Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

by Gladys Diaz

Are you tired of wasting time on relationships that go nowhere?

Do you find yourself constantly questioning if the man you’re with truly aligns with your vision and values?

If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the cycle of uncertainty, wasting precious time and emotional energy on men who don’t meet their standards.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Dating becomes FUN and EASY when you can confidently and quickly determine if a man is a match for your Love Vision and values. 

Sounds too good to be true? It’s not. And we’re going to show you how.

The Importance of Self-Awareness

First things first, you need to know yourself. Everything starts within, and even though it might sound cliché, the foundation of any successful relationship is a deep understanding of your own love vision and values. 

We define Love Vision as what you want to experience in the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

How do you want to feel when you’re with your partner?

Do you want the relationship to feel connected, fun, and light? Are openness, passion, and intimacy things you want to experience?  

What types of activities will you do together?

Do you want to travel together? Do you want to read books and have intellectual discussions? Do you want to enjoy hiking in nature? Do you want to spend Friday nights cooking an incredible dinner together?  

What values do you want to share?

What’s most important to YOU? Do you want to be with someone who values health and adventure? Are you wanting someone who wants to create a family?

This becomes the guidebook for what you want to experience in a relationship. The more clear you are, the quicker you’ll draw it to you. The fuzzier you are, the more confusing your experience in dating will be.

Self-awareness is your compass. It guides you in the right direction and helps you recognize when something (or someone) is off course. Take some time to reflect on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t? What values did you compromise on, and how did that make you feel? Write these down. This exercise isn’t just about identifying deal-breakers; it’s about understanding what makes you thrive in a relationship.

Communication and Consistency

Now that you’ve got a clear understanding of your own vision and values, it’s time to communicate them and watch to see if someone is aligned. This isn’t about presenting a checklist on the first date – that’s a surefire way to scare anyone off! 

Instead, it’s about weaving your values into conversations naturally and giving yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior – which will inform you of his values.

Talk about what’s important to you. Share your goals, dreams, and what you’re passionate about. This not only gives you a chance to express your values, but it also provides an opportunity to gauge his reactions and responses. 

Is he supportive? Does he share similar goals? Or is he dismissive and uninterested?

Actions Speak Louder Than Words. Words are cheap. Anyone can say they value honesty, loyalty, and respect, but do their actions align with their words? This is where you need to be vigilant. Pay close attention to his behavior.

Does he follow through on his promises? How does he treat people around him – waitstaff, friends, family? Is he consistent in his actions, or does he say one thing and do another? These observations are crucial because they reveal his true character and values.

Consistency is Crucial. One-time grand gestures are impressive, but they don’t define a person’s character. And at the same time, anyone can be nervous on a first date and not show you who they really are.

Consistency over time is what you should be looking for. Give yourself time to see if someone is aligned. 

And values aren’t about “right” or “wrong”. They’re simply about what matters to YOU and what YOU want. Everything he does (or doesn’t do) is good information to have as you move toward knowing who’s the perfect match for you.

Alignment and BE-ing Your Love Vision and Values. 

This is where you get to BE what you want to experience.

If you say health is a top value of yours, what do you do to show it? 

If you want to experience openness, fun and laughter in the Relationship of Your Dreams, who are you BE-ing to bring those feelings into your dating experiences and relationships? 

Before each and every encounter you have with men, anchor yourself in your Love Vision. 

Read your Love Vision every time before going on the dating app. 

Get yourself into the energy of your Love Vision before you go on a date. 

Envision in your mind what your Love Vision looks like before you come home to your husband. 

The more aligned you are going into each experience with men, the more you’ll be able to assess compatibility and create what you want to experience!

Final Thoughts

Finding a man who matches your love vision and values isn’t about luck – it’s about clarity, communication, and keen observation. By understanding your own values, clearly communicating them, observing his actions and consistency, and BEing what you want to experience in the relationship –  you can confidently determine if someone is the right match for you.

Where can you see your vision and values creating your Yes’s and No’s in dating? 

How can you lean more into your Love Vision to know your metric for what you want to experience? 

By following these steps, you’ll empower yourself to make informed decisions about your love life, ensuring you spend your time and energy on a relationship that’s truly worth it! 

