Two Essential Keys to Success in Life and LOVE!

by Gladys Diaz

Last week, I spent three powerful, inspiring, and totally transformational days with my business coach and business buddies at our mastermind, learning how to take our businesses and our lives to entirely new levels.MM March Mastermind 2016

 As I sat there, surrounded by some of the most beautiful, successful, and powerful women I know, I was filled with an overwhelming sense of gratitude to be counted among such a exceptional group of women, because I know two things for sure:

 

The results we produce in our lives are determined by two things:

1. The thoughts we choose to honor and allow into and out of our minds

2. The people with whom we choose to surround ourselves

That’s it!

Your level of success, happiness, and fulfillment are not determined by your past – including your parents, your ex, or the not-so-great choices you’ve made.

It has nothing to do with where you went to school, what you’ve chosen to do as a career, where you choose to live, or what your bank account says.

Your success is entirely created by you, your thoughts, and the company you choose to keep!

 And when I talk about your life being a success, let there be no doubt that I’m also referring to your LOVE LIFE!

Still doubting whether this is true?

Ask yourself these questions, especially if you are not where you want to be in your love life:

When you think about your love life and having the kind of happy, loving relationship, that gives you the experience of loving and being loved every single day of your life, what are your first thoughts?  Are you thoughts positive and encouraging, or do you come up with reasons why you don’t think you’ll ever have that? 

When you think about men, are your first thoughts that they are strong, generous, and only want to see women happy, or do your defenses and judgments immediately go up when you think about how men see and treat you?

When you are with your friends, are you bashing men, talking about how there aren’t any good men left, and spending most of your time talking about dating and relationship horror stories, or are you talking about the kind of man you want to attract and the relationship you are creating together?

When you look at where you are investing your time, money, energy, and attention, does it include working with someone who can help you create new thoughts, habits, and patterns that will have you produce the kinds of results you want in your love life, or do you keep making excuses about how it’s not the right time, you can’t afford it, or finding other reasons to stay stuck where you are, rather than making a commitment to finally breakthrough and claim the love that is already waiting for you?

Now, that you’ve asked yourself those questions, you should be able to see clearly that the results you are producing in your love life are consistent with the thoughts you choose to think, which influence the words you choose to speak to yourself and others, and the company you keep!

I make it a very intentional point to guard the thoughts that enter my mind, the words that leave my mouth, and the people who I allow to contribute to me and my life as a member of my Circle of Influence.

While I strive to be loving to and respectful of everyone, I am clear that I only want to surround myself with people who are as committed to creating a settle-for-nothing-less-than-extraordinary life where they are living the life of their dreams and creating the loving relationships their hearts desire!

If this isn’t what you are seeing in your life, I encourage you to take inventory of the kinds of books, TV shows, videos and audios and events in which you are engaging.

Are they adding positive, inspiring, and uplifting value to your life?

If not, seriously consider making some changes, as all of these things influence both your conscious and subconscious thoughts!

And, when it comes to your friends and the people with which you are spending the most time,

Are they encouraging, reaffirming, and supporting you in creating a happy, loving, fulfilling romantic relationship with an amazing man who will love and cherish you?

If not, again, it’s time to make some life-changing choices and begin surrounding yourself with women who are as committed as you are to transforming themselves and their lives so that they can have the love they truly want.

The great news for you is that we’ve opened the doors to the Ready to Love Again program, and I can tell you that you won’t find a more inspiring, encouraging, and loving group of women with whom to begin your love journey!  In this program, you will have a safe space in which to learn, share, have breakthroughs, and transform your relationship to yourself, men, and relationships!

It’s our signature program, it’s only offered once a year, and we limit the number of women we allow into the program so that we can be sure to offer the level of support and service we know you want and deserve.

So, if you’re ready to make some real changes and get the kinds of results you want in your love life, schedule some time to speak with me and together we’ll see what your love goals are, what may be standing in the way of you creating the kind of relationship you want, and whether or not the Ready to Love Again program is the right fit for you!

