{"id":901,"date":"2012-10-31T12:51:36","date_gmt":"2012-10-31T16:51:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heartsdesireintl.wordpress.com\/?p=901"},"modified":"2012-10-31T12:51:36","modified_gmt":"2012-10-31T16:51:36","slug":"your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-unconditional-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/your-hearts-desire-thought-of-the-day-unconditional-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Heart’s Desire Thought of the Day: Unconditional Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Gladys Diaz<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Unconditional<\/a><\/p>\n

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\u201cThe greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

~ Brian Tracy<\/i><\/p>\n

When we ask women what they are looking for in a relationship, many times, they will say that they want to find someone who will love and accept them exactly the way they are.\u00a0 Putting aside that this is more about \u201cwho\u201d they are looking to attract, rather than the experience<\/i> they want to create (see our blog post on giving up \u201cthe checklist\u201d and what to do once you\u2019ve given up the checklist), what I hear in their responses is that they just want someone to love them. They want to be in a relationship with someone who will not try to \u201cfix\u201d or \u201cchange\u201d them, someone with whom they can be themselves.<\/p>\n

In the end, I think that\u2019s what we all <\/i>want \u2013 both women and <\/i>men!<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing.\u00a0 As we\u2019ve shared in previous posts, we need to BE what we want to see in our relationships.\u00a0 Many times, although we <\/i>want to be loved and accepted for who we are, we forget that, in order to attract <\/i>someone with whom we can create a loving and accepting relationship \u2013 where both <\/i>of us can be who we are, free of fear of judgment \u2013 then we need to BE loving and accepting ourselves.\u00a0 We need to see someone \u2013 with all of their quirks, and habits, ideas, and ways of being \u2013 and offer the same selfless acceptance we want to receive.\u00a0 And this is where many times I see a \u201cdisconnect\u201d between what women say they want and who they are willing to be.<\/p>\n

I read a lot of dating and relationship blogs as part of my own personal development. As much as I don\u2019t always like the content, I also watch a few reality shows, as a way to study the dynamics between the men and women on the shows.\u00a0 So many times, I am just floored by how quickly women interpret a guy\u2019s mistake as a sign that he\u2019s \u201ca loser,\u201d he\u2019s \u201cplaying games,\u201d or he\u2019s \u201cnot marriage material.\u201d\u00a0 The fear of \u201cwasting her time\u201d and\/or getting hurt, has the woman discount, disregard, and totally tear apart the poor guy in her blog post.<\/p>\n

Or I\u2019ll see women telling their husbands, boyfriends, or dates how they should dress, speak, act, and react on national TV in a totally disrespectful, \u201cparental,\u201d and, quite frankly, unattractive way.\u00a0 And I usually rewind back to the moment when this happened and just watch how the men\u2019s facial expressions and body language change.\u00a0 I can physically see them look down, slump a little, sometimes look shocked, and other times see them completely shut down.<\/p>\n

The act of unconditional love \u2013 they type of love we all want to create and experience \u2013 includes accepting all <\/i><\/b>of who that person is. It means embracing the parts of the person we love and the parts we don\u2019t.\u00a0 It means extending understanding and forgiveness in the same measure we hope to receive it.\u00a0 It means keeping in mind that our guy is not \u201cfixer-upper project.\u201d He is who he is.\u00a0 And he may choose to change, but the choice to change is his and, if you\u2019ve promised to love him, then you promised to love him<\/i> \u2013 the good, the not-so-good, and everything in between.<\/p>\n

We can only receive unconditional love to the extent that we are willing to give it.\u00a0 We can only attract to ourselves that which we are being.\u00a0 And the \u201cbonus\u201d in all of this \u2013 what makes it a win-win \u2013 is that, since we\u2019re not expecting \u201cperfection,\u201d then we don\u2019t have to be perfect.\u00a0 Since we are being generous and gracious in our understanding and forgiving, then we can experience what it\u2019s like to receive that, too.\u00a0 And that, since we are being the best version of ourselves, we can experience the type of happiness, intimacy, and tenderness our hearts truly desire and deserve!<\/p>\n

How will you bring love and acceptance to your relationships?<\/p>\n

Photo credit: samcaplat<\/a> via photopin.com<\/a> cc<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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