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by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Did you know\u00a0there are specific behaviors that turn a man\u00a0off<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 specific things you may be doing (maybe even unknowingly!) that cause men to shut down or turn away from you?<\/p>\n If so, listen up! Because this is important for EVERY WOMAN, whether you\u2019re dating, in a relationship, or married. Don\u2019t get trapped in the thought that now that you\u2019ve \u201cgot him.\u201d A high-quality man wants a high-quality woman, so always remember how important it is to BE the woman he fell in love with in the first place.\u00a0<\/p>\n There are three behaviors that are like mosquito repellent\u00a0to a man \u2013 they just shut him right down. So, lean in, listen up, and even if you\u2019ve heard these things before, open up to what you might be able to hear or understand differently that might just change your love life.\u00a0<\/p>\n No one likes a needy person, right? But how do you\u00a0know<\/em>\u00a0if you\u2019re being needy?\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cNeedy\u201d and \u201cinsecure\u201d look like being DEPENDENT on the other person for your happiness, for your safety, your security, your confidence. It looks like NEEDING validation from your partner.<\/p>\n For example, are you waiting for him to call you before you can start your day? Are you waiting for him to compliment you in order to feel good about yourself? Are you constantly in a state of worry about how he feels about you?\u00a0<\/p>\n When you show up this way, you start to feel like a burden or an obligation to a man. It\u2019s repelling. Men (just like you!) want to feel\u00a0inspired<\/em>\u00a0to do something, not\u00a0required<\/em>\u00a0to do it.\u00a0<\/p>\n So, what can you do instead?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n First, you must be secure enough in yourself to know that your worth comes from\u00a0within<\/em>\u00a0you<\/strong>. Without that, you will almost always show up as needy and insecure.\u00a0 If you recognize that you are someone that shows up this way in relationships, do the\u00a0HeartWork<\/em>\u00a0and ask yourself, \u201cWhere is that coming from?\u201d and \u201cWhy is it that I show up that way?\u201d As you do, you\u2019ll be able to uncover your limiting beliefs and begin to shift them.\u00a0<\/p>\n Secondly,\u00a0step back and provide opportunities for him to step in<\/strong>. Men like to feel needed and that they have a purpose. So, it\u2019s not just about allowing him to help you or be there for you. It\u2019s also about giving the space for him to choose to do so.\u00a0<\/p>\n \n If you were at our event last weekend, you heard it straight out of our husbands\u2019 mouths: Men hate it when women are\u00a0dramatic<\/em>!<\/p>\n Let\u2019s fill you in on what being dramatic can look like, because, while being insecure and needy is pretty obvious, this one can disguise itself in many ways.\u00a0<\/p>\n Maybe you\u2019re not\u00a0dramatic<\/em>\u00a0per say, but perhaps you look for things to go wrong. Or, when things are going well, you get bored and begin looking for things that are going wrong as a way to (dysfunctionally) create excitement in the relationship. Maybe you are always worrying that something is going to go wrong, or you overthink everything your partner says and does.\u00a0<\/p>\n All of these behaviors create drama and impact the peace and flow of the relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n By engaging in this behavior, you don\u2019t allow yourself to experience joy. So, what can you do instead?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Look for the things to be grateful for.<\/strong>\u00a0Look for the things that are going right. Whatever you look for, you will find, so why not look for what\u2019s going well? And, if you start to feel the pull for worry or drama, recognize it, feel where it\u2019s coming from in your body, and make a conscious choice to shift into a higher vibration.\u00a0<\/p>\n The third behavior that turns a man off is being controlling. Have you felt your partner pull away? Has he stopped sharing things with you? Have you stopped talking about the important things in your lives?\u00a0<\/p>\n If this feels like what is happening for you, take a look at how you may be showing up as controlling because, like being dramatic, it can show up in ways you may not even realize!<\/p>\n Being controlling looks like saying, \u201cHow come you…?\u201d, \u201cWhy do you…?\u201d, \u201cWhy can\u2019t you…?\u201d, or \u201cYou should\u2026\u201d \u00a0It might even sound like, \u201cWhat\u00a0I<\/em>\u00a0would have done is\u2026\u201d or \u201cI really wish you would have\u2026\u201d \u00a0When you\u2019re constantly second-guessing your partner, you are actually questioning his ability to think for himself. And you can imagine how unpleasant that feels, especially when it\u2019s happening all the time!<\/p>\n A more subtle way of being controlling is complaining. When you complain, you do two things:<\/p>\n 1) you show up as dramatic (and we already went over that one!), and<\/p>\n 2) you emasculate your partner by making him feel like he\u2019s not capable of pleasing you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n So, what can you do instead?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Bite Your Tongue.\u00a0<\/strong>Does this mean you lose your voice in the relationship? Absolutely not! It means that you\u00a0choose the words you say wisely<\/strong>. When you feel like questioning his decision, instead say, \u201cI see you\u2019ve given this a lot of thought.\u201d If he asks what you think he should do about something, instead of jumping in and telling him what to do, say \u201cWell, what were you thinking?\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n Men want to know that you support them and trust them. Show them that through your actions and words, and your relationship will be golden!<\/strong><\/p>\n You get to choose to take information and either have it make a difference in your relationships or not. Remember: Information doesn\u2019t make\u00a0the<\/em>\u00a0difference. It\u2019s in the application or practice of the information that the\u00a0transformation<\/strong>\u00a0takes place.<\/p>\n So, if you have a specific pattern or behavior that you\u2019re beginning to recognize is sabotaging your dating or your relationship, let us know so we can help you dismantle and replace it!\u00a0<\/p>\n We want you and every woman to have a happy, loving healthy relationship so that you are having the experience of loving and being loved every day\u00a0of your life.<\/p>\n So, if anything is standing in the way of that, hit\u00a0reply<\/strong>\u00a0to this email and tell us which of the 3 repelling behaviors is most impacting your relationships, and we\u2019ll give you some next steps you can take to create a shift in your love life RIGHT NOW.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n
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