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by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Do you have a fear of being hurt or rejected?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!<\/span><\/p>\n

And it doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!<\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, the fear of rejection or getting hurt goes away\u2026<\/span>
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<\/span>But that\u2019s just not true.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The fear of rejection creates barriers to feeling like yourself and feeling safe in a relationship.<\/span>
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<\/span>It holds you back from creating deep, intimate connections – whether you\u2019re already in a relationship or seeking to create one.<\/span>
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<\/span>No matter the reason you have this fear or how it manifests for you, the impact it creates is the same. <\/b>
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<\/span>Here\u2019s how it works\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You have a fear that something will or won\u2019t happen in the future because of something that did or didn\u2019t happen in the past.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This fear then causes you to react in a certain way, which is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can\u2019t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you\u2019re feeling completely scared inside.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how it looked for me.<\/b><\/p>\n

Because I was scared of being rejected, I was always trying to prove myself. <\/span>
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And it showed up in work, in my relationships, as a mother,<\/span> everywhere<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

My previous marriage was not a happy one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I remember how I would feel every time I\u2019d come home and put the key up to the door to open it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door – and hoping that today might be a good day.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

My fear of being alone and needing to be accepted caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship where I was treated in ways that are now absolutely unimaginable to me.\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn\u2019t really understand what was <\/span>real<\/span><\/i> and what I <\/span>really<\/span><\/i> wanted.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So why does this matter for <\/span>you<\/span><\/i>?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you accept behavior or communication that isn\u2019t aligned with what you want because you\u2019re afraid of being rejected?\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Do you feel like your feelings won\u2019t be validated because you fear you\u2019ll be used or get hurt.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that\u2019s not the way we want you to feel!!<\/b><\/p>\n

So how do you overcome these fears?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The first thing you need to do is – <\/b>recognize and acknowledge the fear<\/b>.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

When you recognize yourself in the space where the fear is coming to the surface, ask yourself these two questions.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n