Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

by Michelle Roza

Do you have a fear of losing yourself in a relationship? 

You’re not alone. It’s one of the biggest fears many women have when it comes to love.

You’ve heard the stories, seen it happen to friends, and maybe even lived it yourself: 

You start off strong, confident, and vibrant, and then somewhere along the way, you find yourself bending, compromising, and shrinking just to keep the relationship going. Before you know it, you’re playing the role of someone else—someone who’s not the real you. 

It’s a story as old as time, but here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be YOUR story.

This week, we debunked the myth that being in a relationship means losing yourself. (If you missed this week’s LIVE Love Chat With The Love Twins, click HERE to Watch the Replay!)

Because the truth is, real love doesn’t ask you to give up who you are. In fact, it allows you to become even MORE of who you are.

The Myth: Losing Yourself in Love

There’s a lot of nonsense out there about what it means to be in a relationship. 

You might have heard that being in love means sacrificing who you are, giving up your dreams, or becoming half of a whole. 

Well, we’re here to tell you it’s a total myth. 

You don’t have to give up who you are to find love; in fact, holding on to your values, your quirks, and your dreams is what creates a magnetic pull for the right kind of love.

The Truth: The Right Relationship EXPANDS You

Research shows that the right relationship is one where both partners grow and expand. 

A study from Carnegie Mellon University found that people in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to take on new challenges, pursue their personal goals, and grow as individuals. 

They’re healthier, happier, and more confident. And yes, this applies to both men and women!

When you’re with the right partner, you don’t lose your identity; you enhance it. 

You become more of who you are. In the right relationship, you don’t have to hide parts of yourself or settle for less. Instead, you and your partner grow together, enriching each other’s lives.

Healing the Patterns That Created This Fear

But we get it: there’s a reason this fear exists. 

Maybe you’ve been in relationships in the past where you did lose yourself. You might have changed your appearance, put your dreams on the back burner, or even let go of your core values just to keep the peace. 

That’s not your fault; it’s a pattern that many women fall into, often without realizing it.

The key to breaking this pattern is to heal the wounds that created it. You see, when we don’t fully love and accept who we are, we look for validation in our partners. We let their opinions and desires dictate our actions, and slowly but surely, we lose sight of ourselves. 

To break free, you need to do the inner work: recognize where these fears come from and choose to let them go.

At the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Event, we dive deep into uncovering these patterns and fears that have kept you from showing up as the woman you truly are. Because when you understand where these fears originated, you can rewrite your story and step into a new chapter—one where you create a relationship that honors YOU.

The Difference Between Independent, Co-dependent, and Interdependent Relationships

Now, let’s break down the different types of relationships, so you know what to aim for and what to avoid.

  • Independent Relationships: In these relationships, each partner operates in their own bubble. There’s little sharing, support, or deep connection. While independence is important, when taken to an extreme, it can lead to loneliness and emotional distance.
  • Co-dependent Relationships: This is where you lose yourself. You become overly reliant on your partner for validation, support, and even your sense of identity. You bend over backward to meet their needs, often at the expense of your own. It’s an unhealthy dynamic that can feel suffocating and draining.
  • Interdependent Relationships: Ah, this is the sweet spot! Interdependence means that you and your partner are strong individuals who choose to support, love, and grow with each other. You don’t need each other to be whole, but you choose to share your lives and lift each other higher. You maintain your individuality while building a life together.

Interdependence is where love truly thrives, and it’s where you can grow without losing yourself. It’s about being two whole people who come together to create something even more beautiful!

Living Your Values: The Key to Lasting Love

Remember the movie Runaway Bride? Julia Roberts’ character didn’t even know how she liked her eggs because she always adapted to the preferences of whichever man she was with. She’d completely lose touch with her own desires and values. Sound familiar?

When you don’t know what you stand for, you’re easily swayed by others’ opinions. And in relationships, this is a recipe for disaster. 

But when you’re confident in who you are and live your values consistently, you not only feel more empowered, but you also attract a partner who loves you for exactly who you are.

Living your values means knowing what’s important to you—whether it’s honesty, adventure, kindness, or growth—and standing by those principles, even when it’s not easy. 

When you do this, you’ll naturally attract someone who respects those values and lives their own as well. The right man won’t want you to change; he’ll love you for who you are and join you on the journey of life!

