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by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

\"strong<\/a>As women, we don\u2019t always realize the incredible power we have to create the types of relationships we long to experience. \u00a0It\u2019s easy to look outside of ourselves \u2013 perhaps to the history in our families around relationships, to what the world and media outlets are saying is possible, to other people (mainly men) that we can blame \u2013 to explain or justify why we are not experiencing what we want in our love lives and relationships.<\/p>\n

What takes courage and vulnerability is the willingness to turn the mirror around and look<\/strong> within<\/strong><\/em>.\u00a0 It takes courage because, acknowledging that I <\/i><\/b>am the one who can create a change in my life \u2013 that I<\/strong><\/em> have the power <\/i>to do that \u2013 means that I<\/strong><\/em> have to take responsibility for why my relationship and my life don\u2019t look the way I want them to.\u00a0 It means acknowledging where I might need to make some changes, let go of trying to control things, and create space in my life for the love, laughter, peace, and miracles I want to see, feel, and live!<\/p>\n

As I shared with someone earlier this week, when I am willing to be responsible for the role I\u2019ve played in my life and my relationship looking the way they do, then I can also <\/i><\/b>take the credit for having made the changes necessary to turn them around!\u00a0 Now, that\u2019s empowering<\/i><\/b>!<\/p>\n

As empowering as it is, it\u2019s not always \u201ceasy\u201d to take on being responsible and making the changes that will make a difference.\u00a0 And it also doesn\u2019t make it any less scary.\u00a0 There will be a part of us that will wonder or doubt whether the changes will really make a difference.\u00a0 And it can be tempting to have that fear and doubt talk us out of taking action.<\/p>\n

For example, a single woman may wonder if giving up her checklist of necessary requirements a man \u201cmust\u201d meet in order to date her will mean that she\u2019ll have to settle <\/i>for someone she\u2019s not interested in or attracted to.\u00a0 Unless her belief that she can <\/i><\/b>have the relationship of her dreams with a man who is interesting, to whom she\u2019s attracted, and who treats her like the goddess she is becomes bigger<\/i><\/b> than her fear, she\u2019ll make the fear and doubt the reasons why she can\u2019t give up the checklist.\u00a0 And she may be cheating herself out of experiencing the very relationship she says <\/i>she wants.<\/p>\n

If a married woman feels that her marriage has lost the romance, that there\u2019s no more friendship or passion, and all that\u2019s left is an amicable roommate-type of relationship, she may wonder whether being more appreciative, more vulnerable, and inviting some romance back into the relationship and the bedroom will work.\u00a0 After all\u2026 it\u2019s been years <\/i>since she felt butterflies in her stomach and gotten goosebumps when he touches or looks at her that way<\/i>.\u00a0 Allowing herself to be vulnerable also means taking a risk, not knowing how he\u2019ll respond or whether he\u2019ll be interested in having things change.\u00a0 So, unless her belief that she can <\/i><\/b>experience love, passion, and romance again with the man she promised to love forever is bigger<\/i><\/b> than her fear of possibly having her efforts rejected, the fears and doubts will have her cheat herself out of experiencing the very intimacy she longs for.<\/p>\n

So, to begin choosing your heart\u2019s desires over <\/i><\/b>your fears:<\/p>\n