by Gladys Diaz
I know it’s frustrating…
You put yourself out there, engage in back-and-forth texting until he finally asks you out on a date.
You go out and have an amazing time.
You don’t want to get your hopes up (again), but you think he has a lot of potential.
He asks you out on another date… and then another.
Now you’re feeling pretty sure that he maybe, might be the one…
You stop going on line.
You start reserving space in your weekend (just in case)
You don’t accept dates from other men (Why? You’re already planning your fifth date!)
And, after that… that familiar feeling of hurt and frustration.
I get it.
It’s easy to get excited when you meet a nice guy who is a gentleman, is making time to see you, calls between dates, and is fun to be with.
And it’s tempting to want to save space in your calendar, just in case he asks you out.
The problem is that, if you’re like most women, you make 3 big mistakes when you do this.
The first mistake is what we call “falling into a ‘pseudo-relationship.”
Because, as a woman, you naturally want to bond and connect with someone emotionally and physically, it’s natural for you to think you’re in a relationship, even if you’re not.
Trust me, when you’re in a relationship, you’ll know. You won’t have to wonder. The man will come out and tell you that he doesn’t want to see anyone else and that he’d like you to do the same.
Until a man says that, go by this motto: It’s not a relationship until it is.
The second mistake is becoming prematurely attached.
When you aren’t seeing anyone else, it’s natural to have the feelings for the one person you are seeing grow.
Even if you don’t know him very well, and even if you’re not really sure if you really like him, the fact that you are spending so much time together — the proximity, the amount of time and attention you are giving him — will have you become prematurely attached to him.
This has you waiting for his call, texting or calling him when you don’t hear from him, start to get nervous when Wednesday comes around and he hasn’t asked you out for the weekend yet… Sound familiar.
This is such a trap, and what happens is that you fall into making the third mistake.
The third mistake is getting upset when he doesn’t call or ask you out.
Remember the motto I mentioned above? It’s not a relationships until it is.
Until you are in a relationship with a man, he does not have to call or text you every day.
He doesn’t have to ask you out.
And (and this is the one that can cause the most upset), he can call, text, go out, and sleep with anyone he pleases.
You’re NOT in a relationship.
He doesn’t have to do any of those things, and it’s quite possible he is talking to and going out with several women.
Which is why we recommend you do the same!
Now, we’re not saying kiss or sleep with several men.
You can do that, if you choose (although I don’t recommend that).
What I am saying is that you can talk to, go out with, and have fun getting to know different men.
- You get to meet and have a great time getting to know several nice men at the same time.
- You avoid falling into a pseudo-relationship.
- You prevent getting too emotionally attached to someone you really don’t know and aren’t in a committed relationship with.
- And you avoid getting upset, feeling resentful, or putting any unrealistic expectations on a man who is not your boyfriend.
Which also means you avoid a lot of unnecessary heartache.
As much as I know you want to be in a relationship, trust me when I tell you that not attaching yourself or mistaking “dating” for a relationship is going to make dating a lot less frustrating and a lot more fun for you!
If you have any questions regarding how to be more successful in dating so that is a lot more exciting, fulfilling, and FUN, simply tell me your #1 question or challenge when it comes to dating.
I promise to reply and give you some straight coaching about how to avoid some of the traps of dating so that you can have more success in attracting the love you want!
by Gladys Diaz
If you’ve invested time and money in personal development and spiritual programs that help you shift your mindset, and you’re still not experiencing significant shifts in your love life or relationship, I want to ask you a few questions.
Before you invested in this mindset program did you:
- Know how to date successfully so that you aren’t wasting your time, love, or energy?
- Get trained in the differences between the male and female brain and how we are wired differently?
- Learn and master proven relationship skills that ensure long-lasting love?
- Master effective communication that allow you to express yourself in a way that has your partner hear and respond to you in a loving way?
- Have the opportunity to consistently practice these new skills so that you mastered them and avoided repeating old, self-sabotaging dysfunctional and painful patterns in your relationship?
If you answered “no” to even two of these questions, then you have the answer as to why you don’t have the kind of love you want.
See, no amount of personal work is going to change what happens in your love life or relationship when you don’t actually know and use the skills that create AND sustain lasting love.
You can be confident, think positively, meditate and pray, speak positive affirmations to yourself, visualize, and plaster your walls with vision boards, and this will only get you so far.
It’s like filling your refrigerator with a bunch of healthy food, joining a gym, and buying a ton of cute workout outfits but never prepping your meals or getting on the treadmill — your body and weight are notgoing to change one bit until you stop thinking and visualizing and start taking COMMITTED ACTION.
The same is true when it comes to your love life.
Thinking positively and visualizing what you want can help you begin to set in motion attracting the relationship you want, AND you still need to have the right skills and know the right steps to take so that you can take the right ACTIONS that give you the results you really want.
Like anything else you have ever accomplished that you became masterful at, having a great relationship requires a specific skill set. It just does.
You simply can’t get there by mindset alone.
Having the right mindset AND skill set are both essential, yet too many women keep trying use one without the other. And it simply doesn’t work.