We’d love to be part of your Circle of Influence and have you be part of ours!

Seats for the program are already filling fast, and we sold out last year, so don’t allow your negative, limiting thoughts to talk you into putting off scheduling time to talk.

Click here to schedule a quick call now!

Three steps to Breathe New Life Into Your Love Life!

by Gladys Diaz

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I have to say that I love Spring!

I’m back in the office today after a wonderful week off with my 3 guys for Spring Break.  As I’m sitting here, at my desk, there’s a group of birds outside my window serenading me, the grass and trees are a vibrant green, and I can see the beautiful buds about to bloom on the tree outside my office.

It feels as if everything is fresh and new! Sights and sounds in high-def and surround sound, all pointing to new beginnings!
So, I wonder… Is that how you’re feeling about your love life?

Are you feeling the excitement, hope and possibility of new love?

 

If you’re single, are you excited about the men you are speaking to right now (or are there any)?

If you’re in a relationship, are you feeling a new surge of love and connection with your partner?
Or are things feeling stagnant, boring, and dull in your love life?
Chances are high that if things aren’t feeling alive, vibrant, and new, it’s because you’re in some kind of rut.

 

Either you’re not attracting the kind of men you’re attracted to and excited by, or you’re not even putting yourself out there because you’re so afraid you’ll get more of the same results you’ve gotten in the past…

 

Or you’re in a relationship and you’re not igniting the romance and love that you once felt for your guy (Did you know this is something you can actually create on a daily basis?!?)

 

If your love life is still stuck in the dead of winter and you want to breathe new life into it, here’s a quick exercise you can do:

 

  1. Think about one thing you’d like to change about your love life or relationship. What is the thing that would make the biggest difference for you right now?
  2. What is the thing (it can be a thought, fear, or action) that keeps getting in the way of you having that in your love life or relationship? (Here’s a warning: If you just thought of something that someone else keeps doing – such as a man or your partner – it’s going to be very difficult for you to create that change. It’s best if you turn the mirror around and look to see what is the thing that you keep noticing that you keep doing or thinking that continues to get in your way.)
  3. Think of one action step you can take this week to help you break that thought or behavior habit. This can be tricky because you may feel like you’ve “already tried that” or that if you knew what it was, you’d be doing it already. Kindly ask the little voice in your head to shush up for a minute or two and think about an action that you can take that either –a. you only tried once and then gave up, or

    b. you’ve been afraid to try because you’ve been afraid it wouldn’t work

If you need help with identifying your action step, just leave a comment below or send me an email (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com), and I’ll help you see which one step would help you begin to breathe new life into your love life!

 

I’d love to see your responses to the 3 questions, so just put them in the comment section of the blog below or send them to me in an email.

 

I promise you, it doesn’t have to be “hard” or take years to experience love, excitement, and romance in your love life. If you’re committed to turning things around, it can be easy and FUN!
Don’t allow fearful or self-doubting thoughts to convince you that there is nothing you can do to transform your love life. If you really want to see a change, do the exercise.  If you need help or support,  leave a comment below or send me an email and let me know.

You deserve this and it IS possible for you!

 

Breaking Through Fears: What Happened When I Walk on Fire!

by Gladys Diaz

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You can see the burning coals behind us!

Last weekend was one of those weekends where you know that life will never be the same again!

 

Michelle and I attended Tony Robbins’ “Unleash the Power Within” event and, on the first evening we had the opportunity to face some of our biggest fears and walk on fire!

 

 

 

It was simultaneously one of the scariest and most exciting moments of my life! And, as it goes with these kinds of moments, some HUGE life lessons were learned, including one I’d like to share with you in the video I shot for you below.

 

Make sure to watch it. It’s really short and I have two important questions in invite you to ask yourself!

Can’t wait to hear your answers!  Send them to: gladys@heartsdesireintl.com

P.S. Taking the time to answer these two questions can be the first step to your breakthrough!  Make sure to send your answers!

