{"id":772,"date":"2012-10-12T14:46:08","date_gmt":"2012-10-12T14:46:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintlblog.wordpress.com\/?p=772"},"modified":"2012-10-12T14:46:08","modified_gmt":"2012-10-12T14:46:08","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-partnership","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-partnership\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day: Partnership"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cIn a true partnership, the kind worth striving for, the kind worth insisting on\u2026 both people try to give as much or even a little more than they get. ‘Deserves’ is not the point. And ‘owes’ is certainly not the point. The point is to make the other person as happy as we can, because their happiness adds to ours. The point is \u2013 in the right hands, everything that you give, you get.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0~ Amy Bloom<\/em><\/p>\n

This week has been an \u201cinteresting one\u201d in our home, to say the least.\u00a0 It began last Thursday evening, when, close to midnight, I discovered that my little one had gotten sick all over<\/i> his bed (and the wall, and the carpet). Before I knew it, my husband had him in the tub, bathing him, while I rinsed off the bed sheets and clothes and got them in the laundry.\u00a0 Then, while I scrubbed the walls, he scrubbed the carpet.\u00a0 And, all of this, without me having to ask him for help\u2026 He just jumped in to help.<\/p>\n

We\u2019d had a lunch date planned for the following day, but that was scratched, due to the little one staying home from school, so we just ordered in and had lunch together at home.\u00a0 It was okay, because we\u2019d planned a whole \u201cDate Day\u201d for Monday, while the kids were at school, since he had the day off\u2026 Well, that plan was also scratched, when, not only did our older son get sick at school, so we had to go get him, but we both<\/em> ended up getting sick as well! Ugh!<\/p>\n

So, Monday was a \u201cdance\u201d between whoever felt less sick at any given moment, making lunch, picking up the little one from school, or giving the older one his medicine.\u00a0 I made something quick for dinner and he did the dishes.\u00a0 I helped the kids get bathed, and he got lunch ready for the next day. I kept noticing how we just knew when the other one needed help and just stepped in.<\/p>\n

Then, on Thursday, out of nowhere<\/em>, whatever this bug is hit me hard<\/i><\/b>. I could not move! I was nauseous and weak, and burning up in fever.\u00a0 I sent him a text asking him if he thought he could come home early.\u00a0 He called me right back and, as soon as he heard my voice, he was in the car and on his way home.\u00a0 He put me to bed, checked on me several times, and took care of everything: <\/i>dinner, baths, preparing lunches, and bedtime routines.\u00a0 And this morning, he took them to school while I slept.<\/p>\n

This partnership, this beautiful dance of giving and receiving, wasn\u2019t always present in our marriage. For many years, I was \u201cthe martyr\u201d in our relationship \u2013 doing everything myself<\/i> and then complaining that he never offered to help. I just felt I shouldn\u2019t have <\/i>to ask for help.\u00a0 And I resented him for not \u201cjumping in.\u201d It wasn\u2019t until I began being vulnerable, asking for help, and stopped trying to be \u201cSuper Human,\u201d that he began stepping in, helping out, and making me feel like I wasn\u2019t in this alone\u2026 because I\u2019m not<\/i>!<\/p>\n

I\u2019m so thankful for my husband\u2026 for his love, his strength, and his willingness to take care of me.\u00a0 And I\u2019m so thankful I was finally willing to let down my guard, and create a space in our marriage that allowed him to step in and be my partner!<\/p>\n

What about you?\u00a0 Are you struggling with doing everything on your own?\u00a0 If not, what do you do to create partnership in your relationship?<\/p>\n

Photo credit: Eternal \u263c Sunshine<\/a> via photpin<\/a>.com cc<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz \u201cIn a true partnership, the kind worth striving for, the kind worth insisting on\u2026 both people try to give as much or even a little more than they get. ‘Deserves’ is not the point. And ‘owes’ is certainly not the point. The point is to make the other person as happy as […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,8,9,13,16,17,21,22,23],"tags":[31,47,63,68,70,80,86,90],"class_list":["post-772","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-2","category-gratitude-2","category-hdi-blog","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-relationship","category-relationship-advice","category-romance","tag-advice","tag-dating","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-partnership","tag-relationship","tag-romance-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/772","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=772"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/772\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=772"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=772"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=772"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}