Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

by Michelle Roza

Do you have a fear of losing yourself in a relationship? 

You’re not alone. It’s one of the biggest fears many women have when it comes to love.

You’ve heard the stories, seen it happen to friends, and maybe even lived it yourself: 

You start off strong, confident, and vibrant, and then somewhere along the way, you find yourself bending, compromising, and shrinking just to keep the relationship going. Before you know it, you’re playing the role of someone else—someone who’s not the real you. 

It’s a story as old as time, but here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be YOUR story.

This week, we debunked the myth that being in a relationship means losing yourself. (If you missed this week’s LIVE Love Chat With The Love Twins, click HERE to Watch the Replay!)

Because the truth is, real love doesn’t ask you to give up who you are. In fact, it allows you to become even MORE of who you are.

The Myth: Losing Yourself in Love

There’s a lot of nonsense out there about what it means to be in a relationship. 

You might have heard that being in love means sacrificing who you are, giving up your dreams, or becoming half of a whole. 

Well, we’re here to tell you it’s a total myth. 

You don’t have to give up who you are to find love; in fact, holding on to your values, your quirks, and your dreams is what creates a magnetic pull for the right kind of love.

The Truth: The Right Relationship EXPANDS You

Research shows that the right relationship is one where both partners grow and expand. 

A study from Carnegie Mellon University found that people in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to take on new challenges, pursue their personal goals, and grow as individuals. 

They’re healthier, happier, and more confident. And yes, this applies to both men and women!

When you’re with the right partner, you don’t lose your identity; you enhance it. 

You become more of who you are. In the right relationship, you don’t have to hide parts of yourself or settle for less. Instead, you and your partner grow together, enriching each other’s lives.

Healing the Patterns That Created This Fear

But we get it: there’s a reason this fear exists. 

Maybe you’ve been in relationships in the past where you did lose yourself. You might have changed your appearance, put your dreams on the back burner, or even let go of your core values just to keep the peace. 

That’s not your fault; it’s a pattern that many women fall into, often without realizing it.

The key to breaking this pattern is to heal the wounds that created it. You see, when we don’t fully love and accept who we are, we look for validation in our partners. We let their opinions and desires dictate our actions, and slowly but surely, we lose sight of ourselves. 

To break free, you need to do the inner work: recognize where these fears come from and choose to let them go.

At the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Event, we dive deep into uncovering these patterns and fears that have kept you from showing up as the woman you truly are. Because when you understand where these fears originated, you can rewrite your story and step into a new chapter—one where you create a relationship that honors YOU.

The Difference Between Independent, Co-dependent, and Interdependent Relationships

Now, let’s break down the different types of relationships, so you know what to aim for and what to avoid.

  • Independent Relationships: In these relationships, each partner operates in their own bubble. There’s little sharing, support, or deep connection. While independence is important, when taken to an extreme, it can lead to loneliness and emotional distance.
  • Co-dependent Relationships: This is where you lose yourself. You become overly reliant on your partner for validation, support, and even your sense of identity. You bend over backward to meet their needs, often at the expense of your own. It’s an unhealthy dynamic that can feel suffocating and draining.
  • Interdependent Relationships: Ah, this is the sweet spot! Interdependence means that you and your partner are strong individuals who choose to support, love, and grow with each other. You don’t need each other to be whole, but you choose to share your lives and lift each other higher. You maintain your individuality while building a life together.

Interdependence is where love truly thrives, and it’s where you can grow without losing yourself. It’s about being two whole people who come together to create something even more beautiful!

Living Your Values: The Key to Lasting Love

Remember the movie Runaway Bride? Julia Roberts’ character didn’t even know how she liked her eggs because she always adapted to the preferences of whichever man she was with. She’d completely lose touch with her own desires and values. Sound familiar?

When you don’t know what you stand for, you’re easily swayed by others’ opinions. And in relationships, this is a recipe for disaster. 

But when you’re confident in who you are and live your values consistently, you not only feel more empowered, but you also attract a partner who loves you for exactly who you are.