Love Yourself Fiercely!

by Gladys Diaz

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Today marks the end of the 21-day Self-Love Secret Challenge we’ve been sharing with some of the women in our community. I’m a mushball,  so, any time a course comes to an end, I tend to get a little weepy. I used to hide that side of me – pretending I was tough. Now, what you see is what you get! I’m sentimental, I tear up at the slightest hint of happiness or love. And I love that about me!

It’s been an amazing 21 days shared with equally extraordinary women, and I have to admit that, while Michelle and I were leading the daily challenges, I learned several of my own lessons in self-love over the past few weeks!
For example, I noticed how…

…I sometimes speak negatively to myself when I make a mistake…

…when I’m really busy, there are times when I will sacrifice my self-care…

…when I’m not hitting all of my goals, I tend to compare myself to others…

…when I’m feeling down, I’ll want to hide away from others… especially those who love and want to help me me most…

Thankfully, over the 21 days, there was a Self-Love Challenge that dealt with each of these situations.

One day, we wrote love letters to ourselves…

We spoke words of love and affirmation when we caught ourselves thinking or speaking negatively of ourselves to ourselves or others.

We allowed ourselves to receive love, kindness, gifts, and compliments from those around us…

And each day, for 21 days, we focused on the qualities that make each of us unique, those qualities that bring love and beauty, and life to the world simply because we exist!

(By the way, when was the last time you gave yourself 21 days of pure love?)

 

Taking this journey along with the women who joined the Self-Love Secret Challenge affirmed for me even further that the self-love IS the secret to attracting and experiencing more love in your life!

When you love yourself fiercely and you acknowledge that who you are is already lovable and already worthy of all the happiness your heart desires, you radiate love and you teach others how to treat and love you!

It’s amazing and miraculous, and you deserve nothing less!

No matter how successful and confident you are, there may be times when you slip into negative self-talk, when a fear is triggered, or self-doubt is sparked.  That doesn’t make you weak.  It just makes you human. It’s in those moments when you want to give yourself and extra dose of self-love.

Do something special for yourself.

Think of a time when you felt a surge of confidence and pride in yourself.

Remind yourself that you are LOVE-ABLE: Able to love and be loved!

 

So, if today is one of those days when you’re feeling down, like you’re not at your best, or maybe you’re feeling downright unlovable, I invite you to do one of our Self-Love Secret Missions:

  • Set your timer for 1 minute.
  • Take a look in the mirror and look deeply into your own eyes.
  • As you look at yourself, simply say the words, “I love you” aloud, over and over again, until the minute is up.
  • Allow whatever feelings that begin to bubble up to come up.
  • Allow yourself to feel love from the person with whom you will have the longest love affair of your life: YOU!
  • Then let me know what the experience was like for you!  How did you feel during the exercise. Did those feelings change as the time went by?  Were any emotions triggered for you?

And, if you find that your heart is feeling so heavy that you can’t even bring yourself to do the exercise, hit “reply” anyway, and tell me what’s going on.  Let me be there for you!
Allowing others to love you and allowing yourself to receive love is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself!!

Either way, I want to hear from you!  I love seeing your name in my Inbox! 🙂

Comment below or send me an email: gladys@heartsdesireintl.com
Oh!  And, no matter what, always remember that YOU ARE LOVED!

Make This YOUR Leap Year of Love!

by Gladys Diaz

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Today is February 29th, marking this as a Leap Year.

I don’t know why it only happens every 4 years. I just know that this day, every four years, sets this year apart from the others.

Life is like that, too.

If you look back at your life, you’ll see that the most significant and monumental experiences of your life began with a single moment…

A day that seemed like any other, and, yet, it was different because, in a single moment…

You made it different.

Until you gather the courage to make a change, to stop allowing your fears and your doubts to stop you from letting go of all the crap that keeps standing in the way of you having the happiness and love you want, nothing will change.

But when you stop, and in that single moment you say “Yes!” to yourself, “Yes!” to your happiness, “Yes!” to having the love you desire and deserve… In that moment everything changes for ever. It can never, ever be the same again!