This is just the beginning! We’ll be going even deeper into this topic during the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge! 

You’ll walk away from the Challenge with crystal-clear clarity on what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams and next-steps on how to manifest it NOW!

Click HERE to register for the FREE Challenge.

We’ll let you know the dates for the Challenge ASAP – we can’t wait to be with you! 

 

 

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From Playful Banter to Lasting Connection: Tips for Fun & Successful Dating

From Playful Banter to Lasting Connection: Tips for Fun & Successful Dating

by Gladys Diaz

Flirting.

What comes to mind when you hear that word?

Is it fun? Does it feel uncomfortable? Can it be confusing?

Whether you’re flirting in person, over the phone, or through text, this will support you to know what flirting is – and isn’t –  and how to flirt with authenticity, confidence and magnetism!

After-all – those are the keys to a man’s attention and heart!

Flirting lets a man know you’re interested and is a powerful tool in dating. It’s the subtle art of communication that can ignite sparks, create interest, and open the door for deeper connection. 

But in today’s world, where the digital space is where a lot of interactions begin, has the art of flirting lost its charm? Let’s talk about flirting and its significance in modern dating.

Flirting, at its core, is about playful communication. It’s light and fun non-verbal and verbal exchange that conveys interest, attraction, and availability. From a coy smile to a witty remark, flirting is the language of romantic interest, and mastering it can significantly enhance your dating experiences.

One of the key aspects of flirting is body language. A subtle touch, maintaining eye contact, smiling, or leaning in during a conversation lets a man know you’re interested and are enjoying his company. Body language often speaks louder than words, and being attuned to these cues can help you gauge interest and respond accordingly.

Although body language is important, expressing yourself authentically with confidence and grace is important to let a man know you’re enjoying getting to know him. Men don’t like to feel rejected any more than women do and if he’s at all unsure that you want to see him again, chances are, he won’t ask.

If you’re having fun and enjoying being with him during a conversation or on a date, say so. Say things like: 

  • “I’m having fun!” 
  • “I’m enjoying getting to know you, I’d love to chat with you on the phone.” 
  • “That was a great choice of a restaurant!” 
  • “Thank you for planning such a fun date.” 
  • “I’d love to see you again!” 

Relax into your feminine receptive energy and allow him to lead the conversation, but be authentic and let him know if you’re enjoying yourself. Humor is also a powerful tool in flirting, as it shows confidence and a lighthearted attitude, both of which are attractive qualities.

Flirting isn’t just about being playful; it’s also about being attentive. Listening attentively, asking thoughtful questions, and showing genuine interest go a long way in creating a connection. 

 Flirting isn’t about following rules or playing games – it’s simply about being yourself, showing interest and having fun. 

Flirting can sometimes feel confusing because of mixed signals and misinterpretations. It’s essential to be mindful of the other person’s boundaries and comfort levels, and also not be afraid to share your own. What may be playful banter to one person may be seen as intrusive or inappropriate to another.

If the flirting becomes sexual in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it’s important to say so. Without lashing out or becoming defensive, you can say something like, “I get that you’re trying to be funny, but that type of talk makes me feel uncomfortable when I’m simply trying to get to know you.” 

If it doesn’t stop, you can clearly say, “Thank you, this isn’t a match for me.” And next.

In conclusion, flirting enhances your dating experience and creates memorable connections. Whether you’re exchanging playful banter over a coffee, sending witty texts late into the night, or engaging in flirtatious body language, flirting is about creating moments of connection, fun, and shared laughter. 

It’s about being light, fun, free, confident and your authentic Self! 

If you’d like to be able to show up this way in all of your interactions in life – confident, authentic, and magnetic – then join us next week for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU 5-Day Challenge! 

The Love You Deserve Is Waiting for YOU!

Over these five days, we’ll share with you the same steps we’ve used to help thousands of women across the globe attract and create Extraordinary Love using the same skills we used to create the deeply loving, lasting marriages we’ve always wanted with our husbands!

In just five days, your love life can be transformed into the happy, fulfilling experience your heart desires!

Click HERE to Register for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge that begins on March 18th, 2024!

