{"id":868,"date":"2012-10-24T13:10:44","date_gmt":"2012-10-24T17:10:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.wordpress.com\/?p=868"},"modified":"2012-10-24T13:10:44","modified_gmt":"2012-10-24T17:10:44","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-choosing-love-over-fear-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-choosing-love-over-fear-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day: Choosing Love Over Fear"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

~ Oprah Winfrey<\/i><\/p>\n

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This week, we\u2019ve been talking about reasons, excuses, the things we hold to be \u201cthe truth,\u201d and today I\u2019d like to talk about fear.\u00a0 There are few things in life that are more paralyzing than fear.\u00a0 Fear can stop us from moving forward, taking a risk, or breaking through the barriers that prevent us from living a happy, fulfilled life.<\/p>\n

But what is it that we\u2019re afraid of? Perhaps one of my favorite explanations of the word fear is the acronym F.E.A.R.:<\/p>\n

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Just like the excuses and \u201ctruths\u201d we hold on to that, in turn, hold us back, our fears can paralyze us, keep us \u201cstuck\u201d where we are \u2013 unwilling and seemingly unable to take the actions that are consistent with what we say <\/i>we want.<\/p>\n

Usually, a fear can be traced back to something in our past \u2013 an event that left us feeling alone, abandoned, embarrassed, hurt, deceived.\u00a0 There was a moment where we felt the sting of disappointment and we made a decision \u2013 a vow, if you will \u2013 that this would never<\/i><\/b> happen to us again.\u00a0 We would never allow ourselves to trust anyone ever again.\u00a0 We would never\u00a0 really <\/i>be taken care of or protected by anyone except ourselves.\u00a0 We would never allow ourselves to love someone that <\/i>fully and completely ever again.<\/p>\n

And, in that life-defining moment, we allowed the fear to run the show called \u201cmy life.\u201d\u00a0 We gave the fear permission to decide who we would go out with and even who we would allow to approach <\/i>us. We allowed the fear to decide just how much of ourselves we\u2019d be willing to let someone else see about who we really are and how much of ourselves they would ever be able to experience.\u00a0 We allowed the fear to weigh and measure our words; to strategize in order to control and manipulate people and situations so that they will turn out exactly the way we wanted.\u00a0 We allowed the fear to shut us down, kill off new possibilities, and keep us alone\u2026 even though, we say<\/i> that what we want more than anything is to be loved and share our lives with someone else.<\/p>\n

And, lest you think I\u2019m only referring to those who are single, let me clarify.\u00a0 Some of us who are in relationships<\/i> are still terrified of allowing the person we love to see us and know us completely.\u00a0 We allow the fear of possibly being disappointed again to keep us holding on to that last 5, 20, or 50 percent of our love.\u00a0 We never allow ourselves to fully open our hearts and our Selves to another.\u00a0 We allow the fear to hold on to that little bit of our Selves\u2026 just in case\u2026<\/p>\n

Now, am I saying to put yourself in emotional or physical harm just to \u201cprove\u201d that you are not afraid?\u00a0 Absolutely not!\u00a0 Your emotional and physical safety always<\/em> come first.\u00a0 However, if you are always \u201ccareful,\u201d always weary of others, always on the defense, then you want to take some time to identify the fear \u2013 bring it out of your blind spot and see it for what it is: A neurological brain pattern\u2026 A thought… F<\/b>alse E<\/b>vidence A<\/b>ppearing R<\/b>eal. That\u2019s all it is.\u00a0 But, left undistinguished and in the background, the fear will continue running the show.\u00a0 And you\u2019ll be left were you are \u2013 afraid, alone, and wondering if you\u2019ll ever really <\/i>experience what it is like to love and be loved freely \u2013 free from the fear, free to love, free to experience all this life has to offer and the abundant love, peace, and joy for which you were created!<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s up to you.\u00a0 You always get to choose.<\/p>\n

The question is: Will you choose love over fear?<\/p>\n

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Photo credit: linh.ngan<\/a> via photopin.com<\/a> cc<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear. ~ Oprah Winfrey   This week, we\u2019ve been talking about reasons, excuses, the things we hold to be \u201cthe truth,\u201d and today I\u2019d like to talk about fear.\u00a0 There are few things in life that […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,9,13,16,17,21,22,23],"tags":[31,47,50,57,63,68,70,88,90],"class_list":["post-868","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-2","category-hdi-blog","category-intimacy-2","category-love-2","category-marriage","category-relationship","category-relationship-advice","category-romance","tag-advice","tag-dating","tag-empowerment","tag-hearts-desire-international","tag-intimacy","tag-love","tag-marriage-2","tag-relationships","tag-romance-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/868","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=868"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/868\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=868"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=868"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=868"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}