Stop the Dysfunction and Have Fun Dating Today!

Stop the Dysfunction and Have Fun Dating Today!

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you feel blocked, stopped, stuck or frustrated about dating? 

Do you feel like you want to meet a wonderful man, but the dating process isn’t worth it?

Does it seem like dating just isn’t working for you? 

The thing is, as human beings, we don’t like to play games we’re not winning. 

So, why would you want to continue to date if you’re not getting the results — the kind of dates, the amazing relationship, and the experience you’re looking for?

Guess what?

Dating doesn’t have to be so hard.

Dating can be fun, exciting and easy!

When you’re experiencing joy, happiness and excitement, your energy shows it and you attract more of that into your life. 

The opposite is true when you’re not.

If you’re experiencing frustration, anxiety and disappointment, then your energy shows that, and you’ll attract more frustrating, anxiety-producing and disappointing experiences in dating.   

If your goal is to find the right man and create a beautiful, intimate, passionate, honest, supportive relationship, why not enjoy the process of getting there?

Because, that’s really the only way you’re going to create success, anyway. 

So, how do you break the dysfunctional dating patterns that are sabotaging your attempts at creating the relationship of your dreams? 

  • Be honest with yourself and get 100% clear on what you want. 

Do you want to create a loving, supportive, honest relationship? Say so. 

Do you want to get married again? Say so. 

Do you simply want to create a long-term relating relationship so you can stop dating? Say so. 🙂 

If you’re not being honest about what you really want, you know it. And underneath that knowing is a fear of NOT getting what you want that has you ignore what you’re really feeling. And you’ll  hear, see, and interpret everything you experience in dating through that fear. 

When you’re 100% honest with yourself and get clear on what you really want, then, and only then, will you be able to start attracting that into your life. 

  • Trust yourself.

Just because you had a bad experience or didn’t listen to your gut in the past, doesn’t mean your intuition is broken. 

When you don’t trust yourself to do the right thing and make the best decisions, then you’ll look for clarity and validation outside yourself. 

That leaves you powerless and simply doesn’t work.  

When you do the HeartWork to replace the fears that have you not trust yourself, you take back your power. You’re  able to clearly hear and see the bells, signals and red flags and take the steps you need to take so that you’re not wasting your time with the wrong person.. 

  • Have faith that what you want can actually happen.

This isn’t so much about who or what you believe in as much as it is about having faith and hope in a future that contains everything that you want. 

The only way to create the relationship of your dreams is to believe —  really believe —  that it can happen and that you will be able to create it.

If you’re struggling with any of these things, or simply feel like the dating game isn’t bringing you the results that you want, then we have something for you!

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Join us this week for the Dating Detox 7-Day Challenge, we’re starting on Monday, April 19th!!

During  these 7 days we’re going to share with you the most effective, clear and proven steps that we have personally used and have shared with hundreds of women around the world that have allowed them to shift from being single and lonely to being successful in love!

Join the Dating Detox Challenge Now!

Things really can change in 7 days or less!

If you’re feeling blocked, stopped, stuck or frustrated with dating and your love life, then you want to click  right now and join us  for this detox! 

Get clear on what you want, trust yourself, and believe that you can create the relationship of your dreams now.

We’re going to show you exactly how to do that!

Join the Dating Detox Challenge Now!

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what’s kryptonite to relationships and a behavior a lot of women don’t even realize they have?

It’s one of the things that is most unattractive to men and will diminish the love and respect in a relationship faster than anything else.

It’s also one of the things we get asked about by women the most because, when they recognize it as a pattern, they immediately know they want to adjust. 

Can you guess what it is? 

We’re talking about control.

Being controlling isn’t just unattractive, it’s extremely ineffective in relationships. We want to support you in understanding what control looks like and how you can adjust your behavior so that you can have less control and a lot more love and respect in your relationship. 

Trying to control my husband through constant criticism and correcting was something I didn’t even realize I was doing for a very long time.  It’s also what almost led to us splitting up.

What I felt was me being supportive, encouraging, and helpful was actually diminishing, emasculating, and stripping away the love and intimacy in my marriage.  But it was a blindspot for me.  I just didn’t see how controlling I was being.

Since you can’t change a behavior you don’t know you have, what does control look and sound like? 

The most common form control takes is through your communication

You may think you’re simply “being honest” with your partner or sharing your feelings with someone you’re dating… But the words you choose you may be coming off as controlling. 

Let’s say, for example, that you would really like to have more conversations on the phone with the man  you’re dating…

Do you say, “You never call me like you used to.” or “Call me tomorrow at 5pm”? 

If so, you are exhibiting control. 

Why?

Because, in the first statement, you’re not saying what you want or how you feel. You’re complaining.

