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by Gladys Diaz<\/p>\n

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I recently got back from a week-long vacation with my family, and I learned a lot of interesting things about myself while on this trip.<\/span><\/p>\n

During the trip, I made a commitment to\u00a0let go of control. I\u2019ve been working pretty hard since last November, and I just wanted to relax.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t want to have to be the one making decisions, doing some of the driving, or having to handle much of anything.\u00a0 My primary focus was to have as much fun as possible with my family!<\/span><\/p>\n

In giving up control, one of the things I got to do a lot of was\u00a0receiving.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Now, I teach women how one of the most powerful ways to embrace our femininity is to receive.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Knowing that two of a man\u2019s primary needs are to know that he can provide for and please the woman he loves, in receiving a man\u2019s gifts, time, help, and affection, I am clear that I give my husband the gift of fulfilling on his purpose and myself the gift of feeling cherished and taken care of!\u00a0 It truly is a win-win situation!<\/span><\/p>\n

So, receiving in and of itself is not difficult for me\u2026\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2026Until it comes to really expensive or extravagant gifts.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Then I seem to get a bit uncomfortable<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

While on the trip, my husband and I were presented with an opportunity to make one of my dreams come true. It\u2019s a big dream, so, consequently, it comes with a big price tag.\u00a0 Nevertheless, I have had this dream for a long time and I am the kind of person who, when I want something, I find a way to make it happen!<\/span><\/p>\n

This time, however, my husband<\/em> was the one making it happen for me!<\/span><\/p>\n

I noticed how I got a little nervous and uncomfortable at the thought of this.<\/span><\/p>\n

As happy as I was that my dream was coming true, I also felt a little guilty. I had all types of thoughts running through my head.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is too much\u2026<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

He\u2019s only doing this for me.\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe we should wait a while.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

When it came time to make the final decision, my husband asked me, \u201cSo, what do you think?\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I could have honored and shared with him all of the feelings, fears and concerns running through my head.<\/span><\/p>\n

I could have given him some ideas about what to do or how to handle the negotiations.<\/span><\/p>\n

I could have told him that it was okay. Knowing that he wanted to make this happen for me was enough. I could wait.<\/span><\/p>\n

In other words, I could have stepped in, taken over, taken charge, and not gotten what I really wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I didn\u2019t want to. I just wanted to bask in the warmth of seeing how excited he was to be figuring out a way to make this dream happen for me<\/em><\/strong>!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So, instead of stepping in and giving into my limiting thoughts and beliefs, I chose to step back and trust. \u00a0I chose to receive.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I simply said,\u00a0\u201cI\u2019m so excited! I’ve\u00a0wanted this for a long time. I don\u2019t know if we \u2018should\u2019 do it, but I want this, and I know you.\u00a0 You always make the best decisions for us.\u00a0 And if you\u2019re thinking of doing this, then I know you\u2019ve thought it through, and I trust you. Thank you!\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I wish I\u2019d had my phone ready to take a picture of my husband\u2019s face. (smile)<\/span><\/p>\n

He looked so happy and confident.<\/span><\/p>\n

In that moment, I realized just how much making me happy means to him.\u00a0 I mean, I knew it before, but I got really present<\/em> and I\u00a0could\u00a0see<\/em>\u00a0<\/em>it in that moment!<\/span><\/p>\n

And it was\u00a0awesome!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Was I still a little scared?\u00a0 Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Was I going to cheat him out of the pleasure of knowing he is making one of my dreams come true? Heck, no!<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the blessings of being in a relationship with a man who truly loves you is being able to openly receive his love \u2013 even when it makes you a little uncomfortable.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Receiving is a gift you give yourself and <\/em>the person who is giving to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

In allowing my husband to provide me with something he knew I wanted, I gave him the gift of seeing my happiness and gratitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

In allowing myself to receive the gift, I was able to experience seeing the joy that he<\/em> experiences when he\u2019s able to make me happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not the type or size of the gift that makes the difference, either. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, this happened to be something big, but I also have the pleasure of receiving compliments; \u201cI love you\u2019s\u201d; \u201cfor-no-reason-roses\u201d (those roses he shows up with for absolutely no reason!); as well as offers to help me do the dishes, make dinner, and watch the boys so I can go get my hair done.\u00a0 All of these things make me feel happy and loved <\/span><\/p>\n

So, what about you? How open are you to receiving?<\/span><\/p>\n