3 of the Biggest Dating Traps You Keep Falling Into

3 of the Biggest Dating Traps You Keep Falling Into

by Gladys Diaz

I know it’s frustrating…

You put yourself out there, engage in back-and-forth texting until he finally asks you out on a date.

You go out and have an amazing time.

You don’t want to get your hopes up (again), but you think he has a lot of potential.

He asks you out on another date… and then another.

Now you’re feeling pretty sure that he maybe, might be the one…

You stop going on line.

You start reserving space in your weekend (just in case)

You don’t accept dates from other men (Why? You’re already planning your fifth date!)

Then…

Crickets.

And, after that… that familiar feeling of hurt and frustration.

I get it.

It’s easy to get excited when you meet a nice guy who is a gentleman, is making time to see you, calls between dates, and is fun to be with.

And it’s tempting to want to save space in your calendar, just in case he asks you out.

The problem is that, if you’re like most women, you make 3 big mistakes when you do this.

The first mistake is what we call “falling into a ‘pseudo-relationship.”

Because, as a woman, you naturally want to bond and connect with someone emotionally and physically, it’s natural for you to think you’re in a relationship, even if you’re not.

Trust me, when you’re in a relationship, you’ll know. You won’t have to wonder. The man will come out and tell you that he doesn’t want to see anyone else and that he’d like you to do the same.

Until a man says that, go by this motto: It’s not a relationship until it is.

The second mistake is becoming prematurely attached.

When you aren’t seeing anyone else, it’s natural to have the feelings for the one person you are seeing grow.
Even if you don’t know him very well, and even if you’re not really sure if you really like him, the fact that you are spending so much time together — the proximity, the amount of time and attention you are giving him — will have you become prematurely attached to him.

This has you waiting for his call, texting or calling him when you don’t hear from him, start to get nervous when Wednesday comes around and he hasn’t asked you out for the weekend yet… Sound familiar.

This is such a trap, and what happens is that you fall into making the third mistake.

The third mistake is getting upset when he doesn’t call or ask you out.

Remember the motto I mentioned above? It’s not a relationships until it is.

Until you are in a relationship with a man, he does not have to call or text you every day.

He doesn’t have to ask you out.

And (and this is the one that can cause the most upset), he can call, text, go out, and sleep with anyone he pleases.

You’re NOT in a relationship.

He doesn’t have to do any of those things, and it’s quite possible he is talking to and going out with several women.

Which is why we recommend you do the same!

Now, we’re not saying kiss or sleep with several men.

You can do that, if you choose (although I don’t recommend that).

What I am saying is that you can talk to, go out with, and have fun getting to know different men.

The benefit?

  • You get to meet and have a great time getting to know several nice men at the same time.
  • You avoid falling into a pseudo-relationship.
  • You prevent getting too emotionally attached to someone you really don’t know and aren’t in a committed relationship with.
  • And you avoid getting upset, feeling resentful, or putting any unrealistic expectations on a man who is not your boyfriend.

Which also means you avoid a lot of unnecessary heartache.

As much as I know you want to be in a relationship, trust me when I tell you that not attaching yourself or mistaking “dating” for a relationship is going to make dating a lot less frustrating and a lot more fun for you!

If you have any questions regarding how to be more successful in dating so that is a lot more exciting, fulfilling, and FUN, simply tell me your #1 question or challenge when it comes to dating.

I promise to reply and give you some straight coaching about how to avoid some of the traps of dating so that you can have more success in attracting the love you want!

 

 

 

 

 

Why “Mindset” Alone Won’t Get You the Love You Want

Why “Mindset” Alone Won’t Get You the Love You Want

by Gladys Diaz

If you’ve invested time and money in personal development and spiritual programs that help you shift your mindset, and you’re still not experiencing significant shifts in your love life or relationship, I want to ask you a few questions.

