{"id":2664,"date":"2013-09-20T12:31:08","date_gmt":"2013-09-20T16:31:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2664"},"modified":"2013-09-20T12:31:08","modified_gmt":"2013-09-20T16:31:08","slug":"dealing-disappointments-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/dealing-disappointments-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Disappointments in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #800080;\">by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/Disappointed-Woman_FDP_ID-10070636.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter  wp-image-2665\" alt=\"Disappointed Woman_FDP_ID-10070636\" src=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/HDSite\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/Disappointed-Woman_FDP_ID-10070636.jpg\" width=\"213\" height=\"320\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>This week I found myself dealing with many disappointments. I\u2019m usually a pretty positive person, but I have to admit that I had more than a few moments of frustration, sadness, and crying sessions.\u00a0 Working myself through the disappointment took a willingness to just be with the feelings, rather than resisting them; be responsible for the role I\u2019d played in having things turn out the way they did; and courage to dust myself off and pick myself up again!\u00a0 I also discovered that, as disappointing as a situation may be, the lessons learned are part of the journey and that, if I can be open to seeing what those lessons are, I am one step closer to achieving my goals and dreams.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s no different when it comes to dating in relationships.\u00a0 Whether you\u2019re disappointed that you\u2019re not attracting the kind of man you\u2019d like to share your life with, or you\u2019re disappointed about the way a conversation with your husband or boyfriend went, it\u2019s <i>how <\/i>you choose to deal with the disappointment can affect how beneficial the learning experience can be.<\/p>\n<p>So, what are some ways that you can effectively deal with disappointments in relationships?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling<\/b>.\u00a0 Trying to resist feeling sad, upset, or disillusioned is futile. As the saying goes: \u201cWhat your resists persists,\u201d so give yourself permission to feel what you\u2019re feeling.\u00a0 The key to getting to the other side of the disappointment, however, is to avoid wrapping yourself in the feeling and staying \u201cstuck\u201d there.\u00a0 Instead, acknowledge what you\u2019re feeling, allow yourself to feel it, and, then let it go.\u00a0 The other day, my sister and I gave each other permission to vent about an issue we were having for 10 minutes.\u00a0 Once those 10 minutes were over, we moved on to seeking solutions! It was great because we didn\u2019t have to go through making one another wrong for feeling how we were feeling or pretending that we weren\u2019t feeling that way, which deepened the intimacy we share.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p>In a romantic relationship, you may want to give yourself a \u201ctime out\u201d before sharing how you are feeling.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because at times, our emotions are super-charged at the moment of disappointment, and we may end up saying or doing something we\u2019re later going to regret, thus <i>adding<\/i> to the disappointment.\u00a0 So, it\u2019s much better to sort through what it is that you are feeling \u2013 perhaps by venting with someone who is not a part of the situation \u2013 <i>before<\/i> choosing to share those feelings with our partner.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Take responsibility for the role you played in the situation.\u00a0 <\/b>Whether a mistake was made, something could have been done differently, you said or did something that contributed to the situation, or you fueled the flames by defending your point of view or making the other person wrong, own the role you played in how things turned out.\u00a0 Taking responsibility is not about assigning fault or blame.\u00a0 It\u2019s simply about being willing to acknowledge what you did or said that contributed to the situation. This is important, because, once you take responsibility for the role you played in the situation, you can <i>also <\/i>take the credit for helping to turn things around!\u00a0 So, rather than defend yourself or assign blame to others, just take responsibility for the part you played so that you can move forward. Which brings us to the next point:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Avoid staying stuck in the muck.\u00a0 <\/b>I don\u2019t know about you, but I really don\u2019t enjoy failing, making mistakes, or having things turn out differently than I imagined.\u00a0 I prefer success <i>a whole lot more<\/i>!\u00a0 However, sometimes, after having experienced a disappointment, it can be difficult to want to try again.\u00a0 We fear having to experience the sting of disappointment again, and this can cause us to want to want to quit and stop trying.\u00a0 The problem, however, is that, until we\u2019re willing to step out of the muck and try again, we\u2019ll never truly know what we\u2019re capable of creating.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p>So, if you\u2019re disappointed with regard to your experience with dating, revise your online profile, look for another online site that may be more to your liking, and trying out new places and activities where you might meet potential suitors.\u00a0 If you\u2019re disappointed with the level of love and romance in your relationship, do something fun and romantic with or for your partner.\u00a0 And if you feel as if you\u2019re struggling to make your relationship work, reach out a relationship coach or someone you know who can help you see what you may be able to do turn things around.\u00a0 There is always help and there\u2019s always hope!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And throughout all of this, remember that, as painful and uncomfortable as the disappointment may seem, there are life and love lessons to be learned at every moment \u2013 each one another stepping stone in your journey.\u00a0 And every time you choose to have the courage to identify what those lessons are and apply them in your life and relationships, you are one step closertoward achieving your dreams and fulfilling your heart\u2019s desires!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Comments?\u00a0 Questions?\u00a0 Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Image courtesy of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.freedigitalphotos.net\/images\/Younger_Women_g57-Young_Woman_In_Depression_p70636.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz This week I found myself dealing with many disappointments. I\u2019m usually a pretty positive person, but I have to admit that I had more than a few moments of frustration, sadness, and crying sessions.\u00a0 Working myself through the disappointment took a willingness to just be with the feelings, rather than resisting them; [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,6,10,11,13,16,17,23],"tags":[42,57,58,59,63,68,70,88],"class_list":["post-2664","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication-2","category-dating-2","category-hearts-desire-international","category-heartache","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-romance","tag-communication","tag-hearts-desire-international","tag-heartbreak","tag-hope","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2664","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2664"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2664\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2664"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2664"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2664"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}