In the second statement, you’re telling him what to do and when to do it.

So, how can you say this instead? 

Say, “I’d love to chat on the phone soon!” or “I would prefer to talk on the phone more often.” 

These statements focus 100% on you and serve as a very appealing invitation to call you.

Let’s say you’d like to go away for the weekend with your partner. 

Do you say, “We should go somewhere together this weekend?” 

Yep, that’s controlling. 

Instead, say, “I’d love to go away together.

These simple adjustments in your communication are inspiring to a man and show love for him and respect for his desires and feelings, while at the same time expressing yours. 

The reason control is kryptonite in a relationship is because when a man feels like he’s being controlled, he will do one of two things. 

  1. He will dig his heels in and refuse to do the thing you’d like him to do.
  2. He will submit. 

You don’t want either of those things! 

You want a man to be inspired to be with you, to desire to make you happy, and to have fun, lightness and joy present in your relationship. 

Wonder what causes that almost-immediate urge to tell him what to do and say?

The urge to control always stems from a fear that something is or isn’t going to happen. 

So, how do you shift out of that fear and, instead, show your man that you respect him and see him as a strong man, capable of making good decisions, and trusting that he wants to make you happy?

Before you speak, ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid will/will not happen if I don’t say this?
  2. How can I say what I want to say, focusing solely on what I’m feeling and want to express without bringing him or his actions into the statement. 
  3. What emotion will I inspire in my partner by saying this?

It takes some conscious effort to interrupt that internal chatter that;s always going on in our heads and think about how the words we choose will land for our partners. 

Shifting out of a pattern of control isn’t easy, but it is so worth it! 

And as you practice, it becomes easier and easier to do.

If you’d like some support in shifting a pattern of control in your dating experiences or relationships, let us support you by booking a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches. On this call, we’ll explore what some of your control triggers are, and give you some clear steps on what to do to shift from controlling to inspiring your man!

Like we said, many times, these controlling behaviors are things you may not even realize you have, and with some support to help you see them, you can completely transform them and create more love and intimacy in  your relationship.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

When a man feels respected, loved and connected to you, he will do just about anything to make you happy.

Choose your words wisely so you inspire that type of connection in your relationship!

How to Stop Rushing Relationships

How to Stop Rushing Relationships

by Gladys Diaz 

Question for you…

Do you tend to rush into relationships?

In our work with women all over the world, there is something that comes up frequently. 

No matter where they’re from, how old they are, and what they’re life experience in love has been – they all say the same thing: 

They have a tendency to rush into relationships. 

Do you have this  pattern, too? 

Do you find yourself wondering, after just a date or two, when he’s going to make it official? 

Do you rush to meet his close friends and family?

Do you stop dating other men the minute you start to like someone?

Do you rush to move in together? 

Do you feel like you want to marry him before you’re even officially in a relationship?

We know that when you meet someone you’re attracted to and enjoy spending time with, that there’s a natural tendency to want to be with them… a lot, to dream about what could happen, and that this triggers the desire to want to move fast.

The thing is that  there’s this beautiful phase in the beginning of a relationship, and when you rush, you cheat yourself out of those special feelings and experiences that only happen then.

The other, even more important thing, is that when you go too fast, you miss the opportunity to really get to know someone and can end up missing red flags. 

While dating, you want to be aware and awake. You want to notice the things that he does, learn about him and who he is, and be curious about what being with him is like. 

You want to take the time to really get to know someone before you jump into a relationship, because the physical chemistry can be there, but if the character of the man isn’t aligned with the kind of relationship you want to have,  then it won’t  work. 

The fact is that after just one or two dates, you don’t know if this is the relationship of your dreams. Knowing that takes time. 

So, what has women rush into relationships? 

Fear.

You may be afraid that if it doesn’t work with him, it’s never going to happen. 

You may be worried that if you wait too long, you won’t be able to have kids. 

Or maybe you think that he’ll get bored and move on if you don’t “catch him” fast. 

How do you shift out of this fear? 

  1. Turn the attention and focus back to you. Stop wondering so much about whether or not  he likes you, and think about the experience you’re having with him and if it truly aligns with the kind of experience you want to have for the next 20, 40, 60 years.. 
  2. Don’t get attached too quickly. Continue to date other people until you’re in a committed relationship. It’s heartbreaking when women invest too much of themselves too soon, only  to find out that it’s not the right match. Give yourself the gift of getting to know multiple people at the same time so you don’t start feeling desperate or get too emotionally attached to someone too soon.. 
  3. Think about what you’re learning about the men you’re dating. What is the quality of the conversations you have? Do you laugh and have fun together? Do you have common interests and enjoy being together? The more curious you get, the more motivated you are to let things play out and get to know him gradually.