So here’s the deal: It’s time to get committed to learning what it takes to have a real loving and intimate relationship.
One that fulfills you; has you feeling truly loved, accepted, and supported by a high-quality man; and where you know how to keep the love, passion, and intimacy alive for a lifetime.
Enrollment for our next round of our Ready to Love Again (for single ladies) and Keeping the Love Alive (for women in relationships) is closing soon, and we are inviting women who are seriously committed to transforming themselves and their love lives into the community.
You must be someone who is ready to commit to investing in yourself, be willing to be coachable, and do BOTH the inner work as well as learn and apply the skills that will make this transformation happen for you.
These are the programs where our clients learn how to remove and replace the Love Barriers that have been stopping them from having the love they want.
These programs are where you’ll learn how to combine the mindset work with effective and proven dating (if you’re single) relationship and communication skills that will have you experiencing more fun, love, and ease in your relationship.
These are the programs where so many of our clients FINALLY learn the skills that give them the confidence AND ability have and live in the loving, intimate relationship of their dreams!
And these are the programs where you’ll see why nothing else has worked before.
You’ll permanently remove the barriers that are keeping you stuck and finally have the love, life, and happiness your heart desires!
If you know this is you, then reach out.
We are committed to you having the love you desire and deserve, and if we don’t think the program is a good fit, we’ll be honest and give you some recommendations, but we won’t make you an invitation to join.
We’re not going to “sell” you, and we don’t need to, because we only work with women who we feel are ready for to succeed in the program (and their love lives), and our clients’ results really do speak for themselves.
We’re here to work only with the truly committed woman (in actions, not just words) — the woman who already knows that you’re ready to have the relationship you have been dreaming of, and you’re tired of waiting for it to “just happen,” because you KNOW you’re worthy of and ready to receive it now.
Does that sound like you?
Are you feeling it in your body right now — something that is pulling you forward?
Then let’s talk.
We’ve got limited time on our calendar to speak this week (No, that’s not a marketing tactic. We’re busy, just like you are!), so if you’d like a spot, shoot us an email and tell us a little bit about your love life or relationship and what your challenges are right now.
You’re probably doing a lot of things right now that might help you get the love you want, but you may be focusing on the wrong things or doing them in the wrong order. THIS is what we can help you sort through so that you are moving in the direction of your dreams!
Having the right mindset AND the right skills is the key to succeeding in any area of your life. If you’re truly committed to doing the work to learn BOTH so that you can finally have the happy, loving relationship you have always dreamed of, send us an email and let us know what that looks like for you and what challenges you’re having right now. We’ll set up time to talk and tell you exactly what will make a difference NOW!
If you prefer, you can set up a time to talk by clicking here!
by Gladys Diaz
I want you to ask yourself a question, and I invite you to be 100% honest with yourself as you answer…
Are you still holding onto a past relationship?
The reason I ask you is because I was speaking with someone earlier this week who has spent almost a year completely consumed with the ending of her relationship.
She is having trouble focusing, working on her business, and it’s beginning to impact her health and friendships.
Now, I want you to know. This is not a “weak woman.”
She is a strong, successful woman who knows herself to be powerful and is not afraid of facing challenges.
Still, when it comes to this heartbreak, it’s been hard to get over what happened, let go of the pain, and move forward with her life.
The thought of opening her heart and trusting someone new feels terrifying, and, while she really does want to be in a loving relationship, she just doesn’t know if she is ready to do that yet.
The reason I’m sharing this with you is because I know how hard it can be to let go of a past love and even consider the thought or possibility of loving and being loved by someone new.
The fear of having your heart broken again may actually be stopping you from even admitting that you want a relationship.
So, you throw yourself into your work.
You tell yourself you’re “okay” with being single.
You do anything and everything to avoid interacting or connecting with the opposite sex.
Or… you go to the other extreme and have a lot of casual, dead-end “micro-relationships” with men you know are not interested in anything other than “hanging out” or hooking up.
You try not to feel.
There is a natural grieving process after a breakup, and that is something Michelle and I help women with all the time so that they are moving forward in a healthy and self-nurturing way.
However, if you are resisting moving forward, pretending that you are “over it,” or you really do feel as if you can’t let go of your ex or the relationship, then it’s important that you learn how to let go of the past and all of the pain so that you can open up your heart and life to receive the love of a man who truly does want to love you for a lifetime.
If this is you and you are ready to at least explore the possibility of letting go of an old relationship and opening up to receiving the right one, then we have opened up our calendar for the next couple of days to help you do just that.
CLICK HERE to take your first step in letting go and moving forward.
On this call, we will discuss where you are at in the letting go process, determine which Love Barriers are stopping you from moving forward, and give you the best next steps you can take to let go and move forward, toward the love that is already waiting for you.
It’s time to let go. You know it inside. And it’s okay that this scares you a bit.
The good news is that you don’t have to do this alone. We’re here to support you. Let us help you take a step toward the love and happiness you deserve and desire!
Grieving after a breakup is part of the process, but so is letting go. If you’ve been holding onto a past relationship and you’re just not sure how to move forward, let’s talk, and let us help you take one step at a time toward the love and happiness your heart desires!