Next time you’re out on a date, remember to embrace the art of flirting – you never know where it might lead.

 

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

by Gladys Diaz

What happens when it all goes to (you know where)?!”

Do you ever have the feeling that something bad is inevitably going to happen, even when things are going great?

Things are going really well…

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?” 

If that ever happens to you – listen up. 

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong. 

Sound familiar? 

We see this all the time with our clients  – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves! 

You’re just about to have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage. 

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing… 

If you find yourself feeling uncertain, confused or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it. 

You’re having a worthiness conversation. 

You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

At some point you created a belief that has you believe you can’t actually have the things you want. 

If you ever worry that you’ll have to “settle”… 

Then you don’t actually believe you can have exactly what you want. 

If you worry that even if you do meet him, it won’t last… 

Then deep down you don’t believe you can have and keep the relationship that you want. 

 So how do you shift these sabotaging thought patterns?

 Ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid of? 
  2. What created that belief? 
  3. Where did the belief come from? 

The first step to dismantling a belief that’s not serving you is to uncover what your current beliefs are. 

Once you understand what the belief is and where it came from, then you can begin to do the HeartWork to break apart the belief and dismantle it in order to create a new belief. 

And not just an affirmation or nice idea… 

We mean NEW neural pathways in your brain that actually transform the belief in the cells of your body so you begin to attract and manifest exactly what you want – and know that you can have it! 

This is exactly what we do at the Extraordinary Love Intensive, which is coming up in February 2024!

3 full days of shifting these dysfunctional patterns so that you can create everything you want NOW! 

The event is life-changing because I promise you, if this is impacting your love life, it’s impacting other areas, finances, career, family relationships, too. 

If you want to start your New Year empowered to create everything you want (and more!) then click below to claim your ticket for the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

YES! I Want to Create Extraordinary Love in 2024! 

Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life. 

 

Respect and Romance: Your Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

Respect and Romance: Your Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

by Gladys Diaz

We know that as you date in your desire to create an extraordinary relationship, the pursuit of a genuine connection with a high-quality and respectful man is important! 

If you’re having the experience that every single man you date wants to get physical right out the gate, pushes you to more than you’re comfortable with or doesn’t respect your boundaries it can cause you to not enjoy dating very much and start to believe that men only want something from you. 

While the dating experience may seem challenging at times, there are effective strategies that can empower you to attract the kind of men who align with your values, aspirations, and dreams.

Here’s the truth – a high-quality man will still want to sleep with you. 

But as you respect the boundaries you place for yourself, he’ll honor them as well. 

In this blog, we’ll delve into actionable steps you can utilize to make dating more fun and successful. By clearing any fears and thoughts that may be running in the background, deciding on your own boundaries and communicating them clearly, you’ll attract the type of high-quality men you’re looking for and enjoy getting to know them through dating.

  • Clear the Fears, Limiting Beliefs, and Thoughts that May Be Running in the Background. 

If you have any fears or limiting beliefs about men only wanting sex, wanting to take something from you, or anything similar you need to clear them out through the HeartWork or you will continue to attract exactly what you’re afraid of. 

Shifting your mindset has the power to transform your dating experiences. 

As you approach dating with an open heart, maintaining an optimistic outlook even if you meet men here and there that aren’t a match for your values, you’ll be able to view each interaction as an opportunity for growth. 

  • Audit Your Online Profile

Look at your online profile and make sure there’s nothing that suggests you’re looking for anything other than a committed, monogamous relationship. 

Sometimes in your desire to look attractive to men, especially if there’s any of the above mentioned fears or beliefs running in the background, you may include things on your profile that suggest something other than what you really want. 

  • Set Your Boundaries

To attract respectful men, it’s imperative to set clear standards and boundaries for yourself. Instead of trying to conform to outside ideas or attempting to fit into a mold, embrace your true self. 

Remember – your boundaries are for you. Boundaries aren’t for others to follow. You’re the one that gets to stand inside the line. 

What causes a lot of heartache and confusion is when you decide to move the line because you’re feeling such a great connection or you think “maybe just this once” and then get frustrated and angry when a man wants to get physical every time he sees you. 

