Stop the Dysfunction and Have Fun Dating Today!

Stop the Dysfunction and Have Fun Dating Today!

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you feel blocked, stopped, stuck or frustrated about dating? 

Do you feel like you want to meet a wonderful man, but the dating process isn’t worth it?

Does it seem like dating just isn’t working for you? 

The thing is, as human beings, we don’t like to play games we’re not winning. 

So, why would you want to continue to date if you’re not getting the results — the kind of dates, the amazing relationship, and the experience you’re looking for?

Guess what?

Dating doesn’t have to be so hard.

Dating can be fun, exciting and easy!

When you’re experiencing joy, happiness and excitement, your energy shows it and you attract more of that into your life. 

The opposite is true when you’re not.

If you’re experiencing frustration, anxiety and disappointment, then your energy shows that, and you’ll attract more frustrating, anxiety-producing and disappointing experiences in dating.   

If your goal is to find the right man and create a beautiful, intimate, passionate, honest, supportive relationship, why not enjoy the process of getting there?

Because, that’s really the only way you’re going to create success, anyway. 

So, how do you break the dysfunctional dating patterns that are sabotaging your attempts at creating the relationship of your dreams? 

  • Be honest with yourself and get 100% clear on what you want. 

Do you want to create a loving, supportive, honest relationship? Say so. 

Do you want to get married again? Say so. 

Do you simply want to create a long-term relating relationship so you can stop dating? Say so. 🙂 

If you’re not being honest about what you really want, you know it. And underneath that knowing is a fear of NOT getting what you want that has you ignore what you’re really feeling. And you’ll  hear, see, and interpret everything you experience in dating through that fear. 

When you’re 100% honest with yourself and get clear on what you really want, then, and only then, will you be able to start attracting that into your life. 

  • Trust yourself.

Just because you had a bad experience or didn’t listen to your gut in the past, doesn’t mean your intuition is broken. 

When you don’t trust yourself to do the right thing and make the best decisions, then you’ll look for clarity and validation outside yourself. 

That leaves you powerless and simply doesn’t work.  

When you do the HeartWork to replace the fears that have you not trust yourself, you take back your power. You’re  able to clearly hear and see the bells, signals and red flags and take the steps you need to take so that you’re not wasting your time with the wrong person.. 

  • Have faith that what you want can actually happen.

This isn’t so much about who or what you believe in as much as it is about having faith and hope in a future that contains everything that you want. 

The only way to create the relationship of your dreams is to believe —  really believe —  that it can happen and that you will be able to create it.

If you’re struggling with any of these things, or simply feel like the dating game isn’t bringing you the results that you want, then we have something for you!

(Drumroll….)

Join us this week for the Dating Detox 7-Day Challenge, we’re starting on Monday, April 19th!!

During  these 7 days we’re going to share with you the most effective, clear and proven steps that we have personally used and have shared with hundreds of women around the world that have allowed them to shift from being single and lonely to being successful in love!

Join the Dating Detox Challenge Now!

Things really can change in 7 days or less!

If you’re feeling blocked, stopped, stuck or frustrated with dating and your love life, then you want to click  right now and join us  for this detox! 

Get clear on what you want, trust yourself, and believe that you can create the relationship of your dreams now.

We’re going to show you exactly how to do that!

Join the Dating Detox Challenge Now!

How to Be Loved, Cherished and Adored For Being YOU!

How to Be Loved, Cherished and Adored For Being YOU!

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you showing up authentically in your relationships?

Do you ever feel like you’re pretending to be something or someone you’re not, hiding things about yourself, forcing yourself to act a certain way, holding back from saying things you’d like to say, or squashing down feelings?

These are just a few examples of ways you can be showing up as inauthentic with others in relationships.

Something we often hear from women is that they didn’t even realize they were doing these things! 

The amazing thing is that once they see it, they’re able to transform it and create something different in dating and relationships.

