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Don’t Hit Pause on Love:The Power of Commitment and Momentum in Dating

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 10, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Have you ever felt frustrated with dating?

We’re going to guess the answer is a resounding yes because if you’re like most of our clients, the process of dating isn’t always easy.

You probably have a demanding career, a bustling social life and family responsibilities and you may have had the thought that “taking a break” from dating seemed like a tempting respite.

Perhaps you’ve thought:

“I simply can’t do this anymore.”

“Why is this so hard – this must not be God’s plan for me!”

“I’m not willing to put myself through this again!”

“Maybe I should pause and focus on healing myself first.”

The allure of focusing solely on personal growth and independence can be strong, but is stepping away from the dating scene truly the best course of action?

There are many reasons why pausing isn’t the answer.

Continue reading for why you might want to reconsider taking a break from dating and what to do instead to embrace the journey of finding love.

What’s underneath the desire to pause?

When you really think about it, are you wanting to put a stop to creating the relationship of your dreams?

No! Of course you want to create the loving, kind companionship with the extraordinary man you dream of!

The truth, is that you’re wanting to pause the frustration, the pain, the yearning, and the feeling that it may never happen for you or that it’s taking too long.

And if you’re not attracting the type of men and dating experiences you desire…

You don’t have the necessary skills to succeed at dating or you have fears, limiting beliefs and things that need to be healed…

The desire to take a break can be even stronger.

I remember when I was in the process of dating and it got to the point where I thought, “I can’t do this anymore!” I was so frustrated with not understanding why I was creating so much success in my career, as a mother and in all my other relationships but I couldn’t get a man to want to be with me.

It wasn’t that I wanted to put away the possibility of being loved. But I did wish I could stop experiencing the pain and heartache that came from not being able to create what I wanted or be loved the way I yearned to be loved.

We focus our attention on the things we’re good at because we don’t want to experience discomfort.

The thing is, it’s not in the pause, but in the stretch that we grow!

So what have you been choosing as comfortable when you choose to pause? What is really underneath the desire to take a break?

If you can connect with what you’re choosing instead, that is where the breakthrough lies!

Choosing Commitment over Comfort

When you take a pause from dating, you’re choosing comfort over commitment and actually works against you!

Taking a break causes more frustration, more yearning, isn’t healthy for your self-esteem and simply delays you being in the love that you want.

When you take a pause you’re literally training yourself to:

Procrastinate
Put off your desires
Not rise above your limiting thoughts and behavior
Believe the lies
And stay stuck!

When you’re in the pause – what’s growing are your limiting beliefs, fears and doubts. The longer you pause, the longer you stay stuck and the more power you give to the very thing you don’t want!

Taking a break from dating could also inadvertently lead to emotional withdrawal and guardedness. It’s essential to keep an open heart and remain receptive to the possibility of love. By staying in the dating scene, you increase your chances of finding that special someone who resonates with your values and aspirations

The truth is that you can have everything you want!

If you want to experience extraordinary results in love, life, spirituality, finances – you can!!

PLUS – You can heal AND date simultaneously!

Dating provides an opportunity to reassess and refine your expectations. While taking a break might offer temporary relief from romantic disappointments, it could also cement unrealistic ideals. Engaging in relationships allows you to confront your expectations, evolve, and cultivate a more balanced perspective on love and companionship.

As you keep shifting and transforming, you rise into the woman who will create the relationship of your dreams!

Nothing happens until you commit to it!

When you continue to date while you rise, you stay in the commitment, you witness the changes that occur as you heal, stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone, and your results will be a reflection!

By taking action every single day toward your goal you create momentum. And that momentum is what provides the breakthroughs you need to create the relationship you dream of!

The Next Step If You’re Committed to Creating Love NOW!

If you’re committed to creating the love of your life this year and you’re ready to become the woman who will keep her heart in the game and stay committed every single day – then you get to join us for this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!

This 3-day event coming up in September is your opportunity to break through what’s in your way when it comes to love and relationships, learn how to unlock your Irresistible Essence and gain the skills to create success in love now.

You won’t be the same person when you leave this event!

What you’re going to learn, see and experience in that (virtual) room is something you don’t want to miss!

Click HERE to claim your ticket the Irresistible Woman LIVE!

The fact is – How quickly you create the relationship of your dreams depends on how quickly you take your foot off the brake and get out of the gap that’s not working.

It’s up to you – and we want to see you there!

Remember, while taking a break from dating might seem like a tempting escape, it’s important to consider the benefits of staying in the game.