And then you finally get to receive and have the love that has been waiting there for you all along!

We’ve seen it happen in our own lives.

We’ve seen it happen for hundreds of women around the world.

And it can happen for you.

So…We wonder…

What are you doing to set this day and this year apart from others?

What choices will you make today that will significantly change the course of your love life for ever?

What will you do with this moment in time?

How will you take your leap into love?

What are you willing to let go of?

What are you willing to leave in the past?

What are you willing to do to welcome love into your life with arms and heart wide open?

We want to support you in making this your personal Leap Year of Love!

Let us know how we can help you make this year different from all the others so that you can finally have the life and love your heart truly desires!

How to create a SHIFT in your love life!

by Gladys Diaz

This week, as I’ve been speaking to some of my clients, it’s been wonderful to hear how happy they are in their new relationships and how they’ve transformed their existing relationships.

Aside from feeling happy for them, the reason this fills my heart is because I remember where they were when we first started working together!

Some of them were so afraid they would never stop being single, others were in toxic relationships that were robbing them of their happiness, and others were in relationships that seemed to be slowly (or quickly) falling apart.

Their fear showed up as hopelessness.  They were afraid to hope that things could get better, because… what if they didn’t?

Despite the fear they had that things might not change for them, these women did something that I have seen make one of the biggest differences in the love lives of women around the world!

In today’s video I share with you the simple steps to shifting from resignation to acceptance and how that one shift can be the first step to transforming the current – and, by the way, temporary state of your love life!

 

 

See, creating a shift in your life does take work, but it doesn’t have to be complicated!

Do this quick exercise in the video, then let’s talk about how to create a REAL shift in your love life!

 

Don’t allow resignation and hopelessness to rob you of your heart’s desires!  You CAN create a shift in your love life and begin experiencing the love you want! We’re here to guide you through it!

CLICK HERE to get started with creating a REAL shift your love life!

 

 

P.S. Our theme for February is :Falling In Love With YOU!

Another way to create a shift in your love life is to begin falling in love with YOU! There is still time to join The Self-Love Secret Challenge and start the best love affair of your life – The one you have with YOUrself!

Click now to learn the Self-Love Secret and start falling madly, deeply in love with YOU!

 

She discovered the secret to true love!

by Gladys Diaz

Today is a very special day at Heart’s Desire International Headquarters!

We are celebrating one of my FAVORITE love stories of all time!Michelle & Arnie2

Five years ago today, I was able to witness a dream-come-true for my sister, Michelle, as she walked down the aisle, escorted by her two sons to marry the love of her life, Arnie!

As I stood there, tears streaming down my face, I could not help but remember the pain and heartache that preceded this beautiful love story.

Michelle had experienced the pain of living in a marriage that had been falling apart for many years, a string of micro- and non-relationships to men who were unavailable, addicts, and who did not treat her with the love and tenderness she so longed for and deserved.

She came very close to giving up on love.

But, then a turning point happened and she discovered the secret to creating the kind of love-lasting, dream-making, extraordinary love she’d always wanted!

And it had nothing to do with Arnie!

See, Michelle discovered what had been missing all along. In fact this missing ingredient was what had her stay in an unhappy marriage for so long, attract and date the same kind of man time after painful time, and to wonder if there was something wrong with her.

In our book, 30 Days and 30 Ways to Fall In Love with YOU!, Michelle shares the secret:

I decided to take a deeper look into my relationship patterns so that I could begin to uncover what was at the source of the results I was producing.

I discovered that in the 5 years I had been dating, there was something fundamental missing in all of my dating and relationship experiences…ME! I had been trying to be the “perfect woman” to hide who I really was, because I was terrified that if a man discovered who I really was, he could never fall in love with me. I had convinced myself that the real me was unlovable.

I began to write down all the things about myself that I felt were unlovable…it was a long list! Then one by one, I began to forgive myself. I realized there was nothing I could do to change the past. All I could do now was learn the lessons and forget the details.