Before you invested in this mindset program did you:

  • Know how to date successfully so that you aren’t wasting your time, love, or energy?
  • Get trained in the differences between the male and female brain and how we are wired differently?
  • Learn and master proven relationship skills that ensure long-lasting love?
  • Master effective communication that allow you to express yourself in a way that has your partner hear and respond to you in a loving way?
  • Have the opportunity to consistently practice these new skills so that you mastered them and avoided repeating old, self-sabotaging dysfunctional and painful patterns in your relationship?

If you answered “no” to even two of these questions, then you have the answer as to why you don’t have the kind of love you want.

See, no amount of personal work is going to change what happens in your love life or relationship when you don’t actually know and use the skills that create AND sustain lasting love.

 

You can be confident, think positively, meditate and pray, speak positive affirmations to yourself, visualize, and plaster your walls with vision boards, and this will only get you so far.

It’s like filling your refrigerator with a bunch of healthy food, joining a gym, and buying a ton of cute workout outfits but never prepping your meals or getting on the treadmill — your body and weight are notgoing to change one bit until you stop thinking and visualizing and start taking COMMITTED ACTION.

 

The same is true when it comes to your love life. 

Thinking positively and visualizing what you want can help you begin to set in motion attracting the relationship you want, AND you still need to have the right skills and know the right steps to take so that you can take the right ACTIONS that give you the results you really want. 

 

Like anything else you have ever accomplished that you became masterful at, having a great relationship requires a specific skill set. It just does.

You simply can’t get there by mindset alone.

Having the right mindset AND skill set are both essential, yet too many women keep trying use one without the other. And it simply doesn’t work.

 

So here’s the deal: It’s time to get committed to learning  what it takes to have a real loving and intimate relationship.

One that fulfills you; has you feeling truly loved, accepted, and supported by a high-quality man; and where you know how to keep the love, passion, and intimacy alive for a lifetime.

 

Enrollment for our next round of our Ready to Love Again (for single ladies) and Keeping the Love Alive (for women in relationships) is closing soon, and we are inviting women who are seriously committed to transforming themselves and their love lives into the community.

You must be someone who is ready to commit to investing in yourself, be willing to be coachable, and do BOTH the inner work as well as learn and apply the skills that will make this transformation happen for you. 

These are the programs where our clients learn how to remove and replace the Love Barriers that have been stopping them from having the love they want.

These programs are where you’ll learn how to combine the mindset work with effective and proven dating (if you’re single) relationship and communication skills that will have you experiencing more fun, love, and ease in your relationship.

These are the programs where so many of our clients FINALLY learn the skills that give them the confidence AND ability have and live in the loving, intimate relationship of their dreams! 

And these are the programs where you’ll see why nothing else has worked before. 

You’ll permanently remove the barriers that are keeping you stuck and finally have the love, life, and happiness your heart desires!

 

If you know this is you, then reach out.

We are committed to you having the love you desire and deserve, and if we don’t think the program is a good fit, we’ll be honest and give you some recommendations, but we won’t make you an invitation to join.

We’re not going to “sell” you, and we don’t need to, because we only work with women who we feel are ready for to succeed in the program (and their love lives), and our clients’ results really do speak for themselves.

 

We’re here to work only with the truly committed woman (in actions, not just words) — the woman who already knows that you’re ready to have the relationship you have been dreaming of, and you’re tired of waiting for it to “just happen,” because you KNOW you’re worthy of and ready to receive it now. 

Does that sound like you? 

Are you feeling it in your body right now — something that is pulling you forward?

Then let’s talk. 

We’ve got limited time on our calendar to speak this week (No, that’s not a marketing tactic. We’re busy, just like you are!), so if you’d like a spot, shoot us an email and tell us a little bit about your love life or relationship  and what your challenges are right now.

You’re probably doing a lot of things right now that might help you get the love you want, but you may be focusing on the wrong things or doing them in the wrong order. THIS is what we can help you sort through so that you are moving in the direction of your dreams!