     

Remember that feelings are fleeting. You need to give yourself (and him as well) time to really get clear and be sure that what you’re experiencing together is aligned with the relationship of your dreams. 

If you tend to rush into relationships or get attached to a man too quickly and you’d like support with uncovering  the fears driving these  patterns, we’d love to talk to you! Click the link below to schedule a Love Breakthrough Session.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

You get to keep standing for the love you want and not let fear or desperation have you slip into rushing into a relationship  that isn’t what you really want. 

Don’t let fear get in the way. 

Take your time and know that the time you put into getting to truly know someone at the beginning will pay out in dividends later in the form of years of happiness in a relationship, as well as stop  you from experiencing unnecessary heartbreak and disappointment. 

Trust the process and know that the love you want is already looking for and coming to you!

Online Dating Profiles to Attract the Right Man

Online Dating Profiles to Attract the Right Man

by Gladys Diaz 

Does this ever happen to you? 

You sit down to relax and watch your favorite television show. During the commercial break, you open up your favorite online dating app and start scrolling or swiping left and right. 

You notice you have an alert at the top saying that you’ve got unread messages, so you look into your inbox and find a dozen messages from men. 

You feel excited, but as you start going through them, you start to feel disappointed, and the disappointment leads to straight up frustration, and these thoughts start swarming through your head…  

Why am I not attracting the kind of men I’m looking for?

How come I keep wasting my time on this app? 

Do I need to change my profile? What would I even change?

Is online dating ever going to work for me?!

Sound familiar?

This is a scenario we know plays out for women all the time, and we know that after months of swiping and going through profiles and messages and nothing coming from it, you can start to get discouraged and frustrated. 

We want you to know that you can have a fun, exciting and successful experience dating online! It’s the number one way people are meeting each other (especially right now, as we continue being at the effect of the pandemic)… and it works!

The truth is, you’re not frustrated with online dating. You’re frustrated with the results you’re getting. 

If you were matching with, talking to and meeting 10 guys a week that were all saying and doing the things that you want to hear and enjoy, would you be frustrated? 

Of course not!

It’s frustrating meeting a whole bunch of guys you don’t want to meet. No one, especially successful and attractive women like you likes wasting her time.

So what if it was different?

We want to share with you how your “How come I keep wasting time on this app?” can change to “I can’t wait to see who I’m going to meet next!

Tip number one is that your profile matters. It’s the first impression a stranger has of you, and it’s what men go off of to make the decision of whether or not they want to get to know you further. 

Research shows that you have 3-6 seconds to capture someone’s attention before they scroll or swipe, so you want to make sure that it immediately captures who you really are. 

You want to make sure that potential men that would be right for you will swipe for you based on what they see, what they read, and how they feel while viewing your profile. 

It’s about making sure that who you’re being and what you’re saying and doing are aligned. 

It’s about knowing what to share (and how much to share) to attract the right men to you. 

It’s about being in the energy and having the skills and knowledge to put together the profile that will give you the experience and results you want!  

So, if you’re ready to shift your experience of online dating, join us Saturday for the Ultimate Attraction Online Dating Profile Workshop! 

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract the high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will  are ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

In this hands-on, interactive workshop on how to attract the RIGHT man online, you’ll discover:

  • what to do before you ever type the first word or post the first picture on your profile that will make the difference between whether you attract the right man or not
  • what to put in your profile to make sure you’re attracting a man who is a perfect match for you
  • how to make sure your profile gets noticed by the right guys, not the ones who want to play games or be pen pals
  • and more!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry! 

Register Here!

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you ready to meet the right man? 

The man who’s not only good for you and to you, but also someone who you feel magic with? 

One thing we hear from women consistently is that they find themselves in one of two scenarios… Let’s  see if you can relate. 

  • Scenario One: You keep attracting men into your life who aren’t good for you. They’re the “bad guys” who don’t  show up, only want sex, aren’t  looking for commitment, or ghost you after the first date (if you even make it to a date!).

There’s chemistry and connection, but, obviously, these interactions  aren’t going anywhere.

The problem with this scenario is that these women start to believe that all men are like this, and they lose faith in dating and their ability to attract a different kind of man.

Can you relate? 

What about this one.

  • Scenario Two: You attract good men into your  life – men of integrity and honor. Men who are seeking out the same loving, passionate, committed relationship they are and are ready to create that now.

Sounds great right? 

The problem with scenario two is that you often  don’t feel a connection with these men. There’s no chemistry, and even though you’re glad that   you’re attracting the good  men, you  still can’t seem to attract the right one… The man you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with.

Do you see yourself in either of those scenarios? 

Are you tired of meeting man after man, but never having it  turn into the loving, passionate, committed relationship you really want? 