I gave myself permission to let it all go for good. As I let each one go, something beautiful began to happen – I began to fall in love with me! I discovered that the only love that was missing was my own. I was now free to love and to be loved!

See, what Michelle discovered is that what stops you from creating a happy and loving relationship you want is not online dating; it’s not what happened in your past; and it’s not your current partner, your ex, or the guy who didn’t love you back.

The #1 difference between the woman who is not experiencing love and happiness in her relationships and the one who IS comes down to the relationship the woman has with herself.

Period.

If you do not love, accept, and honor yourself, it will be impossible for you to attract someone into your life who will love, accept, and honor you!

In fact, it’s unfair to expect a man to love you – really love you – if you don’t truly love yourself.

And what happens is probably what you’ve been experiencing over and over again:

You keep attracting men who you hope will love and accept you.

You twist yourself into a pretzel trying to become the woman you think he might – maybe – choose to love.

Then lose yourself in the relationship, forgetting about your own needs and desires, in the hopes that you will finally feel loved.

If this is resonating with you, you’re not alone.

This happens to be the most common complaint women have about what happens when they are in a relationship.

And the reason this happens again and again is because, on a fundamental level, you do not feel that you are worthy of the kind of love you want and deserve.

So you settle.

You settle for less than what you really want.

You try to convince yourself that what you have is what you want.

And, at the end of yet another heartbreaking relationship, you’re left feeling lost, empty, lonely, and afraid – wondering if you’ll ever really have the love and happiness your heart desires.

This is why we created The Self-Love Secret 21-Day Challenge.

We know it’s hard to break through long-lasting limiting beliefs and patterns on your own.

Think about it…

If you knew what to do to change those beliefs and patterns on your own, you would probably have done it already… right?

So we created a fun, informative and interactive program where we will take you on a 21-day journey to falling in love with YOU!

Click here for the Self-Love Secret Now!

The best part about it is we’re starting tomorrow – February 13th, the day before Valentine’s Day – which means you won’t be alone on Valentine’s Day, you’ll be having fun, AND you’re going to experience what it’s like to feel truly loved by the person with whom you’ll have the longest relationship of your life: YOU!

So, hurry up!

Join The Self-Love Secret now, and take the first step toward creating the love affair of a lifetime!

By the way, the book 30 Days and 30 Ways to Fall In Love with YOU! is only one of the 6 features you get in The Self-Love Secret Bundle, including a members-only Facebook page where you will receive daily self-love missions, get coaching and support, share your self-love victories!

CLICK HERE now and begin your 21-day journey to attracting the love of your life today!

The “Secret Sauce” for True Love!

by Gladys Diaz

Well, you’d have to be blind not to see the signs, because they’re everywhere!


All you have to do is walk into a store and you’re bombarded by the overwhelming amount of pink, red, and chocolate to know that this means Valentine’s Day is almost here!

For many women – both single and in relationships, alike – this can be difficult holiday right on the heels of Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year’s Eve!

Unlike the other holidays, however, this one is specifically about love and relationships, and it can be heartbreaking if you’re not in a happy, loving relationship of your own.

I get it and I’m not going to try to minimize it, because I know it hurts.

However, I certainly don’t want you feeling sad or like you want to avoid thinking about love and relationships for the next several days!

It’s okay to want to be in a relationship.

It’s okay to feel sad if you’re not in one.

What’s not okay is thinking that it’s impossible for things to change for you!

It’s also not okay to think that there is something wrong you because you’re not in a relationship yet!

There are ways to begin shifting your feelings from hopeless to hope-full and from lonely to loved!

The key to creating this shift is to begin a new love affair!

Not with a man, but with yourself!

That’s because falling in love with YOU is the secret sauce for attracting true love!

Think about it!

What would it be like if for the next 21 days all you did was speak loving words to yourself?

What if for the next 21 days, you sent yourself a love or gratitude note for something you truly admire or are grateful for about YOU?

What if for the next 21 days your top priority was doing at least one thing that you find fun, peaceful, and fulfilling?