The simple truth is that if you aren’t able to show up as the real authentic you, it’s impossible for someone to fall in love with you – because you aren’t even really there!

There is one thing that is always underneath the inability to be authentic. 

Can you guess it? 

If you said FEAR, you were right!

Being inauthentic shows up from an underlying fear that if you do or say a certain thing, then something will or won’t happen. 

So you’re always either:
1) Trying to avoid having something happen, or

2) Trying to force or make something happen

And THAT’S why dating and relationships feel “hard” and “exhausting”!

It actually takes much more energy to avoid or force things,  hold back, not be authentic, and pretend to be someone you’re not. 

When you’re exhausted from trying to figure out who you need to be, squashing down your feelings and people pleasing, when you’re not doing and saying what comes naturally to you, you simply can’t have fun in relationships either! 

Plus, you really can’t keep up with pretending for very long.

So- how do you transform these fears that are causing you to be inauthentic?

  • Recognize and identify the fears that are holding you back. 

What are the fears that have you holding back the real you in relationships? 

Fill in the blank: “If I show up as my true self ____________ will/won’t happen.” 

If you’re not aware of why you’re pretending, resisting, etc., there’s no way for you to transform that. 

  • Go deeper.

What’s underneath the fear you uncovered in Step One? 

Then, what’s underneath that fear? 

And underneath that fear?

Do you fear getting angry because you judge how you act when you’re angry? 

Does that cause you to hold back feelings and create resentment and frustration in dating? 

Do those feelings cause you to attract men into your life that do things that make you angry?

See how it’s all connected?

90% or more of your attention is going to the thing you’re trying to avoid! 

Getting under the layers of the fear is what will help you to transform it. 

  • Let go of the story behind the fear and create something different.

We create exactly what we are doing and who we are being. 

If you’re hiding in your relationships, you’re going to attract men that hide things from you and lie.

If you’re prepending in your relationships, you’re going to attract men that pretend and don’t show you who they really are. 

If you’re holding back in your relationships, you’re going to attract men that aren’t emotionally available. 

It’s all connected. 

When you do the work to transform your fears and the stories behind them, then you can attract a different type of man, experience what you want, and create a relationship where you are loved, adored, cherished, and accepted for who you are.

When you learn to activate your energy toward the things you desire to create, that’s when life changes.

Do you feel like this is something that’s holding you back, but you aren’t sure why? 

If you’re curious about getting  underneath the surface of what has you people-please, pretend, or feel like you can’t be yourself in relationships, schedule a love breakthrough session now. 

It’s time for you to be loved just the way you are!

Think about what it will be like to break through the fears that have been holding you back for 10, 20, 30 (or more!) years!! 

How amazing will it be to leave all of that in the past and move forward with true, authentic confidence in yourself and how you show up and communicate in relationships? 

That’s what we want for all women AND for you. 

We want you to feel free to be yourself so that you can be loved for everything you are and everything you’re not. 

And we want you to know that that’s possible for you to create it now

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session

 

The Secret to Going from Disappointed to Delighted in Dating!

The Secret to Going from Disappointed to Delighted in Dating!

by Gladys Diaz 

Guess what?

We have a little secret for you…. ready?!

Dating does not have to be a heavy, horrible or disappointing experience. 

Dating can (and should be) enjoyable, exciting and fun! 

The best part of the secret is that it’s up to you!

Now hear this, if you’re feeling disappointed with dating, you’re not alone which is why we’re sharing some tips on how you can create the experience you want to be having in dating.

First of all, if you’re feeling like dating isn’t being what you wish it would be, take a look at your mindset. 

  • Are you afraid you won’t be attracted to anyone you meet? 
  • Are men not responding the way you wish they would on the apps? 
  • Do you feel like it’s an endless texting game and you never get asked on an actual date? 
  • Do you worry that you won’t say the right thing? 
  • Are you afraid a man won’t be attracted to you? 

What are your thoughts about dating? 