Debunking the Mirror Myth: Disagreement Is Not a Bad Thing!

There’s another myth out there that says your partner should be your mirror, someone who thinks exactly like you and agrees with everything you say. 

False! 

You and your partner are two unique individuals, which means you’ll have different perspectives. And that’s okay!

The beauty of interdependence is that it allows space for both partners to be themselves. You don’t have to agree on everything. In fact, the healthiest relationships are those where partners respect each other’s differences and find ways to grow from them. Disagreements are an opportunity to learn, expand, and deepen your connection.

You Can Have the Life and Love Your Heart Desires

So, here’s the truth: you can love without losing yourself. You can find a partner who celebrates who you are, who joins you in living a life of growth, and who stands by your side as you both pursue your dreams. 

You deserve that kind of love, and it’s 100% possible for you.

If you’re ready to break free from the fears that have held you back and learn how to show up as the woman you declare yourself to be, we invite you to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE event. This is your chance to uncover the patterns of the past, step into your power, and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

Love doesn’t mean losing yourself; it means becoming the fullest version of who you are. 

And we’re here to show you exactly how to make that happen.

Join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE and learn how to love in a way that honors your values, your desires, and the woman you’re meant to be. 

Because when you do, you’ll attract a love that celebrates you and a partner who grows with you.

Your next chapter is waiting. Are you ready to say YES to it? 💖

 

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

by Gladys Diaz

Today, Ric & I are celebrating our 24th Wedding Anniversary!

“24 years of marriage…”

It feels surreal, especially when I once thought I’d never love again.

What fills my heart with joy is that we’re more in love than ever! 

Here’s what I know – reaching 24 years of marriage, 25 years together, and still being happy, best friends, with love, connection, intimacy, and adventure in our relationship isn’t something that “just happens,” no matter how “perfect” a match seems.

Do you want to know how to break through the patterns that are holding you back in love?

How to move past the fears that are keeping you from the relationship you want?
Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone so you can create the type of relationship where you have 24, 64, 78 years together!

If you’re ready to transform your love life, then skip the reading, get all the juicy details, and claim your spot here: Join Us LIVE at No Cost this Saturday, July 20th, 2024.

Click the link above, secure your complimentary seat, and embark on your journey to creating a loving, lasting relationship with a high-quality man who will cherish you forever.

During these 3 hours together, you’ll learn how to:

💖 Easily attract a strong, confident man who is inspired and NOT intimidated by a successful woman like you

💖 Naturally become the kind of woman a man can’t help but fall in love with (without changing who you are)

💖 Create a lifelong relationship that adds joy and love to your life, and deepens over time, so you have someone to share all the wonders of life with

Join us for this transformative training and learn how to create the loving, supportive, and fulfilling relationship you want, where you get to experience everything you imagine love to be—and MORE. 🌟

If you’re ready to make your love story extraordinary – then click below to claim your spot NOW! 💖

Click HERE to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

It’s your turn to meet the love of your life and start celebrating year after year of “Meet-a-Versaries,” “Kiss-a-Versaries,” and Wedding Anniversaries!

24 years from now you could be looking back at this Saturday, remembering the transformation you experienced that led to you creating your great love story.

Register for your spot at the Masterclass, and let’s begin writing YOUR story now!

 

Swipe Smarter, Not Harder: Expert Insights & Strategies for Online Dating

Swipe Smarter, Not Harder: Expert Insights & Strategies for Online Dating

by Gladys Diaz

Why do some people have an amazing experience with online dating and others feel like it stinks, sucks, or is just plain NOT fun?

In our modern world of dating and romance, online dating sites and apps are one of the main ways couples are meeting one another. They promise love, all from the convenience of your phone or laptop.

But diving into the world of online dating is less like jumping into a pool and more like stepping onto a high-speed treadmill… 

Here’s how to navigate the online dating scene, from getting your mindset in the right place, setting a powerful and inspiring intention and creating a magnetic profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! (If you missed our last Love Chat With The Love Twins on this topic, click HERE to tune in!)

So why are some women matching with many high-quality men, getting asked out on dates, and having a ton of fun meeting and getting to know new men, while others feel like they’re matching with nothing but scammers, cat-fishers, or men who are still living in their mother’s basement? 

Let me relate to it like this:

There are some people that really love going to the gym, they love the atmosphere, the sweating, and the challenge. I’m not really one of those people – I really have to work at motivating myself to get there.

