by Gladys Diaz

As the end of the year fast-approaches, it’s easy to feel either really excited or upset.  If this year has been one where you have realized a lot of the goals you set out to accomplish at the beginning of the year, it can be exciting to look back and see how far you’ve come and look forward to setting new goals that take you even further in the upcoming year.

If you haven’t done many (or any) of the things you committed to doing at the beginning of the year, then it can be a depressing, and you may think that there’s nothing you can do in just two short weeks. This thought process can stop you from wanting to set goals – or dream new dreams – in the upcoming year.

That’s where you’d be wrong!

Think about it.  How many times in your life have you stopped yourself just short of reaching a goal or making a dream come true because you were afraid that it’s too late? That you blew it?  That nothing is going change, anyway?

All of these thoughts are just your brain’s way of doing its job to protect you.  What is it protecting you from?  From your fear of being hurt and disappointed.  And nowhere does this fear show up more than when it comes to the area of love and relationships!

The fear stems from the deep-rooted belief that, while true love may exist, it doesn’t really exist for you.

I don’t often use the word “wrong,” but I have to use it for a second time in this message, especially when it comes to this point!

The truth is that you were created to love and be loved. 

You were not created, not to spend your life alone or feeling unhappy inside of a relationship.

You were created with the primary purpose of living, giving, and experiencing love!

It’s your birthright.

You are not the one person on the planet who was created without that intention.

So, why is it so difficult for you to believe that?

Probably because somewhere in your past – whether it was recently or very long ago – you had the experience of feeling unloved.

So you made a decision.

You decided that you didn’t deserve love.  And you may have even decided that you did deserve the pain you were experiencing.

Inside of that decision, it becomes difficult – almost impossible – for you to ever allow another person to get that close and risk allowing someone else to have that much ability to ever hurt you ever again.

It also becomes very easy to associate love with pain, disappointment, and “suffering,” which could lead to you attracting one heartache after another into your life.

Either way, the result is the same:  You block love.

You resist love. Even when the possibility of having a healthy, happy, intimate relationship presents itself, you won’t see it. You won’t allow yourself to see it.

So, what can you do to begin letting love into your heart?

• Accept that you deserve love.  This isn’t about “fooling yourself” or telling yourself something to make yourself feel better. It’s about really embracing and accepting the idea that you are love-able: able to love and be loved.

• Release the past so that you can create a new future.  The stronger you hold on to that pain and disappointment from the past, the thicker the wall between you and experiencing the love you deserve becomes.  It can be scary to let go of the past, simply because you’d have to acknowledge that whatever happened already happened and is no longer happening.  And you’d have to have the courage to accept that something new – something different – is possible for you!

• If either (or both) of the two points above feel almost impossible for you, then reach out for help. You are not in this alone and you don’t have to do it alone.  Being vulnerable enough to reach out for help is not a sign of weakness.

Reaching out for help is a sign of strength – the type of strength that it takes to transform yourself and your life so that you can finally begin to experience the love and dreams you’ve been longing for.

I think that it goes without saying that we’re here to help you, if you are ready to shed the layers of pain, fear and doubt, and  begin working with someone who has not only been where you are, but who has made it to the other side!

Michelle and I have overcome so much throughout our lives – neglect, poverty, infidelity, divorce, and the loss of a spouse.  And, yet, in spite of those odds, we’ve figured out how to create the type of relationships that once existed only in our dreams!  That’s because we don’t just talk or coach about how to attract and create a great relationship “in theory.” We live what we teach in our lives and our relationships each and every day!  And we’d love for you to have that same type of experience in your own life!

So, whether you are single or already in a relationship, if you’re ready to begin working with a coach who can help you create your dream relationship, set up a time to speak with one of us. We have a few appointment times available around the holidays, and we’d love to save one for you!

Comments?  Questions?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!

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