{"id":2347,"date":"2013-06-13T11:57:10","date_gmt":"2013-06-13T16:57:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2347"},"modified":"2013-06-13T11:57:10","modified_gmt":"2013-06-13T16:57:10","slug":"how-your-smile-impacts-your-love-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/how-your-smile-impacts-your-love-life\/","title":{"rendered":"How Your Smile Impacts Your Love Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Couple<\/a><\/p>\n

I am a woman in my late forties, and have no trouble attracting men. However, once I have attracted them I have a very hard time letting them know that the attraction is mutual. I find it almost impossible to even smile at them. I am very aware that I am getting in my own way on my path to love. How can I uncover what is causing this pattern, and how do I overcome it?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I want to begin by acknowledging you for being self-aware enough to recognize that you are the one actually standing in the way of attracting the love you want. Many women would make it about the men, rather than themselves, so you\u2019re definitely on the right path to creating a breakthrough for yourself in this area!<\/p>\n

In my experience, one of the first things a man notices, which lets him know that It\u2019s \u201csafe\u201d to come over and speak to a woman is her smile.\u00a0 A smile usually attracts attention and lets men know that you are approachable, which makes leads me to believe that, at some point, you are<\/i> actually smiling, and then, once a man comes over to and shows interest in you, you tend to not be comfortable with the attention.<\/p>\n

So the question is, what is it that makes you uncomfortable about a man being attracted to you?<\/b><\/p>\n

Sometimes, the answer to this question is pretty simple.\u00a0 It usually has to do with how you see yourself.\u00a0 It may be that, as attracted as men are to you, you still don\u2019t fully love and accept yourself exactly the way you are.\u00a0 Think about it this way, if you were secure about yourself, your worth, and what you bring to the table, there would be no reason to allow a man to get to know you.\u00a0 You would feel comfortable just \u201cbeing\u201d yourself and then allowing him to choose whether or not he\u2019d like to continue getting to know you by asking you out.<\/p>\n

Instead, by not smiling, you are almost guaranteeing that he will get the message that (1) you are not interested in him, and (2) you have no desire for him to pursue getting to know you.<\/b>\u00a0 This can make the conversation awkward, as he may feel confused, having gotten the message before coming up to you that you were<\/i> approachable, and then getting a message that you\u2019d like him to stay away.\u00a0 The chances of him asking you out on a date, if this is the vibe he is getting from you, are slim-to-none.\u00a0 As confident as a man is, he doesn\u2019t want to be rejected any more than you do, so he\u2019s likely to protect himself and move on to someone who\u2019s sending a clearer message about what she would like.<\/p>\n

The issue may also have to do with the meaning you are giving to smiling and letting him know that the attraction is mutual.\u00a0 Is there a part of you that thinks that, once he starts getting to know you, he won\u2019t <\/i>be interested in getting to know you better? <\/b>\u00a0Is there something about yourself you\u2019re afraid he will discover and not like\/accept, so you\u2019re trying to avoid giving him the chance to connect with you so that you don\u2019t have to experience that rejection?\u00a0 If so, it could be that you haven\u2019t brought love and acceptance to that part of yourself.\u00a0 If this resonates with you, perhaps it\u2019s time to bring love, forgiveness, and acceptance to that part of yourself so that you can begin to open up to and experience the love that is already waiting for you.<\/p>\n

And, finally, remember that a smile is simply a way to attract attention without <\/i>any intention.\u00a0 In other words, even if someone is attracted to and begins speaking with you, there are no strings attached, no obligation for it to go any further than a conversation, unless it\u2019s what you want.\u00a0 <\/b>So, whether or not he asks you out on a date, you<\/span><\/b> still get to choose whether you\u2019d like to go out with and get to know him<\/i> better.<\/p>\n

So, my advice to you is: Relax.\u00a0 Smile.\u00a0 Be Yourself. Don\u2019t allow your fears about what may or may not happen cheat you out of receiving a man\u2019s attention and having fun as you get to know one another.\u00a0 I can hear that you want to get on the path to discovering and experiencing love.\u00a0 It\u2019s time to remove the barriers that have been stopping that love from finding its way to you!<\/p>\n

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Comments?\u00a0 Questions?\u00a0 Let us know!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n

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