However, if I knew – without a doubt – that the results I wanted were on the other side of going – I’d probably feel differently! If I knew that strength, vitality, and health were waiting for me, just by showing up – that belief would shift my mindset and I’d be there every day!

It’s the same with online dating.

The truth is: If you’re not getting the results you want, the first place you need to look is at your mindset.

 

If you believe online dating won’t work for you, that you’ll only attract scammers, or that it will be hard, time consuming and scary – then that’s exactly what you’ll get. 

I can give you all the tips and tricks in the book to craft the perfect online profile (and I will in just a moment!), but if your mindset isn’t in the right place none of it will make a difference.

The first step in attracting Extraordinary Love through online dating is: 

Shifting Your Energy – What are some of the fears you have that are influencing what you’re experiencing in dating? 

Wouldn’t it be amazing if all you had to do is shift your mindset in order for the things you’re doing in dating to work! 

It really could be that simple! 

After you shift your energy, the 2nd thing to do is: 

Set Your Intention – What do you want to create in your online dating experience and future relationship?

Going back to the analogy of going to the gym and working out, my intention really matters in how motivated I’m going to be to do it.

If my intention is: “I want to lose the 10 pounds I haven’t been able to shed for the last 10 years.” I might not be very inspired to work for it. 

However, my intention is: “To recreate myself as a healthy woman who feels vibrant and alive so I can travel to visit my kids and live a long life with my future grandchildren.” – that’s a vision! 

Set a powerful and inspiring intention for your dating experience. For example: 

 I’m open to meeting men who are aligned with my vision where I have fun and get to create an extraordinary relationship with one who will become my husband.

Okay – so after you’ve made sure your mindset is in the right place and set a powerful and inspiring intention, then – and ONLY then, can you get on the apps and begin crafting the profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! 

Craft a Magnetic Online Dating Profile

Your profile needs to reflect YOU.

Not to put the pressure on, but the fact is, you have 3-6 seconds (or in some cases, more like ½ a second) to grab the attention of a future date or partner.

Here are 5 keys to crafting the profile that will grab his attention, reflect you, and inspire the RIGHT men to swipe right!  

  1. Profile Pictures – A picture might say a thousand words, but make sure yours are saying the right ones. 

Include 4-5 photos in your profile. Make sure the first one is a headshot photo, where you’re facing forward, eyes open and smiling. NO SELFIES! 

For the remaining photos, opt for photos that show the “real” you—maybe you’re kayaking, reading in a coffee shop, or building a robot. 

*** Tips for great online dating profile pictures:

  • No group photos, or photos of other people’s heads or arms cut off. 
  • Make sure you’re the focus of the picture and if possible, include photos where you’re taking up ⅔ of the photo
  • Have at least one full-body shot
  • Include lifestyle photos showing things you enjoy doing
  • Do NOT use filters
  • SMILE 😀

2. 1st Line of Bio – Who are you? 

What’s the MOST important thing you want someone to know about you?

Not what you do for work – this isn’t LinkedIN. It’s not that you love dogs or that you’ve traveled the world.

WHO are you? What are the top three words that describe YOU? 

Example: “I am an optimistic, joyful, and spiritual woman.

Leave out the masculine words like, determined, committed or punctual. These words are for your resume, not your dating profile. Remember your intention and that the goal here is to attract the RIGHT man. 

3. 2nd Line of Bio – Why are you here?

The next line in your online dating profile description or bio is to share what you’re looking to create. Share the top 5 words that describe what you want to create in the dating experience and relationship. (This is why it’s so important to have a clear intention and love vision!)

Examples:  

  • I’m seeking to experience a fun, inspiring, loving relationship that leads to marriage.” 
  • “I’m looking to create a long-term loving relationship full of laughter, fun, spirituality and growth.” 

The person who’s inspired by your statement will probably be intrigued and keep reading! This is a vital key in attracting the RIGHT men to you.

4. 3rd Line of Bio – What do you enjoy doing? 

Next, share a few of the things you enjoy doing with someone else. 

Do you enjoy dancing, going on long hikes, meeting new people or learning how to cook new recipes? 

Take the opportunity to share a few of the things you’d enjoy doing on a date should someone connect with you further.

5. Invitation

The final piece of your magnetic profile is the invitation. 

