another, that is evidence of having a \u201cscarcity\u201d conversation.\u00a0 Some people use this term to refer to the area of finances \u2013 to describe the experience of people living under the false perception that there isn\u2019t already enough of what they have or want.\u00a0 The truth, however, is that this applies to other areas of our lives.\u00a0 When we live under the perception that we must sacrifice or give up what we want in order to have something else we want, we sell out on our happiness<\/a> and cheat ourselves out of the experience of having it ALL!<\/p>\n

I have been a professional since before<\/em> I was married and had children.\u00a0 Succeeding in everything I do has always been important to me, and it was no different when it came to my career.\u00a0 Once I was in a relationship, succeeding in my career was still important.\u00a0 And so was having a wonderful relationship and, later, marriage.\u00a0 When I had kids things got a little \u201cblurry\u201d for me.<\/p>\n

There was a lot of guilt associated with working late hours and traveling for work. I missed some of my children\u2019s milestones because I was on a business trip.\u00a0 And I\u2019d be lying if I said that I didn\u2019t experience some guilt around that.\u00a0 A lot of the guilt was self-imposed, but some also came from other moms \u2013 especially those who had chosen to stay home with their kids.\u00a0 I always felt like they were judging me for not having been there for my kids if they were hitting a milestone, sick, or just wanting Mommy to be there.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t until I began doing my own personal development work that I was able to shake myself free from (1) caring about what other people thought and (2) making myself feel badly for having something else I that was important to me in my life \u2013 not \u201cmore important\u201d to me, but important, nonetheless.<\/p>\n

The truth is that people weren\u2019t thinking about me quite as much as I thought they were!\u00a0 A lot of that judgment I felt they had about me was pretty much coming from within.\u00a0 I thought that I wasn\u2019t being a \u201cgood mom\u201d when I was doing something for work and like I wasn\u2019t being a \u201cgood professional\u201d when I was spending time with my kids, rather than working an extra hour or two.\u00a0 Thankfully, I was able to see that I get to choose what I focus on, what I make a priority today, and that my priorities can change the following day, if I need or want them to!\u00a0 That was very empowering for me!<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve also had to teach my kids that, if I am working, it\u2019s not because I don\u2019t want <\/i>to be with them.\u00a0 It\u2019s that I have a responsibility I need to fulfill on or a job that needs to be completed, and that it\u2019s important to honor your words, keep your agreements, and do your very best in all you do.\u00a0 All of these are great lessons for my kids.\u00a0 And, rather than just telling or lecturing them, I am teaching them by example<\/i>.<\/p>\n

And then there are times when I will work late into the night or cut short a work day so that I can go on a field trip the next day, volunteer at school, or go on a camping trip.\u00a0 I\u2019m still doing what I can to fulfill on my responsibilities, but it may be that this week, when these activities come up, my priorities shift <\/i>a little.\u00a0 Both my work and my family is important \u2013 neither one more important <\/i>than the other.\u00a0 It\u2019s just how I choose to prioritize my time and attention that day or that week.\u00a0 And it can change from day to day and week to week.<\/p>\n

My friend and mentor, Luly Balepolgi of \u00a0LulyB.com<\/a>, an amazing business woman who empowers mom entrepreneurs to have it all<\/i><\/b>, often says that \u201cBalance is bull—-!\u201d It\u2019s not about trying to balance everything.\u00a0 It\u2019s about prioritizing and building your life around your priorities!<\/p>\n

This is why Heart’s Desire International is honored to partner with Luly B. tonight, December 26th<\/sup> at 9:00 p.m. for a fun, powerful, and live Twitter Chat about how tom make our families are \u201cthe reason\u201d why we do what we do, rather than \u201cthe excuse\u201d for not following our dreams!\u00a0 Join us and other professional moms for a time of learning and growing together while having a great time!\u00a0 To get all the details and join in on the chat, click here<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Remember, we live in a world of abundance, and you can and deserve to have it ALL!\u00a0 Join Luly B. and me tonight and let\u2019s make 2013 about making our families the reason <\/i>for doing whatever we can to make our dreams come true!<\/p>\n

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Image courtesy of Stuart Miles<\/a> via FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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