How might that change the way you see yourself?

How might that change the way others see you?

And, quite frankly, how FUN would that be?!?

If you’re up for a Self-Love Challenge, then you’re in the right place, because we have prepared a 21-day SELF-LOVE FEST especially for YOU!

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Learn the Self-Love Secret!

When you join us for The Self-Love Secret, you will learn:

  • The ways you are stopping yourself from having a happy, fulfilling and loving relationship (and how it has nothing to do with the man you’re with!)
  • The exact steps you can take to stop self-sabotaging your happiness and relationships so that you can start attracting more love into your life
  • Real and practical ways to become simply irresistible and draw in the extraordinary levels of love and happiness you want and deserve

Here’s what you get in the Self-Love Secret Bundle:

  • Our eBook 30 Days and 30 Ways to Fall In Love with YOU!: A 30-Day Journey to Discovering Self-Love
  • Members-only access to the teleclass “The Self-Love Secret: How Falling In Love with YOU is the Key to Attracting the Love You Want!”
  • An MP3 recording of the teleclass so that you can download and have it whenever you want or need to listen to it
  • 21 Daily Self-Love Challenges to inspire you in your self-love affair
  • A Private Facebook Group where you can receive coaching, connect with us, and share posts and pics of yourself completing your daily self-love challenges
  • A 30-minute Private Love Breakthrough Call so that you can continue your self-love journey beyond the 21 days and manifest the love your heart desires

All together this is a $417 value!

But, you can get it today at our Valentine’s Day Special Price of $47!!!

Here’s the deal:

You can’t expect someone else to fall madly and deeply in love with you if you’re not willing to dedicate 21 days to falling in love with you!

BE the love you want to see and join us for 21 days of fun, life-changing breakthroughs, and more LOVE than you ever imagined was possible!

We already have several women signed up and the journey begins this weekend, so make sure click on the link below and join us now!

 

Click now to start falling madly, deeply in love with YOU!



 

Ready to Quit on Love?

by Gladys Diaz

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It’s hard to believe that we’re already in February. If you’re like me, January went by in a blur. As I was meditating yesterday, I took a look at the goals and intentions I set for this year to hold myself accountable.

There are some goals I am right on-point with. I’ve stuck to my action plan and I feel very proud of myself for moving beyond my comfort zone and sticking to the promises I’ve made to myself.

There are a few, however, where I had to be real with myself.

How intentional have I been about taking an action step every day in the direction of meeting this goal?

Where did I allow my fears and doubts to get in the way?

Am I going to quit or recommit?

That last question is the most powerful one.

Why?

Because too often, the reason people do not hit their goals is because they quit – sometimes just centimeters from the finish line they can’t see because their fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs are so much bigger than the faith they have in themselves to actually have what they say they want.

Chances are that if you didn’t bother to set any goals or intentions for 2016, it’s because you have doubt.

You either doubt that you can have what you want, or you doubt that you can do what it takes to achieve it. More than likely, it’s a combination of both.

 

Self-doubt is what has you not put your heart out there.

You doubt your ability to be able to attract the kind of man you want.

You doubt that you can actually have the kind of relationship you want.

And, if you’re 100% honest with yourself, you doubt this because you either think that what you want is “unrealistic” or “too good to be true.”

That’s just another way of hiding the fact that you doubt that you’re worth having that kind of love.

If you’re in a relationship, you pretend that everything is okay, even though your heart is breaking and things haven’t been remotely close to okay in a long time.

You keep holding onto a broken relationship, not doing anything to change it or yourself for fear that any changes you try to make won’t work.

It’s easier to ignore what’s not working, to keep wishing things (especially him) will change on their own.

Again, this goes back to doubting your ability to have the kind of relationship your heart truly desires.

Staying stuck in the same rut is only going to give you the same results.

Things only change when you make a change.

That’s it. There’s no magic bullet, no secret formula.

If you want to have a different experience and different results in your love life, you need to trust that there IS a way for you to have the love and happiness you want.