Having the right mindset AND the right skills is the key to succeeding in any area of your life.  If you’re truly committed to doing the work to learn BOTH so that you can finally have the happy, loving relationship you have always dreamed of, send us an email and let us know what that looks like for you and what challenges you’re having right now. We’ll set up time to talk and tell you exactly what will make a difference NOW!

If you prefer, you can set up a time to talk by clicking here!

 

 

 

 

 

How to Create a TRUE TRANSFORMATION in Your Love Life!

by Gladys Diaz

It’s been over three weeks since The Irresistible Woman LIVE Event took place and there is still not a single day that goes by that Michelle and I do not receive an email, a text message, or a post in our Facebook group of someone sharing a new breakthrough, miracle, or manifestation that has occurred in her life as a result of having attended the event!

Here’s the fascinating thing.  The event was only three days long, yet women are sharing life-altering changes.  For example (and I am using intitials because these breakthroughs were shared in a private group:

  • C has experienced major breakthroughs in the ares of finances, her improv acting experiences, and in the attention she is receiving from a really high-quality man!

 

  • D is experiencing a whole new level of fulfillment in her relationship with her amazing boyfriend (who she met while participating in our Ready to Love Again Program!), in her career, and in her relationships with others.  In fact, her friends and family are commenting on how happy and full of life and love she is!

 

  • Z. is finally pain-free after dealing with excruciating and chronic back and shoulder pain that doctors had been unable to diagnose and treat for over 2 years!  And she had a wonderful trip with her family where she felt able to trust her husband and watched as he truly stepped up and made her feel safe, secure, and worry-free, in spite of some very unexpected and sometimes difficult situations they faced during the trip.
  • P. and her husband are completely falling in love with one another again.  There is more love, communication and romance in their marriage (they even had a wonderful date night the other night!)
  • L. had a fantastic first date with a wonderful man is excited about dating again!
  • Y. was able to confidently and respectfully walk away from a dating experience that made her feel uncomfortable and did not match the experience she wants to have in a relationship.

So, what is it that allows this kind of shift to take place after an event that was only a few days long?

It’s the process we take women through in our events and programs that have them move from “receiving information” to “Creating Transformation.”

See, there is an overwhelming amount of information out there.  You know there is.

You’ve read the books.

You’ve listened to the podcasts.

You’ve watched the videos.

You’ve even taken courses.

 

But, despite all of this information, you still feel stuck and continue repeating old patterns that keep you in a cycle of heartache.

You still can’t let go of your ex and move forward.

You still keep attracting the wrong kind of man into your life.

You still continue arguing with your partner about the same things.

You still feel frustrated and stuck and, at times, hopeless.

If all it took to create a real and permanent shift was information, or even having a powerful insight, you would have already made the changes you know you need to make.

However, it takes more than good information or content, or even a really powerful “a-ha” moment to take what you are learning and seeing about yourself and create a truly permanent change.

In our work, we help you not only distinguish and work through the fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that are creating dysfunctional patterns in your life and love life. We also teach you how to replace those Love Barriers with new and empowering thoughts, actions, and attitudes that allow you to create permanent, life-altering transformation in your life!

If you’re ready to learn more about this, check out the quick video I shot for you on Friday and then hit “reply” to this email and answer the 2 questions I ask you at the end of the video.  

I will personally be reading and responding to each of the emails and I will be opening up a few spots on my calendar specifically to help you create your own Love Breakthrough Action Plan on a Love Breakthrough Session.

 

 

 

Obviously, there are not enough slots in my calendar to speak personally to all of the thousands of women who will be reading this email.  However, I know that the truly committed women will watch the video, reply to this email, and be open to receiving your next best steps to create a true transformation in your love life.

