{"id":3568,"date":"2014-09-09T08:00:34","date_gmt":"2014-09-09T08:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=3568"},"modified":"2014-09-09T08:00:34","modified_gmt":"2014-09-09T08:00:34","slug":"what-to-do-when-you-feel-like-giving-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/what-to-do-when-you-feel-like-giving-up\/","title":{"rendered":"What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span>
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Have you ever felt like something is just too hard and it\u2019s time to give up \u2013 even when it\u2019s something you really want or believe in, like a dream or a goal you\u2019ve been working on for some time?<\/span><\/p>\n

Many times, when I\u2019m on my runs, I tell myself I\u2019m not going to stop until I reach a certain distance. There are times when my legs are aching, sweat is dripping into my eyes, and I feel like my chest will explode, and I just want to stop<\/em>. And, sometimes, I do. But the moment I do, I check the app I use while running, and if I haven\u2019t reached that preset distance, I will literally say to myself aloud, \u201cDon\u2019t you dare<\/strong> stop now!\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Pretty tough, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019ve found that sometimes I need to get real with myself, or else I\u2019ll quit before it\u2019s time to stop. If I don\u2019t remind myself of what my goals are, the milestone I set, and why I\u2019m doing something, left to my own devices, I\u2019ll quit when things get a little too uncomfortable for me \u2013 whether it\u2019s in running, a goal I\u2019ve set for myself in business, my well-being, and, yes, my relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

What about you? Are you getting ready to give up on something?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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I speak to a lot of women \u2013 women of all ages, cultures, and relationship statuses \u2013 and there\u2019s common question that comes up:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cDo you think there\u2019s hope for me?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re a single woman who\u2019s become frustrated with dating unavailable men or men you\u2019re not really attracted to, or the fact you haven\u2019t gone on a date for months (or years) and you\u2019re wondering whether you\u2019re just meant to be alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019ve been in an on-again-off-again relationship for several years, or one in which you\u2019ve been waiting for him to commit or proposed to you, or things just seem to be unraveling at the seams, and you wonder whether it\u2019s time to call it quits.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re in a marriage where things have been on a downward spiral for a while, or you feel like you\u2019re just housemates or co-parents, and you wonder whether it\u2019s even worth possible to bring the love and romance you once shared together.<\/span><\/p>\n

And maybe you\u2019re like many of my clients and you’ve taken several courses, read many books, and done a ton of spiritual and inner work and you\u2019re asking yourself why these thing seem to lead everyone else in the directions of their dreams, but not yours,\u00a0<\/em>and you’re wondering whether there\u2019s simply something \u201cbroken\u201d inside of you.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know where you are, but I do know this:<\/span><\/p>\n

The only<\/em> surefire way to not reach your goals and for your dreams not to come true is for you to decide to give up!<\/strong><\/span><\/h4>\n

That\u2019s the only<\/em> thing that will guarantee that you won\u2019t get what your heart desires.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, I\u2019m going to say this with all of my love:<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t you dare stop now!<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

What if there\u2019s something you didn\u2019t know you could do to turn your love life around?<\/span><\/p>\n

What if there\u2019s just a little more work to do to finally<\/em> get the things that have been blocking love from coming to you out of your way?
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What if the next guy you meet in person or online is the one who\u2019s been looking for you all along?<\/span><\/p>\n

What if the man you love is just waiting for a sign that you\u2019re not ready to give up on your relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n

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What if there is still hope?<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Are you seriously willing to give up without doing everything <\/em>you can to make your dreams come true?<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re not ready to give up yet, then take out a piece of paper and answer these questions:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. What is it that my heart truly desires?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    1. What is making me want to stop and is in the way of me having this be realized in my life?
      \n<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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      1. Is there someone who or something that can help me discover how to get past this?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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        1. Am I courageous enough to reach out for help and do what it takes and not give up?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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          1. What\u2019s the next action step I will take, rather than stop and give up?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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            I know you\u2019re tired. I know you\u2019re afraid. But I also know that you can be courageous and unstoppable. I know you can take that next action step. And I know that you don\u2019t have to do it alone!<\/span><\/p>\n

            If you\u2019d like support (and a nice, hard push) in taking that next step, then you can always reach out to me and step up a time to talk!<\/span><\/p>\n

            I\u2019m not giving up on you, so don\u2019t you dare give up on you, either<\/em>!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

            by Gladys Diaz Have you ever felt like something is just too hard and it\u2019s time to give up \u2013 even when it\u2019s something you really want or believe in, like a dream or a goal you\u2019ve been working on for some time? Many times, when I\u2019m on my runs, I tell myself I\u2019m not […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,6,10,11,13,16,17,22,23,27],"tags":[47,50,57,58,59,63,68,70,87,90,92],"class_list":["post-3568","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-coaching","category-dating-2","category-hearts-desire-international","category-heartache","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-relationship-advice","category-romance","category-success","tag-dating","tag-empowerment","tag-hearts-desire-international","tag-heartbreak","tag-hope","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-relationship-advice-2","tag-romance-2","tag-self-love"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3568","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3568"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3568\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3568"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3568"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3568"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}