Living your values means knowing what’s important to you—whether it’s honesty, adventure, kindness, or growth—and standing by those principles, even when it’s not easy. 

When you do this, you’ll naturally attract someone who respects those values and lives their own as well. The right man won’t want you to change; he’ll love you for who you are and join you on the journey of life!

Debunking the Mirror Myth: Disagreement Is Not a Bad Thing!

There’s another myth out there that says your partner should be your mirror, someone who thinks exactly like you and agrees with everything you say. 

False! 

You and your partner are two unique individuals, which means you’ll have different perspectives. And that’s okay!

The beauty of interdependence is that it allows space for both partners to be themselves. You don’t have to agree on everything. In fact, the healthiest relationships are those where partners respect each other’s differences and find ways to grow from them. Disagreements are an opportunity to learn, expand, and deepen your connection.

You Can Have the Life and Love Your Heart Desires

So, here’s the truth: you can love without losing yourself. You can find a partner who celebrates who you are, who joins you in living a life of growth, and who stands by your side as you both pursue your dreams. 

You deserve that kind of love, and it’s 100% possible for you.

If you’re ready to break free from the fears that have held you back and learn how to show up as the woman you declare yourself to be, we invite you to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE event. This is your chance to uncover the patterns of the past, step into your power, and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

Love doesn’t mean losing yourself; it means becoming the fullest version of who you are. 

And we’re here to show you exactly how to make that happen.

Join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE and learn how to love in a way that honors your values, your desires, and the woman you’re meant to be. 

Because when you do, you’ll attract a love that celebrates you and a partner who grows with you.

Your next chapter is waiting. Are you ready to say YES to it? 💖

 

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

by Gladys Diaz

Today, Ric & I are celebrating our 24th Wedding Anniversary!

“24 years of marriage…”

It feels surreal, especially when I once thought I’d never love again.

What fills my heart with joy is that we’re more in love than ever! 

Here’s what I know – reaching 24 years of marriage, 25 years together, and still being happy, best friends, with love, connection, intimacy, and adventure in our relationship isn’t something that “just happens,” no matter how “perfect” a match seems.

Do you want to know how to break through the patterns that are holding you back in love?

How to move past the fears that are keeping you from the relationship you want?
Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone so you can create the type of relationship where you have 24, 64, 78 years together!

If you’re ready to transform your love life, then skip the reading, get all the juicy details, and claim your spot here: Join Us LIVE at No Cost this Saturday, July 20th, 2024.

Click the link above, secure your complimentary seat, and embark on your journey to creating a loving, lasting relationship with a high-quality man who will cherish you forever.

During these 3 hours together, you’ll learn how to:

💖 Easily attract a strong, confident man who is inspired and NOT intimidated by a successful woman like you

💖 Naturally become the kind of woman a man can’t help but fall in love with (without changing who you are)

💖 Create a lifelong relationship that adds joy and love to your life, and deepens over time, so you have someone to share all the wonders of life with

Join us for this transformative training and learn how to create the loving, supportive, and fulfilling relationship you want, where you get to experience everything you imagine love to be—and MORE. 🌟

If you’re ready to make your love story extraordinary – then click below to claim your spot NOW! 💖

Click HERE to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

It’s your turn to meet the love of your life and start celebrating year after year of “Meet-a-Versaries,” “Kiss-a-Versaries,” and Wedding Anniversaries!

24 years from now you could be looking back at this Saturday, remembering the transformation you experienced that led to you creating your great love story.

Register for your spot at the Masterclass, and let’s begin writing YOUR story now!

 

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

by Gladys Diaz

Are you tired of wasting time on relationships that go nowhere?

Do you find yourself constantly questioning if the man you’re with truly aligns with your vision and values?

If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the cycle of uncertainty, wasting precious time and emotional energy on men who don’t meet their standards.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Dating becomes FUN and EASY when you can confidently and quickly determine if a man is a match for your Love Vision and values. 

Sounds too good to be true? It’s not. And we’re going to show you how.

The Importance of Self-Awareness

First things first, you need to know yourself. Everything starts within, and even though it might sound cliché, the foundation of any successful relationship is a deep understanding of your own love vision and values. 

