by Gladys Diaz
Why do some people have an amazing experience with online dating and others feel like it stinks, sucks, or is just plain NOT fun?
In our modern world of dating and romance, online dating sites and apps are one of the main ways couples are meeting one another. They promise love, all from the convenience of your phone or laptop.
But diving into the world of online dating is less like jumping into a pool and more like stepping onto a high-speed treadmill…
Here’s how to navigate the online dating scene, from getting your mindset in the right place, setting a powerful and inspiring intention and creating a magnetic profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! (If you missed our last Love Chat With The Love Twins on this topic, click HERE to tune in!)
So why are some women matching with many high-quality men, getting asked out on dates, and having a ton of fun meeting and getting to know new men, while others feel like they’re matching with nothing but scammers, cat-fishers, or men who are still living in their mother’s basement?
Let me relate to it like this:
There are some people that really love going to the gym, they love the atmosphere, the sweating, and the challenge. I’m not really one of those people – I really have to work at motivating myself to get there.
However, if I knew – without a doubt – that the results I wanted were on the other side of going – I’d probably feel differently! If I knew that strength, vitality, and health were waiting for me, just by showing up – that belief would shift my mindset and I’d be there every day!
It’s the same with online dating.
The truth is: If you’re not getting the results you want, the first place you need to look is at your mindset.
If you believe online dating won’t work for you, that you’ll only attract scammers, or that it will be hard, time consuming and scary – then that’s exactly what you’ll get.
I can give you all the tips and tricks in the book to craft the perfect online profile (and I will in just a moment!), but if your mindset isn’t in the right place none of it will make a difference.
The first step in attracting Extraordinary Love through online dating is:
Shifting Your Energy – What are some of the fears you have that are influencing what you’re experiencing in dating?
Wouldn’t it be amazing if all you had to do is shift your mindset in order for the things you’re doing in dating to work!
It really could be that simple!
After you shift your energy, the 2nd thing to do is:
Set Your Intention – What do you want to create in your online dating experience and future relationship?
Going back to the analogy of going to the gym and working out, my intention really matters in how motivated I’m going to be to do it.
If my intention is: “I want to lose the 10 pounds I haven’t been able to shed for the last 10 years.” I might not be very inspired to work for it.
However, my intention is: “To recreate myself as a healthy woman who feels vibrant and alive so I can travel to visit my kids and live a long life with my future grandchildren.” – that’s a vision!
Set a powerful and inspiring intention for your dating experience. For example:
“I’m open to meeting men who are aligned with my vision where I have fun and get to create an extraordinary relationship with one who will become my husband.”
Okay – so after you’ve made sure your mindset is in the right place and set a powerful and inspiring intention, then – and ONLY then, can you get on the apps and begin crafting the profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you!
Craft a Magnetic Online Dating Profile
Your profile needs to reflect YOU.
Not to put the pressure on, but the fact is, you have 3-6 seconds (or in some cases, more like ½ a second) to grab the attention of a future date or partner.
Here are 5 keys to crafting the profile that will grab his attention, reflect you, and inspire the RIGHT men to swipe right!
- Profile Pictures – A picture might say a thousand words, but make sure yours are saying the right ones.
Include 4-5 photos in your profile. Make sure the first one is a headshot photo, where you’re facing forward, eyes open and smiling. NO SELFIES!
For the remaining photos, opt for photos that show the “real” you—maybe you’re kayaking, reading in a coffee shop, or building a robot.
*** Tips for great online dating profile pictures:
- No group photos, or photos of other people’s heads or arms cut off.
- Make sure you’re the focus of the picture and if possible, include photos where you’re taking up ⅔ of the photo
- Have at least one full-body shot
- Include lifestyle photos showing things you enjoy doing
- Do NOT use filters
- SMILE 😀
2. 1st Line of Bio – Who are you?
What’s the MOST important thing you want someone to know about you?
Not what you do for work – this isn’t LinkedIN. It’s not that you love dogs or that you’ve traveled the world.
WHO are you? What are the top three words that describe YOU?
Example: “I am an optimistic, joyful, and spiritual woman.”
Leave out the masculine words like, determined, committed or punctual. These words are for your resume, not your dating profile. Remember your intention and that the goal here is to attract the RIGHT man.
3. 2nd Line of Bio – Why are you here?
The next line in your online dating profile description or bio is to share what you’re looking to create. Share the top 5 words that describe what you want to create in the dating experience and relationship. (This is why it’s so important to have a clear intention and love vision!)
Examples:
- “I’m seeking to experience a fun, inspiring, loving relationship that leads to marriage.”
- “I’m looking to create a long-term loving relationship full of laughter, fun, spirituality and growth.”
The person who’s inspired by your statement will probably be intrigued and keep reading! This is a vital key in attracting the RIGHT men to you.
4. 3rd Line of Bio – What do you enjoy doing?
Next, share a few of the things you enjoy doing with someone else.
Do you enjoy dancing, going on long hikes, meeting new people or learning how to cook new recipes?
Take the opportunity to share a few of the things you’d enjoy doing on a date should someone connect with you further.
5. Invitation
The final piece of your magnetic profile is the invitation.
“If this sounds like an experience you’d like to share, I look forward to getting to know you.”
“If you have any questions, I’d love to hear from you.”
Ultimately, online dating is an adventure, not a destination. It’s about meeting new people, learning about yourself, and maybe—just maybe—finding someone who gets your obscure movie references.
Our mission is that the experiences you’re having are consistently moving you forward into the relationship you want to be in!
Focus on what you want and align your energy with the experiences you want to have for the rest of your life and see the results you want follow!
If you’d like even more, join us this Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!
This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!