The journey of finding love is not just about the destination; it’s about the valuable experiences, personal growth, and lessons learned along the way. By embracing the challenges, rejections, and triumphs that come with dating, you position yourself for a more fulfilling and enriched romantic life.

Rather than stepping away and keeping yourself stuck, consider committing even deeper to the relationship of your dreams and join us the Irresistible Woman LIVE.

Discover the 3 Self-Saboteurs Keeping You from the Right Man!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 11, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you finding yourself on an endless carousel of disappointing dates?

Are you attracting the wrong type of men, time and again?

Perhaps it’s not simply a matter of luck or circumstance, but of unconscious self-sabotage.

Sabotage is doing anything that’s not aligned with what you say you desire.

The reason why it’s unconscious is because you don’t realize you’re doing it! I’m sure you don’t wake up in the morning and think, “I can’t wait to sabotage my day (or love life)!”

Even so, the truth is – you’re always manifesting something, whether it’s what you want or what you don’t want.

And if you want to be in an extraordinary relationship, and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

Keep reading to explore three common self-saboteurs that might be hindering you from attracting the right man. Once you’re aware of these, you’ll be better equipped to make positive changes that can drastically improve your dating experiences.

Saboteur #1: Behaviors and Patterns

Since we said that most (if not all) self-sabotaging is unconscious, the easiest way to know if you’re self-sabotaging is to look at the behaviors and patterns that are not aligned with what you say you want.

Do you tolerate disrespectful behavior?

Do you not set or maintain your values and boundaries?

Do you constantly put others’ needs before your own?

Do you notice you settle for whatever’s showing up?

Do you get angry when a guy doesn’t call you for a 2nd date?

Do you write someone off before giving yourself a chance to get to know them because they aren’t tall enough, have been divorced or have kids?

Do you shut down and “take a break” from dating (perhaps for longer than really necessary) after a disappointing dating experience?

These are all examples of behaviors that can sabotage your dating experiences that you may not recognize.

Knowing what you want to experience inside the relationship of your dreams and BEing the woman who knows she can have it all supports you in transforming these behaviors and patterns that may be getting in the way.

When working to transform your actions it’s important to look for what thoughts are underneath them and driving the behavior.

Saboteur #2: Limiting Beliefs and Fears

The #1 most significant and common self-saboteur is overlooking the thoughts that are sabotaging you. Your thoughts lead to your behavior which leads to the patterns you’ve developed and the results you create.

What you attract is an energetic match for what you truly believe. In other words, you attract what you are, not what you want.

So, if you’re carrying unresolved issues, harboring negativity, or stuck in unhealthy patterns, you’re likely to attract individuals who mirror these same characteristics.

If you’re afraid you’re going to end up with a man who’s controlling, that’s probably exactly what you’re attracting – controlling men.

If you think all men are liars and cheaters, what will you attract? Men who don’t follow through with what they say and aren’t ready to commit.

Invest time in understanding and improving your thought patterns. If you’d like support with distinguishing, dismantling and replacing sabotaging thoughts, schedule a Love Breakthrough Session!

On this call we’ll support you to discover the thoughts that are leading to the dating experiences you don’t want so you can have a breakthrough and begin to create the results you desire!

Click HERE to Book your Complimentary Love Breakthrough Session Now!

By focusing on becoming the best version of you, you’ll naturally become more attractive to those who value and appreciate the qualities you’ve nurtured within yourself.

Saboteur #3: Clinging to What you Know and Not Getting Curious About What’s Not Working

If you want to be in the relationship of your dreams and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

I promise you, these are not the issues:

Where you live
What you do for a living
How much you weigh
Your age
How much debt you have
How many prior relationship you have (or haven’t) been in
There’s no good men out there or all the good ones are already taken

Holding onto these sabotaging and circumstantial beliefs can set you up for constant disappointment and make you overlook potentially great matches because they don’t fit your preconceived mold or because you don’t think you’re ready or deserving of love.

If you’re not attracting the type of man you’d like or creating the results you desire in dating and relationships, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I attracting this?”

Attracting the right man is not about getting on the “right” dating apps or wearing the right outfit. It’s about introspection, self-improvement, and maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth.

If you find yourself constantly attracting the wrong kind of men, perhaps it’s time to step back and examine these areas of your life.

Avoid these self-sabotaging mistakes, and you’ll create a path to attract a partner who values, respects, and cherishes you, just as you are.

If you’d like support in having a breakthrough, then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the thought and behavior patterns that are sabotaging your love life!

Remember, the journey to finding the right person often starts with being the right person to yourself. It’s time to become the person who attracts the love you deserve.

Reclaiming Your Power and Attracting the Love You Truly Deserve

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 30, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.

They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.

They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!