This is so important because if you’re having these types of thoughts and fears, and you’re unaware of them, most likely they are running the show and showing up in your experience. 

Once you’re aware of them, you can do the Heart Work to turn them from beliefs into fleeting thoughts so that you’re not setting yourself up for disappointment but rather delight!

The second secret in loving dating is to let go of expectations. 

Whether you’re disappointed about where you are in life right now versus where you thought you’d be or if your experience with a man isn’t adding up to what you hoped… those disappointments are coming from unmet expectations. 

So, get honest with yourself and then stop making it mean anything. 

You are where you are and what’s happening is what’s happening. You can either be someone who lets life dictate who they’re going to be OR you can be the kind of woman who decides how you’re going to show up no matter what. 

When you let go of expectations and see dating (and life) as an adventure it becomes exciting and fun no matter what happens!

The third secret if you want dating to be fun, is to be prepared. 

In order to be interested and interesting, show up knowing the answers to these questions: 

  • What do I want him to know about me? 
  • What do I want to know about him? 

Being prepared allows you to let go of your worries and anxieties and make sure that the intention of the date (to get to know each other) is met!

And remember: this is not about being strategic, this is about being authentic. 

Which leads us to the final secret….. 

Be yourself!

Being yourself allows your fun side to come out which is what makes you attractive. 

Being yourself allows you to be vulnerable which is what creates a connection. 

Being yourself makes it possible for the man to get to know you. 

Being yourself allows your irresistible essence to come out!   

The real secret to having fun and experiencing joy in dating is to be the love you want to see!

By being honest about your fears and worries, letting go of expectations, showing up prepared and being yourself, you can (and will) experience all of the fun, joy and excitement dating has to offer. 

It really is up to you! 

Want some support in making this your reality? 

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Our clients not only reach the destination they’re aiming for by creating the relationship of their dreams, but they also enjoy the process of the journey! If you’re looking for a transformation in how you experience dating, let us support you now.

Trust Yourself to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

Trust Yourself to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you trust yourself?

Do you feel like you’re someone you can count on? 

Do you feel confident in your ability to make the right choices? 

Do you believe that you’ll be able to make the big life-changing decisions that will be best for you? 

If you don’t trust yourself, you’ll find yourself struggling to make choices (especially big ones!) and then doubting the decision once you do.

This is a stressful way to live! 

It also doesn’t lead to being able to create the relationship (and life) of your dreams. 

If you answered yes to any of those questions above, what made you stop trusting yourself? 

Maybe it was a decision you made that didn’t work out?

Or possibly you realized that you’d made a choice that you’d known wasn’t good for you and it turned out badly?

Or it could be that you simply don’t follow through with the things you say you will do (like waking up at a certain time, exercising daily, etc.) which eventually leads to you feeling like you can’t count on yourself.

When these things go unhealed, the trust in yourself fades and you begin to doubt even the most basic of decisions. 

Sound familiar?

So, how do you rebuild that trust so you can feel confident in your ability to be the leader of your life? 

  • Recognize what you’re still holding onto that’s causing you to doubt yourself.

The first thing you need to do in the process of rebuilding trust with yourself is to recognize what it was that began the erosion of trust in the first place. 

For example, one of our clients had married a man who she’d known was not good for her. Before they got married, her intuition had tried to warn her he had character flaws she shouldn’t overlook but she chose to marry him anyways. 

After years of dishonesty and affairs, and a few children later, she finally removed herself from the situation but she continued to carry that around with her. 

She thought that if she continued to hold that decision from years ago against herself that it would help her to not make the same mistake again. 

But that’s not how it works. 

When you continue to hold something against yourself that you did in the past all you’re actually doing is perpetuating the experience of doubting yourself which will only lead to the same experiences you’ve created in the past.

So what do you do?   

  • Accept the impact that the decision had on your life and forgive yourself. 

You must accept the things in your life that the decision created for you and then stop holding onto the past.

