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Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

by heartsdesireintl | May 22, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Single Mother, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you struggle making time for your love life?

You may be a single mom and have a hard time finding a babysitter.

Maybe you travel a lot for work and find it hard to make time for dating or your partner.

Finding time for dating can feel challenging.

Juggling work commitments, household responsibilities, and parenting duties can make it seem that there’s little room for personal endeavors.

We get it.

Both Gladys and I are entrepreneurs running multiple businesses, wives, mothers, and dog-moms. We have clients, team members and family to take care of – on top of making time for our own work-outs, self-care and rest.

I remember when I was a single mom trying to make it all work and wondering if it was possible to have it all…

The thing to remember is that carving out time for romance is essential for self-care and building meaningful connections.

In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies and mindset shifts to help busy professionals and single moms make time for dating in their demanding lives.

#1: Make Your Love Life and Dating a Top Priority in Your Life

The first thing you must do is make dating a top priority. Right up there with taking care of yourself.

If you don’t make your love life a priority then another summer goes by and you’re still alone. Another birthday comes and goes and you aren’t spending it with the one you love.

Let’s get rid of regret and start creating your dreams NOW!

Dating isn’t just another thing you have to do and until you start relating to it as self-care and not an item to be checked off your list – only then will you start enjoying it and start creating the results you want!

#2: Prioritize Self-Care

As a single mom and professional, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. When you don’t, you slowly begin to resent the people in your life that need you and want to spend time with you.

This puts you in low energy and makes it impossible to attract the things you want into your life!

When you prioritize taking care of yourself, you boost your well-being AND enhance your ability to be present and engaged in dating.

Set aside dedicated time each day and week for activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditating, praying, reading, pursuing a hobby (or sitting and doing nothing if that’s what you want to do)!

By nurturing your own happiness, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating while managing your all of your other responsibilities.

#3: Create Opportunities in Your Schedule to Date and Spend Time With Your Partner

Sometimes you get to be creative when you have a lot of priorities and are short on time.

Remember how I said we get it? We do!

Sometimes spending time together looks like long walks, movies and going to bed together.

And sometimes we get to be creative!

If Arnie and I have a particularly full day, we’ll wake up 15 minutes early so we can sit on the porch and have our coffee together.

Gladys and Ric go to lunch together every single Friday, which they’ve been doing for years!

Why?

Because prioritizing our relationships is important to us and it’s imperative to keeping the love alive!

If you’re looking at opportunities to meet men as something you dread or as a time-waster – it’s time to shift your mindset and embrace meeting men as something that is fun and worth it!

#4: Create a Structure for Your Time and Manage Your Time Well

You’re precious, your time is precious and you get to manage it well.

Prioritize your tasks, set realistic deadlines, plan dating into your calendar and create a structured schedule.

Look for pockets of time in your routine where you can squeeze in a date or a brief phone call with a potential partner.

TIP: You don’t need to be juggling 15 dating apps and chatting with 100 men at a time – now that might feel overwhelming!

You need to be on three dating apps with a profile that will attract the men who are a match for you!

If you don’t have that or you need support with your mindset or time management – Schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with a Coach!

As a busy professional and/or single mom, making time for dating can feel like an uphill battle. However, by shifting your mindset and making it a priority, prioritizing self-care, creating creative opportunities to date, creating a structure for it and managing your time well, you can successfully integrate dating into your busy life.

Remember, finding love and nurturing relationships is a vital aspect of personal growth and happiness!

And you get to have it ALL!

How to BOOST Your Confidence to a Level TEN!

by heartsdesireintl | Dec 16, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you hard on yourself about things that have happened in the past?

Do you wonder why you keep attracting the wrong type of men into your life?

Do you wish you could stop making the same mistakes when it comes to relationships and love?

When the results you continue to experience in love and relationships are less than what you want – your confidence gets shaken.

And when you don’t do the work to get to the root of what has you continuing to create these experiences, there’s a chain of consequences that follow…

We call this chain the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle.

When something less than ideal happens and you say things to yourself like:

“How could I be so dumb?”

“When am I going to stop attracting liars?”

“When am I ever going to get it right?”

