Are You Holding On To Someone Who’s Long Gone? How to Let Go.

Are You Holding On To Someone Who’s Long Gone? How to Let Go.

 by Michelle Roza 

Are you holding on to the energy of a past relationship? 

Maybe it’s a story of unrequited love.

Maybe you’re angry that it didn’t work out, or confused because you were so sure that it was right. 

Maybe what’s underneath the anger is the unrelenting sadness that you’re alone and you’re afraid that will never change.  

Whatever the reason you’re afraid to let go, it’s the reason why you aren’t calling in the love that you want and desire. 

The fact of the matter is this– 

You can’t cheat energy. 

You can’t say one thing when you’re really feeling something else and expect to attract what you want. 

In other words: You can’t say you desire a loving, connected, committed relationship while at the same time continuing to spend time agonizing over a past lover and expect to call in the man and relationship of your dreams.

Your energy flows where your attention goes, so you’ve got to get your energy clear first. 

You may be thinking, What’s the big deal? We’re just friends.

Well, think about this…

If you’re looking for and meet an honest, respectable, monogamous man who’s interested in a long-term committed relationship, but you’re still tied up emotionally with someone else, he’ll be able to feel it. 

Men are incredibly perceptive to energy, and he will feel that you aren’t 100% available. If he’s a good man, he’ll leave. 

Think about it. You’ve probably had that experience, too. 

You were interested in a guy, but for some reason you couldn’t quite understand, you felt like there was someone or something else vying for his attention. 

It just doesn’t work. (Energy is everything!)

When you’re leaving placeholders in your life, the energy doesn’t lie.

So how do you learn to let go — for real? 

I remember back when I was on a break from dating my husband Arnie. I was so sure that he was the man for me, but he didn’t quite feel the same way. For a while after we broke up, I was still holding on. I was so confused as to how I could feel this sure about someone and he not feel the same way. 

I started dating other men, but when one of them straight up said to me he could feel that I wasn’t over Arnie, I knew something had to shift. 

I became aware of how I was ruminating on why it didn’t work out. I was stuck in what “should have been,” and wasn’t accepting what was. 

I realized that in order for me to create what I really wanted – to not just love someone, but be “in love” with someone that loved me dearly in return – I needed to let go. 

I realized that I could still feel love and send love to one person while being present with someone else.

Just like I love both of my sisters, both of my children, and many, many friends,  I could continue to love Arnie, while at the same time releasing the attachment to him and give my love to someone else. 

So what about you

Are you leaving the door open for someone that keeps coming back but you know it’s never going to last? 

Are you so afraid of the feeling of being alone that you have yourself convinced that you’re in a relationship that doesn’t – and maybe never did – exist? 

Are you well past the mourning period of a relationship (because that part of a relationship ending is necessary) but you’re keeping yourself stuck because you’re not accepting that it’s over?

If any of this sounds familiar, we’ve got you!

These patterns are so deeply tied to your confidence, self-worth and what you think you can have and deserve, which is why it’s such an important thing to address within yourself! 

Plus, this is usually happening on such a subconscious level that it requires learning how to become aware of it so you can learn how to shift it.

And that’s where we come in.

If you’d like to talk about how we can support you to get underneath the pattern of staying stuck and attached to something or someone  that is no longer serving you, please book a call with us.

It wasn’t until my coach at the time pointed out to me how I was staying stuck and what was actually possible for me that things changed and I created the life and love that I have today! 

If we could do everything on our own, we would have done it already, right?

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We know it’s possible for you too!

Lots of love, 

Gladys & Michelle

The Love Twins

From Fear to Faith… are you in?

From Fear to Faith… are you in?

by Gladys Diaz 

How are you doing, love?

We are right there with you in saying that this has been a week to remember. What’s going on in the world is definitely a major interruption in our lives. 

In this moment of uncertainty, how do you not get sucked into fear? 

How can you stay on top of this and see the opportunities it’s bringing?

And we don’t mean in a Pollyanna kind of way,These are hard times. So, how can you stay empowered through them? 

As this week has unfolded, we have talked to clients who are separated from their husbands and don’t know when they will see each other again, mom’s who aren’t being able to find the necessary supplies for their babies, and women who are afraid their opportunities to date are out the window right now. 

No matter your situation, it is 100% okay to have moments of sadness and be with your feelings, but it’s not going to help you to pitch a tent and stay there. Shifting from fear into faith and love will leave you feeling empowered and ready to handle whatever these circumstances are bringing you. 

When it seems that many things are outside of our control, it is helpful to think about the things that you do have control over.

You always have control of your thoughts. 

You always have control of your actions.