Have it be okay that the woman that made the decision you made, was doing the best she could do at the time! It’s easy to look back and wish we’d chosen differently with what we know now, but unfortunately that’s not how it works. We learn from our mistakes and seeing them as opportunities for growth helps you to forgive yourself. 

When you forgive yourself and let go of the past, you open up the opportunity for new experiences to come in. The energy that you were using to continually beat yourself up, you can now take and use to create something extraordinary.

  • Identify the values you have for yourself and consistently move forward with them.

Once you’ve let go of the past, forgiven yourself and committed to moving forward then you must do so with integrity and consistency to rebuild that broken trust!

Identify what you value, what matters to you most, and do those things consistently. 

If you say you’ll wake up at 6am every morning, do it! If you say you’ll exercise 3 times this week, make sure it happens! 

Become the kind of person you can count on because if you end up snoozing the alarm and not getting out of bed until 7 or if you only exercise 1 or 2 times when you said 3… it will continue to be hard to trust yourself.

The more you’re able to count on yourself, the more you’ll believe in your ability to create the relationship of your dreams!

You may need some support with any of these steps and if you do, that’s where we come in! A lifetime of doubting yourself makes it difficult to believe you can create the things that you want. 

If you’d like support identifying what it is that has you doubting yourself, figuring out how to forgive yourself and let it go, or create some accountability in consistently moving forward with your goals and rebuilding that trust with yourself, book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

 Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Remember, you are not your decisions or your mistakes. 

Open yourself up and free your heart, mind and soul so that you irresistible essence can shine through! 

Vulnerability is the KEY to Connection!

Vulnerability is the KEY to Connection!

by Gladys Diaz 

Did you know that vulnerability is your superpower

Why?

Because vulnerability is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

So what does vulnerability look like? 

Vulnerability is…

  • Trusting yourself to know who to trust
  • Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
  • Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
  • Having clarity with yourself and living in an alignment with your values and who you really are.
  • The ability to be yourself without beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable? 

Fear.

If you aren’t being 100% vulnerable with others then there is a fear at play behind the scenes.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think. 

Fear that if you do _____ then ______ will (or wont’) happen. 

Fear that if you say ________ then they will think _______.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve.

Do any of these fears show up for you? 

If you’re afraid of being vulnerable, there is some pain you’re trying to avoid or something you’re trying to force/make happen.

These fears lead us to either pretend, hide, or resist. 

They lead us to try to control how everyone around us thinks and feels. 

They lead us to think that we must show up one way in order to get a certain reaction from people. 

How exhausting!

What’s worse is that people can usually pick up on the inauthenticity.Most people are be able to feel the insecurity behind everything you’re trying to cover up, and, eventually, it will all come out. 

Imagine going on a date with you and all of the things you’re trying to control…
It’s you, him, and a pile of fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs sitting across from each other.

Doesn’t sound very fun, right? Or very real.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection? 

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears. 

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected. 

You practice. The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident  you will feel in simply being yourself.

Now, we know that it’s usually easier said than done.  (If you knew how to do all of this, you’d probably already be doing it, right?)

Doing the HeartWork to tear down the walls of pretense and stepping into your authentic and Irresistible Essence takes knowing what to do, what not to do, and what to do differently.


That’s where we come in, and that’s why we’re inviting you to join  us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive on March 12-14th! This 3-day event intensive is designed to have you break through your Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You will come out of this incredible weekend having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back.  You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams.  This is the work we usually only do with our clients, but we want to share it with YOU so that you can stop pretending and start BEing the authentic, vulnerable irresistible version of yourself that is going to have you attract an amazing man with whom you get to create Extraordinary Love!

Life doesn’t stop. Time is going to keep going by, no matter what choices you make.
Why not make a choice that’s going to lead to more joy, love, happiness and freedom in your life…And the kind of love you’ve always wanted?!

