{"id":2785,"date":"2013-11-25T17:42:56","date_gmt":"2013-11-25T21:42:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=2785"},"modified":"2013-11-25T17:42:56","modified_gmt":"2013-11-25T21:42:56","slug":"transformational-power-gratitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/transformational-power-gratitude\/","title":{"rendered":"The Transformational Power of Gratitude"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Thank<\/a><\/p>\n

There are few practices in life that are as transformational as that of giving thanks.\u00a0 There is something miraculous that happens when you make the choice to take your focus off of everything you don\u2019t have, don\u2019t have enough of, or that seems to be \u201cwrong\u201d in your life and shift to making the conscious choice to feel and express gratitude for what you do have.\u00a0 This is especially true when it comes to love and relationships.<\/p>\n

There is a quote by Taneo Sands Kumalae that says,<\/p>\n

\u201cEnergy flows where attention goes.\u201d<\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

There is nothing that can kill love and intimacy more quickly than criticism and sending the message to the other person that he is not doing \u201cenough\u201d to please you. Telling a man he doesn\u2019t call often enough, that he \u201cnever\u201d takes you out anymore, or that he\u2019s \u201calways\u201d thinking about himself does not <\/i>inspire him to want<\/i> to call, spend time with, or think of you more often.\u00a0 In fact, you\u2019ll probably find that this type of communication will backfire, having him pull away even more.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, when you choose to shed light on the things that you like, enjoy, and appreciate \u2013 the little things, the big things, and everything in between \u2013 chances are very high that the man you are with is going to want<\/i> to give you even more <\/i>of that?\u00a0 Why?<\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s pretty simple. If you\u2019re with a good man, one thing is certain:\u00a0 He wants <\/i>to please you.\u00a0 And letting him know what<\/i> he\u2019s done to please you will make him want to do that more often!<\/p>\n

See, not only does he love seeing that smile on your face, but he absolutely loves knowing that he<\/i> had something to do with it!<\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

So, the more you often you let him know that you noticed <\/i>what he did and that you appreciate <\/i>it, the more often he will want to create that feeling for both of you again, which means you both <\/i>win!<\/p>\n

Now, I\u2019m not talking about simply expressing thanks in order to \u201cget him\u201d to do things for you. That is manipulative and controlling and totally<\/i> goes against what we teach about how to create a loving, intimate relationship.\u00a0 This is about really allowing yourself to notice <\/i>what he\u2019s done, feel <\/i>the gratitude, and then express<\/i> it to him.<\/p>\n

As with most of the things we teach, this takes some level of vulnerability, because you\u2019re letting him know he made a difference for you.\u00a0 This practice can be easy when things are going well in a relationship, but can be a little more difficult when you\u2019re experiencing difficult times.\u00a0 However, it\u2019s impossible to feel both resentment and gratitude at the same time.<\/b>\u00a0 So, when you make the choice to express gratitude, it\u2019s also likely that the resentment you\u2019ve been holding onto will begin to disappear, which is a gift you give yourself!<\/p>\n

I can promise\u00a0 you that if you really <\/i>take on expressing gratitude to your husband or boyfriend for the week, something magical<\/i> will happen.<\/p>\n

Not only will you begin to experience more peace within, but you will also begin to sense a shift in the dynamic of your relationship.<\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

Because, now, rather than focusing on (and complaining about) all of the things he\u2019s not <\/i>doing (or not doing well enough), you will begin noticing<\/i> just how much you have to be grateful for! Instead of noticing that he left the socks on the floor, or left the toilet seat up, or forgot to pay the phone bill on time, you\u2019ll begin to notice how he made sure he left you enough coffee in the coffee pot, how he always brings in the mail, how he\u2019s working those long hours you complain about because he wants to take care of you, and how he begins to respond<\/i> to your increased level gratitude!\u00a0 I\u2019m warning you now \u2013 Don\u2019t be surprised if he starts surprising you more often!<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Will you take \u201cThe Gratitude Challenge\u201d?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019d like to present you with a little challenge.<\/p>\n

For the next 7 days, look for three opportunities per day to express thanks to your man.<\/b>\u00a0 I know, I know, some of you are thinking it will be hard to find one <\/i>opportunity.\u00a0 Again, I promise you, if you will look for the opportunities, you will see them!<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not in a relationship yet, then I challenge you to express your gratitude to men three times per day.<\/b> You can choose to thank the same man three times, or thank three different men.\u00a0 Yes, you can choose a family member, but if you really <\/i>want to stretch yourself, I invite you thank three co-workers, three men you see while running errands, or the cute guy who always holds the door open for you at the gym!<\/p>\n

If you play this game full-out, you are going to begin to notice just how much the men in your life want to please and make you happy!<\/i>\u00a0 See, while you may be benefiting from their compliments, help, or gifts, you are giving them a gift in return: The gift of appreciation.\u00a0 And, if you continue to play the game well after the 7 days have come and gone, you will see just how big a difference a little gratitude can make in all of the areas of your life!<\/p>\n

So, will you do it?\u00a0 Will you take the gratitude challenge?<\/p>\n

If, so, make sure you let us know below!\u00a0 We can\u2019t wait to hear all about the miraculous changes you\u2019ll begin to see in your life and your relationship!<\/p>\n

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Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n

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