Knowing that, it does take a high level of awareness to remember that “this too shall pass” and that we can go on. Here are five things you can remember during this time to help you shift out of fear and into faith. 

  1. You are not in this alone. The entire world is going through this together. You can increase your faith by praying for others and thinking of ways you can serve those who may be having it even a little harder than you. 
  2. Have a gratitude practice. What do you still have? What is the blessing in this? 
  3. Decipher what you do have control over and let go of the things you don’t. Know that you can figure this out and that you will get through this! This is when the HeartWork comes in more important than ever! You get to choose what you want to experience in this moment. You have complete control over that. 
  4. Get creative! There are alternative ways to do things that are great even though it may be different than you’re used to. Online dating is exploding right now! What if you’re one and only just joined? There are still so many ways to connect during this time.  And, if you’re in a relationship, how can you create an at-home date night to help you feel even more connected to your honey?
  5. You have no idea what is on the other side of this, so stay focused on your goals. Think about how this is just the current example of whatever always stops you in your life. This will pass. Who do you want to be when it does?

You can find comfort during this time when you shift out of fear and into faith! You will find so much happiness and peace when you let go of control and shift into the one thing you can control: YOU! 

Let’s start a movement of faith and love! 

We are not in this alone. We are doing this together

How incredible is it  that we are living a moment in history when the whole world is experiencing something together? Think of the kind of impact we can make!

If you’re in, reply to this email “I am in the shift!” 

We can’t wait to hear from you~

And if you’re feeling like you’d love to talk about how this time can be an opportunity for you, instead of a block, let’s hop on a call and have a deep conversation about what’s really been standing in the way of you having the love of your dreams so that you can break through and finally have the love you want and deserve! 

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Everything you desire could be on the other side of this. 

Will you be someone who shifts and makes it happen?

Lots of love, 

Gladys & Michelle

The Love Twins

If You Believe it, You WILL receive the Love You Want

If You Believe it, You WILL receive the Love You Want

by Gladys Diaz 

What is it that’s running the show in your head?

Are you hearing, listening to and believing the annoying “elevator noise” that plays in the background 95% of the time? That noise that makes you question if you can really have the love you desire? 

OR do you have a deep and knowing belief that you CAN and WILL have that love? 

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams – that deep, connected, epic friendship, partnership and companionship that you desire and deserve – is to BELIEVE you can have it! 

We have a client and friend who is getting married tomorrow! We’re so excited for her, because we’vebeen along for the journey of her learning to believe she could have the relationship of her dreams. 

When we met her last year in a leadership course we were taking together, she did not believe. She was carrying around so much pain from the past. There were so many limiting beliefs she had about men always leaving her, that men couldn’t be trusted, that she’d never find the relationship she craved. At the core of it all, she believed she wasn’t lovable. 

To look at her, you would not guess that was the case, but she truly believed that.

So what was she creating?

Men leaving her.

Men ghosting her after one date.

Men disappointing her everywhere she turned.

She had these limiting beliefs and she kept creating the situations that would make her right about them. And she was miserable. 

But then things started to shift. She started to do the HeartWork that would allow her to shift those limiting beliefs, to let go of all of that pain from past choices and experiences, and allow herself to experience the love she was longing for. 

She set a goal to be in a committed relationship by a certain date. She needed to be in that relationship by that date in order to graduate from the program we were in. As the date drew closer and closer, there were so many people (not us!) urging her to change her goal – to make it more “realistic” –  so that she could graduate from the program. 

But she didn’t want to.

She wasn’t being stubborn. She was being committed. The inner work she had done had shifted her into the place of REALLY BELIEVING she could have the relationship she desired. Why would she change her goal when she knew she would eventually have it? 

She didn’t graduate from the program at that time. Her desire to have the relationship of her dreams was greater.

But… she’s graduated since! 

As she continued to do the work to shift old belief and behavior patterns, she started experiencing something completely different in dating. She started enjoying it! She started meeting incredible men who were doing great things with their lives. She started trusting herself to make good decisions. And not too long after that, she he found her! 

And he was so ready to be in a relationship with her that moved his entire life to be close to her.

He proposed.

And tomorrow they’re getting married!!! 

All because she did the HeartWork and finally started to believe she could create and have the love she wanted. 

What do you want?

What do you believe?

What are you doing about it? 

You can create vision board, recite affirmations, and think positive all day long, but if you are affirming over a limiting belief that hasn’t been transformed yet, it just won’t work

When you don’t truly believe – down to the subconscious level – that you can have what you want, that’s when you engage in  self-sabotaging behaviors.