 If this sounds like an experience you’d like to share, I look forward to getting to know you.” 

 “If you have any questions, I’d love to hear from you.” 

Ultimately, online dating is an adventure, not a destination. It’s about meeting new people, learning about yourself, and maybe—just maybe—finding someone who gets your obscure movie references. 

Our mission is that the experiences you’re having are consistently moving you forward into the relationship you want to be in!

Focus on what you want and align your energy with the experiences you want to have for the rest of your life and see the results you want follow!

If you’d like even more, join us this Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass! 

This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

 

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

by Gladys Diaz

What happens when it all goes to (you know where)?!”

Do you ever have the feeling that something bad is inevitably going to happen, even when things are going great?

Things are going really well…

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?” 

If that ever happens to you – listen up. 

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong. 

Sound familiar? 

We see this all the time with our clients  – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves! 

You’re just about to have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage. 

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing… 

If you find yourself feeling uncertain, confused or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it. 

You’re having a worthiness conversation. 

You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

At some point you created a belief that has you believe you can’t actually have the things you want. 

If you ever worry that you’ll have to “settle”… 

Then you don’t actually believe you can have exactly what you want. 

If you worry that even if you do meet him, it won’t last… 

Then deep down you don’t believe you can have and keep the relationship that you want. 

 So how do you shift these sabotaging thought patterns?

 Ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid of? 
  2. What created that belief? 
  3. Where did the belief come from? 

The first step to dismantling a belief that’s not serving you is to uncover what your current beliefs are. 

Once you understand what the belief is and where it came from, then you can begin to do the HeartWork to break apart the belief and dismantle it in order to create a new belief. 

And not just an affirmation or nice idea… 

We mean NEW neural pathways in your brain that actually transform the belief in the cells of your body so you begin to attract and manifest exactly what you want – and know that you can have it! 

This is exactly what we do at the Extraordinary Love Intensive, which is coming up in February 2024!

3 full days of shifting these dysfunctional patterns so that you can create everything you want NOW! 

The event is life-changing because I promise you, if this is impacting your love life, it’s impacting other areas, finances, career, family relationships, too. 

If you want to start your New Year empowered to create everything you want (and more!) then click below to claim your ticket for the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

YES! I Want to Create Extraordinary Love in 2024! 

Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life. 

 

The Key to Love, Confidence and Empowerment!

The Key to Love, Confidence and Empowerment!

by Michelle Roza

What’s the key to true love?

Many women think it lies in finding the right person or having a perfected list of qualities you’re looking for in a partner.


Some think it’s about where or how you meet the person,  while others think the key is in “divine timing.”

What we’ve found from working with women of every age, from many countries, and all backgrounds is that there is one thing that truly separates the women that create the loving, intimate, long term relationship they desire and those who don’t.

The key to creating true love with another person is creating true love within yourself first.

That’s why we created the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle! The course begins TODAY, so now is your LAST chance to claim this before it’s gone for good!

Click HERE for the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle!

Now, we’re not talking about self-care, though we do encourage doing all the things that fill you up and nourish your soul.

Self-love is deeper.

Self-love is about the relationship you have with yourself.

Real Self-Love is:

  • The things you say about and to yourself
  • Feeling comfortable with the most intimate parts of who you are
  • The beliefs you hold about yourself
  • The way you trust who you are and how you feel
  • Loving and accepting every part of you, even the parts of you you’re afraid others may not like
  • Bringing forgiveness and acceptance to your past.

True self-love creates confidence, trust and the ability to create the things you most deeply desire.  

This is important whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in a relationship that isn’t everything you hoped it would be.

The relationship you have with yourself will be reflected in the relationships you create with other people.

We know that knowing exactly what to do and how to do it  brings incredible amounts of confidence,  joy, and empowerment, because the relationship you have with yourself is the ONE thing you have total control over.

Everything starts with you.

And that’s GREAT news!

When I was in the midst of my own journey to self-love, everything in my life looked perfect on the outside.

I had the job, I had great kids, I traveled with my girlfriends, and I was dating a lot — though none of those dating experiences ever went very far.

Men would always tell me that I had an amazing life and was an amazing woman, but that they knew they just couldn’t give me what I wanted.

I felt so confused and wondered why –

If my life was so awesome, how could I still come home at night and feel so miserable and lonely and alone?