Know your worth, what’s important to you and set your boundaries accordingly. Then stick to them no matter what. You can only expect men to respect your boundaries to the point that you do. 

  • Communicate Clearly  

Communicate your boundaries and expectations early on. Respectful men will demonstrate their willingness to invest in a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding. 

Whether it’s communication preferences, personal values, or emotional needs, articulate your boundaries with confidence and grace.

And remember – he doesn’t have to share your values to be a high-quality man. Some men (and some women) are okay with having sex on the first date – it’s not what we coach because we know it creates emotional attachment inside the woman too soon – however, it’s a preference

If you state your boundary clearly and he doesn’t feel the same, be respectful and move on. I love cheese and my husband won’t eat it on anything except pizza. We’re all different and that’s okay. 

As you clear out any fears and limiting beliefs that may be blocking you, you’ll attract high-quality and respectful men who will honor and respect your boundaries. 

By embracing your authenticity, defining your own boundaries, and communicating clearly, you’ll create meaningful connections with men who will cherish and respect you for who you truly are. 

 

Alone to Adored: How Three Women Created Extraordinary Love and How YOU can TOO! 

Alone to Adored: How Three Women Created Extraordinary Love and How YOU can TOO! 

by Gladys Diaz

Last week on Love Chat with The Love Twins, three successful, inspiring, beautiful women joined us to share a little about their journey to creating Extraordinary Love. 

They shared how their participation in our coaching programs impacted their relationships, career, health, and finances!

All three of them have created the Relationship of their Dreams and between them they’ve: 

  • Created clarity in their careers
  • Bought houses
  • Healed a tumor
  • Received raises and bonuses
  • Created additional friendships
  • Healed relationships with mothers and sisters
  • Are working on starting families and so much more!

If you missed it, you can watch the replay by clicking HERE! 

Jenna had a belief that men couldn’t love. For years she’d continued the pattern of rushing into relationships, becoming invested before she even really knew the man, realized he wasn’t the one and then, heartbroken, spending time getting over and moving on from the toxic relationship.

Jada had a fear of being alone which led her to get physically intimate and attached to men too soon by not communicating her boundaries and then finding out he was married, not who he said he was and that once again, this was not it!  

And Roslyn believed she wasn’t enough, which had her date unavailable men and twist herself into a pretzel to try to become whatever he wanted. This caused unnecessary drama in her life and created a spiral of continually dwindling her self-confidence.

Through the coaching they were open to and the HeartWork they did, they were able to breakthrough their sabotaging patterns and create the love they had always wanted!

They learned how to:

  • Not take things personally
  • Communicate boundaries in relationships
  • Find their voice
  • Live their values
  • Be authentic
  • Share effectively with men
  • Just to name a few!

The awesome thing is that these are all things we’ll be teaching this weekend in the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!     

Jenna, Jada and Roslyn all shared that this particular masterclass was one of the things that made a big difference for them in their journey to extraordinary love.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this masterclass will expand your knowledge AND skills so you can communicate and understand the men in your life – and create the type of relationships you want!

If you want to experience more love, connection and intimacy then click HERE to register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass happening this Saturday, August 26th!

This masterclass is worth over $500 and this Saturday, you have the opportunity to attend – on us

Don’t miss it!  

 

Don’t Hit Pause on Love:The Power of Commitment and Momentum in Dating

Don’t Hit Pause on Love:The Power of Commitment and Momentum in Dating

by Gladys Diaz

Have you ever felt frustrated with dating?

We’re going to guess the answer is a resounding yes because if you’re like most of our clients, the process of dating isn’t always easy. 

You probably have a demanding career, a bustling social life and family responsibilities and you may have had the thought that “taking a break” from dating seemed like a tempting respite. 

Perhaps you’ve thought:

“I simply can’t do this anymore.”

“Why is this so hard – this must not be God’s plan for me!”

“I’m not willing to put myself through this again!”

“Maybe I should pause and focus on healing myself first.”

The allure of focusing solely on personal growth and independence can be strong, but is stepping away from the dating scene truly the best course of action? 

There are many reasons why pausing isn’t the answer. 

Continue reading for why you might want to reconsider taking a break from dating and what to do instead to embrace the journey of finding love.