Your subconscious kicks in, and those automatic patterns that stem from your beliefs start running the show.

But guess what!?! You don’t have to do keep trying to figure this out on your own anymore. And, if you think you do, what is under the belief that makes you believing that you do? 

Love it a birthright. It’s not something you have to deserve or earn. It’s already waiting for you . 

When you believe it. 

That’s the main thing that surprised  our friend when she finally found the love of her dreams. She didn’t have to try. She didn’t have to prove anything to him. He just loved her. He loved her just for who she was. 

In order to create the relationship you desire (or anything in your life for that matter!), you have to first see it, feel it, believe it, and then you will receive it. 

Can you see it? Can you envision what it is that you want? 

Can you feel it? Are you intimate with what it feels like to be in the relationship of your dreams? 

Do you believe it? Have you transformed whatever doubt or limiting belief it is that’s getting in the way?

And are you ready to receive it? 

If  you’re readyand you know there is something getting in the way but you just can’t figure out what is, Book a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Your breakthrough can happen so fast! Then you can be on your way to creating the loving relationship your heart desires. 

You don’t have to do this alone. You CAN have the love you deserve. 
Let’s make it happen…together!

 

Are Your Limiting Beliefs Causing You Heartache?

Are Your Limiting Beliefs Causing You Heartache?

by Gladys Diaz 

How you relate to yourself is how you relate to the world. 

Do you feel like you are “too much” of something? Or maybe you feel the opposite and feel that you’re “not enough.” 

Do you feel like you’re too successful or too independent. Maybe you think you’re too skinny or too emotional or too old.

Or, like I said, maybe your limiting beliefs show up as “not enough” statements. Maybe you think you’re not confident enough or not athletic enough or not worthy enough to attract the relationship and the love that you want. 

When I was single, I had a belief that maybe I was going to be successful at everything in life EXCEPT love. I was so confused as to why I was having so much success in other areas of my life, receiving promotion after promotion at work, and still it seemed there wasn’t a man on the planet that wanted to commit to me

I made it mean that there was something wrong with me. I truly believed that I wasn’t enough. How did that show up for me? I over-compensated for it. I showed up as over-competent, uber-confident, and always looked like I was super put together. 

The truth was that then I would go home and cry at night because, even though I was overcompensating for my belief, it was still there, and no amount of covering it up could replace the heartache, discouragement and frustration. 

Until…  I started doing something about it. I dug in to discover where this belief came from. And what did I uncover? 

A memory from the 5th grade where a group of popular girls were talking in a circle and I overheard them talking about me. I remembered hearing them saying that I was too skinny and flat-chested. I also heard them say that they couldn’t believe I didn’t realize I was smelly. Even after I walked up to the circle, they still kept talking about me! As a 10-year old it really hurt my feelings! After that experience, I made up the belief that I wasn’t enough, that I was never going to be a part of the in-crowd, and that people didn’t like me.

And then, 25 years later, there I was still carrying that belief around like it owned me.  I was overcompensating for that belief and not getting the results that I wanted, all because I believed so deeply that something was wrong with me and that a man was never going to love me. 

Are you doing the same thing? 

Are you walking around with a limiting belief that is running you?

How do you compensate for your beliefs?

What would you give to change them so that you can start experiencing the love that you desire? 

If how you relate to yourself is how others relate to you, then, in order to change the way others relate to you, you must first begin with yourself. 

How to Change a Limiting Belief: 

  1. Distinguish What Your Limiting Belief Is. 

What are your limiting beliefs? What do you tell yourself about yourself when you feel fearful or uncertain? Get clear on what is the fundamental belief that the rest of them  stem from. 

  1. Dismantle the Limiting Belief. 

Where did this belief come from? When did you make it up?

Get responsible to the fact that YOU created the belief, and, if you created it, then you can change it. Uncover how the belief is playing out. How is it showing up? How are you compensating? How is it affecting your life, your work, your relationships? 

  1. Replace the Limiting Belief With a Truth that is Authentic to You.

Start training your brain with a new truth. However, if your limiting belief is “I’m not enough” then don’t just make your New Truth the opposite of “I’m enough.” Really get clear on the characteristics that make you enough and claim them.

When I finally started to turn my beliefs around, I began saying that I was beautiful, extraordinary, and amazing. Then I took on BEing those things! I began BEing those characteristics and began to believe that, as I was BEing those things, I had the power to call in someone who was just as beautiful and extraordinary and amazing as me.

I did. 

And, so can you. 

