{"id":896,"date":"2012-10-30T10:50:26","date_gmt":"2012-10-30T14:50:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.wordpress.com\/?p=896"},"modified":"2012-10-30T10:50:26","modified_gmt":"2012-10-30T14:50:26","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-are-you-in-it-to-win-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-are-you-in-it-to-win-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day: Are You in it to Win it?"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

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“In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.”<\/i><\/strong><\/p>\n

– Robert Anderson<\/i><\/p>\n

One of the first things we tell the women who we coach or who attend our workshops is that, if you\u2019re going to play, play to win.\u00a0 What does that mean?\u00a0 Sometimes, when things in a relationship are not going as well as the woman would like them to, particularly if the couple has been struggling for a while, although they are attending a workshop or receiving coaching in an effort to turn things around, their actions and words point to the fact that they are trying to \u201cget out.\u201d\u00a0 They\u2019re listening to the coaching, but from a context that things are not going to change anyway.
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\nSubconsciously, what some of these women are doing is looking for a way out and not for the way to turn things around.\u00a0 They may want to spend time talking about what their husband\/boyfriend, did, has done, and will continue doing wrong.\u00a0 They want to wait and see if he<\/i> will change before they<\/i> commit to making a change.\u00a0 Many times, they are drunk on and addicted to the drama-driven adrenaline rush of and caught in the vicious circle of creating and recreating arguments that lead to no resolution at all.<\/p>\n

If you are really<\/i> ready to make a change in your relationship, then you need to be in it to \u201cwin\u201d it.\u00a0 There is a completely different level of commitment, integrity, and \u201ccoachability\u201d that is present when you are willing to give it 100% of your effort \u2013 sometimes, in the face of no agreement, sometimes with very little evidence that \u201cit\u2019s working,\u201d and sometimes in spite of the fear that you will make all of these changes and maybe nothing will change.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to be willing to be the one who causes the change, first in herself, and then in the relationship.<\/p>\n

When you are committed to making changes in yourself<\/i> first, it\u2019s virtually impossible for the other person not to notice or be impacted.\u00a0 The new-found levels of peace, respect, love and gratitude that you will be experiencing and sharing will be noticed.\u00a0 The key, however, is to remember that you\u2019re not doing it to <\/i><\/b>get noticed.\u00a0 You\u2019re making the changes for YOU, and, therefore, you will benefit most.\u00a0 And, yes, the benefits will<\/i> spill over into other areas of your life, including your relationship!<\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re going to play, give it your all.\u00a0 If you\u2019re going to commit to changing within so that you can experience the love, peace, and intimacy your heart desires, then really <\/i>make a commitment.\u00a0 Commit to making the changes, to standing in love, and to practicing the new skills, habits, and principles you are learning full-out \u2013 even when you are afraid, doubtful, or don\u2019t \u201cfeel like it\u201d\u2026 especially <\/i>when you don\u2019t feel like it!<\/p>\n

Yes, it will take a level of emotional risk. Yes, you\u2019ll need to be vulnerable.\u00a0 And, yes, you may not always get it \u201cright.\u201d\u00a0 But, if you choose to make the changes within that will make a difference for you and <\/i>your relationship, the benefits \u2013 love, peace, intimacy, and happiness \u2013 will be worth it!<\/p>\n

So, my question to you is: Are you in it to win it?<\/p>\n

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