{"id":2482,"date":"2013-07-09T15:32:41","date_gmt":"2013-07-09T19:32:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2482"},"modified":"2013-07-09T15:32:41","modified_gmt":"2013-07-09T19:32:41","slug":"how-getting-stood-up-changed-my-life-forever","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/how-getting-stood-up-changed-my-life-forever\/","title":{"rendered":"How Getting Stood Up Changed My Life Forever"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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14 years ago, I got stood up.\u00a0 Why<\/em> would I want to remember that event of my life?\u00a0 Because it was also<\/i> the day my life changed forever! And there was no way I could have ever imagined or predicted the turn my life was about to take.\u00a0 And it probably wouldn\u2019t have, had I chosen to stay stuck in the pain and sadness of having a guy I really liked stand me up.<\/p>\n

I had been talking to a guy on the phone for a short time, and we\u2019d gone out on one date. Back then, I used to think that going on a date meant you were in a relationship, so I began calling him every day \u2013 multiple times a day, leaving him voice messages, and basically asking him out on other dates.\u00a0 I think back now, and I\u2019m a little embarrassed about just how much I was chasing him and trying to get him to like me.\u00a0 I also see now where he was sending me really clear messages that he wasn\u2019t interested in being in a relationship.\u00a0 But, you know what they say about hindsight being 20\/20!<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t a bad guy.\u00a0 He was actually very nice.\u00a0 And while some women would say he wasn\u2019t man enough or courageous enough to tell me that he didn\u2019t want to go out with me, I think he was too nice to want to hurt my feelings, and, since I hadn\u2019t paid attention to the thousands<\/i> of hints he\u2019d been giving me, he gave me one I couldn\u2019t ignore.<\/p>\n

I was heartbroken.\u00a0 I felt so vulnerable.\u00a0 This was the first guy I had dated since I\u2019d lost my first husband, and I felt so hurt and afraid that I\u2019d just end up being alone for the rest of my life.\u00a0 Perhaps that was a bit dramatic, but it\u2019s how I felt.<\/p>\n

Thankfully, my best friend loved me too much to see me moping around, and she said we were going dancing that night. Now, I was 28 and had never<\/i> been to a club, and I was not about to go to a bar to meet men!\u00a0 But I love dancing (and she knew that), so we made plans to go out that night.<\/p>\n

We got lost on the way there, and I kept thinking, \u201cMaybe this is a sign\u2026 We should just go home.\u201d<\/i> I was so afraid to be this far out of my comfort zone! But, eventually we did find the place.\u00a0 As soon as I walked in and sat at the bar, I noticed a really cute guy standing by the DJ booth.\u00a0 He was moving his head to the music and looked so relaxed.\u00a0 I remember thinking, \u201cI hope he asks me to dance.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

Well, he didn\u2019t.\u00a0 But a bunch of other guys did, so I had a great time, dancing, smiling, flirting, and just being me! I wasn\u2019t trying to meet anyone. I really didn\u2019t want<\/i> to meet anyone.\u00a0 I just wanted to have fun\u2026 And<\/i> I wanted that cute guy to ask me to dance.\u00a0 But he didn\u2019t!<\/p>\n

When we were about to leave, I saw him standing diagonally across the dance floor from me. I told my friend, \u201cI wish that guy had asked me to dance!\u201d <\/i><\/p>\n

Just then, he looked right at me.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t know what else to do, so I smiled.\u00a0 He smiled back and gestured with his head that I should come on over to him.<\/p>\n

What???<\/i><\/p>\n

I gestured with my head that he <\/i>should come on over to me<\/i>.\u00a0 Then I turned around.\u00a0 It was 2:00 a.m., my feet hurt, and I was not<\/i> in the mood to play games!<\/p>\n

As we got ready to go, my friend\u2019s eyes started getting really big.<\/p>\n

\u201cOh, my goodness! Is he standing behind me?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

She nodded yes.<\/p>\n

I turned around and smiled, and he introduced himself to me.\u00a0 We talked for a bit, and, when he told me he was only 24, I walked over to my friend and said, \u201cForget it.\u00a0 He\u2019s a kid.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

Again, my beautiful friend saved me from myself when she said, \u201cGet back over there right now.\u00a0 I haven\u2019t seen you smiling and laughing like that in at least a year!\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

So, I walked back over to him and we talked and danced for another 2 hours before my friend said we needed to go. I gave him my number and fell asleep with a smile on my face, thinking about how much I hoped he\u2019d really <\/i>call.<\/p>\n

He did!<\/p>\n

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We spoke for 7 hours on the phone the next night.\u00a0 Went on our first date the following night, and saw each other almost every day after that.\u00a0 Six months later he asked me to marry him.\u00a0 Almost a year to the day we met, we joined our lives forever.\u00a0 And it\u2019s been the most wonderful 14 years of my life!<\/p>\n

\"Our<\/a>So, what lessons did I learn that night?<\/p>\n

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  1. Many times, something that seems painful and undesirable can be a wonderfully sweet blessing in disguise.<\/li>\n
  2. Surround yourself with friends who love and want you to be happy and who will stand for you when you don\u2019t feel strong enough to stand for yourself.<\/li>\n
  3. Just because you haven\u2019t met him yet, doesn\u2019t mean you won\u2019t.\u00a0 And you may meet him when <\/i>and where <\/i>you least expect it!<\/li>\n
  4. Believe that true love is possible and that it is possible for YOU<\/b>!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    If you want to hear more<\/strong> of the lessons I\u2019ve learned about how to create the relationship of your dreams, then you\u2019ll want to join me on Wednesday, July 17th<\/sup>, for a free 90-minute \u201c<\/strong>Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams\u201d <\/strong>Training Call<\/strong><\/span> where I\u2019ll share how you can begin creating the relationship you\u2019ve always dreamed of!\u00a0 Just send me an email (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com<\/a>) and I\u2019ll send you the information regarding how you can join the call!<\/p>\n

    Questions?\u00a0 Comments?\u00a0 Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

    Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n

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