We define Love Vision as what you want to experience in the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

How do you want to feel when you’re with your partner?

Do you want the relationship to feel connected, fun, and light? Are openness, passion, and intimacy things you want to experience?  

What types of activities will you do together?

Do you want to travel together? Do you want to read books and have intellectual discussions? Do you want to enjoy hiking in nature? Do you want to spend Friday nights cooking an incredible dinner together?  

What values do you want to share?

What’s most important to YOU? Do you want to be with someone who values health and adventure? Are you wanting someone who wants to create a family?

This becomes the guidebook for what you want to experience in a relationship. The more clear you are, the quicker you’ll draw it to you. The fuzzier you are, the more confusing your experience in dating will be.

Self-awareness is your compass. It guides you in the right direction and helps you recognize when something (or someone) is off course. Take some time to reflect on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t? What values did you compromise on, and how did that make you feel? Write these down. This exercise isn’t just about identifying deal-breakers; it’s about understanding what makes you thrive in a relationship.

Communication and Consistency

Now that you’ve got a clear understanding of your own vision and values, it’s time to communicate them and watch to see if someone is aligned. This isn’t about presenting a checklist on the first date – that’s a surefire way to scare anyone off! 

Instead, it’s about weaving your values into conversations naturally and giving yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior – which will inform you of his values.

Talk about what’s important to you. Share your goals, dreams, and what you’re passionate about. This not only gives you a chance to express your values, but it also provides an opportunity to gauge his reactions and responses. 

Is he supportive? Does he share similar goals? Or is he dismissive and uninterested?

Actions Speak Louder Than Words. Words are cheap. Anyone can say they value honesty, loyalty, and respect, but do their actions align with their words? This is where you need to be vigilant. Pay close attention to his behavior.

Does he follow through on his promises? How does he treat people around him – waitstaff, friends, family? Is he consistent in his actions, or does he say one thing and do another? These observations are crucial because they reveal his true character and values.

Consistency is Crucial. One-time grand gestures are impressive, but they don’t define a person’s character. And at the same time, anyone can be nervous on a first date and not show you who they really are.

Consistency over time is what you should be looking for. Give yourself time to see if someone is aligned. 

And values aren’t about “right” or “wrong”. They’re simply about what matters to YOU and what YOU want. Everything he does (or doesn’t do) is good information to have as you move toward knowing who’s the perfect match for you.

Alignment and BE-ing Your Love Vision and Values. 

This is where you get to BE what you want to experience.

If you say health is a top value of yours, what do you do to show it? 

If you want to experience openness, fun and laughter in the Relationship of Your Dreams, who are you BE-ing to bring those feelings into your dating experiences and relationships? 

Before each and every encounter you have with men, anchor yourself in your Love Vision. 

Read your Love Vision every time before going on the dating app. 

Get yourself into the energy of your Love Vision before you go on a date. 

Envision in your mind what your Love Vision looks like before you come home to your husband. 

The more aligned you are going into each experience with men, the more you’ll be able to assess compatibility and create what you want to experience!

Final Thoughts

Finding a man who matches your love vision and values isn’t about luck – it’s about clarity, communication, and keen observation. By understanding your own values, clearly communicating them, observing his actions and consistency, and BEing what you want to experience in the relationship –  you can confidently determine if someone is the right match for you.

Where can you see your vision and values creating your Yes’s and No’s in dating? 

How can you lean more into your Love Vision to know your metric for what you want to experience? 

By following these steps, you’ll empower yourself to make informed decisions about your love life, ensuring you spend your time and energy on a relationship that’s truly worth it! 

This is just the beginning! We’ll be going even deeper into this topic during the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge! 

You’ll walk away from the Challenge with crystal-clear clarity on what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams and next-steps on how to manifest it NOW!

Click HERE to register for the FREE Challenge.

We’ll let you know the dates for the Challenge ASAP – we can’t wait to be with you! 

 

 

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How to Trust Men so you Can Experience Extraordinary Love NOW!

