{"id":3075,"date":"2014-02-10T11:30:19","date_gmt":"2014-02-10T15:30:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=3075"},"modified":"2014-02-10T11:30:19","modified_gmt":"2014-02-10T15:30:19","slug":"how-to-avoid-feeling-lonely-this-valentines-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/how-to-avoid-feeling-lonely-this-valentines-day\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Avoid Loneliness This Valentine’s Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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Valentine\u2019s Day is just days away, and, while this week can be fun and exciting for those who are in happy, healthy relationships or having a great time dating, it’s generally not the case for people who are feeling lonely.<\/p>\n

Valentine\u2019s Day can be a painful reminder of a relationship that has ended, a love that’s been lost, or of how much a relationship has changed.\u00a0 If you are feeling lonely this Valentine\u2019s Day, there are a few things you can do to help transform this time from one of pain to one of hope and new beginnings.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re single<\/b>, and you\u2019ve experienced a breakup or some other type of heartache, it can be difficult to work through all of the feelings of loss and pain. In fact, at times, you may feel paralyzed by fear and sadness, terrified to move forward and risk allowing anyone to get that close to you again.<\/p>\n

Being stuck in the past only robs you of your ability to experience peace, happiness, and love.\u00a0 Staying stuck is a choice.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re ready to leave the pain and heartache from a previous relationship in the past, join Michelle and me for the \u201cReady to Love Again\u201d webinar<\/span><\/a><\/b><\/span> we will be hosting on Thursday, February 13th* <\/sup><\/b>.\u00a0 On this free webinar, we will be looking at why it can be difficult to move past a heartbreaking experience and what you can do now<\/strong> <\/em>to leave the past and<\/i> the pain behind so that you can begin stepping into a new future filled with the love and happiness your heart desires and you deserve.<\/p>\n

What if you\u2019re feeling lonely and stuck inside<\/i> of a relationship? <\/b>\u00a0Being in a relationship where you feel that you and your partner have begun to drift apart \u2013 or worse, that you\u2019re at the point where you\u2019re afraid there is no way to restore the love and intimacy in your relationship \u2013 can be frightening and extremely painful.\u00a0 Knowing that there is someone there with whom you used to share love, joy, and intimacy, but who now feels like he\u2019s miles away, even when he\u2019s in the same room, can be heart wrenching.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to slip into anger and resentment, blaming him for everything that has gone and continues to go wrong.\u00a0 It can also be tempting to wonder whether it would be easier to just end the relationship once and for all. Of course, that is an option, but, if you love your husband or boyfriend, and you would like to know that you\u2019ve done everything you could to make the relationship work, there are some steps you can take to begin shifting the dynamic in the relationship and restoring the intimacy you once had.<\/p>\n

Remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/b>Regardless of what has happened, there was a time where you knew in your heart this<\/em> was the man with whom you wanted to share your life.\u00a0 Write a list of the things you loved and admired about him. Allow yourself to remember those qualities that made you smile, feel safe, and want to spend every moment you could with him.\u00a0 Then begin to look for evidence of those qualities.\u00a0 Chances are that if you choose to look at him through the eyes of admiration, rather than resentment, you\u2019re likely to find that the man you fell in love with has been there all along.<\/p>\n

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Express your appreciation for him.\u00a0 <\/b><\/p>\n

As you begin to gather evidence of those qualities that made you fall in love with him, let him know you notice them<\/em>.\u00a0 If he does something kind, thoughtful, or chivalrous, thank him.\u00a0 If he goes out of his way to do something for you, thank him. Even if he does something differently than you would have, or if there is the slightest attempt made at pleasing \u00a0you, thank him.\u00a0 The more gratitude and appreciation you begin to express, the more you let him know that you notice the little things, the more he’ll want to do for you and and the more of a change you\u2019ll begin to experience in your relationship.<\/p>\n

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Forgive and release resentment.\u00a0 <\/b><\/p>\n

Holding on to anger and resentment shuts out love and intimacy.\u00a0 It\u2019s simply impossible to feel resentment and love at the same time.\u00a0 While he may have hurt or disappointed you in some way, if you are choosing to stay, you\u2019re going to need to choose to forgive.\u00a0 Otherwise, all you are doing is punishing yourself right along with him.\u00a0 Remember that forgiveness does not mean you are condoning or agreeing with what happened.\u00a0 You\u2019re simply choosing to let go of the pain, anger, and resentment that has been filling the space where love and intimacy used to live.<\/p>\n

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It can feel difficult taking these first steps, because you feel so vulnerable.\u00a0 However, vulnerability is the key to intimacy<\/strong>, and it\u2019s going to take that and<\/i> courage to make a real shift in your relationship.\u00a0 If you need support or encouragement to begin, reach out to us and let us know. We\u2019d be happy to help you on the path of restoring the love and intimacy you once shared this Valentine\u2019s Day and beyond!<\/p>\n

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And, if you\u2019re single, remember to register now for the free \u201cReady to Love Again\u201d webinar<\/span><\/a> <\/span>we\u2019ll be hosting this Thursday, February 13th<\/sup>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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No matter where you are right now in your love life, you can<\/strong> <\/em>take the steps now to make this Valentine\u2019s Day the last one you spend alone and feeling lonely!<\/p>\n

Comments?\u00a0 Questions? Let us know below!\u00a0 We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n

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Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net<\/a><\/p>\n

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