{"id":4704,"date":"2016-01-21T16:23:26","date_gmt":"2016-01-21T16:23:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/?p=4704"},"modified":"2016-07-03T22:52:37","modified_gmt":"2016-07-03T22:52:37","slug":"whats-really-blocking-you-from-finding-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/whats-really-blocking-you-from-finding-love\/","title":{"rendered":"What&#8217;s Really Blocking You from Finding Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #cc99ff;\">by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-5102 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/crumpled-heart_5447304152_a9a78c57fa_z_bing.jpg\" alt=\"crumpled heart_5447304152_a9a78c57fa_z_bing\" width=\"513\" height=\"342\" srcset=\"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/crumpled-heart_5447304152_a9a78c57fa_z_bing.jpg 640w, https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/crumpled-heart_5447304152_a9a78c57fa_z_bing-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 513px) 100vw, 513px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There are few things more painful than losing someone you love, whether that&#8217;s due to a breakup, divorce, death, or because the person you love does not feel the same way about you.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Experiencing a loss of any kind can trigger different emotions and beliefs that can leave you feeling hurt, insecure, disempowered, and as if you are unable to move forward in your love life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Which of these ring true for you?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You meet and date men, but they never quite match up to \u201cthe one who got away\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You still think about what you could have done\/could do to work things out with him<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You constantly talk about and bring him up when speaking with friends<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You cyber-stalk or try to find out information about him and his life via social media and\/or friends and family<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You make yourself available to see and\/or talk to him in the hopes that you will reconcile<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You&#8217;ve agreed to a \u201cfriends-with-benefits\u201d relationship with him in the hopes that he will come back to you<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">If <\/span><\/strong><em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">any <\/span><\/em><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">of these scenarios ring true for you, consider that you are not over the man in your past.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Of course it takes time to get over a breakup. \u00a0However, if\u00a0it&#8217;s been more than a few months and you&#8217;re still pining\u00a0over him, avoiding\/resisting meeting someone else because you are still hoping and waiting that he&#8217;ll come back to you, or you find something wrong with\u00a0<\/span><em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">every single man you meet<\/span><\/em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">,\u00a0you&#8217;re actually stopping yourself from moving forward.<\/span><br \/>\n<strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">If what you really want is a happy, loving relationship with a man who you love <\/span><\/strong><em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">and who loves you back<\/span><\/em><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">, holding onto a previous man\u00a0or relationship actually blocks you from welcoming new love into your life.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">There are many reasons you may be doing this, and one of the main reasons is that staying stuck in the past \u2013 as painful and unpleasant as it may feel at times \u2013 gives you a false sense of being \u201csafe.\u201d<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Safe from what?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Holding onto the past keeps you safe from \u2013<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">being vulnerable and putting your heart back out there<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">admitting that perhaps he really <\/span><em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">wasn&#8217;t <\/span><\/em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">the right guy for you<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">risking more heartache<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">This false sense of safety is why we see so many women who months, years, and, yes, even <\/span><em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">decades<\/span><\/em><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">, later, are still wondering why they can&#8217;t meet a good man, questioning what&#8217;s wrong with them, wondering whether they are meant to be happy in a relationship, and believing the lie that \u2013 for whatever reason \u2013 they are destined to not experience the joy of loving and being loved.<\/span><br \/>\n<strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Nothing could be further from the truth! \u00a0However, as scary as it can feel, you have to be courageous enough to let go of the past so that you can open your hand and receive the love that is already waiting for you.<\/span><\/strong><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">How do you do that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Realize that, while you may still love him, <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">you need to love yourself <\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\"><u>even more<\/u><\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Be willing to accept that the relationship is over.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Be committed to removing the love barriers that are blocking love from coming into your life so that you can experience the love, joy, and intimacy you truly desire.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">If you&#8217;ve been holding onto a past relationship and you&#8217;re ready to take these steps \u2013\u00a0even if you&#8217;re scared or unsure of how to do it \u2013\u00a0click below to schedule time to talk with one of us.<\/span><br \/>\n<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.vcita.com\/v\/heartsdesireinternational\/online_scheduling?service_id=4moa8qo67ypppdeu&amp;staff_id=3c3c45c3\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #800080;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Click here to schedule time to talk!<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">We can help you identify what is standing in your way and outline some clear steps you can take to release the past and welcome in the love that you desire and deserve!<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You&#8217;re not alone! We&#8217;re here to help you get to the other side of heartache and experience the love that is already waiting there for you!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">You deserve to be happy, to love and be loved, and to feel like the beautiful, lovable woman you are. And, while it may feel scary to let go, you don&#8217;t have to do it alone. We&#8217;re here to support you! <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">Just <\/span><span style=\"color: #800080;\"><a style=\"color: #800080;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.vcita.com\/v\/heartsdesireinternational\/online_scheduling?service_id=4moa8qo67ypppdeu&amp;staff_id=3c3c45c3\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">CLICK HERE<\/span><\/a><\/span> <span style=\"font-family: Arial, sans-serif;\">and we&#8217;ll guide you through this!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz There are few things more painful than losing someone you love, whether that&#8217;s due to a breakup, divorce, death, or because the person you love does not feel the same way about you. &nbsp; Experiencing a loss of any kind can trigger different emotions and beliefs that can leave you feeling hurt, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4,6,10,11,15,16,17,20,22],"tags":[37,47,50,56,57,58,59,63,68,70,87,105],"class_list":["post-4704","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-breakups","category-coaching","category-dating-2","category-hearts-desire-international","category-heartache","category-loss-of-a-spouse","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-ready-to-love-again","category-relationship-advice","tag-breakups","tag-dating","tag-empowerment","tag-happiness","tag-hearts-desire-international","tag-heartbreak","tag-hope","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-relationship-advice-2","tag-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4704","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4704"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4704\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}