If so, you want to ask yourself – “Why am I attracting this into my life?”

Get curious. Is it a pattern? 

What are the common denominators? 

How do you get to shift? 

After I got divorced, I was dating lots of men who all had the same problems. They were either addicted to something, in a relationship with another woman, and/or had some kind of drama constantly surrounding them. 

I was getting so frustrated, because I felt like I was dating the same man over and over again in a different body! 

One day I was telling a coach and mentor about my frustration, and, after he listened patiently, he asked me, “What do all of these men have in common?” 

Without even thinking, I responded with, “They’re  all liars cheaters, and they don’t know what they want!” 

He asked, “Okay, what else?” 

After a few more minutes of trying to answer his questions and getting more and more frustrated by the minute, I finally exclaimed, “Just tell me what you’re seeing, because I’m not seeing it!” 

He said, “The only thing these five strangers have in common is you. You are the common denominator.” 

Well, of course that isn’t what I wanted to hear. But once I let it sink in, I knew he was right. I knew that there was that was having me be attracted to and attracting this kind of man  into my life. 

I’d had enough of this. I was ready to make a change.

That’s when I really began my journey of doing the Heartwork and getting underneath this pattern to see what it was that I needed to heal and shift within myself. 

Once I did that, everything shifted. 

We often say that “happy enough is not good enough”! 

We’re committed to extraordinary love. 

The type of love that feels magical and takes your breath away. 

The type of love that has you feeling on top of the world and like you can do anything. 

The type of love that is just that – extraordinary

It starts with attracting the right man. And that starts with you. 

Please join us tomorrow, Saturday, November 21st for the Attract  the Right Man Webinar, where we’ll be diving into how to break this painful pattern once and for all! 

In this 3-hour masterclass, you will:

  • Learn what to STOP doing so that you can stop being attracted to and attracting the wrong man into your life
  • Discover what to START doing instead, so that you start attracting the kind of man who wants to create a happy, loving, committed relationship with you
  • Apply the steps and practices that will have you experience dating and relationships differently because you will be attracting and getting to know a completely different kind of man!

Click here to say “YES!” to Attracting the RIGHT Man into Your Life!

Whether you find that you keep attracting and dating “good guys” who are nice enough, but you simply don’t feel a connection with, OR you keep bringing in the same “bad guy” in a different body,  we’re going to show you how to break this pattern and bring in the RIGHT man — the one who will honor you, cherish you, and love you for the rest of your life! 

It’s time for you to attract  the RIGHT  man now!

Extraordinary Success AND Extraordinary Love!

Extraordinary Success AND Extraordinary Love!

4by Gladys Diaz 

There are many  women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship.  They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both. 

What do you believe? 

Here’s the deal:  if you believe that you can’t have both, you are living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

This week on Love Chat with the Love Twins, we featured some incredible women, colleagues and dear friends of ours, who are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. Through these conversations, we really highlighted how not only is it possible for you to have both – but it actually makes all of it even better!

In one of the interviews, we got to hear from Amy Yamada’s partner, Ken, who shared his experience as a man being in partnership with such an incredible and successful woman! 

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. Ken shared how much more attracted he was to Amy knowing that she was an entrepreneur and motivational speaker. 

For her, at first, she felt uneasy sharing about her business with him for fear of being in here “masculine” energy. But when she decided to lean into being her authentic self, which includes being an entrepreneur , it allowed him to really see her, and it ended up being one of the things that most attracted him to her.

He said he simply wouldn’t have been attracted to her if she had not led with that. 

NOT the fact that she was a business woman, but that she was AUTHENTIC.

What more proof do you need, ladies?!

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying – sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face  because I’d just been on off the phone with my business coach. I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business. 

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream. All these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire International for that matter, would be without him. (And now he has a great business of his own doing this for other people, too!  Talk about a win-win!)

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more. 

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my very soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and said, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.” 

Definitely another tearful moment for me! 

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments  But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I am!  No award,degree, or certificate can hold a candle to that!

The absolutely beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you for your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together. 

It also gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself. 

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they can share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in  business and love. 

If you have a limiting belief that you need to choose between business and love then we have something very important to share with you. 

In just two weeks we’ll be hostingThe Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event,  and you won’t want to miss it!!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to stop wasting time and want to start having SUCCESS in love! 

This is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The event is happening on October 23rd-25th, and we can’t wait to have you there! 

In fact, we’re so committed to having you there, that, for Birthday Week, we’re lowering the price of the ticket to just $47!!! (It’s our birthday, and will give you gifts if we want to!!!)


Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

When you know that you are a loveable woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too. 

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, business success and all, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely. 

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

Join us to discover this for yourself! 

This is what I know was true for me and, it is  true for you, too.