You create fears and love barriers which then has you create more of the same and your confidence and trust in yourself (and your ability to create the love you want) disintegrates.

Here’s what the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle looks like:

Event
You Make a Decision/Judgment About What Happened
Love Barrier (Fear) is Created
Dysfunctional Pattern is Created (Actions)
You Get Results that You Don’t Want
You Make Another Decision/Judgment About Yourself (Trust and Confidence is Eroded)
Another Limiting Belief (Fear) is Created

And the cycle repeats itself over and over!

Being in this cycle is what has you doubt yourself, not trust others, feel the need to “take a break” from dating and more.

So how do you shift this cycle and uplevel your confidence in yourself and others?

In order to stop the dysfunctional dating cycle and begin to experience yourself as the type of woman who can create what she wants in life and love, you must do the HeartWork!

When you get the results you want – your confidence and trust in yourself goes up!

1. See It – Acknowledge what’s not working. Get to the root of what is having you continue to create the results you don’t want.

2. Shift It – Do the HeartWork and learn how to replace the broken pieces with the RIGHT one.

This isn’t about tips and tricks.

This is about healing the pieces of your past that created those limiting beliefs that aren’t allowing you to create what you really want.

3. Experience It – When you free yourself from the fears you hold, you allow yourself to create new thoughts and behaviors, which creates different results and a new healthy pattern unfolds!

When you transform the dysfunctional patterns you have in love – you transform YOU.

Would you like to create this shift for yourself?

GOOD NEWS!

We’re dedicating 3 days in February to teach you how to do exactly this!

At the Love Vision Intensive 3-Day Event, you’ll experience a new level of healing that will allow you to truly move forward in confidence and trust to create the results in love that you want!

If you want…

2023 to be the year you’re in the relationship of your dreams
To know how to STOP the dysfunctional patterns
Your confidence to soar as you experience incredible results.

Then you NEED to join us for the Love Vision Intensive!

Yes – Claim my seat now!

If you want to be married next year – the next 3-6 months are critical.

Make a choice today to have 2023 be the year you create everything you’ve dreamed of!

How to Create Success in EVERY Area of Life, Including Love!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 28, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you feel like you’re successful at just about everything in your life – except one thing?

When it comes to your career, you’re moving up and progressing phenomenally…

Your relationships with your children are flourishing…

You have beautiful friendships with girlfriends who you love spending time with…

But when it comes to creating the relationship of your dreams with a man you adore – it’s just not happening.

Before I met Arnie, I remember experiencing this in my own life.

I felt like I had so much going right for me and I was really enjoying the life I had created, but I still always felt like something was missing because I wasn’t being successful at love.

And for a while I convinced myself that I didn’t really want a relationship. That maybe it simply wasn’t in the cards for me and that I could be perfectly happy alone.

I also had a fear.

For my whole life I had always needed a man. I did an exercise at one point where I realized that I’d always had a boyfriend since the time I was 6 years old! That was a lot of years to feel like I NEEDED a man in order to be happy.

And I’d allowed that fear to convince me that I didn’t need a man – and I didn’t even want one.

But that wasn’t my truth.

Everything changed when I got really honest with myself –

And realized how resigned I’d become to some of the things I really did want –

Which included being in an extraordinary relationship with an incredible man!

I realized that it’s possible to live an incredible and successful life as a single woman AND desire and be actively engaged in creating the love and relationship you truly want.

Let me tell you how:

1) Lean Into Your Desire To Have It –

You can’t create what you don’t declare that you want. A woman who knows she’s worthy will not deny herself of what she truly wants. Be honest with yourself and decide that you get to have everything that you want – especially when it comes to love!

2) Be Intentional With Dating –

Let people in your life know that you’re available
Stop talking negatively about men to yourself (you know the thoughts in your head that come up) and with your girlfriends. (And if you notice your friends talking negatively about men around you, let them know that you’d prefer not to have those conversations anymore.)
Make sure you’re having out with people who are aligned with your vision and support you in creating that.
Create an online profile that really showcases you and who you are as a woman.
Focus on what you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams.

3) Take a Whole-hearted Approach.

