{"id":2188,"date":"2013-04-16T11:31:38","date_gmt":"2013-04-16T16:31:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2188"},"modified":"2013-04-16T11:31:38","modified_gmt":"2013-04-16T16:31:38","slug":"learning-to-trust-and-let-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/learning-to-trust-and-let-go\/","title":{"rendered":"Learning to Trust and Let Go"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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The other day, I experienced some really frustrating moments. Thankfully, they were not related to my relationship, but, as usual, I still had the chance to learn a great lesson about how to make a relationship work!<\/p>\n

After my husband had spent hours <\/i><\/b>working on a creating a new web page for my business, we found that it was suddenly GONE!<\/i>\u00a0 All of the work we\u2019d done, even our ability to access the administrative site was completely gone!<\/p>\n

I panicked! I was on a deadline and was already behind schedule.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t know what to do, and neither did my husband.\u00a0 Immediately, my husband went online to try to find a way to fix it.\u00a0 What did I do?\u00a0 I called someone I knew who works with websites.\u00a0 It was going to cost us $60\/hour just to have him take a look<\/i>. I reached out to someone else I knew, but she wasn’t responding to my message.\u00a0 Then I went online to try to figure out how to fix it myself.\u00a0 The problem? When I read information about websites, html code, plugins and widgets, it sounds like Charlie Brown\u2019s teacher (\u201cWaa-waa-waa-waa-waa!\u201d).<\/i><\/p>\n

I collapsed in a heaping pile of nerves and tears.\u00a0 How was I going to fix this?\u00a0 What was I going to tell the people waiting for me to deliver what I\u2019d promised?\u00a0 Why couldn\u2019t I figure this out?<\/i><\/p>\n

I called my sister and hysterically explained what happened, and she managed to help me calm down.\u00a0 That helped me think and listen to what was going on inside of myself a little more clearly.\u00a0 And what I heard was eye-opening<\/em> for me.<\/p>\n

My husband said he would figure it out.<\/i>\u00a0 He’s downstairs right now, working on it. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

What am \u00a0I doing?\u00a0 Why am I trying to fix this myself? <\/i><\/p>\n

Why can\u2019t I just let go and trust him to take care of this? <\/i><\/p>\n

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Realizing that I had jumped into \u201ccontrol-mode\u201d was eye- and heart-opening, to say the least.\u00a0 My fear had caused me to ignore the fact that my husband was downstairs trying to solve the problem for me.\u00a0 My need to know how things were going to turn out had me step in, knowing full-well that I didn\u2019t know what I was doing, which only made me feel more anxious.\u00a0 More importantly, I saw that there was still a fear of completely trusting my husband to take care of the situation\u2026 to take care of me<\/i>!<\/p>\n

I took a deep breath\u2026 and I let go.<\/p>\n

I started working on something else, gave it my full attention, and felt the fear and anxiety begin to fade.<\/p>\n

A few hours later, my husband texted me to go ahead and reach out to the guy, because he couldn\u2019t figure it out.\u00a0 He told me he\u2019d pay for the services.\u00a0 Then he apologized for letting me down.<\/i>\u00a0 WHAT?!?<\/p>\n

I told him he hadn\u2019t let me down. I thanked him for the hours he\u2019d spent trying to fix the problem and said that I\u2019d reach out to the guy, but that I\u2019d prefer if he spoke with him, because I didn\u2019t understand all of this techie stuff.\u00a0 He agreed (helping me solve another <\/em>problem).<\/p>\n

The next day, my husband had several conversations with the guy and everything was taken care of.\u00a0 He rebuilt the website and sent me the link so that I could see it was up and running.\u00a0 When I texted him with \u201cI love it! <smiley face>,\u201d <\/i>he responded: \u201cThat\u2019s why I don\u2019t give up.\u00a0 That smile, right there!\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve said it before and I\u2019ll say it again: My husband is my hero<\/b>!<\/p>\n

So, what were the main lessons I learned?\u00a0 It all <\/b><\/i>comes down to trust<\/b>!<\/p>\n

1. <\/strong>Trust him to solve some of your problems. \u00a0<\/b>Many people associate trust in a relationship with loyalty and fidelity, and that is certainly part of what makes a relationship work. But there\u2019s another level of trust in a relationship.\u00a0 The one that allows you to trust and believe that there is someone else there to help, support and take care of you \u2013 not because you are incapable of taking care of yourself, but, because in a relationship, you no longer have to<\/i>.<\/p>\n

2. Trust that he has your best interests at heart. <\/b>\u00a0Men want the women they love to be happy and to know that they had something to do with that happiness. If your guy makes a decision that ends up not having the most desirable results (he loses some money in an investment, he makes the wrong turn when you\u2019re already late to an important event, he chooses to start his own business and ends up making less money than he used to), trust that he didn\u2019t intend <\/i>to disappoint you.\u00a0 Trust that, if he could have, he would have avoided disappointing you.<\/p>\n

3. Trust<\/strong> that everything will work out in the end. <\/b>When I think back to the other day, I realize that things were not as \u201cbad\u201d as they occurred for me that day. There was a back-up on the server, so we were able to get back most of the information we\u2019d lost.\u00a0 I had people around me who were trying to help: my husband, my sister, the web guy, and my coach\u2019s virtual assistant, who was amazing in telling us what we needed to tell the web guy.\u00a0 I wasn\u2019t alone.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t so bad, and things worked out in the end.\u00a0 If I\u2019d trusted that it would work out, I would have saved myself a lot of stress, anxiety, and wasted energy!<\/p>\n

Learning to trust is one of those relationship skills that takes repetition to \u201cbuild the muscle,\u201d but the pay-off are so sweet: knowing someone is there who wants <\/i>to help and has your best interests at heart, and the reassurance that, in the end, no matter what happens, you still have each other!<\/p>\n

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Questions?\u00a0 Comments?\u00a0 Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n

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Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n

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