Once I did the HeartWork I realized that all I wanted was someone to validate that I was lovable, when what I really needed was to create that love inside myself first.

Recognizing that belief, uncovering where it came from, and creating something different within myself was such a transformative experience that it’s literally why we started doing the work that we do.

We want every single woman to create the love and relationship that she deserves and desires, and we want it for you RIGHT NOW!

That’s why Gladys and I put together this insane Black Friday bundle AND why we extended the sale through TODAY (goes away FOR GOOD at midnight EST)!

Imagine breaking through the things that are blocking you from creating new love and creating the opening to call in the relationship of your dreams NOW.

When women work with us they create new jobs, receive promotions, manifest new homes, and create the relationship of their dreams — and you’re getting the opportunity to work with us for just $87!

If you’re ready to create a deeply loving, profound, and powerful relationship with yourself that will have you create the life and love you really want, then grab the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle before it goes away TODAY!

The Radiant YOU 21 Day program begins TODAYso now is your last chance!

CLICK HERE TO JOIN US NOW! 

When you dive into all this bundle includes you’ll have exactly what you need to create everything your heart desires!

 

Unlock Your Irresistible Potential: 3 Steps to Manifest Your Heart’s Desires Today!

Unlock Your Irresistible Potential: 3 Steps to Manifest Your Heart’s Desires Today!

by Michelle Roza

What were the goals you set in January?

Where did you want to be in your life?

We’ve entered the final three months of the year – Woah what?!

When you hear that… Do you feel confronted? Triggered? Excited? Ready?

Last weekend was our Irresistible Woman LIVE event and it was incredible. What a powerful week we spent with strong, empowered women with a desire to be irresistible!

Is that a desire you have?

If you answered yes, then how do you stop putting off the dreams that you have? 

How do you not make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past? 

How do you stop thinking about how much time you’ve wasted and move forward to create the life, including the relationship, of your dreams now?

Three Steps to Becoming the Irresistible Woman Who Can Create Everything Her Heart Desires NOW

1) Skills – Learn How to Rise Above Our Human Emotional Moments

You may or may not know that over the past month our mother has been in the hospital. There’s been moments when she seems to be doing better and moments when she doesn’t seem to know who we (her twin daughters) are – and it’s continuing to be a day-by-day process. 

The experience has been exhausting, sad, and heartbreaking.

You better believe there’ve been moments when I’ve wished I could go crawl into a bed and not think about any of this anymore – because I’m human…

Just like you. 

People have asked how Gladys and I have been able to continue running our business, taking care of our families and everything else on top of this ongoing struggle and the answer, in addition to our incredible partners, is our vision and mindset.  

This is one of the reasons we do what we do.

So we can support other women and teach them how to live through all of the ups and downs of life with the emotional skills to rise above them. 

2) Vision – Have the Courage to Believe and Declare You Can Have it NOW

Sometimes when we have a big goal we continue to feel like the little girl in the pool with floaties on. We hang on to what we have always done or known in the past and it gives us a false sense of safety or security.

But nothing extraordinary ever came from staying safe!

In order to create the big goals you have for your life you must declare it!

Admit what you want! 

Be free to say it out loud so you will attract the life, adventure and love you desire!

Own what you want, believe you can have it, and declare it boldly through your words and actions!

3) Commitment – Do Whatever it Takes 

The difference between wanting something and being committed is going all in and finding a way – no matter what. 

Want to know the #1 thing that makes the biggest difference when you’re working towards any dream or goal, and striving to rise above your human moments? 

Consistent guided support and coaching.

You don’t know what you don’t know, so having someone there who knows exactly how to create your heart’s desires telling you exactly what you need to do next makes all the difference in the world!

Having someone there when you hit a wall of disappointment, resistance or fear to pick you up and give you your very next best step – that’s what’s going to have you create the relationship of your dreams!

If you haven’t had a call with one of our Love Breakthrough Coaches yet – click here to schedule a call now!

Our coaches are there for this very purpose – to give you your next best step and support you in taking action towards the extraordinary love that you dream of! They know the HeartWork inside and out and they’re here so you can move forward!

Give yourself this gift and know that you’re on your way.

 What’s your vision? 

Who do you want to be known as? 

What’s your love legacy?

We all get to rise above and we get to do it together.  

Let us support you by clicking HERE to book a Love Breakthrough Call!