 

If that is YOU, and you are READY to create true and permanent change in your life, and you are ready to do what it takes to make the necessary changes to create your own personal transformation, then all you have to do is:

  1. Watch the video.
  2. Click reply and answer the 2 questions I ask at the end of the video.
  3. Get ready to create a TRUE TRANSFORMATION in your love life!

 

Remember:

Creating a true and permanent transformation does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy and effortless when you know exactly what steps you need to take and you have guidance from someone who can help you create the results you want. Let’s do this together!  

Watch the video know and reply to send me your responses!  

I can’t wait to read them and write back to you! 

 

 

 

 

 

Remember:

Creating a true and permanent transformation does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy and effortless when you know exactly what steps you need to take and you have guidance from someone who can help you create the results you want. Let’s do this together!  

 

Watch the video know and reply to send me your responses!  

I can’t wait to read them and write back to you! 

 

Why FAITH Matters in Your Love Life

Why FAITH Matters in Your Love Life

by Gladys Diaz

Today we’re celebrating Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in the United States, and, aside from relishing having a day to spend with my family, I also wanted to take a few minutes to reflect and remember why this day is so important.

If I had to use just three words to describe Dr. King and his life, the words would be faith, love, and hope.  And, of course, all of these were enveloped in his dream.

As I was looking through some of his inspirational quotes, I came across this one:

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

As soon as I read it, I immediately thought back to my family’s vacation to Hawaii in November, and the way I felt when I stood inside the volcano crater and looked up at the tiny staircase that was miles and miles away, at the top of the mountain (see the photo below, and you’ll see the staircase at the upper left-hand corner).  

I remember thinking, “How in the world will I ever make it up there, especially with my fear of heights and the pain in my knee?”

I didn’t know how I’d make it, but I did know one thing:

I was NOT going to allow my fear to stop me from getting to the top of that mountain and witnessing the view from up there!

So, I started climbing.  

And, yes, I was scared.  I got dizzy a few times.  My feet slipped on the rocks. And the pain in my knee became almost unbearable the higher we climbed.  

But I had faith that something beautiful, something I’d never seen or experienced before, was waiting for me at the top of that mountain and on the other side of my fear.  So I climbed!

And, when I got to the top of the mountain, it was so worth it!  I’d climbed my first mountain, the view was absolutely breathtaking, and I was experiencing it all with the three guys I love most in this world!

Honestly, it was MORE than worth it!

So, why am I telling you this?

I know that love and relationships can be scary. There is so much uncertainty because there aren’t any guarantees.  

You don’t know if it’s going to work out with the guy you are seeing.

You’re afraid of having your heart broken again.

It feels safer to stay where you are, even though it’s not where you want to be.

I get it.

However, staying where you are — whether you are single or in a relationship that is stagnant or not working — is the surefire way to NOT get to where you truly desire to be: The place where you feel loved and adored.  That amazing place where you know that you know that you are loved!

Maybe it’s been a long journey for you.

Maybe you feel like the pain is more than you can take.  

Or maybe you’re just tired of trying.

Whatever your “mountain” is, I promise you that if you will have your faith be stronger than your fear, if you are willing to focus on your desire more than your doubt, and if you are courageous enough to take that first step in the direction of your dreams, with the right guidance and support, you WILL get to the place where you are in the relationship your heart desires with the man who is absolutely right for you.

If you’re ready to take that first step and you want to know exactly how to do that, then it’s time for you to have a Love Breakthrough!  Simply use the link below to schedule time for us to talk and together we will take a look at what your personal love goals are, distinguish what has been stopping you from attracting that loving relationship to you, and what your best first step is for getting the happy, loving relationship your heart desires.

CLICK HERE to have your Love Breakthrough!

Having the love you want isn’t about learning a bunch of generic tips, tricks or strategies. Your personal love goals are yours to achieve, and knowing the right steps for you to take is critical in order for you to have the love you want!  Take that first step of FAITH, and I’ll be waiting to help guide you to the other side!

CLICK HERE and take your first step in FAITH!

