{"id":2329,"date":"2013-06-08T00:37:09","date_gmt":"2013-06-08T05:37:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2329"},"modified":"2013-06-08T00:37:09","modified_gmt":"2013-06-08T05:37:09","slug":"how-to-be-patient-when-youre-ready-for-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/how-to-be-patient-when-youre-ready-for-love\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Be Patient When You&#8217;re Ready for Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/hourglass-with-hearts_FDP_ID-10066777.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter  wp-image-2330\" alt=\"hourglass with hearts_FDP_ID-10066777\" src=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/hourglass-with-hearts_FDP_ID-10066777.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"276\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><b><i>How do you stay patient when you feel you are ready for love? \u00a0I understand the importance of being unattached so that you can let a new love in, but I worry I will give off a desperate air when I go on dates or meet someone new because I feel ready for a relationship.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest, the reason <i>most <\/i>people date is because they want to be in a relationship.\u00a0 Sure, some people just don\u2019t want to be alone, or they want to have fun, but the majority of people are dating in hopes of meeting the person who\u2019s right for them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So, how do you stay patient when you feel you are ready for love?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Stay in the present moment. <\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px;\">When we feel we\u2019re ready for love, it\u2019s easy to allow ourselves to fast-forward into the future and imagine what it would be like if the guy sitting across from us is the one we\u2019ll spend our lives with, especially if we like him!\u00a0 It\u2019s easy to begin picturing what it would be like to be kissed by him, to travel with him, and to stand next to him on an altar.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px;\">\u00a0While it\u2019s great to hope and dream, when we\u2019re not here, in the present, we can miss signs that perhaps this isn\u2019t the best person for us. We also miss out on what\u2019s happening here and now, so we don\u2019t get to enjoy it. Next time you feel yourself wandering into the future that\u2019s in your mind, bring yourself to the present by reminding yourself, \u201cI\u2019m sipping some great wine,\u201d \u201cWe\u2019re listening to excellent music,\u201d \u201cI\u2019m having a great time.\u201d\u00a0 Bring yourself back to the present and focus how you are feeling while on the date.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Allow him to set the pace. <\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px;\">Too often, women will try to jump the gun or get the ball rolling by taking control of the budding relationship.\u00a0 They want to know where this is headed and whether or not they\u2019re \u201cwasting\u201d their time.\u00a0 Often, this leads to being the pursuer, rather than the receiver in the relationship, which also puts the women in the undesirable role of risking rejection when she asks <i>him <\/i>out on a date or begins to badger and pressure him into expressing his feelings about her.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px;\">This robs a woman of the opportunity to see whether or not <i>he <\/i>wants to be with her.\u00a0 In short, she\u2019ll always wonder whether he just agreed or disagreed with her, rather knowing that he chose to be with her because he wanted to, not because he felt pressured.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Check in with yourself often.\u00a0 <\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px;\">It\u2019s tempting while on a date to wonder whether or not he likes you, whether he\u2019s going to ask you out on another date, and whether he\u2019s having a good time getting to know you.\u00a0 However, rather than focusing all of your energy on him, bring your attention back to yourself.\u00a0 Do <i>you <\/i>like <i>him? <\/i>Do <i>you <\/i>want to go out with him again? How do <i>you <\/i>feel?\u00a0 Are <i>you<\/i> having fun?\u00a0 By focusing on yourself, you\u2019ll avoid driving yourself crazy wondering about what\u2019s going on <i>over there<\/i> with him!<\/p>\n<p>If you stay present, let go of trying to control the pace of the relationship, and keep checking in with yourself to see how you are feeling, you won\u2019t have to worry about giving off \u201ca desperate air.\u201d Instead, the energy you\u2019ll be giving off is that of being confident, at peace, and open to the possibility of\u00a0 beomg pleasantly surprised!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Questions? Comments?\u00a0 Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Image courtesy of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.freedigitalphotos.net\/images\/Timepieces_g190-Sand_Clock_And_Red_Heart_p66777.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz How do you stay patient when you feel you are ready for love? \u00a0I understand the importance of being unattached so that you can let a new love in, but I worry I will give off a desperate air when I go on dates or meet someone new because I feel ready [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,10,13,16,22,23],"tags":[47,57,68,87,97,105],"class_list":["post-2329","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-2","category-hearts-desire-international","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-relationship-advice","category-romance","tag-dating","tag-hearts-desire-international","tag-love","tag-relationship-advice-2","tag-smcsfbc","tag-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2329","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2329"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2329\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2329"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2329"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2329"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}