What’s underneath the desire to pause? 

When you really think about it, are you wanting to put a stop to creating the relationship of your dreams? 

No! Of course you want to create the loving, kind companionship with the extraordinary man you dream of! 

The truth, is that you’re wanting to pause the frustration, the pain, the yearning, and the feeling that it may never happen for you or that it’s taking too long.

And if you’re not attracting the type of men and dating experiences you desire…

You don’t have the necessary skills to succeed at dating or you have fears, limiting beliefs and things that need to be healed…

The desire to take a break can be even stronger. 

I remember when I was in the process of dating and it got to the point where I thought, “I can’t do this anymore!” I was so frustrated with not understanding why I was creating so much success in my career, as a mother and in all my other relationships but I couldn’t get a man to want to be with me. 

It wasn’t that I wanted to put away the possibility of being loved. But I did wish I could stop experiencing the pain and heartache that came from not being able to create what I wanted or be loved the way I yearned to be loved. 

We focus our attention on the things we’re good at because we don’t want to experience discomfort. 

The thing is, it’s not in the pause, but in the stretch that we grow!

So what have you been choosing as comfortable when you choose to pause? What is really underneath the desire to take a break? 

If you can connect with what you’re choosing instead, that is where the breakthrough lies! 

Choosing Commitment over Comfort

When you take a pause from dating, you’re choosing comfort over commitment and actually works against you!

Taking a break causes more frustration, more yearning, isn’t healthy for your self-esteem and simply delays you being in the love that you want. 

When you take a pause you’re literally training yourself to:

  • Procrastinate
  • Put off your desires
  • Not rise above your limiting thoughts and behavior
  • Believe the lies
  • And stay stuck! 

When you’re in the pause – what’s growing are your limiting beliefs, fears and doubts. The longer you pause, the longer you stay stuck and the more power you give to the very thing you don’t want! 

Taking a break from dating could also inadvertently lead to emotional withdrawal and guardedness. It’s essential to keep an open heart and remain receptive to the possibility of love. By staying in the dating scene, you increase your chances of finding that special someone who resonates with your values and aspirations 

The truth is that you can have everything you want! 

If you want to experience extraordinary results in love, life, spirituality, finances – you can!! 

PLUS – You can heal AND date simultaneously!

Dating provides an opportunity to reassess and refine your expectations. While taking a break might offer temporary relief from romantic disappointments, it could also cement unrealistic ideals. Engaging in relationships allows you to confront your expectations, evolve, and cultivate a more balanced perspective on love and companionship.

As you keep shifting and transforming, you rise into the woman who will create the relationship of your dreams!

Nothing happens until you commit to it! 

When you continue to date while you rise, you stay in the commitment, you witness the changes that occur as you heal, stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone, and your results will be a reflection!  

By taking action every single day toward your goal you create momentum. And that momentum is what provides the breakthroughs you need to create the relationship you dream of! 

The Next Step If You’re Committed to Creating Love NOW!

If you’re committed to creating the love of your life this year and you’re ready to become the woman who will keep her heart in the game and stay committed every single day – then you get to join us for this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE! 

This 3-day event coming up in September is your opportunity to break through what’s in your way when it comes to love and relationships, learn how to unlock your Irresistible Essence and gain the skills to create success in love now. 

You won’t be the same person when you leave this event!

What you’re going to learn, see and experience in that (virtual) room is something you don’t want to miss!  

 Click HERE to claim your ticket the Irresistible Woman LIVE!

The fact is – How quickly you create the relationship of your dreams depends on how quickly you take your foot off the brake and get out of the gap that’s not working.

It’s up to you – and we want to see you there! 

Remember, while taking a break from dating might seem like a tempting escape, it’s important to consider the benefits of staying in the game. 

The journey of finding love is not just about the destination; it’s about the valuable experiences, personal growth, and lessons learned along the way. By embracing the challenges, rejections, and triumphs that come with dating, you position yourself for a more fulfilling and enriched romantic life. 

Rather than stepping away and keeping yourself stuck, consider committing even deeper to the relationship of your dreams and join us the Irresistible Woman LIVE.