Claim Your Ticket Now!
Hurry! Before the 2-pay option goes away!

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward the life and love your heart desires!

How to Attract the Man You’re Looking For

How to Attract the Man You’re Looking For

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you attracting the type of men you’re looking for?

Do you find yourself saying “I want a man who has this and who has that,” like you’ve got some type of quality assurance checklist?  

Do you feel excited and hopeful after the majority of your dates, or do you feel disappointed most of the time?

If you’re not attracting the kind of men you want and the quality of your dates aren’t meeting your expectations, you’ll eventually feel disappointed, discouraged and no longer excited about dating. 

You may wonder what’s wrong with you and why it’s not working.

Even if you are going on lots of dates, if the type of men you’re looking for aren’t the ones showing up, it’s frustrating. 

Sound familiar? 

If your answer is yes, do you know why you’re not attracting the type of men you want?  

Do you want to know how? 

  1. Be willing to acknowledge and admit that you don’t have all the answers. If you’re stuck in the “I already know that” and “I already did that work,” then you’re never going to get anywhere. Open up to the possibility that there’s something you don’t know yet and that there’s something that’s stopping you.
    Remember too, there are often many layers when it comes to beliefs and fears. Just because you’ve done some personal development work, doesn’t mean there’s not something else there.  Be willing and courageous enough to get your blocks out of the way so you can have the kind of love you want.

     

  2. Gain awareness about what’s stopping you. Even if you have all the dating skills and are attracting the right men, if you don’t have awareness about your own blind spots, dating leaves you feeling empty and like nothing  works.

    If you feel like you keep attracting the same type of man – and he’s not what you’re looking for – get curious about why. Look into your personal beliefs, patterns and fears, and see what’s connected.

    When I was frustrated because I kept attracting the same type of men with all the same issues I didn’t want, I got curious.

    Through my Heartwork, I realized that the issues the men were presenting were directly related to beliefs I had about myself that I’d formed as a child and throughout my life. When I did the work to shift those beliefs, the men I started attracting and the relationships I began creating changed.

     

  3. Commit to doing whatever you need to do to have a breakthrough. Let go of hoping, wishing and waiting for things to change and for him to magically appear. We have worked with women that have been alone and waiting for 15, 20, even 35 years before they’ve committed to doing whatever it takes to create a shift.  You don’t have to wait that long.

    Yes, we believe in having faith. And you must have faith coupled with action.

     

  4. Move forward with committed action! Clarify your online profile. Say yes to lots of dates! Be okay with things looking and feeling differently than you’re used to.

    Your gut responds to your comfort zone, so it’s natural to feel a bit of fear when things start working differently than the patterns you’ve always had. Allow your brain time to reorient and keep moving forward, even if it feels kind of strange.

     

  5. Allow yourself time to get to know men and see them through the lens of the relationship of your dreams. If you say you want a relationship with a kind, loving, passionate man who doesn’t have kids, and then you meet a man that is kind, loving and passionate who does have kids, that doesn’t mean you’re not attracting the right type of men! It simply means you prefer to date a man who doesn’t have children.Be open to the idea that you may find something great in someone who’s circumstances aren’t exactly what you thought you’d prefer. And if you are clear that it’s not what you want, choose to let it go and know that the right men are out there and the next one is coming.

Here’s the thing, so much is possible when you open yourself up and do the inner work to discover why you’re not attracting the men you want. 

This is why we do the work we do. We help women to see their blind spots and breakthrough them so they can create the relationship of their dreams. 

We know that all the dating skills, tricks, and how-to’s don’t mean anything unless there is clarity on the inside. 

If you’d like someone who knows how to ask the right questions and can help you recognize your personal blind spots so you can start attracting the type of men you want, then we are the coaches for you!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Helping women to see the thing that holds the key to their freedom is why we do what we do, because when you see it, then you can do something about it. 

Let us support you in connecting the dots so that you can create the relationship of your dreams now