{"id":9844,"date":"2020-06-08T12:34:32","date_gmt":"2020-06-08T16:34:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/?p=9844"},"modified":"2021-02-22T19:28:48","modified_gmt":"2021-02-23T00:28:48","slug":"how-to-be-part-of-the-solution","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartsdesireintl.com\/home\/how-to-be-part-of-the-solution\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Be Part of the Solution"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.22&#8243;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.25&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;3.27.4&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #993366;\">by Gladys Diaz\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today our message is a unique one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The past week has brought much heartache to our country and around the world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Massive amounts of fear are circulating &#8211; mixed with the emotions of frustration, anger and sadness. And all are understandable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We aren\u2019t pretending to know exactly what our People of Color (POC) brothers and sisters are experiencing. However, we do know that our hearts are feeling compassion, empathy and heartbreak for what is happening around us.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>You know our stand is love, and we want nothing more than to be part of the solution at this time. Our intention is to create connection, to listen, and to extend compassion and empathy to all.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I read a quote from Elie Wiesel this week that deeply touched me. He says:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201c<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must interfere. When human lives are endangered, when human dignity is in jeopardy, national borders and sensitivities become irrelevant. Wherever men and women are persecuted because of their race, religion, or political views, that place must &#8211; at that moment &#8211; become the center of the universe.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is why now is not the time to say, \u201cAll lives matter.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do all lives matter? <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Absolutely<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">! But in this moment, RIGHT NOW, it\u2019s the time to take a stand for the injustice against black people that has gone on long enough in our country.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>If you\u2019re feeling anger by what others are saying or doing &#8211; feel your feelings. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They are not bad or wrong and are completely understandable. Your feelings are your right and it\u2019s important that you process them!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After the feelings are processed is when you can then communicate powerfully and clearly so that people can hear what you\u2019re saying.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And, to be clear, we realize that rioting is happening, and we want to distinguish between \u201cprotests\u201d and \u201criots,\u201d and know that some people are collapsing the two.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Protests give people an opportunity to take a stand and join with others so that they have one voice. Riots, on the other hand, involve damaging people and property.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Now is the time to ask yourself: <\/b><b><i>How can I be part of the solution?\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listen to what is being shared. Just listen.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask questions, don\u2019t assume. Seek to understand what is needed.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Educate yourself so that you gain more confidence in your ability to move forward in this.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Put yourself in someone else\u2019s shoes, take a step back and ask: \u201cWhat would have someone be\/react that way?\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Write your Legislators!<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Call and let your local Police Department know your stance.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Take a stand for <i>something<\/i>.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What we can\u2019t do is ignore what\u2019s happening or wait for someone else to provide the solution.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is only going to get resolved when everyone comes together!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is our world, our community, and we get to take a stand for what we believe in.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Our stand is unity and love.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We may not get it right, but we are not going to stay silent.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How about you?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s1\"><i><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">You can watch the Love Chat with the Love Twins covering this topic<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/watch\/?v=1546948355472752\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> HERE<\/a>. Click to watch!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p align=\"left\"><span>Below you will find some of the resources we have been reading and using to help us create a better understanding of how we can be part of the solution.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span><a href=\"https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l=KdoCy&amp;m=3Y59MU4YBkibUny&amp;b=JBO2ukae9R.vN8okRO3WPQ\" target=\"_blank\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l%3DKdoCy%26m%3D3Y59MU4YBkibUny%26b%3DJBO2ukae9R.vN8okRO3WPQ&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1591719493776000&amp;usg=AFQjCNE6KCjZRfkwqUilb_miPGadVQ2BPw\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Be the Bridge 101: Foundational Principles Every White Bridge-Builder Needs to Understand<\/strong><\/a><\/span><span>\u00a0(download is $10 and has a wealth of resources hyperlinked inside, as well as some powerful exercises)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l=KdoCy&amp;m=3Y59MU4YBkibUny&amp;b=zIT9_0R2gG4f7vbxP.ZaDw\" target=\"_blank\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l%3DKdoCy%26m%3D3Y59MU4YBkibUny%26b%3DzIT9_0R2gG4f7vbxP.ZaDw&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1591719493777000&amp;usg=AFQjCNEgRr4P40d_IDL2R8Mcnuj4Qm4-9A\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor<\/a><\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><span>(hardcover is out of stock almost everywhere, but you can get the kindle &amp; audio versions)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span>\u200b\u200b\u200b<\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l=KdoCy&amp;m=3Y59MU4YBkibUny&amp;b=AdqrsKS1Xv3SqOoZoWlNZA\" target=\"_blank\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l%3DKdoCy%26m%3D3Y59MU4YBkibUny%26b%3DAdqrsKS1Xv3SqOoZoWlNZA&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1591719493777000&amp;usg=AFQjCNFxwd-GprjJiWLwNn24e_y5e5B3cQ\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span>White Fragility: Why It&#8217;s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism<\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span><a href=\"https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l=KdoCy&amp;m=3Y59MU4YBkibUny&amp;b=sSMB.QA9s8IH8bsY8vRqyg\" target=\"_blank\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l%3DKdoCy%26m%3D3Y59MU4YBkibUny%26b%3DsSMB.QA9s8IH8bsY8vRqyg&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1591719493777000&amp;usg=AFQjCNErKMi3DjUzI58cHxqr-WVWtj8Cyw\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Anti-Racism Resource List\u00a0<\/strong><\/a>(has tons of hyperlinks to resources embedded in the document)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l=KdoCy&amp;m=3Y59MU4YBkibUny&amp;b=nmmKS42DH00lkmM_fJWv9A\" target=\"_blank\" data-saferedirecturl=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/clicks.aweber.com\/y\/ct\/?l%3DKdoCy%26m%3D3Y59MU4YBkibUny%26b%3DnmmKS42DH00lkmM_fJWv9A&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1591719493777000&amp;usg=AFQjCNGrFd9fVwyZgSVyaSlBzP3O5rpHjw\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span><strong>\u200b\u200bThe Psychology of Rioting: The Language of the Unheard<\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p4\"><strong><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p10\"><span class=\"s1\"><i><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Gladys Diaz\u00a0 Today our message is a unique one.\u00a0 The past week has brought much heartache to our country and around the world.\u00a0 Massive amounts of fear are circulating &#8211; mixed with the emotions of frustration, anger and sadness. 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