Now, I get that you may not know how to do that.

If you did, chances are you probably would have made the changes already, right?

Well, that’s when you need to choose: Do I quit or recommit?

If you’re ready to recommit to yourself and your desire to have a happy, loving, intimate relationship where you get to feel loved and cherished, accepted and adored for the amazing woman you are, then it’s time to recommit to YOU!

And if you’re unsure of how to do that, which steps to take first, and you’d like some support, click the link below to schedule time to talk.

Click here and let’s talk!

Doing nothing is going to give you the same results you have right now.

Choosing to recommit to yourself, your relationship goals and the love your heart desires is how you can make sure that 2016 is the year of making your relationship dreams come true!

By the way… If the little voice of doubt in your head is saying things like, “Why bother?” or “What’s the point?” I want to challenge you to move beyond the safety of listening to that voice — the one that’s kept you stuck right where you are — and click the link below! This is the first step in your love breakthrough!

Click here and let’s talk!

 

What’s Really Blocking You from Finding Love

by Gladys Diaz

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There are few things more painful than losing someone you love, whether that’s due to a breakup, divorce, death, or because the person you love does not feel the same way about you.

 

Experiencing a loss of any kind can trigger different emotions and beliefs that can leave you feeling hurt, insecure, disempowered, and as if you are unable to move forward in your love life.

 

Which of these ring true for you?

  • You meet and date men, but they never quite match up to “the one who got away”
  • You still think about what you could have done/could do to work things out with him
  • You constantly talk about and bring him up when speaking with friends
  • You cyber-stalk or try to find out information about him and his life via social media and/or friends and family
  • You make yourself available to see and/or talk to him in the hopes that you will reconcile
  • You’ve agreed to a “friends-with-benefits” relationship with him in the hopes that he will come back to you

 

If any of these scenarios ring true for you, consider that you are not over the man in your past.

 

Of course it takes time to get over a breakup.  However, if it’s been more than a few months and you’re still pining over him, avoiding/resisting meeting someone else because you are still hoping and waiting that he’ll come back to you, or you find something wrong with every single man you meet, you’re actually stopping yourself from moving forward.
If what you really want is a happy, loving relationship with a man who you love and who loves you back, holding onto a previous man or relationship actually blocks you from welcoming new love into your life.

There are many reasons you may be doing this, and one of the main reasons is that staying stuck in the past – as painful and unpleasant as it may feel at times – gives you a false sense of being “safe.”
Safe from what?

 

Holding onto the past keeps you safe from –

  • being vulnerable and putting your heart back out there
  • admitting that perhaps he really wasn’t the right guy for you
  • risking more heartache

This false sense of safety is why we see so many women who months, years, and, yes, even decades, later, are still wondering why they can’t meet a good man, questioning what’s wrong with them, wondering whether they are meant to be happy in a relationship, and believing the lie that – for whatever reason – they are destined to not experience the joy of loving and being loved.
Nothing could be further from the truth!  However, as scary as it can feel, you have to be courageous enough to let go of the past so that you can open your hand and receive the love that is already waiting for you.
How do you do that?

 

  1. Realize that, while you may still love him, you need to love yourself even more.
  1. Be willing to accept that the relationship is over.
  1. Be committed to removing the love barriers that are blocking love from coming into your life so that you can experience the love, joy, and intimacy you truly desire.

 

If you’ve been holding onto a past relationship and you’re ready to take these steps – even if you’re scared or unsure of how to do it – click below to schedule time to talk with one of us.
Click here to schedule time to talk!

 

We can help you identify what is standing in your way and outline some clear steps you can take to release the past and welcome in the love that you desire and deserve!
You’re not alone! We’re here to help you get to the other side of heartache and experience the love that is already waiting there for you!

You deserve to be happy, to love and be loved, and to feel like the beautiful, lovable woman you are. And, while it may feel scary to let go, you don’t have to do it alone. We’re here to support you!

Just CLICK HERE and we’ll guide you through this!