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by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Even before the events of Covid-19 shook our world, women would come to us because they were triggered by the distance they felt in relationships.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Whether it was physical distance or perceived<\/i> distance (like he starts texting\/calling less than he did before), distance is something that causes a lot of women anxiety.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Because of the events of the last couple of months and the \u201csocial distancing\u201d regulations that have been put on all of us, this anxiety may be amplified for you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If anxiety in relationships isn\u2019t something you had previously dealt with, it may be something that has been coming up for you now.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n As these \u201csocial distancing\u201d regulations begin to be lifted in different parts of the country, a whole new kind of anxiety might be setting in for you. The anxiety of whether it\u2019s really safe to go out now? …to meet someone new? \u2026to hug or kiss?\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you have been or are experiencing anxiety for any reason, you\u2019re not alone, and the number one thing you can do for yourself under our current circumstances is to honor yourself<\/b>. Get clarity around what\u2019s\u00a0 true for you. Let go of social agreements and make a decision you can stand by.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n One of the essential\u00a0 elements of being an Irresistible Woman is being connected to what you really feel and standing confidently in it.\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n So, what do you do if, because the restrictions are being lifted in your community, a guy asks you if you\u2019d like to meet, and you still feel like it\u2019s too soon?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n You can say, \u201cFor me, it\u2019s still too soon to meet in person, but I\u2019d love to keep getting to know you.\u201d<\/i> From there he can decide whether or how he wants to make that happen.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It’s as easy as that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n What if you had anxiety before Covid-19? Did experiencing distance (either physical or perceived distance ) in a relationship trigger you before?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Did you find yourself sending memes that you found funny or articles you thought he\u2019d be interested in because you\u2019re feeling anxious that you haven’t heard from him in a few days (or hours!)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Do you find yourself doing these things just so you can get on his radar and get the hit that will deflate the anxiety when\/if he responds?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If so, remember this: It\u2019s not as helpful to pay attention to what he\u2019s <\/i>doing as it is to pay attention to how you\u2019re <\/i>reacting to it.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Your reaction is what\u2019s causing the anxiety.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When the anxiety hits, ask yourself: \u201cWhat is it that\u2019s really bothering me?\u201d \u201cWhy does not hearing from him worry me so much?\u201d<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n And then be gentle with yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s a fear that\u2019s getting triggered, and it can feel all-consuming.<\/span><\/p>\n Take a breath and remind yourself that you\u2019re safe and nothing bad is happening to you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you\u2019re feeling this over a guy you\u2019ve just started seeing, then remind yourself that you\u2019re just getting to know each other and it\u2019s okay that you haven\u2019t heard from him. It doesn\u2019t mean anything.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If it\u2019s someone you\u2019ve been seeing a little longer, then ask yourself if the anxiety you\u2019re feeling is\u00a0 because you\u2019re getting attached because he\u2019s\u00a0 the only person you\u2019re seeing. If you\u2019re still not in a committed relationship with a man, maybe it\u2019s time to open up to seeing others as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It is also powerful to notice if anxiety is a pattern you\u2019ve created for yourself.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n Not to downplay it in any way, as anxiety is a very real experience that has your nervous system go crazy and triggers irrational thoughts. But notice if being in a state of high anxiety\u00a0 is something you\u2019ve trained yourself to feel.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n We find with many women that they feel \u201calive\u201d when they\u2019re worrying about something and that, even when things are calm and going well, they still <\/i>feel anxiety because they automatically (and subconsciously) start looking for something to worry about it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Anxiety can also be triggered by wanting to control people, conditions, or circumstances that are outside of your control.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you notice yourself in this pattern, start teaching yourself how to shift.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If you find yourself looking for something to worry about, notice and laugh about it. Then think of something you\u2019re grateful for, or think of something else you can focus your attention on that you do <\/i>have control over so that you can begin to retrain your mind out of the pattern of constant worrying.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n There is so much more we could share on this topic, and so much of this really requires personal coaching to get to the root of what triggers the anxiety in the first place!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n This is why we\u2019re\u00a0 so excited to be inviting you to the second Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass, happening tomorrow, Saturday, May 2nd at 12pm Eastern!\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n Because we had such an incredible turn out last week, because so many of you asked if we could offer the training again – and because we had so much fun <\/i>– we decided to do it one more time!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n