How to Trust Men so you Can Experience Extraordinary Love NOW!

by Michelle Roza

One of the top things we hear from successful, driven, passionate women like you, is that they have a hard time trusting men. 

Can you relate? 

Have you been hurt, lied to or had your dreams shattered by someone you thought loved you?

Perhaps your parents got divorced or someone betrayed you as a child – and you’ve struggled trusting others ever since.

Then there’s all the Tinder Swindler and Dirty John reality shows and documentaries about the men who are scamming, lying, and cheating and when all of that’s out there – how can you feel that you can really trust a man?

We know this is all there for you and we also know that if you desire a relationship where you feel safe, trust must be present. 

Trustworthy men are out there and you deserve to be loved by one of them – now! 

So where does trust begin?

Real trust comes first, from truly trusting yourself to make the choices in your life that will lead you to where you want to go.

You can only trust others to the extent that you trust yourself. It starts from within.

  • Lack of self-trust leaves you feeling disempowered and afraid
  • It impacts your ability to be vulnerable and truly connect. 
  • It makes true intimacy impossible. 
  • And when you can’t trust yourself, life becomes a lot more scary than it actually is! 

Whether you’re looking for a love that will take you around the world, bring you children and an expanded family or simply love and support you in your already amazing life…

You want extraordinary love with a wonderful man who’ll be the best match for you and all of your hopes and dreams.

If this is what you want – Join us this Thursday for an Encore Presentation of the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

The truth is – when you don’t trust yourself, what chooses for you isn’t really you.

What chooses instead, are your fears. 

Your thoughts that you’re not good enough… 

The fear of ending up alone forever… 

Remembering all the “wrong” men you’ve attracted in the past and disbelief that anything will ever be any different.

Thinking you’ll be taken advantage of like you were before… 

When these are the thoughts swirling around in your mind it’s debilitating and life and love feel scary. 

So how do you break through these fears and begin to trust you again? 

  1. Acceptance. First you get to accept yourself and everything about your past.

    If you allow your past to determine your future you’ll always feel like you have something to prove, like there’s something to overcome, like you have to work to not become your mother or make the same mistakes you’ve already made.

    Your past doesn’t have to define you, tell you who you are or let you know what you can expect of your future.

     

  2. Forgiveness. Second, you get to forgive the version of you that chose the painful experiences of the past so you can heal and move forward.

    You get to remove the emotional charge behind the memories so that they no longer have power to influence your present and future.

     

  3. Clarity. After you’ve healed your past you can stand powerfully in who you are in the present. Then, and only then, can you be clear about what you want for your future.

    Once you have crystal clarity around what it is that you want to experience in a relationship, you’ll be able to stand for the man and relationship you want instead of settling for whatever’s there. 

It’s incredible what opens up when you’re able to accept and love yourself fully!

When you know what you want and can be yourself without reservation you feel happier and more comfortable with yourself because the real you is showing up! 

Your intuition becomes stronger and you’re more and more able to be powerful in life and love making the decisions that are right for you quickly and without reservation or doubt. 

You’re able to attract the type of men that you WANT to be with, who will be deserving of your trust and commitment and that want to be with the real you too! 

If that’s something you want, then join us Thursday for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In this special, encore presentation of the fun, interactive workshop, you’ll: 

  • Break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships
  • Tap into your Irresistible Essence so you can easily attract and keep the man for YOU!
  • Discover how to manifest the life and love your heart desires so you can create the happy, loving relationship you want NOW

Join us this week in commemorating the LAST Valentine’s Day you’ll spend without the love of your life! Click HERE register for this free event!

Once you register, you’ll receive love coaching messages so you can be on the road to experiencing Extraordinary Love NOW!

 

Communication in Relationships: The #1 Mistake Women Make and What to Do Instead

Communication in Relationships: The #1 Mistake Women Make and What to Do Instead

by Michelle Roza

Do you understand men?

Or do you find yourself asking:

What the @*!# was he thinking?

Did he really just say that?

Why doesn’t he listen to me?

