{"id":3213,"date":"2014-04-11T12:58:25","date_gmt":"2014-04-11T16:58:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=3213"},"modified":"2014-04-11T12:58:25","modified_gmt":"2014-04-11T16:58:25","slug":"are-you-worried-about-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/are-you-worried-about-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Worried About Your Relationship?"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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When we begin a new relationship, we are so happy, hopeful, and excited about sharing our love and life with a wonderful man.\u00a0 I honestly don’t know of anyone who gets into a relationship with the\u00a0intention<\/i>\u00a0of causing themselves or the other person heartache.\u00a0 We usually begin with the intention of making the relationship work.<\/p>\n

That’s why there’s probably nothing more frightening than being in a relationship and noticing how the love, passion, and intimacy are beginning to fade away.\u00a0 At first, it may not be very obvious. It can seem like your lives have just gotten busier with work, kids, and other responsibilities.\u00a0 Maybe you’re not kissing, hugging or having as much sex as you used to, you’re not talking or connecting as often with one another; when you\u00a0are\u00a0<\/i>talking, it seems like you usually end up in an argument.<\/p>\n

I speak with women almost every day who are in this situation and who are wondering if there is any hope for their relationships. The women usually fall into one of these categories.<\/p>\n

In Denial.\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re in denial, then you’re ignoring the changes that are taking place.\u00a0 You may be rationalizing and \u00a0telling yourself that this type of thing is “normal” in a relationship, that all relationships go through slumps, and that this is just a\u00a0phase<\/i>\u00a0you and your guy are going through.<\/p>\n

The problem with denial is that, in ignoring the fact that there may be a problem, you also avoid doing anything to fix or change what is happening.<\/b>\u00a0The likelihood that things are going to “just get better on their own” is slim to none.\u00a0 Instead, the intimacy and romance will continue to deteriorate until nothing is left and you’ll find yourself asking yourself,\u00a0“What happened? How did we get here?”<\/i><\/p>\n

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In Blame Mode.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re in “blame mode,” then you’ve begun looking at all of the things the man you love is doing wrong to ruin the relationship.\u00a0 Not only do you\u00a0see\u00a0<\/i>everything he is doing and saying wrong, but you make sure you point it out to him every chance you get. You see where he’s not being loving or romantic, where he’s not making an effort to connect, where he’s not initiating sex.\u00a0 It’s blatantly obvious to you that if\u00a0he\u00a0<\/i>would just change, then the relationship would be fine.<\/p>\n

The problem with being in blame mode is that you are making your man responsible for\u00a0everything\u00a0<\/i>that is not going right in the relationship, and avoiding owning up to the role you have been playing in allowing things to get to this point.\u00a0\u00a0Inside of blaming him, you don’t have to be responsible for what you are doing (or not doing) to impact the love and intimacy in the relationship.<\/b>\u00a0 Regardless of whether or not he is making some mistakes, the truth is that you can’t control or change him or what he’s doing.\u00a0 The\u00a0only<\/i>\u00a0person you can truly control is yourself.\u00a0 So, until you begin owning the part you are playing in having your relationship unravel, you can’t do anything to turn things around.<\/p>\n

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Unsure of What to Do.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re a woman in this category, it’s likely that you realize that your relationship is in trouble, you are willing to acknowledge that there are things you can do to change the dynamic of the relationship, but you don’t know what those things are or how to begin making the changes.\u00a0\u00a0 You may have tried some things on your own that either backfired or didn’t produce the results you hoped for.\u00a0 You may be afraid to do\u00a0anything<\/i>\u00a0because you are scared to mess things up even further.\u00a0 Or you may\u00a0really\u00a0<\/i>be afraid of trying to make changes, only to find that nothing changes.<\/p>\n

This is the category of\u00a0hope<\/b>!\u00a0 Where there is a willingness to change, change is possible!\u00a0 Your uncertainty comes from not knowing where to begin.\u00a0 So it stands to reason that\u00a0with the right information, tools, and support, you\u00a0will\u00a0<\/i>be able to make the changes that will help shift the dynamic in your relationship!<\/b><\/p>\n

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If you fall into either of the first two categories – denial or blame mode – pay close attention, because the truth is that if you continue ignoring the changes in your relationship, pretending they are not happening, waiting for\u00a0him\u00a0<\/i>to be the one to make the first move,\u00a0and\/or thinking that things are going to get better on their own,\u00a0you have to know that your relationship\u00a0will\u00a0<\/i>continue to deteriorate and will probably end.<\/p>\n

If, however, you\u00a0are willing\u00a0<\/i>to admit that things\u00a0are not\u00a0<\/i>going to get better on their own, acknowledge that there\u00a0are\u00a0<\/i>changes that need to take place, and\u00a0you’re ready<\/i>\u00a0to do the work it will take to turn things around and reignite the love, peace, and romance in your relationship, then reach out to me so that we can talk about where your relationship is, where you would like it to be, and what you can begin doing right away to create that shift!<\/b><\/p>\n

I’ve reserved a few slots in my schedule next week to speak specifically to women who are ready to begin transforming their relationships. \u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Just click here<\/span><\/a><\/span> to \u00a0set up a time for a Love Clarity call!<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u00a0deserve<\/i><\/b>\u00a0to have the happy, fulfilling relationship your heart truly desires with the man you love! Let’s connect and talk about how you can make your dreams come true!<\/p>\n

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Questions? \u00a0Comments? \u00a0Let us know below! \u00a0We love hearing from you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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