If you’d like to learn even more about how to really change your mindset, the one that is telling you that dating is hard and that love’s not going to happen for you, join us for our 2-day event, “Extraordinary Love NOW!”, which is happening THIS weekend – September 13th and 14th – in Miami, FL. We will be teaching 2 FULL DAYS of deep, HeartWork that WILL transform the way you feel about dating AND the RESULTS that you are experiencing.  And we’re doing it ABSOLUTELY FREE!

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Dating doesn’t have to be hard. But your limiting beliefs may be making it hard for you. Let us help you learn the skills to make it fun and easy. 

 

Not local? Schedule time to speak with our team and get ready to have the love you want!

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How to BE IRRESISTIBLE to Men

How to BE IRRESISTIBLE to Men

by Gladys Diaz 

 

Have you ever experienced this? You go on a date and, from your perspective, you have a GREAT time! The conversation flowed easily, you had fun together, there weren’t any awkward silences, and he even mentioned that he’d love to see you again soon!

And then…

You never hear from him again. 

What is that about, right?! 

So many women get frustrated with this aspect of dating because it can be so confusing.

When this type of thing happens to you over and over and over again, it’s easy to make up stories about men in general, or about yourself. 

You think: 

All men are flakes and dating is a waste of time. 

All men want is to sleep with me on the first date, and if I don’t, then I’ll never hear from him again. 

I’m too much for guys. They just don’t get me. 

There must be something wrong with me because I never get asked out on a second date. 

Sound familiar? 

Here are some DATING SKILLS that will help you to not just get asked out on a date with one man, but to be asked out on multiple dates with multiple men. 

First, there are two things that are extremely important to remember when dating that will save you a lot of unnecessary heartache. 

1.      Remember that you’re not the only person he’s going out with. He’s most likely talking to other women besides you, going on multiple dates a week, and trying to keep everything straight, just like you are. This is NORMAL. It’s how dating works. He’s getting to know different women (you being one of them) to see who he wants to continue getting to know better and possibly have a relationship with.

So how do you handle this? 

2.      You date more than one man at a time, too! When you’ve got multiple dates on your calendar and you’re having conversations with more than one man at a time, it saves you from being so hyper-aware of what each of them are doing and helps you not get attached to someone too soon. 

Want to stop picking up your phone anxiously every time it buzzes and feeling the constant disappointment that it’s not him? Date this way. This is the game-changer. We promise you he’s dating this way, so enjoy the dating experience more by doing this, too!

The next best way to make yourself irresistible to a man and ensure that you get asked on that 2nd date is to be CONFIDENT. 

When you exude confidence, you don’t pursue, you aren’t overly complimentary, and you don’t put pressure on a man to choose you. When you’re confident, you don’t give into the fears that he’s not thinking about you or rationalize doing things (like texting him first, sending a funny meme or a great article) to get on his radar. 

When you’re confident, you wait to hear from him, giving yourself the gift of being pursued. You are PRESENT in the conversation when you’re on the date, being in the moment and not in your head about what you should say and do. You show up as interested AND interesting because you know how to balance talking about yourself while also showing interest in him. 

When you’re confident, you smile, compliment him, and let him know that you’re having a good time. You don’t complain about him or about your life, you show positivity, lightness and fun. This is what makes you irresistible to a man. 

So, if you aren’t currently feeling confident about yourself in dating how do you get there? 

BELIEVE IT AND BE IT. 

BE confident. Be present on the date and remind yourself that you’re simply getting to know someone. Take the pressure off of yourself and him. Relax and have fun getting to know another human being. 

And smile. 🙂 Smiling transforms nervous energy to excited energy! So, if at any moment you aren’t sure what to say or you feel things are getting awkward, just smile and take a sip of your water, and wait for him to make the next move. 

Dating is meant to be fun! And who wouldn’t want to go out on a second date with a woman who is confident, light, and fun?

If you’d like to learn even more dating skills, or you know someone who would, join us for our 2-day event, “Extraordinary Love NOW!”, which is happening NEXT weekend – September 13th and 14th – in Miami, FL. We’ll be teaching 2 FULL DAYS of deep, HeartWork that WILL transform the way you feel about dating AND the RESULTS that you’re currently experiencing.  And, by the way, we’re doing it ABSOLUTELY FREE!

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Dating really can be fun! You just need to have the right skillset and know how to start BEING that Irresistible Woman that a man asks out again and again!

 

Not local and want a real shift in your experience of dating? Schedule time to speak with our team and get ready to have the love you want!

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Truth: High-Quality Men Really DO Exist!

Truth: High-Quality Men Really DO Exist!

by Michelle Roza

“If there are all these great guys out there, WHERE THE HECK ARE THEY?” 

This is a question we hear all the time….

