by Gladys Diaz
Do you ever have a hard time deciding what to wear on a date, what to have for lunch or what to get a girlfriend for her birthday?
What about bigger decisions like whether or not to apply for that promotion, what car to buy, or how you invest your money?
For women who don’t trust themselves, any decision, big or small, takes the same level of emotional energy.
When you don’t trust yourself, you will exhaust yourself.
Does that sound familiar?
How do you feel about making decisions for yourself (big or small)?
Do you feel like you often feel stuck, overthink, or 2nd guess your choices?
Life becomes so much easier when you can trust yourself to make the right decision for you!
Learning to trust yourself boils down to your relationship with yourself. Strengthening your relationship with yourself will result in an easier time making decisions – decisions that work for you!
So how do you do that??
The top two things you can do to strengthen your relationship with yourself are:
- Accept every part of yourself.
Ask:
- Do you 100% accept yourself?
- How fulfilled do you feel with your life?
- What do you wish was different?
If there’s anything that you’re not 100% accepting about yourself – you get to do the HeartWork to accept it. You can’t trust someone who you don’t love – so you get to love yourself first!
- Forgive Yourself.
Ask :
- Is there anything you need to forgive yourself for?
- Are you holding something from the past over your head?
- Did a past decision not turn out the way you hoped it would that you need to let go of?
In order to make the best decisions you must weigh the choices that are in front of you and then make the decision that you think and feel will be best for you.
The reason why you must accept and forgive yourself first is so that once you make the decision you can stand by it. You’ll be able to trust that if things don’t turn out the way you wanted that you’ll make another decision in order to create the life that you want.
The next time you have a decision in front of you that’s weighing you down, ask yourself these questions:
- What’s really having me sit on this decision?
- What’s missing that’s causing me to not make a decision right now?
- What is it costing me emotionally to stay in indecision?
- What is it costing me physically?
- What do I need to accept about myself?
- What do I need to forgive myself for at this moment?
When you’re not making choices, you’re always going to be missing a level of fulfillment in your life.
You’ll feel like you’re missing out, you’ll regret choices you make or you’ll never feel aligned with your values and vision you have for your life.
As you transform the relationship you have with yourself and practice making strong decisions, your confidence will grow.
Confidence breeds more confidence and that creates deeper levels of trust.
And that’s really all there is to it.
If you’d like support with seeing where you may need to accept or forgive yourself, book a Love Breakthrough Call!
On this call our coaches will ask you what your goals are, ask the right questions to uncover what is really getting in the way and then give you 2-3 next best steps to take so you can step out of confusion and into clarity and confidence!
