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by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s frustrating\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You put yourself out there, engage in back-and-forth texting until he finally asks you out on a date.<\/span><\/p>\n

You go out and have an amazing time.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to get your hopes up (again), but you think he has a lot of potential.<\/span><\/p>\n

He asks you out on another date\u2026 and then another.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now you\u2019re feeling pretty sure that he maybe, might be the one\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

You stop going on line.<\/span><\/p>\n

You start reserving space in your weekend (just in case)<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t accept dates from other men (Why? You\u2019re already planning your fifth date!)<\/span><\/p>\n

Then\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Crickets.<\/span><\/p>\n

And, after that\u2026 that familiar feeling of hurt and frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n

I get it.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to get excited when you meet a nice guy who is a gentleman, is making time to see you, calls between dates, and is fun to be with.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

And it\u2019s tempting to want to save space in your calendar, just in case he asks you out.<\/span><\/p>\n

The problem is that, if you\u2019re like most women, you make 3 big mistakes when you do this.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

The first mistake is what we call \u201cfalling into a \u2018pseudo-relationship.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Because, as a woman, you naturally want to bond and connect with someone emotionally and physically, it\u2019s natural for you to think you\u2019re in a relationship, even if you\u2019re not.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, when you\u2019re in a relationship, you\u2019ll know. You won\u2019t have to wonder. The man will come out and tell you that he doesn\u2019t want to see anyone else and that he\u2019d like you to do the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

Until a man says that, go by this motto: It\u2019s not a relationship until it is.<\/span><\/p>\n

The second mistake is becoming prematurely attached.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

When you aren\u2019t seeing anyone else, it\u2019s natural to have the feelings for the one person you are seeing grow.<\/span>
\nEven if you don\u2019t know him very well, and even if you\u2019re not really sure if you really like him, the fact that you are spending so much time together \u2014 the proximity, the amount of time and attention you are giving him \u2014 will have you become prematurely attached to him.<\/span><\/p>\n

This has you waiting for his call, texting or calling him when you don\u2019t hear from him, start to get nervous when Wednesday comes around and he hasn\u2019t asked you out for the weekend yet\u2026 Sound familiar.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is such a trap, and what happens is that you fall into making the third mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

The third mistake is getting upset when he doesn\u2019t call or ask you out.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Remember the motto I mentioned above? It\u2019s not a relationships until it is.<\/span><\/p>\n

Until you are in a relationship with a man, he does not have to call or text you every day.<\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t have to ask you out.<\/span><\/p>\n

And (and this is the one that can cause the most upset), he can call, text, go out, and sleep with anyone he pleases.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re NOT in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t have to do any of those things, and it\u2019s quite possible he is talking to and going out with several women.<\/span><\/p>\n

Which is why we recommend you do the same!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, we\u2019re not saying kiss or sleep with several men.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can do that, if you choose (although I don\u2019t recommend that).<\/span><\/p>\n

What I am saying is that you can talk to, go out with, and have fun getting to know different men.<\/span><\/p>\n

The benefit?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n