Case in point, we have a client who just got engaged, and when she first came to us she said the exact same thing“Where are all the high-quality men and how can I find them? Is it too much to ask to just find a GOOD man?”

You may think that good men don’t exist because you can’t seem to find someone who is actually interested in having a long-term relationship. Or maybe you’ve even considered moving to another city because good men don’t live in yours.

Well guess what?

Don’t pack your bags just yet, because it’s not about any of that.

It’s actually about who you are, who you’re attracting, and what you want to experience in a relationship.

If you’re feeling resigned, cynical, or frustrated about dating, it’s only because you’re not having a good experience and not getting the results you desire, NOT because what you want doesn’t exist.  

Think about it…

If you were meeting a lot of great, commitment-minded men who were going out of their way to make you smile… would you be feeling this cynical about dating?

NO! You’d be excited, enthusiastic, and looking forward to your next date!

So… how do you start attracting really great men? 

  1. Start paying attention to the INSIDE factors, because that’s what actually matters. 

What are the inside factors? 

Your beliefs. What do you believe about men? About love? About relationships?

Here’s the thing… Your brain is always looking for evidence that it is right. So, here’s the fact of the matter: If you believe that all men are liars, and you walk into a room full of men, you WILL either attract or be attracted to the ONE man in the room who’s dishonest, because your brain is always searching for that evidence.

So, if you want to start experiencing something different, then you’ve got to change your beliefs. 

How do I do this? 

Look for the patterns that are showing up in your dating and relationships. Close your eyes and take a close look at the last three or four dating experiences or relationships you’ve had and take an honest inventory of what showed up. I promise you, you’ll start to see patterns, and in those patterns is where your beliefs will reveal themselves.

I was in a 12-year marriage – it wasn’t a healthy relationship, and it ended in divorce. My ex-husband was constantly in and out of work, so I was working 3 jobs to help ends meet.  That left me feeling exhausted, frustrated, and resentful.

After that, I had a HUGE belief around men being unreliable and relationships with men being insecure and unstable.

So, guess what kept showing up in my dating life? Men who were insecure and unstable. They were either out of work or workaholics, alcoholics or addicted to some kind of drug, or men who were not available (in or just getting out of a relationship) and not interested in having a committed relationship.

I was attracting broken men because I felt that there was something inside of me that was broken, and I was looking for people that were experiencing the same thing.

When I started doing the HeartWork and began recognizing my own patterns and what I was creating because of them, things started to shift.

That’s why the next step is…

  1. Be COMMITTED to doing the HeartWork.

Stop waiting to feel “ready” or “motivated” to do your HeartWork.

If you knew that on the other side of the HeartWork was the man of your dreams, would you need to motivate yourself to do the HeartWork? 

I guarantee the answer is “No!”

We only have to motivate ourselves to the things that we are resisting. So… if you’re finding yourself thinking that you need to motivate yourself to date…what are you resisting?

Be honest with yourself.

You may believe it’s going to be hard, that it won’t work, that you don’t know how…. just to name a possible few! That’s because humans have trained ourselves and our brains for comfort, and we resist anything that perceive as hard, uncomfortable or confusing.

But take a good honest look at yourself and your current feelings about love and dating, because in the answer to the question of what you are resisting is a fear that you haven’t uncovered yet. And it’s this fear that is perpetuating the patterns you uncovered in the exercise above.

Once I got – I mean, REALLY got – that I was a high-quality woman, that I mattered, and felt comfortable being myself, I didn’t need to motivate myself to date, I was MOVED and inspired to date.

I was passionate about attracting the man of my dreams! I believed 100% that it was possible and ended up attracting multiple GOOD men that I got to CHOOSE from.

And that’s how it will happen for you, too.

Intention is Everything. The good, high-quality men out there are looking for a vibrational match. They are looking for a woman who is alluring and confident, and vivacious.

So, BE that!

And here’s an extra super-ninja tip: Start to NOTICE the good men out there and the good that men are doing in the world.

When you start paying attention and appreciating the good you see in men, you’ll start seeing it all around you. And when this starts to happen to you, you’ll know you are soooo close to attracting your partner.

Why not get there now?

Join us for our 2-day event, “Extraordinary Love NOW!”, which is happening this weekend – July 27th and 28th – in Miami Lakes, FL. We will be teaching 2 FULL DAYS of deep, heart work that WILL transform the way you feel about dating AND the RESULTS that you are experiencing.  And we’re doing it ABSOLUTELY FREE!

Learn More Here

Here’s another gift:

My daily prayer is, “If there’s something standing in my way, Lord, please let me see it so I can deal with it.”

We have the same prayer for you.

 

 

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