They share that they have thoughts like this:

“Why can’t I let this go?”

“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”

“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”

Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?

If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.

Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.

So what does a toxic relationship look like?

Emotional/physical abuse
Verbal disrespect
Hurting each other on purpose
Brings out the worst in you or the other person
Manipulation
With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
Thinking you can “change” the person
Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.

Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.

And yes, this includes situationships.

A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.

Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.

If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.

It’s not a relationship.

It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.

You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”

Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…

The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).

Why?

Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.

When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).

These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.

Why would you do that to yourself?

We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:

Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.

Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.

We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!

If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!

Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.

They want love, companionship and commitment.

So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?

Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
Feeling like something is better than nothing.
A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.

If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…

Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.

You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.

These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!

Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?

Your Guide to Creating Extraordinary Love in the Next 90 Days

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 8, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success

by Michelle Roza

As the radiant warmth of summer envelops us, it’s the perfect time to embark on a journey of extraordinary love and connection.

Imagine the next 90 days filled with bliss-filled moments, heartfelt conversations, and the potential to create the relationship of your dreams with the man who’s a perfect match for you!

If that’s what you want – make sure to claim your seat now for the Summer of Love 5-Day Challenge that kicks off next Monday!

Most of the clients who work with us meet their forever love within 3-9 months of working with us! Every single week we hear of new women in our community that have transformed what was holding them back and created the love they’ve always dreamed of!

Here’s a few examples of what’s possible:

💗 There’s Mari, who after just 3 months of dating, met the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and 2 months later was in a committed relationship!

💗 Candi, who met her now husband 3 months after beginning her work with us, dated him for another 3 months and soon after that was engaged and then married!

💗 And Clarissa who met her husband Alex just one week after declaring her love vision, was in a committed relationship just weeks after beginning dating him, was engaged 3 months later and married 2 months after that!

If it’s possible for them (and so many others!) it’s possible for you too! You really can meet the man you’re going to marry in the next 90 days!

Keep reading for tips and insights on how to create love in the next 90 days this summer.

Get ready to open your heart to possibilities, embrace new experiences along the way and get into action so you can create extraordinary, life-long love.

Get Curious – What Patterns Are Sabotaging Your Success?

Love is one of the most important things in life.

The most successful people in the world will tell you how big of an impact their partner in love has influenced their success in every other area.

If you haven’t created the relationship you want yet – look at your results. Step back and think about the last 3 men you attracted/dated.

What stands out? Do you see any patterns?

There’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about! Doing this exercise supports you to recognize what’s in the way so you can deal with what’s real and start getting different results.

TIP: This is what we’ll be supporting you with next week during the Summer of Love Challenge! Register HERE.

Believe You Can Have It – Mindset and Emotional Intelligence

Do you want to be in a relationship where you’re seen, heard and understood?

Learning how to manage your emotional state not only is key to successful dating, but also in creating a life-long love.

I had to learn this the hard way.

I would say I wanted to be in a great relationship, but I was constantly criticizing myself, everyone around me and not showing up as a match for the woman I wanted to be.

And my results showed it. My drama and negativity was a literal magnet for men with unfinished business, addictions and unavailability and I spent 5 years wasting my time in dead-end relationships and heartbreak.

It was so frustrating until I discovered the HeartWork that we now teach and everything changed.

🌟 I was finally able to express when I was hurt without hurting other people.
🌟 I could be angry without attacking the person I was angry with.
🌟 I was able to share what I wanted without being demanding.
🌟 And so much more was transformed inside me!

Arnie says the #1 reason he was attracted to me is because he saw a lighthearted, free, sassy woman who was always looking for the good and possibilities in every situation.

Still to this day he calls me his “Possibility Queen!”

Don’t you want to be with someone who calls you their (insert your greatest strength) Queen?!

Take Action to Get The Results You Want

When your energy, patterns and mindset shift you’ll begin to experience abundant results in your love life.

But you have to take action to make it possible!

Join us next week for the Summer of Love Challenge where we’ll support you in creating your Extraordinary Love this summer!

And if a little voice inside your head just said, “Yeah right, that can’t happen!” – that’s why you need to be there!

That’s the voice that talks you out of everything you would do if you had the steps, knowledge, coaching and training to do it differently.

And that’s what we’ll be giving you next week!

Allow yourself to dream big. Don’t allow your fears and doubts to block what you can have.

Remember, love begins within and radiates outward. By embodying love and believing you can have it, you become a magnet for profound connections and lasting relationships!

Embrace this summer as a transformative journey, and open your heart to the Extraordinary Love that awaits you.

Get ready to create a summer filled with love, connection, and unforgettable moments that will shape the rest of your life.

