{"id":7298,"date":"2018-03-05T17:03:04","date_gmt":"2018-03-05T17:03:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/?p=7298"},"modified":"2018-03-05T17:03:04","modified_gmt":"2018-03-05T17:03:04","slug":"love-hack-how-to-get-more-time-and-attention-from-your-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/love-hack-how-to-get-more-time-and-attention-from-your-man\/","title":{"rendered":"Love Hack: How to Get More Time and Attention From Your Man!"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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Quick question:<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you find yourself thinking about how your man isn\u2019t giving you the time and attention you want \u2013 whether it\u2019s someone you\u2019re dating, your boyfriend, or your husband?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Even worse\u2026 Do you allow those thoughts to pop out of your mouth in the form of statements like:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWe never spend any quality time together?\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cYou have time for everyone and everything else, except me!\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhy don\u2019t you want to spend time with me anymore?\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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While it may seem as if you are simply \u201cbeing honest\u201d or \u201csharing your feelings,\u201d the truth is that there are a few words that describe those kinds of statements: nagging, complaining, and criticizing.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Now, before you scroll down to write a comment to tell me off or give me all the reasons why this IS<\/em> how you feel<\/em>, hear me out.<\/span><\/p>\n

I get that you want to spend more time with him. Chances are that, when you see him spending less time with you, it triggers\u00a0some fears and doubts in you about how he really feels about you.\u00a0 In fact, you may even have asked him <\/em>how he feels about you (something I\u2019ll cover in another post!<\/em>).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I really do hear you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

However, consider that those statements, while they may be said with underlying valid feelings and desires, they don\u2019t communicate the <\/strong>real feelings and thoughts<\/strong><\/em> underneath the complaints.\u00a0 Instead, they communicate:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

“You’re wrong.”<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

“I’m needy.”<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

“It’s your responsibility to make me happy.”<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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So, how can you say what you feel WITHOUT nagging, complaining, or pushing your guy away?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Say some simple and clear messages such as:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI miss you.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI feel lonely.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI love spending time with you.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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I know\u2026 Those are pretty vulnerable statements and it’s scary to be vulnerable, especially if you’re questioning how he feels about you.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you close your eyes,\u00a0take a deep breath, and breathe deep\u00a0into your heart for just a minute, you\u2019ll see the truth in them:\u00a0This is how you <\/strong>really feel.<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s even better, if you share your feelings with him this way, <\/strong>he\u2019ll actually be able to hear you!<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

And that\u2019s what you really want, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

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See, the truth is that there isn\u2019t a man on this planet who has EVER<\/em> been inspired by nagging, criticism, or complaining.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

These statements are simply not<\/u> inspiring or motivating. In fact, you\u2019ve probably noticed that they have the <\/strong>opposite effect<\/strong><\/em>, making him pull further away from you,\u00a0<\/strong>and they don\u2019t really do much to change the situations\u2026 Which has you bring it up again, and again, and again, with NO different results.<\/span><\/p>\n

If this has been your experience, we\u2019d like to invite you to try something different!<\/span><\/p>\n

The next time you\u2019re feeling as if your guy isn\u2019t spending enough time with you, and you\u2019re tempted to complain about it, I invite you to say something like:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI miss you.\u201d <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019d love to spend time together.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI can\u2019t wait to have some time alone.\u201d\u00a0 <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

These statements are A LOT more inspiring, they let him know how you are <\/strong>feeling<\/strong><\/em>, and they will allow him to <\/strong>hear you<\/strong><\/em>.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Oh! And don\u2019t be surprised if he begins spending more time with you!<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you’re feeling like you\u2019re not getting the time and attention you want from your man and you\u2019d like support and guidance on how to turn things around, we\u2019ve opened up some time in our calendars for you to schedule a Love Breakthrough Session<\/a><\/span> with one of us.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

On this call, we\u2019ll help you see what is getting in the way<\/strong> of you having the kind of experience you want to have in dating or your relationship, and we\u2019ll create a step-by-step plan<\/strong> for you to follow so that you being to experience the love and happiness your heart desires<\/strong>!<\/span><\/p>\n

CLICK HERE to schedule your Love Breakthrough Session!<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

Love, dating, and relationships do NOT have to be hard.\u00a0 <\/strong>They are easy when you know exactly <\/em>what to do and say to get the results you want without <\/em><\/strong>having to force, nag, or \u201cget him\u201d to do what you want!\u00a0 Let us help you!<\/span><\/p>\n

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session and get the love you want!<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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