Make sure your heart, spirit and soul are all available to welcome in this relationship you desire. If your heart and spirit are shut down in any way to what you’re saying you want – you won’t be able to create it.

If there’s anything in the way of you being able to full-heartedly believe you can have what you want – do the HeartWork to have the breakthrough!

There’s two months left of this year and it’s going to go by in a snap.

If you want to be the woman who feels confident being single, trusts herself to see what’s really in front of her and make the decisions that are best for her, and desires to be in the relationship of her dreams then you want to join us for the Extraordinary Love NOW Event happening November 12th-13th!

This is THE event to put you on the path to be in the relationship of your dreams by the end of the year.

Grab Your Ticket Here!

You get to experience the love you have always wanted NOW by learning the skills that will have you attract the relationship of your dreams.

Don’t keep putting this dream on hold. Don’t be the woman who says, “I wish I would have done this two (or 10) years ago.”

You get to be a woman who knows this is possible for you and knows how to shorten the gap between where you are now and being IN the relationship you’ve always wanted.

Join us now!

Three Steps to Create Your Big Goals NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 4, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

What were the goals you set in January?

Where did you want to be in your relationship?

We’ve entered the final three months of the year – Woah what?!

When you hear that… Do you feel confronted? Triggered? Excited? Ready?

One of the most important decisions you’ll ever make in your life is regarding your life partner and most of the women in our community have the desire to be married.

Is that a desire you have?

If you answered yes, then how do you stop putting off the dreams that you have?

How do you not make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past?

How do you stop thinking about how much time you’ve wasted and move forward to create the relationship of your dreams now?

Three Steps to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW

1) Bring Acceptance to What Has Happened and Where You Are

Continuing to spend time thinking of what you’ve done in the past is the #1 thing that keeps women stuck.

The only way to move forward and create something you desire for your future is to let go of energy from the past! Let go of who you were before you knew better, what you’ve always attracted, what you’ve put up with or what you thought was what you wanted or deserved.

When you step out of regret your vibration and energy rises so you can attract a man from the energy of the woman you are now!

2) Have the Courage to Believe and Declare You Can Have it NOW

Sometimes when we have a big goal we continue to feel like the little girl in the pool with floaties on. We hang on to what we have always done or known in the past and it gives us a false sense of safety or security.

But nothing extraordinary ever came from staying safe!

In order to create the big goals you have for your life you must declare it!

Admit what you want!

Be free to say it out loud so you will attract the life, adventure and love you desire!

Own what you want, believe you can have it, and declare it boldly through your words and actions!

3) Do What it Takes to Have It

The thing that makes the biggest difference when you’re working towards any dream or goal is consistent guided support and coaching.

You don’t know what you don’t know, so having someone there who knows exactly how to create your heart’s desires telling you exactly what you need to do next makes all the difference in the world!

Having someone there when you hit a wall of disappointment, resistance or fear to pick you up and give you your very next best step – that’s what’s going to have you create the relationship of your dreams!

If you haven’t had a call with one of our Love Breakthrough Coaches yet – click here to schedule a call now!

Our coaches are there for this very purpose – to give you your next best step and support you in taking action towards the extraordinary love that you dream of! They know the HeartWork inside and out and they’re here so you can move forward!

Give yourself this gift and know that you’re on your way.

Don’t hesitate. Don’t overthink it.

Simply click here to book a Love Breakthrough Call!

How to Have It All… (Success in Life AND Love)

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 23, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

There are so many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship. They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.

Here’s the deal: If you believe you can’t have both, you’re living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

So many of our clients are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives.

And we are too!

That’s why, we know that not only is it possible for you to have both – it actually makes all of it even better!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman.

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying, sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on the phone with my business coach.

I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business when I felt so clueless about this aspect of running a business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream.

It’s okay if you don’t have a clue what any of those things mean either, what matters is that all these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire for that matter, would be without him.

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and say, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments.

But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I AM!

No award, degree, or certificate I’ve earned can hold a candle to that!

The most beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you AND your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in all areas of your life.

When you know that you’re a love-able woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

This is what I know was true for me and, it’s true for you too.

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there.

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