If you don’t feel seen, heard and understood when you’re communicating with men, and you’re wondering why you feel so disconnected, there’s a reason AND a solution!

We’ll be diving into ALL of this at tomorrow’s Decoding Your Man Masterclass! Click here to sign-up now! 

Oh! By the way…

What we’ll be sharing isn’t only for romantic relationships and dating experiences.

The keys to communicating well with men are critical to know and understand in all of your relationships with men – fathers, brothers, and male colleagues at work.

So – want a sneak peek? 

First… It’s not personal. It’s biological!

Men aren’t just hairier, more muscular versions of women. (Surprise!

There’s a reason why women can multi-task and men need to focus on one thing at a time.

There’s a reason why men jump in, interrupt and try to solve your problem before you’ve even shared what you wanted to say. 

And there’s a reason why you get home from a date where you experienced so much fun and connection and then feel confused when he doesn’t ask you out again.  

It’s not a matter of intelligence or not caring. 

Men’s brains are actually wired differently than ours. 

And the differences in how they think, speak, and act can create major conflict and frustration for you (and him) if you feel like you can’t talk, communicate, or truly connect with each other. 

The good news is that, even with all of these differences, it IS possible to feel completely seen, heard, understood and loved by your man (and for him to feel the same way).

This is why we created the Decoding Your Man Masterclass – which is happening tomorrow, August 26th at 11 am EST!

Our goal is for you to understand how the differences in our biology impact every level of our relationships…

And how you can still feel empowered to have better communication, deeper connection, and real, lasting intimacy with the man you love.

It’s absolutely possible to share what you feel, think, and need in a way that leaves you BOTH feeling seen, heard, understood, and loved!
 

In this powerful masterclass, you’ll learn the Decoding Your Man Method as well as:
 

  • The #1 mistake women make when communicating with men, and what to do instead!
     
  • The differences between the way men’s and women’s brains are wired and how that impacts communication and romance with the opposite sex
     
  • Keys to avoiding arguments and misunderstandings so that you can create love and partnership in your relationship vs. working against each other
     
  • The secrets to knowing exactly what to say and do get the love and support you want from your partner
     
  • How to create a happy, loving, passionate relationship that lasts for a lifetime!
     
  • And so much more!

Here’s a few more questions we’ll be answering for you tomorrow: 

The reason why he says “I’m busy” when you try to ask him a question while he’s working…

The answer to why he jumps in and interrupts you when you’re simply wanting to be listened to…

And the reason why you have an incredible date but then don’t hear from him again!

We’ll be explaining so many more questions like these tomorrow and you’ll smile each time you hear yourself saying, “Aha! That explains it!”

Get ready to have your mind blown!

There’s a reason why Decoding Your Man is one of our clients’ favorite masterclasses!  

Because the knowledge and skills we’ll teach you tomorrow are the key to communicating with men in a way that he can hear and you can feel heard! 

It’s not just about knowing the facts and understanding why men do what they do. 

It’s also about having the communication skills that sets you both up to win. 

If you want to learn how to feel supported, loved and cared for by the men in your life in a way you haven’t been before… 

Then click HERE to sign up for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!

 

How to Create Real Love Now! (No Matter Your Age)

How to Create Real Love Now! (No Matter Your Age)

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to create the lasting loving relationship that you dream of? 

Whether you’re in your 20’s, 30’s, 50’s or 70’s – you can create love NOW!

In our 30 years of relationship coaching, we’ve heard it all when it comes to why women think and feel they can’t find love. 

  • “I don’t know if now’s the right time for me to focus on love.” 
  • “I’m too old. If love was meant for me it would have happened by now.” 
  • “I’m not ready! There’s so much more of life I want to experience before I settle down and create a relationship.” 
  • “I need to get my own life together first before anyone would want to be a part of it.” 
  • “I’ve been waiting so long. Love must simply not be in the cards for me!” 

Let me ask you – when would there ever be a time when you shouldn’t love and be loved? 

Here’s the truth – There is no deck of cards where love isn’t in the cards for you! It is 100% possible to meet and fall madly in love with someone at any age and at any time.

