{"id":2699,"date":"2013-10-11T11:45:47","date_gmt":"2013-10-11T15:45:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2699"},"modified":"2013-10-11T11:45:47","modified_gmt":"2013-10-11T15:45:47","slug":"facing-overcoming-fear","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/facing-overcoming-fear\/","title":{"rendered":"Facing and Overcoming Fear"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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As I mentioned in my previous post, this past week I attended a Mastermind meeting that was led by my business coach with over 80 other entrepreneurs.\u00a0 One of the assignments we were given prior to the meeting was to be ready to present a 2-minute talk on stage.\u00a0 To say that I was terrified is quite the understatement!<\/p>\n

As soon as I read those instructions \u2013 and the sentence stating that we couldn\u2019t ask any questions regarding the assignment \u2013 I went into full-out panic mode.\u00a0 In an instant, all of my fears, doubts and insecurities came bubbling up to the surface. I was even angry<\/i> that we were not only being told what we needed to do, but that we weren\u2019t being given any directions except to \u201cbreathe\u201d and do our best!<\/p>\n

I put off working on my talk all week long.\u00a0 I got really \u201cbusy\u201d doing a bunch of other stuff.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t until I landed in California and someone mentioned the assignment that I decided it would probably be a good idea to at least write something down. But nothing came.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t think of anything <\/i>to write, or say on stage.\u00a0 And I was certain <\/i>that my coach was going to call me on stage, I was going to bomb big time, and she was going to tear me apart in front of everyone!<\/p>\n

My plan: To avoid eye contact with her and refuse to go up if she called on me!<\/p>\n

Pretty wimpy, huh?\u00a0 Especially for someone who talks to women about facing and overcoming their fears!<\/p>\n

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So, as usually happens during moments like this in my life, I thought of you.\u00a0 <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u00a0I thought about what I would ask you to help you to see what it was you are really<\/i> afraid of.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Are you afraid of not ever having what you really want?\u00a0 <\/i><\/p>\n

Or are you afraid that you might actually get<\/span> what you really want? <\/i>\u00a0(Sometimes, this can be just as scary as the fear of not<\/i> getting what we want!)<\/p>\n

I realized that I was afraid of \u201clooking bad\u201d and that, if I didn\u2019t do it perfectly, it meant that I wouldn\u2019t be able to succeed \u2013 ever<\/i>.\u00a0 I was terrified that I\u2019d been wasting my time and that my dreams were never really<\/i> going to come true.<\/p>\n

And then, for a split second, I thought about how scary it would be if having what I want was really<\/i> possible!\u00a0 That would mean that having the life and business that I want is completely up to me!<\/i>\u00a0 That I would have to be responsible and be willing to do the work that it takes to make those dreams come true.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what I was really <\/i>afraid of!<\/p>\n

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I thought about how I\u2019d encourage you to face your fear and do it anyway.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

I thought about how I\u2019d say to you:<\/p>\n

That fear?\u00a0 It\u2019s just a thought<\/span>. It\u2019s not even \u201cthe truth\u201d!\u00a0 <\/i><\/p>\n

It\u2019s just a reminder of something that happened in the past \u2013 something that is not happening now. It\u2019s not real.<\/i><\/p>\n

I thought about how many times I\u2019ve allowed my fears to stop me.\u00a0 How the fear of repeating a mistake from the past has kept me from stepping out into a new future.\u00a0 And how, I\u2019ve always ended up regretting not having stepped up.<\/p>\n

It was then that I began to sense something stirring inside of me.\u00a0 What was it?\u00a0 <\/i><\/p>\n

Was it the determination not <\/i>to have that happen again?\u00a0 Was it the unwillingness to remain stagnant? Was that courage bubbling up inside of me?<\/p>\n

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I thought about how courageous you are when you are willing to take a risk and be vulnerable.\u00a0 <\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

I thought about how you inspire me when are courageous enough to step outside of your comfort zone and have a breakthrough that completely transforms your life.<\/p>\n

I thought about the joy that I feel when you tell me how amazing you feel now that you have everything you\u2019ve dreamed of and how you really didn\u2019t believe it could happen sometimes, but you trusted me and yourself, and you did it anyway<\/b>!<\/i><\/p>\n

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I thought about you\u2026<\/p>\n

And then, instead of waiting to be called on\u2026<\/p>\n

I raised my hand!<\/p>\n

And I kept raising it… until my coach pointed at me\u2026 and I made my way to the stage!<\/p>\n

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I\u2019d love to say that I wasn\u2019t nervous.\u00a0 That when I stepped on the stage I felt confident and everything came out exactly the way that I\u2019d planned.<\/p>\n

The truth is that I was shaking so hard I thought the people in the front row could see it!\u00a0 I was so nervous that I felt as if I couldn\u2019t take a complete breath.\u00a0 But the longer I stood on the stage, the stronger I felt and the words began to flow!\u00a0 And the feedback I was terrified of getting from my coach?\u00a0 It was constructive<\/i> \u2013 meant to build me up<\/i>, not<\/span> tear me down \u2013 and I used it, right then and there, on the stage!\u00a0 It was amazing! I felt so empowered!<\/p>\n

So, thank you!<\/p>\n

Thank you for the difference you allow me to make in your life and for the incredible difference you make in mine. I\u2019m so grateful our paths have crossed and that we\u2019re part of one another\u2019s journey.<\/p>\n

And the next time you\u2019re afraid \u2013 of admitting that you want to be in a loving, intimate relationship; of going out on a date with someone new; of apologizing to your boyfriend or husband for having said or done something you wish you hadn\u2019t; of allowing yourself to love and be loved \u2013 I hope you\u2019ll think of me<\/i> <\/b>and that you\u2019ll be inspired to move past your fear so that you can experience the life and love your heart desires!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Question? Comments?\u00a0 Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n

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