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Three Steps to Attracting the Man of Your Dreams

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 5, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever wonder why the men that are showing up in your life aren’t the kind of men you want?

If what you’re doing is working and you’re meeting lots of incredible men into your life – that’s great!! Don’t fix what’s not broken!

However –

If you ever catch yourself thinking (or even saying out loud) something like…

”All men are cheaters.”

”There’s absolutely no men out there for me!”

“Every man will end up hurting me.”

“All the men on the apps want it sex.”

… Or any other variation of that – We have some news for you!

You’re wrong!

We say that with love, but it’s simply the truth.

There are many women out there who are meeting incredible men on the apps, who are creating extraordinary relationships with high quality men, and who are getting married to men that are willing to wait for marriage.

You can be one of them!!

There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken. But if the type of men that are showing up for you aren’t the type of men you want – then there’s a shift that gets to be made.

The questions to ask yourself are: “What can I shift?” and “What am I in control of?”

The only thing you’re 100% in control of is your thoughts and your actions. You get to shift your mindset so you can stop attracting what you don’t want and start attracting the men that will lead you to creating the relationship of your dreams with the man that’s 100% right for you!

So how do you create that shift?

1 – Get clear on what your current beliefs are.

Tell yourself the truth about what you currently believe about dating and men. If you’re telling your girlfriends there’s no good men on the app, chances are, that’s limiting belief for you.

You must be honest with yourself and get to the bottom of these beliefs.

Until you do – no matter how much you pretend they’re not there – they will show up in your profile, out on a date at dinner and in any relationship.

2 – Have clarity around your intention and vision.

What’s your intention for dating?

What’s your intention for being on the dating app?

What’s your vision for the experience you want to have inside the relationship of your dreams?

You have the power to attract and create exactly what you want and you have to know exactly what that is first.

3 – BE the woman that’s aligned with your vision.

Showing up in a way that’s aligned with the intention you have is what gives it power!

When you’re aligned in who you are BEing, your actions will automatically be aligned to bring you the results you desire.

Energy attracts energy and when who you are being and what you are doing are aligned with what you want to experience – the people and experiences you don’t want simply won’t be attracted to you.

You can be 100% in your power around your actions, beliefs and mindset and the rest will follow!

If you’re ready to stop wasting time and find clarity around what you want and what beliefs are stopping you from creating it, book a call with one of our coaches now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Our coaches are trained to be able to listen to you and then tell you what fears, patterns and limiting beliefs they hear. Then they will give you the steps you can take so you can leave the call with a plan of action to move forward in creating the relationship of your dreams!

Let us say it again, there are so many women who are meeting their incredible partners – and you can be one of them!

If you want to do that quickly and easily, then book your love breakthrough call now.

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel…

… like you don’t feel comfortable being yourself?

… afraid you’ll be rejected again?

… that when you show up as yourself, you’re not accepted?

… like you hold back around other people and don’t show up as you?

… that you can’t connect with others or like there’s a block between you and others?

The good news is that you can break through those barriers!

You can show up as the authentic YOU and attract those that will love and accept you to you!

Here’s the thing.

In your life, you’ve either learned you were supposed to be “fill-in-the-blank” in order to be liked.

Or you had an experience that made you believe that if you showed up that way then you would be rejected.

But here’s the truth…

The longer you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more you risk forgetting who you really are.

It’s our Heartwork that will support you in having the courage to show up as yourself and know that when you do, you will attract the man that will adore you!

When you do this Heartwork:

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You create new experiences and thought patterns for yourself

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… you haven’t forgotten who you are.

Underneath all of the experiences, stories you’ve created in your head, junk and limiting beliefs, is your true self.

And you get to uncover her and let her shine!

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

Clarity and certainty in who you are lead to confidence.

Get Over Your Fears and Attract the RIGHT Man Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 1, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have any of these thoughts (or do you maybe even say these things out loud to your girlfriends or family)?

“Dating is the worst!”

“I’m better off alone with my dog.”

“I’m tired of wasting my time!”

“Meeting lots of men just doesn’t fulfill me.”

“I’m over it.”

Do you want to understand why you keep having the same experience over and over with dating, when you want so deeply to find the relationship of your dreams?

Dating doesn’t have to be hard or complicated.

If there’s a gap between the type of men you’d like to be attracting and the men you actually are attracting – there’s something in the way.

If there are fears in the background (or maybe not so much in the background) swirling around like a hurricane in your head – it’s impossible to attract a man that’s right for you.

You either attract what you want or you attract what you fear.

When those fears are swirling around in your mind, you will attract what you fear. Each time you do, you gather more and more evidence that what you fear is your truth – and nothing changes.

If you’re attracting what you don’t want – it’s not your fault! It’s not because something’s wrong with you – so if that’s what you’re hearing… stop and listen.

It’s okay.

Let us support you in finding out what fears and limiting beliefs are in your space. Let’s get to the bottom of what you see (or what you don’t see) that’s having you have that looping experience.

