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by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n One of the things we hear most from women is that they\u2019re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a \u201csituationship\u201d they\u2019re currently in that\u2019s not going anywhere.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be<\/span> truly<\/span><\/i> ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n They share that they have thoughts like this:\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n \u201cWhy can\u2019t I let this go?\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n \u201cWhy am I still stuck on this one person?\u201d<\/span><\/i> \u201cWhen am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Is this something you\u2019ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?<\/span><\/p>\n If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you. <\/b> So what does a toxic relationship look like?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.<\/b><\/p>\n And yes, this includes situationships.<\/b><\/p>\n A \u201csituationship\u201d is where you\u2019re spending time with someone and acting like you\u2019re his girlfriend, <\/span>when you\u2019re not.<\/span><\/p>\n Even if you\u2019re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to <\/span>you<\/span><\/i>, that he doesn\u2019t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it\u2019s not a relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you say, \u201c<\/span>Well, it\u2019s complicated<\/span><\/i>.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s not a relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you say, \u201c<\/span>We have an understanding and we\u2019re both okay with it.<\/span><\/i>\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s not a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n If you have to ask him, \u201c<\/span>Where is this going?<\/span><\/i>\u201d then you already have your answer.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s not a relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s either a relationship or it\u2019s not and if it\u2019s not and you\u2019re acting like it is then you\u2019re becoming emotionally attached and he\u2019s not.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n You may ask, \u201c<\/span>What\u2019s so wrong with that?<\/span><\/i>\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that\u2019s not reciprocated…\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Why?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Because you\u2019ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something <\/span>that wasn\u2019t real anyway<\/i><\/b>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When you do that, you\u2019re not only lying to yourself but over time you\u2019ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person <\/b>because you didn\u2019t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Why would you do that to yourself?\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here\u2019s the truth:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Being in a relationship that\u2019s <\/b>anything less<\/i><\/b> than what you <\/b>really <\/i><\/b>want is just as painful.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Even if it\u2019s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.<\/span><\/p>\n We\u2019ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!<\/span><\/p>\n If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Most don\u2019t want a long-term relationship. They don\u2019t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he\u2019s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it\u2019s ever going to go anywhere.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n They want love, companionship and commitment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n So why do women stay in relationships or \u201csituationships\u201d that aren\u2019t everything they want?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n
<\/span><\/i>\u201cHow will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n
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<\/span>Letting go can be challenging, but it\u2019s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you\u2019re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.<\/span><\/p>\n\n
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