{"id":2762,"date":"2013-11-15T23:58:02","date_gmt":"2013-11-16T03:58:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2762"},"modified":"2013-11-15T23:58:02","modified_gmt":"2013-11-16T03:58:02","slug":"keep-your-love-tank-full","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/keep-your-love-tank-full\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Keep Your Love Tank Full"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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This week I had the privilege of attending the Women\u2019s Success Summit, one of my favorite professional events, because I get to learn great information for my business while having fun and being surrounded by good friends, other female entrepreneurs, and some amazing speakers! I also loved spending time with some of you, too!<\/p>\n

Before leaving for the conference, I left all of the meals for the week prepared for my husband and the boys so that they\u2019d have ready-to-go healthy meals and I wouldn\u2019t have to plan or cook meals for the rest of the week (Yay! Cooking is something I do not enjoy at all<\/em>!).\u00a0 Since my hubby was going to be flying solo for two full days, it was my way of saying, \u201cThank you, honey, for supporting and helping make my<\/b> dreams come true by helping women around the world make their<\/b> relationship dreams come true!\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n

In the past, I can honestly say that I would have never<\/i> left for even one<\/i> day without feeling guilty about it.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know why it is, but, for some reason, as women, we tend to feel guilty about doing the things for ourselves that we enjoy, inspire and lift us up, as if by doing that we are somehow hurting or neglecting our families.\u00a0 And, by the way, this is also true for women who don\u2019t have children.\u00a0 Somewhere along the road putting ourselves, our needs and desires first became \u201cselfish\u201d and unloving.<\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s virtually impossible to give and receive love freely if you don\u2019t choose to take care of yourself first \u2013<\/strong> guilt-free<\/i><\/b>! \u00a0\u00a0As we always hear on the airplane, we can\u2019t help anyone else until after <\/i>we\u2019ve put our own oxygen masks on.\u00a0 You simply won\u2019t have the patience, energy, or desire to want to be with or care for anyone else if you feel frazzled, exhausted, and overwhelmed all the time<\/i>.\u00a0 That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to do the things that you enjoy and help replenish your mind, body, and spirit!<\/p>\n

So, what can you do to begin refueling your love and energy tank?<\/p>\n

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Make a list of the things you really<\/i> enjoy doing. \u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Are there things that bring you joy and make you laugh aloud, help you feel peaceful and relaxed, or strengthen and empower you physically, emotionally, or spiritually?\u00a0 Put those things on your list!\u00a0 See if you can create a list of 20 things that you really enjoy.\u00a0 If it\u2019s been so long since you\u2019ve done anything for yourself that you can\u2019t even think of 1, much less 20 things, think back a few years to when you were younger, or single, or first married. What are the things you used to do back then!\u00a0 Oh, and keep most of the items on the list simple and easy for you to do, because you\u2019re going to want to do some of these every day<\/i><\/b>!<\/p>\n

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Do 2-3 of the things on your list every day<\/span>.<\/b><\/p>\n

That\u2019s right!\u00a0 There\u2019s no typo!\u00a0 To have the patience, energy, and willingness to get out there and date or to have peace and intimacy in your home, you need to refuel your love and energy tank daily<\/i>.<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s not enough to have one day each week or once a month when you go get your hair or nails done, have lunch with a friend, or sit down to read a book.\u00a0 You are living every day, which means you\u2019re giving every day \u2013 usually to other people \u2013 so it\u2019s important that you put yourself on your list of things to take care of every single day!\u00a0 It may feel difficult or uncomfortable when you first begin, especially if you\u2019re not used to doing anything <\/i>for yourself,<\/i> but trust me<\/i>, once you get used to it, you will see what a difference it makes for you and for the people around you when you are feeling happy, rested, and cared for!<\/p>\n

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Ditch the guilt!<\/b><\/p>\n

The guilt you feel when you do something for yourself is self-imposed<\/i>.\u00a0 And if you are allowing others around you to make you feel guilty, then just know it\u2019s only because you\u2019ve probably trained them to do so, because you haven\u2019t made yourself and your happiness one of your priorities. \u00a0We teach people how to treat us, and, once your friends, family, and\/or begin to see that you are making your happiness and well-being a priority, don\u2019t be surprised if they start to treat you with more Tender Loving Care, too!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Chances are very high <\/i>that every woman reading this has someone or something for whom she is mainly responsible.\u00a0 And, just to be clear, I\u2019m in no way<\/i> saying that you should only focus on yourself to the detriment of those around you.\u00a0 What I am saying is that, loving, giving, and caring for others takes time, energy, and patience \u2013 none of which are available to us when we\u2019re constantly on \u201cempty\u201d and running on fumes.\u00a0 Denying yourself pleasure and fun doesn\u2019t make you more loving, and it certainly<\/i> doesn\u2019t make you more lovable.\u00a0<\/strong> So, to experience the joy of loving and being loved freely and abundantly do yourself and those around you a huge favor, and do what you can every day to make sure your love and energy meter is always on \u201cfull\u201d!<\/p>\n

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Comments? Questions?\u00a0 Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n

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