“Cheers!” to 10 Extraordinary Years! (How to Make Great Wine and Great Love!)

“Cheers!” to 10 Extraordinary Years! (How to Make Great Wine and Great Love!)

by Gladys Diaz & Michelle Roza

If you’ve ever had a great glass of wine – you know… the kind that you just have to close your eyes and savor as you sip it – then you know what an amazing experience it can be!

And, if you know anything about wine, you know that great wine doesn’t “just happen.” An amazing glass of wine begins with selecting premium grapes and a very intricate process of aging the wine that results in a succulent, savory experience that you hope won’t end with just one glass!

In today’s video, Michelle comes to you from a vineyard in wine country as she celebrates 10 years of LOVE with her honey, Arnie, and she shares the top 3 ingredients for extraordinary love!

So… Grab a glass of your favorite wine or beverage, sip away, and let’s raise our glasses to creating the kind of love that lasts forever!

 

 

Please join me in congratulating Michelle and Arnie on celebrating their 10 years of extraordinary love by going to our Facebook page, so that we can surprise her with the happy wishes! 🙂

Cheers! Enjoy the video!

 

What to Do if You’re Feeling “Stuck” in Your Relationship

What to Do if You’re Feeling “Stuck” in Your Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

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I remember just four years ago, how hopelessly stuck I felt in my job.

Yes, I was making great money, but I was miserable! I honestly felt like part of me was dying inside every time I sat at my computer.

See, I have been a coach, speaker, teacher, and trainer since I was 17 years old.

My heart beats to connect with and help people go from wherever they are to levels they can’t even begin to imagine.

But, due to downsizing and restructuring, my boss, in an effort to avoid letting me go, had put me in a department where all I did for 8-12 hours (or more) per day was type up questions for online courses.

As I said, I could feel my soul cringing and a little bit of life escaping me every time I was up until 2:00am, crying at my computer, wondering why the heck I was so afraid to let go of that paycheck!

It wasn’t until I received the call that my position was being eliminated that everything changed.

See, even though I was being told that I was being laid off, they offered me another job, making the same amount of money, but it would require me traveling 80% of the time. I thought about my husband and kids, and, as afraid as I was of losing 60% of our income in one full swoop, I refused to spend my life on a plane away from the three people I love most in this world.

So, I walked away.

And it was both the scariest and most liberating moment of my life, because, thanks to walking away from that position, I now have the opportunity to do what I love and was born to do as a relationship coach!

There is NOTHING more rewarding than knowing that I am living my purpose and helping women’s dreams come true! And now I also get to help relationship coaches build successful coaching practices so that they can help other women’s dreams come true, too!  The love just keeps on spreading!

Oh! And I’m making more money than I ever did in my old job!

So, what does this have to do with you and your love life?

Are you in a relationship right now that you KNOW is not the right one for you?

Are you holding onto it because you are too afraid to let go and open your heart to loving and being loved again?

Or, are you in a relationship that you want to stay in, but you feel like it’s not going anywhere, like the love has stopped growing, and you feel stuck, frustrated and alone even though you’re “with” someone?

Whatever your version of “stuck” is, I want you to know that, as afraid as you are of letting go, that false sense of safety that continuing to hold on is giving you is robbing you of the opportunity to actually feel the love, joy, and fulfillment you can feel in a relationship that is loving, exciting, fulfilling, and fun!

But, just as when you were a kid playing on the monkey bars, in order to move forward, you’ve got to be willing to let go!

If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you want to know how to move forward, take a look at this quick video I shot for you.

In it, I explain the 3 steps you can take to begin moving forward in your relationship.

 


I know it can feel scary.

I know it feels “safer” to be stuck.

But the only thing that’s really happening is that you are cheating yourself out of the love and happiness that are waiting for you.

So, be brave…

Release that one hand from that monkey bar…

Watch the video…

And let’s move forward together!

 

 

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