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by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

~ Buddha<\/b><\/p>\n

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If you\u2019ve been reading this blog, you know that one of the things we do is to dispel \u201cLove Myths.\u201d One of the love myths that\u2019s pretty prevalent is that the way to show love is to give, give, give to others.\u00a0 Often, women are so busy juggling a bunch of different roles and taking making sure everyone else is taken care of that they neglect to put themselves first \u2013 their needs, desires, and the things that bring them pleasure.<\/p>\n

One of the first things we tell the women we work with in our workshops<\/a> and coaching<\/a> sessions is that, in order to attract, create, and maintain a happy relationship, you need to practice good self-care.\u00a0 What does \u201cpracticing good self-care\u201d mean?\u00a0 It means taking responsibility for your own happiness by doing three things for yourself every day<\/i><\/b> that you enjoy doing and make you feel good!<\/p>\n

When we first say this, you would think, from the look on the women\u2019s faces, that we asked them to extract three of their own teeth every day!\u00a0 They begin to explain how they can\u2019t even fathom doing one nice thing for themselves on most days, how taking a 10-minute shower is a \u201cbonus\u201d on a good day, and how they just don\u2019t have the time to focus on themselves between their work, school, and family schedules.\u00a0 Our response: If you\u2019re that<\/span> busy, that\u2019s even more <\/b>of a reason to practice good self-care!<\/i><\/p>\n

Why is self-care so important to having a good relationship?<\/p>\n

Well, if your single and you\u2019re constantly looking and feeling frazzled, exhausted, and stressed out, it\u2019s just not very attractive<\/i>.\u00a0 And, when I say \u201cattractive,\u201d I\u2019m not just referring to the physical aspect of looking and feeling beautiful.\u00a0 I\u2019m talking about being attractive in the sense that you are attracting<\/i> the man who is right for you.\u00a0 See, someone who is sending out the energy that she is too busy and too stressed is not sending out a very inviting \u201cvibe.\u201d\u00a0 If you feel that you can\u2019t make time for yourself, it\u2019s going to be very difficult<\/i> to make time to share with someone else.\u00a0 There simply isn\u2019t any space for him to step into.\u00a0 So, when you begin to take time for yourself, and you begin to replenish your mind, body, and spirit, you are also getting in touch with your feminine nature and that <\/i>is very attractive to men!<\/p>\n

What about if you\u2019re in a relationship?\u00a0 Creating and maintaining a loving, intimate relationship takes a lot of peace and energy.\u00a0 Contrary to what fairy tales tell us, great relationships don\u2019t \u201cjust happen.\u201d\u00a0 Having a wonderful relationship takes the intention and energy to want to make it work, the willingness to be patient and forgiving, and an awareness of how what we say and do impacts the intimacy in the relationship. If you are always tired, stressed out, and \u201crunning on fumes,\u201d it\u2019s going to be almost impossible for you to think before you say something hurtful or disrespectful, be able to forgive your boyfriend or spouse when something goes wrong, or have the energy and desire to connect sexually.\u00a0 Taking time to do some of the things that make you feel peaceful, happy, and feminine will go a long way toward refilling your emotional tank so that you are able to give and receive love freely in the relationship.<\/p>\n

One of the best things about self-care is that, it doesn\u2019t have to involve spending a lot of money or investing a lot of time.\u00a0 There are things you can do every day at work, at home, or wherever you choose that you can make part of your every day routine.<\/p>\n

Some of my favorite self-care practices include:<\/p>\n