In the ever-changing circumstances of life, one thing remains constant…

The desire to find love. While sometimes it may feel like you don’t know how it will ever be possible for you, the key to creating love at any age lies in being clear on what you want, breaking through the fears and limiting beliefs keeping you from it, and being open to love finding you at any time! 

Love is not restricted by age or societal norms. It’s possible to meet and fall madly in love with someone at any age!

1. Be Crystal Clear About What You Want

Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams begins with knowing what you truly want to experience inside that relationship. This begins with knowing your unique individuality and embracing who you are and what you truly want.

Understand your strengths and weaknesses and celebrate the person you are! Cultivate self-love and self-compassion because these things will support you in attracting the relationship that’s right for you! 

Take time to date men and really get to know them! Let go of desperation, fear and scarcity by being committed to creating what you really want. 

2. Break Through and Release the Fears and Limiting Beliefs That Are Keeping You Stuck in Love

Throughout life, you accumulate experiences, some of which may have left emotional wounds and bruises. These scars create the thoughts that fuel your limiting beliefs, fears and dysfunctional patterns in love. 

The secret to finding love lies in letting go of this past baggage! 

Dismantling and replacing these limiting beliefs, fears and dysfunctional patterns are what allow you to heal from past heartbreaks and disappointments, which is essential to make room for new love to flourish! 

Ask yourself, “What am I afraid is or is not going to happen if I love freely?

Getting clear on this question and healing yourself of past wounds is what will allow yourself to be vulnerable again which is the gateway to meaningful connections.

3. Be Open to Love Finding You at Any Time

Creating true love is not confined to a specific age or stage of life. 

Life is dynamic, and love can find you unexpectedly and in the most unexpected places! 

It can also happen fast! 

Embrace change, be open to new experiences and believe that love can happen for you now

Trust in the process, and know that when you know what you want and are committed to creating it – you can (and will) manifest it no matter your age or circumstances!

If you’re tired of living alone and want to be with the man of your dreams inside the relationship you’ve always imagined then you simply must join us for this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!  

During this 3-day event we’ll take a wrecking ball to the things that are getting in the way of you having the love that you want, you’ll get 100% crystal clear on what you want to experience in love, and walk away with the tools and support to create it!

Plus – right now (and for a limited time) you can grab a ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE along with some incredible bonuses inside the Irresistible Bundle! 

Here’s what you get inside the bundle:

💜 Ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Live Virtual Event – September 29th-October 1st, 2023 ($500 Value)

💜 Irresistible Woman Prep for Love Call ($200 Value) 

💜 Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass Recording ($300 Value)

After you grab your ticket, be ready to have a breakthrough and transform your life!

Click HERE to claim your Irresistible Bundle Now! 

We have sooooo many stories of women who have come to any event and within 3-6 months have met the man they’re going to marry!

Take Elena for example… 

Elena came to an event of ours when she was 66 years old after a 20-year hiatus from dating! She didn’t know if love was still available to her at her age – but the truth was that she deeply desired to experience the joys of loving and being loved deeply. 

Days after the event she met the man she’s now married to! 

Within months they were engaged and now are about to celebrate their 2-year wedding anniversary!

This is what she shared about working with us at the event she attended: 

I would have kept repeating the same results of all my past relationships if they hadn’t lovingly helped me break down and through all my fears, limiting beliefs, dysfunctional patterns and ways of being. These love barriers were deeply ingrained after about 45 years of dating and heartbreaks. I was never married, 66 year old when I met my husband 9 days after the Love Breakthrough  Challenge and was married to him 9 months later. 

If any of you are having doubts about this being possible for you, I am here to tell you to trust and believe that it is. And jump into any program and coaching the Love Twins offer. Miracles do happen!”

In the pursuit of love embracing vulnerability and courage will lead you to profound connections and lasting joy. 

Embrace the secret to finding love at any age by getting clear on what you want, breaking through the fears and limiting beliefs keeping you from creating it, and be open to love finding you at any time!

As you do these things, you may find yourself on a path of love that transcends the limits of time.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships and claim your Irresistible Love Bundle now!