Finding Mr. Right: Top 3 Tips to Attract the Right Kind of Man

by heartsdesireintl | May 15, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

In the vast sea of romantic possibilities, finding your perfect match can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack.

But it doesn’t have to feel that way!

With the right mindset and a few essential tips, you can navigate the dating world and attract the man who is the perfect match for you.

Below, we’ll share three valuable tips to support you to create the relationship that you’ve always wanted.

1. Check Your Energy

Your energy impacts your thoughts, behavior and what you do and don’t attract into your life.

Trying to date and attract the right men to you while entertaining negative thoughts and energy is like trying to accelerate your car with the emergency brake on.

Low energy creates resistance and won’t allow you to attract the type of men you want.

This resistance makes dating harder, take longer and has you wind up feeling exhausted.

And then you want to take a break from dating altogether!

On the flip side, if your energy is curious, open, receptive, present and grateful – you will attract the type of men you want and…

You’ll have a fun time even if the date doesn’t end up being the perfect match!

For example – if you believe all men are cheaters…

You will literally repel all good men from you. They simply aren’t attracted to the energy that holds that belief.

Approach dating with optimism and a belief that the right person is out there for you. Surround yourself with positive influences and focus on the good in every interaction.

Your positive energy will be contagious and draw in those who appreciate your outlook on life.

2. Create Genuine Connections

Building meaningful connections is essential when looking for a long-lasting partnership.

Focus on quality over quantity when it comes to dating. Take the time to truly get to know someone, listen actively, and communicate openly. Authenticity and genuine connections will help you attract men who value the same things that you do.

If you find yourself trying to control the timeline or resisting any part of the dating process – get curious about why…

Remember that finding your perfect match requires really getting to know someone – and that takes time.

It’s important to remain patient throughout the process and as you prioritize authenticity and allow genuine connections to develop naturally – you’ll attract more of what you want!

Maybe you’re not clear on what you want…

3. Create Crystal Clarity on What you Want to Experience Inside the Relationship of Your Dreams

The third tip to creating the relationship of your dreams is to be crystal clear with yourself about what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams.

Take some time to reflect on your values, interests, and long-term goals. Understanding your own needs and desires will guide you towards attracting someone who will be a great match for you.

If you want to spend this summer dating the man of your dreams, you get to start creating it now.

The results you’re experiencing in dating (or any area of your life for that matter) right now are the consequences of the choices you made three months ago.

There’s nothing wrong with spending the whole summer dating.

But if you’d like to skip that, meet him and spend your summer dating him now then click below to get on our coaches calendar!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Call!

When you do, our coaches will support you to gain clarity, see what’s in your blindspot and develop a plan that will work for you to create the relationship of your dreams this summer!

Attracting the right kind of man requires a combination of high energy, a willingness to foster meaningful connections and crystal clarity on what you want.

By following these three tips, you’ll be on your way to finding your perfect match!

Stay true to yourself, embrace the journey, and trust that the universe has someone special in store for you.

How to Have Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 30, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you wonder why you haven’t been able to attract the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Does it not make sense why a strong, successful, smart woman like you, can’t seem to create that same success in love?

It’s not that there aren’t men out there.

And it’s not that there aren’t GREAT men out there.

It’s about learning how to attract those types of men to you so that you can experience the love, passion, fun, companionship and joy that you’re worthy and deserving of!

The question is then…

Are you curious enough to look at what’s possibly in the way?

If you’re having the experience of not creating what you want in love, there’s a “love barrier” blocking you. This is a fear, limiting belief or pattern that’s not working – and you may not even realize it!

Have you ever had that “aha moment” experience where you all of the sudden see something that you weren’t seeing before?

We call that a “distinguishing moment” where you suddenly see the love barrier that’s in your blind spot and once you see it – there’s no going back!

The trajectory of your life changes FOREVER!

These types of experiences are so incredible because they change the trajectory of your life.

And guess what?

You can experience that “aha-moment” this weekend at the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

This 3-day event is designed to have you break through your Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You’ll come out of this incredible weekend having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back.

You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams.

This is the work we usually only do with our clients, but we want to share it with YOU so that you can stop pretending and start BEing the authentic, vulnerable, irresistible version of yourself that is going to have you attract an amazing man with whom you get to create Extraordinary Love!

Life doesn’t stop. Time will keep going by, no matter what choices you make.

Why not make a choice that’s going to lead to more joy, love, happiness and freedom in your life…

And the kind of love you’ve always wanted?!

You don’t have to wait another year, month or even day to begin creating the happy, loving, beautiful relationship you want.

You can have it now.

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