{"id":2475,"date":"2013-07-04T11:43:38","date_gmt":"2013-07-04T15:43:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2475"},"modified":"2013-07-04T11:43:38","modified_gmt":"2013-07-04T15:43:38","slug":"how-do-i-know-if-hes-the-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/how-do-i-know-if-hes-the-one\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do I Know if He&#8217;s &#8220;The One&#8221;?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/woman-deciding_FDP_ID-10077789.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-2470\" alt=\"woman deciding_FDP_ID-10077789\" src=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/woman-deciding_FDP_ID-10077789.jpg\" width=\"400\" height=\"266\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b><i>How do I know if he\u2019s \u201cThe One?\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Talk about The Million-Dollar Question!\u00a0 This is probably one of the most common questions I get from women and men alike!\u00a0 Frankly, I don\u2019t think there is a person out there \u2013 single or otherwise \u2013 who hasn\u2019t asked him- or herself how they&#8217;ll know if they are choosing the right person to love.<\/p>\n<p>Why?\u00a0 Well, it goes beyond inquiring minds wanting to know. It\u2019s more about beating hearts wanting to stay \u201csafe.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Whether we\u2019re talking about health issues, making business decisions, and, in this case, deciding with whom we\u2019ll choose to share our lives, we want to know that we are making \u201cthe right choice.\u201d <strong>We want to be sure that, if we\u2019re going to open our hearts to someone else, there will be <i>some type <\/i>of guarantee that he will love us in return, that we won\u2019t get hurt, and that we won\u2019t wake up one day wondering what happened and regretting having made that choice.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The truth is that there simply aren\u2019t any guarantees when it comes to love.\u00a0<\/strong> The only reason this is true is because being in a relationship involves two people, and you can only control what one of those people does: namely, <i>you<\/i>.\u00a0 There\u2019s no way to control what the person on the other side of the relationship will do or say, the choices he will make, and whether or not he will honor the promises he\u2019s made.\u00a0 And this terrifies us.<\/p>\n<p>For many, this seems like it\u2019s simply too risky, and they\u2019ll choose to hold back, play it safe, and, unfortunately, miss out on the experience of loving and being loved. And, I\u2019ll tell you, <strong>as big as the risks may seem, the benefits of being in a happy, loving, fulfilling relationship far outweigh the risks!\u00a0 But you\u2019ve got to be willing to take the risk!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>So, how do you know if he\u2019s the one?\u00a0 The answer to that begins and ends with YOU!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Here are some questions you can ask yourself when determining whether the guy you\u2019re with is the right one for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>What do I want?<\/b>\u00a0 Are you so clear about what you want to experience in a relationship that you will <i>know <\/i>when you\u2019re experiencing it and when you\u2019re not? Only you can know when something feels right for you, so make sure you know what it is that you want so that you don\u2019t settle for what you think you can get.\u00a0 <strong>Get really clear about what you want so that you can create that with the man who\u00a0 you choose to be your One.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>How do I feel when I\u2019m with him? <\/b>Too many times, when we\u2019re dating or in a relationship, we\u2019re either somewhere in the past (trying to avoid or recreate something) or we\u2019re in the future (imagining what it <i>could <\/i>be like).\u00a0 The problem is that, when you\u2019re not here, in the present, you miss red flags, positive signs, and experiences that, were you present, you\u2019d be able to recognize and use that information to determine whether or not this is the person with whom you\u2019d like to share your life.\u00a0 <strong>Check in and ask yourself how you feel.<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>Do I feel safe, loved, and special?<\/li>\n<li>Do I feel like he includes me in his life?<\/li>\n<li>Do I feel connected to him on an emotional and spiritual level, or is the only time I feel connected when we\u2019re being physically intimate?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Who am I when I\u2019m with him (and when I\u2019m not)? <\/b>\u00a0Do you feel safe being who you are when you\u2019re with him?\u00a0 I<strong>s there a difference between the You you\u2019re being when you\u2019re with him and who your friends and family see?\u00a0<\/strong> If you (or the people in your life) notice that you\u2019re someone else when you\u2019re with him, it could be that you don\u2019t feel loved and accepted for who you really are.\u00a0 While pretending might be something you can do for a while, it can become exhausting.\u00a0 Plus,<strong> you want him to fall in love with YOU, and he can\u2019t do that if you\u2019re not there!<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>What are the things I admire and respect about him?\u00a0 <\/b>Yes, physical attraction <i>is <\/i>very important when it comes to choosing the person with whom you want to create a relationship. However, <strong>it\u2019s also important that you <i>respect and admire<\/i> him as a man.<\/strong>\u00a0 Think about your values.\u00a0 Does he display the character traits you hold as valuable, such as integrity, honesty, compassion, and courage (or whatever they are for you)?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Is this someone with whom I see myself sharing the rest of my life?\u00a0 <\/b>It also helps to this as a choice you are making <i>for life<\/i>.\u00a0 So ask yourself:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Is <i>this experience <\/i>\u2013 exactly the way it is and exactly the way it is not &#8212; with <i>this person<\/i> \u2013 <i>exactly the way he is and exactly the way he is not <\/i>\u2013 one I would like to experience for the next 40, 50, 60 years?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If the answer is yes, then he may be you\u2019re man!\u00a0 If not, maybe you need to take a little bit more time to get to know him.\u00a0 Or, if all the signs are pointing to the fact that you\u2019re <em>not<\/em> having the type of experience you deserve and desire, it may be time to move on so that you can make room for the man who <em>is<\/em> going to want to create that experience with you.<\/p>\n<p>Focusing on and tuning in to the only part of the relationship you can control \u2013 you \u2013 will help you have the clarity to see whether or not the man you\u2019re with is the one you choose to be The One for you!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Comments? \u00a0Questions?\u00a0 Let us know below! We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Image courtesy of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.freedigitalphotos.net\/images\/Younger_Women_g57-Lady_Gestures_Confusion_With_Hands_p77789.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz &nbsp; How do I know if he\u2019s \u201cThe One?\u201d &nbsp; Talk about The Million-Dollar Question!\u00a0 This is probably one of the most common questions I get from women and men alike!\u00a0 Frankly, I don\u2019t think there is a person out there \u2013 single or otherwise \u2013 who hasn\u2019t asked him- or herself [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2475","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2475","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2475"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2475\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2475"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2475"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2475"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}