When you clear up those fears and get clear on what you really want – you WILL attract the man that is absolutely, 100% right for YOU.

We want to support you in clearing up those fears so you can attract the relationship of your dreams!!

Truly, when you do – everything changes.

How to Embrace Your Feminine, Authentic Self

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 3, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you a driven, ambitious, successful woman?

Do you spend your daytime hours of your career in your masculine (“doing”) energy?

Do you find it difficult to relax into your feminine energy before a date, or when you’re with your partner?

If you answered yes, it’s perfectly natural. Being in our masculine/doing energy is called for when we’re at work and getting things done.

That said, when the work day is over, you get to take a moment and shift into your feminine energy.

If you’re getting feedback that…

You seem like you don’t need anyone else
You act like you don’t want a man in your life or that you’re fine alone
You’re intimidating
Nothing is ever good enough for you
You’re aggressive of “too direct”

…then it’s time to look at how you can shift and relax into your feminine energy!

Now, to be clear, as we said above, masculine energy isn’t “bad.”

The energy of doing, driving, managing, advising, etc. is what’s made you successful in your career and in other areas of your life!

The problem is that it simply doesn’t work when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.

Feminine Energy is NOT about being weak, not having a voice, acting like a doormat, or not having an opinion.

Being in your innate, feminine and Irresistible Essence is powerful! It’s what has you show up as vulnerable, authentic, light and joyful.

It IS the energy of BEing receptive.

It’s allowing your partner to be there with you and do things for you.

It’s allowing others to see you and deeply connect with you.

So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your true feminine self shines through?

These ways of BEing are what we call your Irresistible Essences — your innate power of femininity that creates the magical spark that naturally draws masculine men to you.

We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:

M – Mesmerizing

A – Authentic

G – Gracious

I – Inspiring

C – Confident

A – Alluring

L – Love-able

Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we?

BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you.

BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if YOU are not even there!

BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself.

For example, on a date, allowing the man to pay is not about “expecting” him to do something or feeling like you’re entitled to the dinner. It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude.

So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return. Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his company, and the date. It’s highly attractive, and knowing he was able to make you smile will inspire him to want to do even more!

BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.

BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember this: Confidence is the #1 most attractive thing to a man.

BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are.

BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it.

So there you have it!

These 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, are what will support you in relaxing into your feminine energy and attracting a man that wants to get to know you, and wants to stay with you!

If you’d like support with showing up more fully as your true, authentic, feminine self, book a call with our coaches now.

If it’s become second nature to be in your masculine energy, it’s okay! You can learn how to easily shift and feel more fully connected to you. We can show you how!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life?

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing!

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Being open
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Being willing to share yourself and your feelings
Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you?

Why is knowing this so important?

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself.

You pretend, hide, or resist.

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life.

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open .

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice.

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life.

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Have Online Dating Work For You Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 20, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

What is the number one question you have when it comes to online dating?

Does it have anything to do with your profile?

These are the questions we get asked the most….

❓ Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind of men?

❓ Why are none of the men I’m matching with reaching out?

❓ What should I include in my profile?

❓ What shouldn’t I include?

❓ What sites are the best to get on?

❓ What type of photos should I use?

We’re going to be answering ALL of these questions, plus more tomorrow at our Ultimate Attraction Dating Profile Workshop, but we wanted to give you just a few tips today.

So let’s dive in!

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the most important part!

Why? Because you have 3-6 seconds to capture a man’s attention which means your photos and the first sentence of your profile must be captivating!

Here’s what NOT to do:

DON’T start with a list of adjectives

DON’T include a list of things you like to do

DON’T put a timeline of your life

DON’T list all of your educational or professional credentials

DON’T put pictures of you with alcohol or showing too much skin

DON’T use sarcasm or put yourself down

You want your profile to showcase who you really are! You want it to be refreshing, different and full of depth. The more natural it sounds, the more receptive men will be to it so make sure it shows your authentic you!

DO make the first sentence inviting and interesting

DO introduce yourself the way you would introduce yourself at a party

DO start with “I am a woman who is….” and follow with something you’re really interested in

DO share something that you’re passionate about

DO be lighthearted and fun

Do be authentically yourself

These tips are so basic they often get overlooked.

And truthfully, these are things most women think they’re doing… but then we get our eyes on their profile and we know exactly why they’re attracting the type of men they are.

If you’re ready to start attracting the right kind of men in online dating, join us tomorrow for the Ultimate Attraction Online Dating Profile Workshop!

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will be ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

In this hands-on, interactive workshop on how to attract the RIGHT man online, you’ll discover:

what to do before you ever type the first word or post the first picture on your profile that will make the difference between whether you attract the right man or not
what to put in your profile to make sure you’re attracting a man who is a perfect match for you
how to make sure your profile gets noticed by the right guys, not the ones who want to play games or be pen pals
and more!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry!

Register Here!

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