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by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Do you have a fear of abandonment?<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re dating, do you constantly fear that no man will stick around, causing you anxiety and stress through the process?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re in a relationship or married, do you torment yourself with thoughts that he\u2019ll cheat or leave?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Do you feel like it doesn\u2019t matter how much they tell you that they\u2019re going to stay, you still worry?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If so, then you most likely have a fear of abandonment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And this doesn\u2019t mean that you have a parent that left you\u2026 though it might. Any experience of feeling like someone left you, any experience as a child or teenager, can leave you with this fear.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n For me, our Dad died when we were 3 years old. My mom told us that he had \u201cgone to live with the angels\u201d but my little 3-year old brain didn\u2019t understand what that meant. I just wondered what would make my dad leave me? That was the beginning of my abandonment fears.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Then, when we were 15, we went to live with\u00a0 other relatives because my mother, who had been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and alcoholism (not a good combination!) left. I wondered why my mother didn\u2019t love us? Did she love alcohol more?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And that fear of separation and abandonment was reinforced.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Because of those experiences a few behaviors were created. I became very needy. I constantly needed others to validate me and reassure me of their love. I had a need to prove how great I was and often found that in order to do that I had to pretend to be something I wasn\u2019t. I was super jealous in relationships and would create unnecessary drama.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n In every relationship, I created one of two things. Either they would leave or I would leave before they could get the chance.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n I was never getting to experience true intimacy in a relationship because I wasn\u2019t allowing myself to go there.<\/span><\/p>\n Can you relate?\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Here\u2019s the thing. High-quality, integritous, confident men will not put up with this in a relationship. No matter how much they love you. If a man constantly feels like you don\u2019t trust him or that he can\u2019t make you happy, it affects his confidence and he will eventually withdraw or leave altogether.<\/span><\/p>\n Through your behavior you are actually creating the very thing you fear.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n So how do you overcome this fear before it destroys your relationship?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And that\u2019s when relationships started to get good.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Because the truth is\u2026 love is not enough. Relationships take love, respect, communication and trust to work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n So\u2026 will you do the HeartWork<\/i>? And if you need support will you schedule a call with us? Sometimes this is tough work that having\u00a0 support could make all the difference for you! What if you could liberate yourself from fear and anxiety in your relationships? How much would that be worth to you?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n
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